Comedian Pete Holmes—creator and star of HBO show Crashing, podcaster (You Made It Weird), and new author (Comedy Sex God)—has survived some existential crisis and come out the other end with a plan for living joyously. It just takes some work. He also explains why expectations can get in the way of all that joy, why “everything happens for a reason” is B.S., and what he means when he says you should “have sex with everything that is.”

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