Midlife Schmidlife

Liz Applegate

Midlife Schmidlife is a podcast hosted by Liz Applegate, a coach for busy and motivated Gen-X women who are ready to redefine the middle years. Liz helps her clients build confidence and break the good girl rules to allow them to have more voice and choice in their lives. Join Liz as she shares insights and wisdom around reframing midlife, discovering new passions and going after your maybe-someday dreams. Conversations on the podcast are for informational purposes only. Please seek advice from your doctor before making decisions based on anything heard on the podcast or read on the website. read less
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Feeling Capable & Worthy Through Solo Travel with Yolanda DeLoach
Aug 15 2022
Feeling Capable & Worthy Through Solo Travel with Yolanda DeLoach
I feel quite jealous whenever I hear tales of women striking out on their own and having incredible solo travel adventures. I wonder who I would be without the thoughts of not being courageous enough or hurting someone else's feelings for a desire to travel alone.  Today's guest encourages other women to embark on their solo travel journeys. Yolanda DeLoach finds empowerment and peace in solo travel, camping, and hiking. Her schedule as a hospice/palliative care nurse enables her to have long stretches off to pursue travel and hiking.  In the spring of 2021, she became a Thousand Miler after spending a year section hiking the nearly 1,200-mile Ice Age National Scenic Trail in Wisconsin. On long road trips, she enjoys sleeping in her truck, Fiona, and searching for free places to camp. One of her all-time favorite places is Isle Royale National Park in Lake Superior, where she has done solo backpacking. The solo travel experience is exhilarating and offers great capacity for personal growth. She encourages women who want more solo experiences to start in a comfortable place: a walk in a local park, a day trip to a neighboring town, or camping at a familiar campground. Currently, Yolanda is writing a memoir about reclaiming her spirit while section hiking the Ice Age Trail. She shares her advice to women in midlife: "Don't be afraid to try things solo. The most common response women say when they hear about my solo adventures is, "I wish I could do something like that!" You can! Take small steps." You can connect with Yolanda on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/autumnyearshiker And Instagram:  https://www.Instagram.com/autumnyearshiker Yolanda's Bonnie & Clyde story that is mentioned in this episode can be found here: https://www.facebook.com/autumnyearshiker/posts/pfbid03HoCzfSDpr94K9ED9eh3FWCdEKu72m7KUVhyGgeJkBy7f8MEd8kezeS3BKbqBD8dl Yolanda is one of my few guests who is not an entrepreneur. And I love her spirit and courage for wanting to be on the podcast! I'd also love to hear YOUR story and share it with the Midlife Schmidlife listeners. So head to https://www.midlifeschmidlife.com/guest, and let's get you on the show! Thanks to Goli Nutrition for asking me to be a partner! You can save 10% on your order by clicking through https://go.goli.com/lizapplegate or using promo code: LizApplegate
Being Phenomenal with Kim Romain
May 18 2022
Being Phenomenal with Kim Romain
We are continuing with the series “Reclaiming Midlife.” This episode’s question before we join today’s conversation…how would your life be different if you accepted and celebrated all of who you are?  Think about that for a minute.  All the “flaws” you feel you have and are magnified in how you see yourself. While all of your gifts are downplayed. All the areas where you have been successful or are proud of that you brush away. Everything you’ve gone through that has led you to where you are… What if, instead of thinking it was no big deal - you thought “Hot damn, I’m pretty amazing!”  Sadly, we’ve been taught to not get too big for our britches. Or that bragging isn’t nice. That being boastful makes you arrogant.  I have a theory that comments like “don’t get too big for your britches” is what I call a “good girl rule.” We learned this as a child as a way to fit into the proper box of being acceptable as a woman. And here we are, over 40 and still living by those standards.  My friends, you can claim your brilliance without being a jerk. You can be confident in who you are as a person and not belittle others. In fact, by claiming yourself, you are giving permission for other women to do the same. You can point out your daughter’s, sister’s or friend’s magic and celebrate that for them so they can then see it in themselves.  And I think that’s one of the amazing attributes today's guest brings to the show.  Kim Romain is a holistic life & business strategist helping busy professionals move from chaos to clarity in their work and life. For years (decades, even), she thought there was something wrong with her because she couldn't settle on the "one thing" she was "meant to do" in this lifetime. She had 11 different undeclared and 5 different declared majors in college and has had 6 major career changes (not just job shifts) since then. When she was introduced to the concept of being a multi-passionate individual, she felt like she was finally able to breathe. Clearly someone who doesn't like to settle for one things at a time, Kim describes herself as an artist, theater-geek and D&D enthusiast, who is deep into the practice of meditation and mindfulness, loves playing the violin, working with her crystals and Oracle cards and will jump at any opportunity to whip up culinary delights in the kitchen or plan a super fun party with all the bells and whistles. Head over to the show notes to find direct links to connect with Kim online, previous Midlife Schmidlife episodes mentioned in this conversation as well as a photo of a dessert that Kim shares in our conversation.
Brave, Bold, and Badass with Grace Howes
Apr 19 2022
Brave, Bold, and Badass with Grace Howes
We are kicking off a new series, "Reclaiming Midlife." The concept was inspired by a meme I saw on Facebook - It's of the Golden Girls side by side with the characters of the Sex in the City reboot, And Just Like That. The meme lets us know that both shows' characters are the same age. Head to the show notes to see the meme. My mind started swirling around when I saw this. First, there was disbelief. Then, there was shock and horror. Then, finally, there was an acceptance that we've come a long way, baby! But also how we still have a long way to go.  And I believe that the journey of reclaiming starts with ourselves. And reclaiming midlife is both literal and figurative - why do we have such an aversion to the word "midlife?" This podcast is midlife Schmidlfie, all based on what the term implies. And figuratively, how are you choosing to show up during this time? Are we embracing who we are now? Or are we living in the past? When was the last time you asked yourself what's important to you now? Are you settling into a career that no longer suits you? Have you dreamed of having more in your life - only to feel guilty? It's time we claimed this time in our lives! And hey, I'm always open to a new word to describe where we are, so if you have any suggestions, please let me know! And speaking of reclaiming, I have another podcast suggestion for you! The concept of a woman "circling the drain" conjures up negative imagery for some. But for the hosts of Circling the Drain Podcast, they've heard this phrase used so many times about perimenopause, menopause, and the plight of the aging woman that they've chosen to reclaim and repurpose the term in the spirit of humor. Co-hosts and longtime friends Ellie and Julia take a deep dive into the sometimes embarrassing, often hilarious, and always bewildering issues of hormonal changes in midlife. Through honest accounts, thoughtful interviews, and group panel discussions, their mission is to make you chuckle, nod your head in recognition, and hopefully make some scientific progress! Their episode from March 30th, My Face is Falling, is with a board-certified family nurse practitioner and certified aesthetic nurse specialist. Their convo is all about botox, injectables, and filler. I learned so much! And it shifted my view of what I'm willing to explore for myself. The best part? I laughed my ass off the whole time while listening.  Tune into Circling the Drain Podcast, every other Wednesday. Wherever you get your podcasts. Seriously, be sure to go and subscribe.  Now back to Midlife Schmildfte, my guest for today's show is Grace Howes. Grace and I have many similar life experiences and do identical work supporting women over 40 with their business mindset. And I've been very fortunate to know Grace through the Courageous Living Coach Certification. So we've even met in person! And our conversation in today's show makes it feel like yesterday. In fact, we were just talking about reclaiming midlife, and neither of us realized we had started the podcast conversation! So it's a good thing; I had hit the record button early.  Grace believes that women can achieve anything at any time and that her age should never be a factor. It was only in her early 40s after she started her 1st business when she realized that JOY was hers to have (she always thought she needed permission). However, that doubt didn't need to be her constant sidekick. You can find Grace on Instagram and Facebook at @kgracehowes. And since recording this conversation, Grace started her podcast for women in biz, Brave, Bold, and Badass. Here are ways you can connect with her: https://www.kgracehowes.com/podcast https://www.instagram.com/kgracehowes/ Are you ready to reclaim midlife? Let's drop into the conversation that I had with Grace.
Living by Trial & Error with Kerstin Martin
Mar 29 2022
Living by Trial & Error with Kerstin Martin
Today’s conversation is with my guest Kerstin Martin, a leading SquareSpace Expert and Calm Business Educator who helps entrepreneurs simplify their business tech with the all-in-one SquareSpace platform. Kerstin also publishes the popular Eule Planner®, an analog business planner specifically designed for digital entrepreneurs. As an HSP and empath Kerstin’s approach to teaching and running an online business is calm and gentle, with a focus on delivering high quality content, service and training. She advocates and practices kindness, integrity and inclusivity. Kerstin is originally from Germany and lives in the Pacific Northwest with her American husband, fluffy grey cat 'Stinky', and their plane 'Ginger.' Best of all? Kerstin started her business in her 50's. We talk about the natural evolution of becoming an “accidental entrepreneur” and how Kerstin likes to be open to new opportunities by living by trial and error. She tries something new with the attitiude that is it doesn't work, she can try something else. This has led to having a 6-figure business without all the hype and hustle. I can’t help but notice how Kerstin creates what she needs and then shares it with her audience. You can connect more with Kerstin at kerstinmartin.com and on Instagram at instagram.com/kerstinmartin Interested in Human Design? Find out more here: https://www.jovianarchive.com/ We mention Susannah Conway a few times. She is amazing and you can find here: https://www.susannahconway.com/ This is the last episode in the “How they got started,” series. The upcoming series “Reclaiming Midlife” begins on April 12, 2022. This next series was inspired by the meme that recently circulated of the Golden GIrls and the Sex in the City roboot, “And just like that…” actors side by side, shocklingly letting us know the characters were the same age. I was in total shock so had to check and yep…Dorothy stated she was 55 in the very first episode of the Golden Girls. Head over to the show notes on the website to catch a glimpse of the meme. https://www.midlifeschmidlife.com/podcast/episode-46. Finally, If you don’t know my story, after starting my first business as a virtual assistant & online business manager at age 47, left my 9-5 18 months later and became a coach at age 49 and shifted my business around that new-found passion/purpose. I then in 2016, started this podcast when I was 50. I honestly feel that I came into my own in midlife. Since then, helping women in the "middle years" has been dear to my heart. I often say how you don’t need to be in business for this podcast but many of you have reached out to me wanting to know more about becoming an entrepreneur. I'm considering creating a group program to help you do just that. Not only will we be setting up the basics for your business, you’ll learn what’s really needed, what’s not -  we will also look at your business idea and get clear on what you are offering. And most importantly, we are going to look at developing your entrepreneur mindset. I always say that besides parenting, there is no greater growth opportunity than starting and growing a business. And having a successful business is less about strategy and more about the inner work that needs to be done. You can be just starting your biz idea or maybe you have a business and feel the foundational pieces need support. Whether it’s a side-gig, a passion project or maybe you eventually would like to be a full time entrepreneur - they all need to start with a good base and this program will help you do just that within a community of other women doing the same.  If you'd be interested in learning more, click here to add your name on the list and will be hearing from me soon. I will also be reaching out for your input! I'd love to hear where you need the most support and how this program can help.
Following Your Intuition with Marianne de Kleer
Feb 22 2022
Following Your Intuition with Marianne de Kleer
Hey Schmidlifers. I have a question for you: when was the last time you listened to your Inner Wise Woman, aka your Inner Knowing, in other words, your intuition?   She is the one who whispers to take a new route home, and you later find out there was a bad car accident on your usual route. Or she whispers that a particular person gives you the creeps, so you steer clear. She is also gut-feeling when a new opportunity feels right (even if it's a bit scary). If we listen hard enough, we can hear her whisper about what we really want.    And I do mean whisper. Because most often, we've drowned out her voice with our very loud inner critic or who I call the inner mean girl. That constant chatter about how you aren't good enough, smart enough, etc.   Which by the way, you ARE good and intelligent enough. That inner chatter is formed out of fear, our lizard brain hard at work keeping you safe.    Our intuition? She is patient, but we need to learn to turn up her volume, listen to what she says and honor her suggestions.    And that brings me to today's guest, Marianne de Kleer. She is a Canadian ex-pat living in the French countryside. Her intuition told her precisely what she REALLY wanted in the early stages of her career - but she took the way that most of us do…she chose what seemed like the practical choice.    You will learn that Marianne is a certified Sophrologist and holistic wellness facilitator working in both English and French. Marianne helps women in their middle years avoid burnout, reduce stress, and boost confidence through Sophrology, a popular mind-body technique in Europe. In her holistic wellness mentoring, she encourages her clients to find their anchors: the things that bring them back to feeling their best.   From mindful walking prompts in her Creative Walking Tours to guided meditation recordings and feeling trackers, she loves to share the contents of her toolbox so that everyone can move into a vibrant way of living, full of ease.   You can find links to connect with Marianne on the links below:    https://www.mariannedekleer.com/ https://www.mariannedekleer.com/a-year-of-creative-walking-tours/ https://insighttimer.com/mariannedekleer https://www.instagram.com/mariannedekleer/   I hope this conversation inspires you to tune into your own intuition and follow those "maybe someday" dreams.
Making it Happen with Valerie Albarda
Feb 8 2022
Making it Happen with Valerie Albarda
This week's podcast guest is Valerie Albarta. Valerie is an author, a blogger and podcaster at Midlife-a-Go-Go, a speaker, a TedX Charlotte presenter, and is working on another novel. She is a kick-ass woman. Despite her diagnosis in 2020, Valerie continues to show up and inspire us to do the same. A little over a year ago, she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at age 57. "It's been a difficult journey filled with unexpected dips and turns, but I continue to navigate life as best as I can. The good days far outnumber the bad days, so I hold onto that." We continue in the series "How They Got Started," and in our conversation, Valerie shares her journey from starting a blog, a podcast, and shy she has taken a step back to focus on her novel. Her story is a reminder to focus on what is important and make time for your passions. When I asked Valerie to describe herself, this is what she offered: Valerie is a woman who wants to steer clear of sounding cliche at all costs. But honestly, I love midlife women. My concern is I don't want us to be pushed aside by the emerging population. I think we're fabulous and offer so much to society. I'm trying to offer hope, inspiration, and motivation by sharing what I do. Am I the best midlife cheerleader around? Probably not. But I like what I do, and I love why I do it. Midlife is hard. But look at how we're handling it! And like many midlife women, I, too, have my challenges. Everyone has a bit of a sob story to tell, and I know I'm no different. But unfortunately, my challenge sent my life into a tailspin. A little over a year ago, I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at age 57. It's been a difficult journey filled with unexpected dips and turns, but I continue to navigate life as best as possible. The good days far outnumber the bad days, so I hold onto that. I try to remain optimistic -- about life, my illness, and the world in general. And as a midlife woman, I know that the knowledge, experience, and wisdom that we bring to the table can't be faked, bought, or duplicated. We're the real deal. So I try to get everyone else to see that as well. You can find Valerie at the links below: Midlife-a-Go-Go for Valerie’s blog and podcast: https://www.midlifeagogo.com/ The Invisibility Trifecta: Why Midlife Women of Color Matter (TedX Charlotte Talk): https://youtu.be/RGUPnitqAxM Connect with Valerie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/midlifeagogo/   Click to sign up for your midlife ta-da! Click here to be a guest on Midlife Schmidlife podcast.
Figuring it out with Moira Cleary
Jan 25 2022
Figuring it out with Moira Cleary
We are diving into our series, "How they got started." In this week's conversation with me, Moira Cleary shares how being inquisitive opened one possibility after another. From Googling what she loves to do and learning about coaching, to seeing a need she wanted and creating it. Moira Cleary is a professional life coach and mindfulness practitioner as well as a big geek when it comes to online technology. She created Surviving the Waiting Room and coaches moms of kids with chronic illness & medical conditions.  In her 20's she proclaimed herself a "figure-outer" and lives her life doing just that. Whether it is caring for her daughters and their medical conditions, to starting a business, a podcast + summits, to how to get the most out of online tech, to helping clients figure out what the invisible field is that's stopping them, Moira loves to figure things out. In fact she recently read up on her Human Design and wasn't surprised to read her life's purpose was to ask questions and examine patterns to find a deeper understanding. Moira and I are both Manifesting Generators.  My hopes are that your sense of curiosity is reignited and you see new opportunities wherever they are needed. Hey, that's how this podcast was created! You can find Moira at the links below: Surviving The Waiting Room: https://survivingthewaitingroom.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/survivingthewaitingroom/ Help with Technology: https://cleary-consulting.mailerpage.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clearyconsulting/ And the pecan bourbon Moira recommended? Can be found here: https://thinklikeawolf.com/whiskies/pecan/
Getting over yourself with Clarissa Casitillo-Ramsey
Jan 11 2022
Getting over yourself with Clarissa Casitillo-Ramsey
Hey Scmidlifers! We are kicking off 2022 with the series "How they got started." I love hearing about a person's journey - where they began with the twists and turns that led them to where they are now. But, here's a hint - where we all end up isn't always where we had planned. And thank goodness for that! I mean, I would have never thought I'd be a podcaster! My first guest of the series is Clarissa Castillo-Ramsey, a multi-passion entrepreneur: abstract artist, leadership & life coach, and author. Clarissa helps men and women ready to transition out of the 9-5. She works with them to craft their corporate exit plan and build their creative business. Clarissa is a serial career pivoter. She's worked in various industries from retail to higher education to healthcare and other places in between. Art and championing/developing others have been her through lifelines. In 2010 she landed her dream job as an internal development coach for a top-ranking healthcare organization. By 2018, Clarissa knew it was time to pivot again. That's when she decided to write about her desire to move to entrepreneurship. In 2020 she self-published her book Painting Your Path. I'm also featured in the book, so check it out! Clarissa's story is inspiring in many ways. I hope there are places you can see yourself in her decisions and ways to take your next step forward. You can find her at the links below: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ccr_sunshine/ Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/employeetoentrepreneurmindset/ 20 Time Hacks That Work + Business Idea Generator: https://clarissastudio.activehosted.com/f/5
What You Need to Know About Your Job Search with Staci Witten
Jul 15 2020
What You Need to Know About Your Job Search with Staci Witten
These are some crazy-ass times, y'all. I'm excited to have this conversation on this episode because even though mostly I speak to and talk to women entrepreneurs. But I know that many of you are working and building a business on the side or are not interested in being in business for themselves. So today's topic is making the most of your job search. My guest, Staci Witten, is a career and leadership coach, and we have been friends for over 20 years - what?!? 20 years? It's hard to believe, but Staci and I met while leading Vacation Bible School in the summer of 1999 - or maybe 1998. Neither of us could remember. We recorded this episode in late May 2020. With the death of George Floyd and the crucial messages that followed, Staci and I both agreed to hold off on releasing this conversation. In so many, I am happy that we did. As this episode is being released, we are mid-July. I'm seeing friends and family who have lost their jobs due to the fallout of COVID-19. With back-to-school, there is uncertainty from teachers and parents as they wrestle with decisions that affect their families. Many parents are asking what's next for their careers during this uncertain time. I've seen teachers thinking of switching careers and parents looking to be able to manage their children in distance learning while working. We shared how we both feel shelter-in-place will restructure the working environment to be more working from home. Staci offers compelling insights for your job search now and what to consider going forward. Tips on looking beyond your job title and provides the next steps to finding a job. And even ways to utilize networking. To visit the show notes, visit: https://lizapplegatecoaching.com/blog/job-search To access Staci's Dream Job Checklist, visit https://staciwitten.com/dream-job-checklist-la/ You can also connect with Staci at https://staciwitten.com/
Speaking Up and Giving Yourself Permission with Nariah Broadus
Jun 4 2020
Speaking Up and Giving Yourself Permission with Nariah Broadus
When I started this series that I’m calling “Now More than Ever” the global pandemic of the Corona Virus was the backdrop. And now on June 4, 2020 when I am publishing this recording, we still have the pandemic and now in the US, we also have a lot of hurt and anger from displays of racism and social injustice with the murder of George Floyd. As a white woman, I am very aware that I have work I need to do against systemic racism and my own color blindness. I have taken to educating myself, reading books, listening and paying attention when I’d rather turn away. What I also didn’t turn away from was the conversation with my friend Nariah Broadus that I am sharing with you today. Nariah is one of my trusted coaches and friends and she is also a woman of color. Having had this conversation already scheduled, I wanted to be sure that Nariah was still up to having it. I would certainly understand if she chose to reschedule. Nariah very willingly agreed to have the conversation. She feels it's important to get out of the stories we are telling ourselves. And she felt the conversation was not just about race relations but also speaking up in your life and giving yourself permission to do so. That this is what brings about positive change. I’m hoping that you not only learn about giving yourself permission but also about being willing to be messy with it. Be messy with knowing that speaking up for the bigger things like speaking out against racism means that it’s okay to not have the exact word or know exactly what to say. Please realize that no one is expecting that.  It’s past time that as white women realize we have more influence and power than we ever thought possible. So please use this time to listen, really listen, to learn and to take action.  My hopes are that this conversation inspires you too. Show notes with resource links can be found at: https://lizapplegatecoaching.com/blog/speaking-up-and-giving-yourself-permission
What You Need to Know About Choosing Joy with Paula Jenkins
May 21 2020
What You Need to Know About Choosing Joy with Paula Jenkins
Today, I’m welcoming a returning guest, Paula Jenkins. Paula is the host of of the podcast Jump Start Your Joy, a podcast producer, consultant and mentor who helps others start their own podcasts. She hosts workshops and classes that will help you get the idea that you have for a show and get it launched. And, I want to add that she is also a coach and can help you with the emotional things that most others who have podcast classes do - like being vulnerable and putting your voice out there. Paula's focus is on choosing joy and now more than ever is a great time to have that discussion. Paula and I met in 2015 when we attended and were certified through the Courageous Living Coach Certification. After certification, we also served on the leadership team and have helped train other life coaches. And in 2016, Paula was the one who helped me launch Midlife Schmidlife. You can find Paula at Jump Start Your Joy, everywhere podcasts can be found. You can also visit her online at http://jumpstartyourjoy.com/. Interested in starting a podcast? Visit Jump Start Your Podcast. I’m running a free five day challenge starting on May 25, my Get Shit Done Challenge. As women entrepreneurs, its been difficult to even know HOW to show up during this time. During this challenge you can gain momentum in moving forward and shifts in mindset around turning our to-do lists into ta-da lists. Come and register at https://lizapplegatecoaching.com/gsd-challenge
What You Need to Know About Boundaires
Apr 16 2020
What You Need to Know About Boundaires
It’s been quiet here on the Midlife Schmidlife podcast but as I’m putting together this episode it's April 16, 2020 and we are in the midst of the Coronavirus Pandemic. Most of the world is in “shelter in place” mode and that has brought up new ways to have to manage our daily activities. Like a big spotlight, this pandemic is showing us what’s important, how we show and our loved ones show up under stress and places that need a little “tweaking.” Because I firmly believe that what is showing up for us now - was showing up for us before, it’s just easier for us to see.  That’s what I’m bringing you to a popup series of the podcast called “Now More Than Ever.” I’m inviting guests to have a conversation about ways to use this time to grow and decide what you will carry with you into the future.  These conversations are happening as Facebook Lives first on my Facebook page and then will be shared here on the podcast. You are welcome to both of course! My first guest is Dorena Kohrs of Space Doula. Dorena is a Feng Shui master and intuitive space & energy clearer. She is a believer that we can use our homes to reflect the lives we want to live and it’s some fascinating stuff! Dorena and I had a conversation last week about boundaries both physical and emotional. Many of you are not working from home for the first time full time or your partner is. There is the fact of having the kids home and managing distance learning and so many other scenarios. Dorena offers some insight on how to make all of this happen and we also talk about respectful conversation. Be sure to head over and find out more about Dorena at https://spacedoula.com/ Show notes with all of the links can be found here: https://breakingthegoodgirlrules.com/blog/boundaries-now-more-than-ever