Do you feel like you're always in charge, like you're always handling all the heavy lifting in your shared life? Or do you ever feel your partner can be so controlling or perfectionistic that you tend to hang back? Both of these situations are issues of what I call polarity - the interaction between dominance and submission (and, no, I’m not just talking about in bed). If you want to go from frustration and jockeying for position, or avoiding conflict, over to playful, effective interactions sizzling with energy, this is the episode for you.

As you listen to this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How the dynamics of dominance and submission play out in everyday life
  • What can go wrong when you’re missing polarity
  • The three keys to creating an arc of polarity in your relationship
  • How to get more of the energy you want from yourself and your partner
  • How you can tell if you’re in the dominant or submissive role

And more.

E.g. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.

“We tend to reject so many of the sensations of aliveness that arise because we put them in that box that we label ‘bad sensations.’ So tear the label off that box and follow the sensations that are arising now.”
-Michele Lisenbury Christensen

Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • The three mistakes nice guys make [4:16]
  • How your marriage is like a pair of magnets [6:00]
  • How to speak in a penetrating way [8:29]
  • When your partner’s standard for you is too oppressive [10:39]


I hope that whether you are choosing to lead or to follow, you use these keys to polarity to create delicious connections and deeper love.

If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month, so your capacity for the pleasure and joy you want grows, continuously. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.



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