Rule # 1 for having a managed mind

So I had two rules tied for number one, and I still can’t figure out which comes first, so they are tied

All Circumstances are neutral AND You have to Feel Your Feelings

Rule # 2 Our thoughts create our emotions

Rule # 3 Our Feelings Drive our actions

Rule #4 Our thoughts create our results

Rule #5 Other people’s opinions/ thoughts of us don’t matter

Rule #6 Knowing you can feel any emotion

Rule # 7 Life is 50/50 Accepting the feelings you feel

Rule #8 Holding Space for other people to be who they are

Rule # 9 Holding Space for Someone’s Reactions to you

Rule #10 Acknowledging and Accepting Other people don’t cause your feelings

Rule #11 Knowing your nervous response: Fight, Flight, Freeze and how it shows up in your daily reactions, and how it feels in your body

Rule #12 Knowing your brain is not a reliable source

Rule #13 Talking back to your brain

Rule #14 Our brain just wants to only have one thing be true but what if contradicting things could also be true

Rule #15 Making a decision and having your own back no matter how it turns out

Rule # 16 Knowing that any thought you want to think is available to you now

Rule #17 Knowing that any feeling you want to create is available to you right now

Rule #18 Most everything can be develop with a change/ shift in Mindset

Rule #19 Any belief you want to have about yourself is available to you right now

Rule #20 You are inherently worthy regardless of anything you do

So rule number 1 all circumstances are neutral:

Circumstances are anything that happens outside of you. Something someone says. An event that happened. A situation that took place.

You see, when we can metacognitively understand that all circumstances are neutral- which simply means think about our thoughts- and accept that all circumstances are neutral we take our power and control back. Things are no longer out of our control, things are no longer “happeing to us”. We are no longer victims in our own life. We learned that we get to decide what we want to make any circumstance mean to us. When we decide to objectively look at a circumstance and decide what we want it to mean, and not just take things our brain automatically offers, we gain power. You see when we experience circumstances that don’t feel good our brain typically offers us similar negative self talk like:

see you were never good enough, they don’t like you, they don’t care about you, you aren’t smart enough, you aren’t pretty enough, see they never thought you were capable, see you are inadequate.

But when we see a circumstance as neutral we get to ask ourselves Why are we choosing that thought, why are we choosing to believe this thought that our brain just likes to throw at us hoping we believe it, what if that wasn’t the real story? What if the thoughts it throws at us are not actually facts. Or truth.

If every circumstance is neutral- We learn how to manage our mind around it- we learn that we get to choose what we decide to believe.

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