What's the point in sex positivity if the sex we're having is bad? We speak with South Auckland musician Pati AF, who grew up a "holy girl" in the church before kicking off her "hoe phase" - by claiming her own body and sexuality back with explicit Instagram posts and random dating app hook-ups. She was empowered. So why wasn’t she having a great time?   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices