Are you unhappy because you're in a bad relationship, or are you unhappy because you're in a monogamous one? Monogamy tends to be the default in our society, but it's not the only option, nor is it the best for everyone. Identifying our bonding style helps not only to understand your own needs, but how you fit into a relationship, in choosing the right partner, and in realising that you are worthy of love.

On this episode of Reloscope: The Relationships Science Insights Podcast, host Aditi Kutty is joined by Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology and certification as a Sexuality Educator from AASECT, Dr. Eli specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 25+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date. Dr. Eli has served as faculty at the University of Colorado, the University of Montana, Georgia State University, the University of Tennessee, Oglethorpe, Emory, and the University of Zurich.

Dr. Eli joins Aditi to chat about The Bonding Project, a quiz they designed with other experts in the feel that allows us to understand our preferred bonding styles.  They delve into how attachment styles and bonding styles intersect, and why there isn't one model for every relationship. You can take quiz yourself herehttps://www.bondingproject.com/.

Follow Dr. Elisabeth Sheff’s works via https://elisabethsheff.com/m/ or connect with her via LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/drelisheff//.

Produced by the Relationships Science Labs, a division of LMSL, the Life Management Science Labs.

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