I have decided to take a break from podcasting. After much reflection, I can see that my mind is exhausted from all of the content creation I do on a weekly basis. I write to emails/blogs. I create video clips for courses. I create slide decks for presentations. I create contact for my Facebook Group and try to engage with them. And I create this podcast, which includes recording an episode, getting it transcribed, writing shownotes, video-editing, social media creations, etc. And I’ve decided it’s time to simply parts of my business and all of the “creating” I do in a week. This is not an easy decision because I feel like I’m letting all of you down. But for now it feels like the one that will most serve me when I ask myself, “How do I want to feel in my life.” What’s in the episode:  How our inner critical fights back when we make decisions that serve our mental healthWhy rest is a right and not a rewardHow to make hard decisions and stop dealing with all the “shoulds”How to dial back while also dialing in to your inner self. “It’s time to replace the “shoulds” in our lives and ask ourselves, “How do I really want to feel in my life?”   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/she-finds-joy/id1487739752

Vaughn Rush is a liberated, black, gay man who served as a behavioral specialist in the Army serving in Iraq. He’s also an entertainer and go-go dancer who travels the world performing. I met Vaughn in Stowe, Vermont, while he was vacationing, and I was on a sabbatical writing my book. We instantly connected over having real conversations and sharing our most authentic truths.  In this episode, Vaughn opens up about his bipolar disorder and what it means to navigate life by loving all parts of himself. He gets very vulnerable about what it means to be a gay, black man, endure mental health struggles, and advocate for himself and countless others.  What’s in the episode:  Vaughn’s time in the military as a gay, black manWhat it means to feel supported in WHO you are Why being open about mental health is so important His mental illness challengesStrategies he uses to navigate the dark times “In a way, I feel very blessed for my mental health struggle because I've had a lot of things along the way that safeguarded me and kept me alive.” - Vaughn Rush   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review! You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.   Connect with Vaughn Rush INSTAGRAM About Vaughn Rush Vaughn Rush, professionally known as Sean Vaughn Carter is an Army Veteran, entrepreneur, Male Lead & Entertainer, go-go dancer and international traveler. He currently lives in New York City and San Diego California, although frequently traveling the states and abroad. Vaughn graduated from Frank Sinatra School of the Arts High School in New York City and is currently pursuing his Master of Social Work at Fordham University. Vaughn served in the United States Army for 7 years, deploying to Iraq in 2011 as a Behavioral Health Specialist and medic. For 6 years prior to the Covid pandemic, Vaughn owned ad operated a backpackers hostel in San Diego California. Currently, you can catch Vaughn, or Sean Vaughn Carter, go-go dancing in New York City, San Francisco, Long Beach, and abroad, as well as a Male Lead in pageants, nightclubs, and Brunch drag shows. Vaughn’s passions include travel, mental health, physical fitness, gay pride, and authenticity.

In our everyday lives, we spend a great deal of time telling ourselves that we aren't good enough, smart enough, talented enough, or thin enough. Our minds tell us we don't deserve the things we want. Our desires will never come true; even if they do, they will disappoint us. It’s called the inner critic―that part of us that judges us, shames us, and makes us feel inadequate And it affects us in very powerful ways.   In this episode, Kim explains we get messages from our primary caregivers, society, and our community that tell us how we are supposed to operate in the world. There are invisible rules and expectations of how we are supposed to “do life.” In order to protect ourselves, our inner critic shows up to keep us in line. But the inner critic exaggerates and judges, and while it has our best interest at heart, it doesn’t help us or motivate us to change. Instead, it keeps us from being true to ourselves.    Kim walks you through 4 layers of self-talk, according to Jack Canfield, and how we can coach ourselves in a positive and more rewarding way.     What’s in the episode:  The role of the inner criticHow we are living in the emotional traps we grew up inHow our beliefs shape our perceptions of how we show up in the worldThe 4 layers of self-talk to overcome your inner critic     “When guilt and shame are used to control you, you become someone you’re not. ”-Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!  Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below!  Register for The Happy Academy now!  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

We all struggle with the fear of not being enough. We are good at faking it. We go through the world smiling, acting as if we are okay when in reality, we might be inwardly struggling. Perfectionism is striving for flawlessness by setting unrealistically high standards for ourselves. We use perfectionism as a shield to avoid rejection, shame, criticism, and failure. We try to be the perfect worker, spouse, parent, follow the rules, and so on, yet it leaves us feeling exhausted. In today’s episode, Kim explains how perfectionism shows up in our lives and provides insight into how to rewrite our stories and begin living a bigger, bolder life full of imperfection that is a truer version of yourself and feels so much better.    What’s in the episode:  What is behind our “not-enoughness”The definition of perfectionism and why it keeps us stuckHow the fixed mindset and getting praised for achievements create perfectionismWhat perfectionism is actually hidingHow to rethink our stories and embrace our authentic selves   “When you start to make decisions that are more aligned with who you are at your core, you will probably outgrow a lot of people ” -Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!  Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below!  Register for The Happy Academy now!  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Shame is a powerful emotion and happens to all of us. It involves looking inwardly in a harsh way with a critical eye while we beat ourselves up even for the smallest mistakes. We are so overly critical of ourselves, and then we hide or bury our feelings of shame when we need to learn to release them with people who have earned the right to hear our stories. Through sharing our stories, we free ourselves from some of the pain we are carrying and holding inside of ourselves.  What’s in the episode:  Why shame needs words and a voice to be freeHustling for worthiness to account for our believed inadequacies Six types of people not to share your shame story withHow to exercise compassion towards ourselves and others   “You have to love yourself enough to reach out for help and support when going through hard things. ”-Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!  Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below!  Register for The Happy Academy now!  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Are you afraid of making decisions? Asking your boss for a raise? Launching your own business? Asking for what you want in your relationship? What prevents us from taking the actions we need in our lives to get to the next level? FEAR! Fear is one of the greatest obstacles to our success because with fear comes uncomfortableness and many people wait for uncomfortableness to leave before they act. In this episode, I’m going to teach you why you must learn to feel uncomfortable, to feel the fear, and do it anyway! What’s in the episode:  Why “action” is the bridge between our inner world and outer worldThe inner journey it takes to get the outer results we wantHow to move from stuckness to actionThe mindset it takes to play in the arena of bigness   “Many times our fears are so strong and dramatic that they keep us stuck. ” - Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review! Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below!  Register for The Happy Academy now!  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Ep 80| How Gratitude Increases Happiness   Dr. Masuro Emoto discovered that molecules in water are affected by our thoughts, words, and feelings. Humans are made up of 70% of water, which means the words we expose ourselves and others to have an impact on them. He discovered that crystals formed in frozen water with positive words written on them formed brilliant, clear, snowflake patterns while negative words directed toward water formed fragmented, dark crystals. This research proves that when we practice gratitude and send that positive energy towards ourselves, mostly made of water, we get positive results and feel happier in our lives.  What’s in the episode:  The science between thoughts and waterHow our thoughts affect our lives in big waysThe practice of gratitude creates positive emotions and feelings.How to practice gratitude    “It’s time to build a life you don’t feel you have to regularly escape from.” Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!  Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below!  Register for The Happy Academy now!  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Is it possible to create more happiness in our life? Should we be interested in happiness, or is that silly? I feel like we all want to be happier, but we are a bit afraid to admit it because it makes us feel like something is wrong in our lives. But creating intentional happiness habits in our lives improves every area of our lives. But are we focusing on the wrong things? Yes, we are much of the time, but I’m about to give you an education on the Science of Happiness.  What’s in the episode:  The things we chase in hopes of fulfillmentUnderstanding the components of happiness The control you have over your happiness A happiness strategy to help when you feel down “We get to create our happiness from the inside out.” - Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review! Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below!  Register for The Happy Academy now!  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Ep 78| How to get through hard things.   Don’t take anything personally. That’s the second agreement of Don Miguel Ruiz’s classic, “The Four Agreements.” He states, “Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves.” I’ve been criticized many times in my life. Many times it absolutely consumed me. But in this episode, I hope to share some insight I’ve learned over the years and hopefully give you a path through your pain and get you to evaluate it from a new perspective.   What’s in the episode:  A very hard thing I recently went through.How to move through the pain and muck others throw at youHow to deal with petty trollsWhat I differently now when it comes to criticism.    “Within every struggle, every obstacle, every challenge, every injustice, we get a choice to decide how we're going to react and how we're going to let it affect us.”- Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love it if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!   Kim's Happy Academy is Open Now! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, now it's your turn! Register at the link below!  Register for The Happy Academy now!    About Kim  Kim Strobel is Chief Happiness Officer at Kim Strobel Live Events and Retreats. She is a teacher, consultant, motivational speaker, happiness coach, and a mission-minded person whose passion helps others overcome their fears and discover their joy!   You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Burnout is a kind of exhaustion that seeps into every aspect of your life. Even though I travel around the country teaching teachers, business people, and more about how to overcome burnout, I can tell you that I, too, have been experiencing it lately. For me, burnout looks like:   The inability to shut work off, even when I should be enjoying time off An incessant need to keep checking my emailsThe feeling of obsessively thinking about "everything that needs to get done"Tiredness, irritability, and frustration with people around me  I recently asked others in my Facebook Group what burnout out looks like to them and got these responses:  Knots in my stomach the closer I get to work, despite LOVING my job.Never having satisfaction with my job and never feeling like I’m doing enough. Letting down all of the teachers I’m supposed to be leading, and I feel hopeless.Dreading going to work every day and counting the days until break.Never feeling like I’m meeting expectations. Being so overwhelmed with tasks and asks that I don’t even know where to start.Lost desire, unable to focus on anything, and no amount of time off or other activities.Investing in my own business so I can leave my current profession. Overworked (worked daily my entire sick leave), underpaid (completely revamped teaching during COVID/no overtime, no bonuses), and not thought of as a real person. You are allowed to have heavy emotions. It’s important to give ourselves the grace to feel the way we do and practice some self-compassion.  Even though I sometimes enter the burnout stage, I recognize the signs of when it’s coming on, and I have a set of habits that get me out of the gutter quicker. You are not alone in the struggle. I am there too.  What You’ll Learn From This Episode: How to identify burnout when it’s first setting in. Why it’s so hard to get off the hamster wheel of life. Why I created a program focused on shifting the inner blueprint of our life. How to leverage your mindset and overcome limiting beliefs. Why our relationship with ourselves is our biggest asset. How to take action to become who you want to be. How to step forward with confidence and discover your greatness..  “If you can’t see your own value, the world can’t give you value back.” - Kim Strobel   Helpful Links  Get on the waitlist for The Happy Academy now!  About Kim  Kim Strobel is Chief Happiness Officer at Kim Strobel Live Events and Retreats. She is a teacher, consultant, motivational speaker, happiness coach, and a mission-minded person whose passion helps others overcome their fears and discover their joy!   You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

As a coach, I’ve seen that women don’t invest in themselves enough. Whether it’s time, money, a new pair of workout shoes, or a household nick-nack, women always have a reason why they are not allowed to invest in themselves. As women, we are trained and shown by the other women in our life that we are to take care of everyone else BEFORE we are allowed to honor our own needs. We spend a LOT of time investing in other people – our children, our families, our communities, our schools… but when it comes to investing in ourselves? Forget it. But it’s time to flip the script and know that we can value and love ourselves enough to invest in ourselves. We are worthy of starting right now.  What’s in the episode:  Why women struggle to invest in themselvesOvercoming feelings of guiltWhy self-care and self investing are not selfishLearning to establish boundaries and create spaceWhy you are worth loving yourself “When you take good care of yourself and put resources toward your well-being, your happiness, your success, it means the people in your life get the very best of you.” - Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!  Kim’s Happy Academy Waitlist! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, so you are gonna want to be one of the first to know when we open the doors! Get on the waitlist here.  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Sandy Forster is the money mindset mentor for women worldwide who are ready to experience more abundance and freedom in their life. Sandy went from welfare to millionaire, been featured in Oprah’s Aussie Secret, and loves inspiring and empowering women to break through their blocks, manifest more money, and create a life they’re truly passionate about. Sandy went from having over $100,000 in debt to creating an income of $150,000 the next year. And now she is a multi-millionaire and she didn’t graduate high school. Our relationship with ourselves is the key to wealth and abundance.  However, this isn’t the path most of us follow. We think we have to work like crazy just to get ahead. But it actually starts with going within ourselves and changing our internal blueprint to become co-creators of our lives. It starts with taking on the identity, experiences, and opportunities right now that will bring you more of what you want to accomplish and achieve. It started with the inside of ourselves first. Sandy walks us through what it truly means to become an active participant in designing a life of great success and fulfillment.  What’s in the episode:  Why learning and understanding the Law of Attraction, quantum physics, and neuroscience are important in achieving true abundance in life;Understand why you should take action as you do the mindset work when walking the path towards changeDiscover how you can shift from welfare to millionaire through tips and insights based on science and a millionaire’s experience.How to align your body, mind, and spirit to achieve and succeed in your goals.Powerful daily practices to embody your abundance and success. “You can’t just think and visualize your goals. You have to embody and take action.”  Sandy Forster   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review!   Sandy’s Links Sandy’s Website Sandy’s Wildly Weathy Bundle Sandy’s Facebook Sandy’s Instagram Kim’s Happy Academy Waitlist! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, so you are gonna want to be one of the first to know when we open the doors! Get on the waitlist here.  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Wow! My interview with my 1992 high school classmate, Angie Carlson, was heartwarming, inspiring, and thought-provoking. Shortly after giving birth to her son, Angie was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (MS) 30 years ago. This disease has left her using a walker, sometimes a wheelchair, and the smallest of tasks takes a monumental effort.     It’s easy to look at Angie’s everyday life and the obstacles she deals with, but she chooses to see her life differently. While she doesn’t deny the extreme fatigue, her limitations, or the hardness of it all, she maintains that she is happy in her life because she CHOOSES to be. She describes her highs, lows, and personal triumphs.  What’s in the episode:  Why we must ask ourselves, “How do we want to feel?”Understanding how our thoughts create our feelings.Embracing what is and not resisting.Making conscious decisions that support how we want to live our lives.Advice on how to see things from a different perspective?  Choosing abundance, joy, and happiness in the midst of hardness. “I feel like there is no other choice. That's the only choice I choose because I don’t want to be unhappy.” Angie Carlson   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and leave a review!  Kim’s Happy Academy Waitlist! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, so you are gonna want to be one of the first to know when we open the doors! Get on the waitlist here.  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community. About Angie: After graduating high school, Angie Carlson earned an AAS degree in Medical Office Assistant and then joined the military. She spent 11 years in the Air Force, where she met her husband. In 2004, they had a son, and two months later, she was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. She lives in Maine with her husband, son, and faithful furry friend, Rascal.

In this interview, I talk with Dr. Melissa Hankins, a 17-year Harvard-trained psychiatrist and certified executive coach. We had a very open conversation about what trauma is, how it affects our lives, and what we can do to heal ourselves.  We have all experienced some form of trauma, and many times that trauma plays out in our adult lives. It might affect how we react to our spouse, how we parent our children, and how we navigate our work lives. As Dr. Hankins explained, trauma can affect us in big ways, such as anger, violence, or yelling, but also in not so obvious ways, such as perfectionism, workaholism, and lack of boundaries. Many times it’s the root of our very deep wounds, but we can work to heal ourselves and become better for ourselves.  What’s in the episode:  What is trauma, and how does it affect our lives?The difference between Big T and Little T trauma.What is a trauma response, and why would someone have one? What is the key to reshaping our lives?How can we approach trauma, understand its effect, and move beyond to heal?   “Even though we are not responsible for the traumas that happened to us as children, as adults, we are responsible for healing them.” Dr. Melissa Hankins   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review. Kim’s Happy Academy Waitlist! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, so you are gonna want to be one of the first to know when we open the doors! Get on the waitlist here.  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community. Connect with Dr. Melissa Hankins LINKEDIN INSTAGRAM TWITTER Schedule a FREE consultation with Dr. Rankins About Dr. Melissa Hankins Dr. Melissa Hankins is the founder and CEO of Melissa Hankins Coaching. She is a Mindset and Success Coach for physicians and other high-performers who may “look great on the outside” but are struggling on the inside. Her clients typically struggle with burnout, perfectionism, workaholism, “trying to do all the things” and feeling completely overwhelmed in the process while doing their best not to show it.

When we are uncomfortable setting boundaries, it's easy to fall into patterns like people-pleasing to make sure everyone else is happy.  However, this becomes the breeding ground for resentment and anger in our lives. Many of us suffer from our people-pleasing ways. We do it for several reasons: To be accepted and belong, to receive love, and to find validations. We worry that people may not like us, creating a life of self-abandon and resentment. In this episode, Kim speaks to Krista Resnick about creating boundaries to protect our space and our relationships. It’s great to make other people happy, but it’s more important to please ourselves first by making self-honoring choices. Here are the things to expect in the episode: Are you for yourself, or are you against yourself?Establishing boundaries and aligning with your purposeWhy self-compassion and self-care is essential to your successChoosing kindness over judgmentAnd much more! What’s in the episode:  How do you know when to set a boundary?What fears stop people from setting boundaries?How to lean into discomfort.Krista’s top 2 tricks for starting to set boundaries in your life. How to quit abandoning yourself for the sake of pleasing others so you can be free. “Too many times we self-abandon  for the sake of pleasing others?”  Krista Resnick If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review. Kim’s Happy Academy Waitlist! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, so you are gonna want to be one of the first to know when we open the doors! Get on the waitlist here.  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community. Connect with Krista FACEBOOK WEBSITE INSTAGRAM The Secret to Empowered Boundaries Permission Granted Podcast About Krista: Krista Resnick is a Master Certified Coach, a podcaster, sought after speaker and mother to 3 boys. She is a powerhouse of soul, fun, compassion, and vibrancy.  Her honest and curious approach guides the women she serves in a way that is both real, true and supportive. Her work empowers women to stop settling, and put themselves BACK on the priority list.    Krista supports women by helping them break free of codependent and people pleasing patterns so they can set healthy boundaries and master the art of speaking their truth Krista is a walking permission slip, inspiring women to show up unapologetically and create the space they need and the connection they crave.

Gay Hendricks wrote this amazing book called “The Big Leap”. In it, he explains that as humans we all have what he calls an “Upper Limit Problem.” Basically, we have an internal thermostat in our body that says, “I have limited tolerance, for feeling good in my life, I have limited tolerance for how much happiness, I am willing to let myself feel how much love, I'm willing to let myself feel how much success, I'm willing to let myself feel.”  Because of our Upper Limit Problem,  when things are going good for us, we will self sabotage our ability to all the goodness we want to feel in our life.  He explained that have limited tolerance for allowing our life to go well, for a period of time. And when we hit that internal thermostat of being able to feel good or feel success, we do something that stops our positive forward trajectory.  The good news….we can change our internal thermostats and reset them to higher levels of success.  What’s in the episode:  What is the Upper Limited Problem and how does it show up in our lives?The ways we self-sabotage and why do we do it. The four zones of work identified by Gay HendricksThe zone of incompetence: In this zone, you are engaging in something you are simply not good at. This is me trying to dance in the ballet.The zone of competence: You can get the job done, but no better than the next person.The zone of excellence: In this zone, you are doing something you are very, very good at compared to most other people.The zone of genius: When you’re in your genius zone, are in what author Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi calls “flow.” You’re taking advantage of your natural talents and doing what you earnestly enjoy. You have what could almost be called an “unfair advantage” over your competition.   “Our internal thermostat setting determines how much love success, creativity, happiness, well-being we allow in our life.”  Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review. Kim’s Happy Academy Waitlist! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, so you are gonna want to be one of the first to know when we open the doors! Get on the waitlist here.  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Kim reflects on a lesson she took to heart this past year, and she reflected on year 48 of her life and what is taught her, how she grew, and the work she’s done on herself.  She worked on Radical Acceptance, which means that she is working on releasing bitterness and resentment over things she couldn’t and can’t control.  It wasn’t easy work, but once she quit resisting the way certain things or people were in her life, she experienced a whole new level of peace and freedom. And because she did this work on herself this last year, she has experienced new levels of abundance, happiness, peace, and wellbeing. What’s in the episode:  What is radical acceptance and why does it work?How does practicing acceptance free us from the binds that keep us in bitterness?How can we accept ourselves and our situations while also wanting to change in positive ways?What gets in the way of our ability to accept and how to break free.Where our power lies and how to step into it.  “I've discovered is that I'm a lot happier and more at peace when I accept people or circumstances or situations as they are rather than wishing it was different.”  Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love it if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review. Kim’s Happy Academy Waitlist! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, so you are gonna want to be one of the first to know when we open the doors! Get on the waitlist here.  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

A mindset is simply a set of thoughts and beliefs that shape how you make sense of the world and yourself. It influences how you think, feel, and behave.  Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck says, “Your beliefs play a pivotal role in what you want and whether you can achieve it. It has a significant role in determining your achievement and success. In this episode, Kim dives into why change is hard and goals keep getting left in the dust. Most of us approach change and goals backwards. We use our logical, conscious mind and think if we can yield enough willpower, we can make it happen. But Kim shares why this doesn’t work and the formula she has used to create massive success in her life. She will talk you through Robert Dilts’s “Hierarchy of Change” and show you how to reverse engineer the formula for how you go about achieving your goals and creating more success in life.  What’s in the episode:  How our mindsets drive our actions and behaviors.Why you are not your thoughts!The hierarchy of change and the six layers of thinking.Learn to take on the identity right now of who you wish to become   “Our beliefs about ourselves greatly influence our life.”  Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/she-finds-joy/id1487739752  Kim’s Happy Academy Waitlist! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, so you are gonna want to be one of the first to know when we open the doors! Get on the waitlist here.  You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

From an early age, we are taught to color inside the lines, and any color that strays outside the lines is considered a mistake to be avoided. We are supposed to do everything right, which carries over into adulthood.  Perfectionism is a naturally limiting mindset. Imperfection, however, frees us to live outside the lines, where possibilities are infinite, mistakes are allowed, and self-judgment is minimal.   It’s not easy to let go of our need for perfection or the old tapes that play in our head that remind us we are supposed to act, do, and perform in a certain way.  In this episode, Kim shares her struggle when things appear to go astray and how she is working to transform how she handles challenges in her own life. When we learn to let go of our “expectations” of ourselves, we begin to see that we have the ability to feel better about just being human beings. We can learn to take back our power and plant the seeds of transformation and inner freedom.  What’s in the episode:  What perfectionism looks like and how it shows up in our life.How to pivot when dealing with hard things.Learn to manage your feelings better.Understand how belief systems drive the inner criticThe art of allowing our heavy feelings.Three ways to practice self-compassion   “We must learn to process our heavy feelings rather than avoid them.” Kim Strobel   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love it if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review! Kim’s Happy Academy Waitlist! If you’re tired of putting yourself on the back-burner and ready to learn powerful strategies for increasing your happiness levels and reclaiming your life, you might want to grab a spot on the Happy Academy Waitlist. Over 17,000 people signed up for this 10-month program last year, so you are gonna want to be one of the first to know when we open the doors! Get on the waitlist here.    You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.

Rosanna Berardi is the Managing Partner of Berardi Immigration Law and the CEO of High WireWoman, where she helps working women create a blueprint to living their lives in a simpler way and take back their most precious commodity: their time. After saying goodbye to a lucrative corporate gig—and a promising career as an immigration lawyer for the U.S. government—she built a successful, multi-million dollar corporate immigration law firm on her own terms while helping transform people’s lives as they pursue their version of the American Dream. In this episode, she shares that while these are difficult times and we can’t quit our jobs, we can create simple life hacks that make our lives feel so much better.  We can tap into the world of convenience and start outsourcing our “motherly, wifey, worker bee” job to free up space for time, pleasure, and ourselves.  What’s in the episode:  How women can make their lives easierWhy it’s not selfish to pay for convenienceStop the martyrdom of “do everything yourself”How she outsources 90% of her lifeEmbrace and lean into modern-day working and mothering.   “I outsource 90% of the things in my life, so I have time to enjoy the things I love.” Rosanna Berardi   If you enjoy this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag me, @kimstrobeljoy. I would also love it if you subscribed to the podcast and left a review.   Rosanna’s Links High Wire Woman Podcast   You can follow Kim’s journey on Instagram at @KimStrobelJoy, and in the free private, She Finds Joy Facebook community.