Recovery Daily Podcast

Rachel (Miller) Abbassi

Recovery Daily Podcast is hosted by Rachel (Miller) Abbassi, a recovering alcoholic and stroke survivor. With 7 years of sobriety, Rachel regressed into severe post-stroke neurological vision impairment and chronic migraines. The first episode starts only days after recognizing that she must start her journey of rehabilitation again and pull herself away from a career she loves. Rachel discusses her approach to living a joyous life. She believes that the greatest healing comes from sharing her experience, strength, and hope with others in recovery. Follow the podcast to join the journey! read less
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Balancing Act: Shifting from Empathy to Compassion
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Balancing Act: Shifting from Empathy to Compassion
In today's episode of the Recovery Daily Podcast, we're exploring the nuanced differences between empathy and compassion. While these terms are often used interchangeably, they reflect distinct emotional processes within us. Empathy involves feeling another person's emotions as if they were our own, while compassion recognizes someone else's suffering and gives us a strong desire to take supportive action to alleviate their pain. Today I talk about the signs of over-empathy, such as emotional overload, physical symptoms, neglecting self-care, and difficulty setting boundaries. I share personal experiences to illustrate these points and discuss how over-empathy can lead to emotional exhaustion without making meaningful progress for anyone. Shifting from empathy to compassion involves creating a balance between understanding others and maintaining our own emotional health. I explore strategies like practicing mindfulness, setting boundaries, developing emotional resilience, focusing on solutions, and seeking support. By adopting a compassionate approach, you can care deeply for others while also safeguarding your own well-being. I also provide practical tips for managing situations where over-empathy might consume you, such as taking empathy breaks, offering support wisely, and practicing self-compassion. Join me as we work towards a healthier dynamic in our relationships, ensuring we don't sacrifice our mental health in the process.
Mixed Emotions: Color Wheel of Emotions
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Mixed Emotions: Color Wheel of Emotions
In today's episoce I talk about the color wheel of emotions. There is a lot of depth to what we're feeling, and when we can pinpoint exactly what emotions are a part of it, we can take the most effective steps toward healing pain, addressing resentments, and nurturing our relationships. So, in this episode I explore how to use our emotions as information to guide self-reflection and mindfulness. Sometimes we need professional help to allow us to dig deeper because its difficult to see inside our own feelings. Their intensity can block critical self-reflection. Just like artists use a color wheel to mix paints, we can use the Emotional Color Wheel to identify how our feelings mix to better understand ourselves. The Emotional Color Wheel helps us break down the broad categories of emotions into more specific feelings. It divides emotions into primary, secondary, and tertiary levels, much like colors. Primary emotions are the basic emotions, like anger, sadness, and joy. But as we move outwards, these emotions blend and evolve into more nuanced feelings. All of our feelings have a root primary emotion. If I can figure out what that root emotion is I can address it by taking action. By digging in to our feelings this way, we can better understand the root causes of our emotions and how they affect our behavior and decision-making. Consistently seeking to understand our feelings helps us respond more effectively, managing our emotions and how we interact with others.
Easy Does It: Soften Your Gaze and Listen
May 9 2024
Easy Does It: Soften Your Gaze and Listen
The mantra we’re discussing today is “Easy Does It.” In the context of Alcoholics Anonymous, "Easy Does It" serves as a gentle reminder to take things one step at a time. We ease into recovery, recognizing that it’s a marathon, not a sprint. For those of us in physical recovery, the mantra can be just as impactful. The urge to rush through or force progress can be strong. But this principle encourages patience and small, manageable steps. After my stroke and dealing with vestibular issues, I’ve had to relearn how to process the world around me. As a person who loved absorbing the beauty of nature through vigorous activities like hiking and kayaking, adapting to a more subdued pace has been frustrating. Just yesterday, while walking home, I had to soften my gaze to avoid discomfort in my head. Suddenly, the world opened up through sounds—first silence and then the birds—it was unexpectedly serene at a time that I was feeling physically unwell. That moment of serenity reminded me that there is much to be appreciated in stillness, in simply being present and letting our senses take turns with each other. “Easy Does It” can enable a mental and emotional recalibration as well. It has gradually helped me find a greater purpose and maintain focus without overwhelming myself. It teaches us that slowing down can actually speed up our recovery, because it allows us to heal at our own pace without additional stress. Take time to listen, to heal, and to be kind to yourself.
Your Trusty Toolbox: Taking Consistent Daily Action in Recovery
May 7 2024
Your Trusty Toolbox: Taking Consistent Daily Action in Recovery
These TheraSpecs glasses I've been wearing daily to manage my vestibular migraines have allowed me to start living more freely. It reminds me of the tools in my sobriety program that have enabled me to start living more freely as well. The only way to acquire these everyday tools is through taking action. I have to actively engage with my recovery tools daily to maintain this level of free living. Just as my TheraSpecs helped manage my migraine pain and make daily life more manageable, attending meetings and engaging with the recovery community helps alleviate the internal pain of alcoholism. These tools don't magically solve problems but provide the support needed to deal with life effectively. Just as with these glasses, if I remove the sobriety meetings and the 12 steps from my life, the pain will come back and it is immediate. There’s a common misconception that recovery is a passive experience, perhaps just resting. But that's not accurate. Recovery is active, not passive; we are constantly taking steps to strengthen the roots of our sobriety and physical healing. Every day, I’m doing something proactive for my recovery, whether it’s attending a sobriety meeting, support group, speaking with my women in my network, stroke survivors, vestibular patients, or practicing mindfulness, meditating, and self-care. One of the core principles of recovery is learning to face life on life's terms. This means accepting the realities of life without trying to escape through alcohol or drugs. Facing life, accepting realities, adapting, and changing is active. Escaping is passive and even defensive. The backbone of true recovery is action. I have to wake up and put my rose colored glasses on each morning—pun intended. Each action I take, no matter how small, is a part of building a sturdy, sober, joyful, pain free life. Think about what tools you have in your recovery and if you are actively engaging with them on a daily consistent basis. This is the way to healing.
Summer Sobriety: Staying Strong Through Sunshine and Celebrations
May 2 2024
Summer Sobriety: Staying Strong Through Sunshine and Celebrations
As the sun casts rays, and our days fill with the amazing energy of summer, it's a wonderful time to talk about sobriety. During the season of festivals, pool parties, and outdoor dinners, we need to go a bit further than just maintaining our sobriety. We need to celebrate it! Summer brings a unique set of challenges for those of us in recovery. For many, it's a time of vacations, celebrations, and alcohol. Being an alcoholic applies year-round—summer included, a time filled with scenarios where I used to drink. Interestingly, since summer only rolls around once a year, this means I've only practiced staying sober in this season seven times so far. So I get to practice again in the coming months and wanted to share a bit about my experience with summer as an alcoholic. This morning, our reading from "Living Sober" titled "Looking Out for Overelation" struck a chord with me. It reminded me that I'm still practicing not drinking when I'm happy, relaxed, celebrating, having fun. It's one thing to guard against drinking when we're stressed or upset, but equally important to maintain that vigilance during good times, too. My summer drink has been replaced with slurpees and snow cones. I absolutely love them! And there are so many ways to celebrate without alcohol. Keep your favorite non-alcoholic beverages handy, surround yourself with supportive friends, and find fun in the new activities. Listen to this episode for more on enjoying life's warmest days, sober and present.
Faith In Action: The Role of Faith In Stroke Recovery
May 1 2024
Faith In Action: The Role of Faith In Stroke Recovery
In today’s episode, I talk about role faith can play in various types of recovery—be it alcoholism, stroke, or vestibular disorder. I share my experience with faith, detailing how it has protected my sobriety and how I'm harnessing it to support my emotional well-being and recovery from a stroke. I start by exploring the foundations of my faith, reflecting on childhood memories of church and the desire to connect with something greater. These early impressions evolved into a critical support pillar in my recovery toolkit. I discuss my higher power, which taught me the importance of honesty, kindness, and courage in my recovery path. Discover how faith provided me with the wisdom to discern between what I can control and of what I must let go. Further, I explore practical ways faith can aid recovery, providing acceptance and peace, inspiring hope and motivation, and fostering a supportive community. Learn how faith can be integrated into daily routines and therapy, and how setting meaningful goals can provide direction and strength. Join me as we discuss the role of faith in accepting our current state and the courage to take action to build a faith big enough to hold you, even when you are broken. Resource referenced in today's episode: Comfort for Dark Days, is a 7-part online Bible study led by a fellow-sufferer, sharing her own hard-won comfort. For more information, visit https://comfort.safechkout.net/.