Today we're joined by Jenni and Lisa, the duo behind the Dear Patriarchy Podcast. Jenni and Lisa are sisters who have worked in male-dominated industries for over two decades.  A gas-lit woman's guide to surviving the (corporate) world. Jenni & Lisa are sisters with over 2 decades spent working in the male-dominated industries of Construction, Tech and Finance. They delve into the pitfalls and the gas-lighting women experience in the patriarchal construct of traditional corporate environments, sharing their personal experiences along with statistics relating to how misogyny, racism, prejudice, trans-phobia and queer-phobia present in the workplace. If you’ve ever wondered why you’re not getting ahead at work (or getting as far as you want), they'll explore why (spoiler alert: it’s not your fault) and what you can do about it. --- Connect with Jenni & Lisa at: https://dearpatriarchypodcast.buzzsprout.com/ https://twitter.com/patriarchy_pod?lang=en https://www.facebook.com/dearpatriarchypod/ https://www.instagram.com/dearpatriarchypod patriarchypod@gmail.com --- Let me know what you think about this episode and: Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien Check out my website and see how we can work together Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abby-desjardien/message --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

In today's episode, we're going to talk all about success, wisdom, and the key to a joyful life with Janine Aurichio.  Janine is a joy master intuitive healer, coach, and recovering approval seeker. Her mission is to bring healing to the world by helping women step away from the shoulds in step into their undeniable magnificence. After waking up to the fact that she was living someone else's idea of the dream, she left her prestigious interior design firm and three decades on the management track to answer the call to serve. She started Yes to Yum Life Styling to help women come to know love and trust themselves so that they can unapologetically live their own dream.  Now she works with discouraged and stuck professional women, both one on one and in groups, guiding them on their healing journey to develop intuitive skills, connect with their purpose, and map out a clear vision for their future. A master of transitioner herself, Janine uses her signature formula of beauty, wisdom, purpose, and practice to teach women how to radiate vitality, embrace their purpose and allow for joyful success. --- Connect with Janine at: Janine's website: www.yes2yum.comJanine's email: janine@yes2yum.comJanine's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janine-aurichio/Janine's MeetUp: https://www.meetup.com/Marin-Women-Healing-in-Nature/ --- Let me know what you think about this episode and: Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardienCheck out my website and see how we can work togetherSubscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abby-desjardien/message --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

*Today's episode is a re-airing of Episode 14 of the Things That Keep Us Up at Night Podcast.  Before you listen, I want to recognize that not everyone has the ability to create their own schedule or work from home but you can still make small changes towards better sleep. Next week I will be introducing a new resource to pinpoint your first steps to better sleep regardless of your work schedule. Previously, I talked all about chronotypes. Chronotypes are the classification of the general timing of your biological clock. For our purposes, it is the programming that exists in each person’s biology that tells them when they should wake up and go to sleep. There are four main categories: Bears: majority, wake with the sun and sleep when it gets dark Lions:  wake early, early birds, to bed early Wolves: aka night owls, sleep in and stay up late) Dolphins: people with insomnia, struggle to get the recommended amount of sleep and are always tired Our society was built for the bears. We envy the lions, we judge the wolves, and we shame the dolphins. I think when we hear these descriptions, it’s easy to identify with one type but wish you were another. Somewhat of a “grass is always greener” scenario. So let’s talk about why this envy exists. As a society, we have created little room for people to live the lives that are best for their health. We value overworking, sacrifice, and live by the mantras, “Push through the pain.” and “Hard work beats talent if talent doesn’t work hard."  Bill Gates once said, “I never took a day off in my 20s. Not one.” We need to stop glorifying the leaders who work 20 hours a day, 7 days a week and then expect the same of their employees. Stop glorifying people working so much that they become debilitatingly ill. There is a decrease in average productivity with increased hours. Let’s allow people to function on the schedule that matches up with their chronotype so that they’re not fighting their biological programming. Imagine what kind of inspired work someone could produce if they were actually functioning in a way that worked with their body instead of constantly fighting against it. Things we thought impossible a year ago have been proven possible because we were forced to consider alternatives. This past 9 months has shown us that despite what we’ve been told previously, corporations and systems CAN make drastic changes quickly when the circumstances demand it. What can you do to create change in your organization or your life? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

*Today's episode is a re-airing of Episode 12 of the Things That Keep Us Up at Night Podcast. I first learned about chronotypes in Dr. Michael Breus’ book The Power of When. In his book, he writes about how our bodies are programmed to do certain things at certain times of the day. Eat, sleep, have sex, be creative, get nitty-gritty tasks done, etc. By identifying what category you fall into, you can lead a healthier, happier, life and experience more ease in your day to day tasks. What’s a chronotype? A chronotype is the classification of the general timing of your biological clock. For our purposes, it is the programming that exists in each person’s biology that tells them when they should wake up and go to sleep. Unlike our horoscope, our chronotype CAN CHANGE. Most teenagers tend to be wolves, staying up late and sleeping in. This may change when they get into their twenties. It may change again when they become seniors. But, for the 40 years between 20-60 years old, things stay relatively consistent. If you’re looking to get better sleep with ease, improve your productivity, or become more mindful of your habits knowing your chronotype may be the missing link! There are 4 chronotypes, according to Dr. Michael Breus: Bears: middle of the road types, people who prefer a solar-based schedule and have a high sleep drive, 50% of the population Lions: 15-20% of the population, Lions would be tired of hearing “the early bird gets the worm”, but we’re pretty sure they’re the ones that came up with the phrase. Wolves: 15-20% of the population., formally known as night owls, Wolves are those of us who are most awake, alert, and productive in the evenings. Dolphins: Make up only 10% of the population. Sleep, who? Dolphins know what it’s like to run off a few hours sleep or wake up to the slightest noise. People with insomnia fall into this category. Remember with sleep, there is no one, magic bullet. But, making small, incremental changes can make a BIG impact. When you’re not fighting against your biology, those changes are going to be easier to make. When I talk about listening to your body, this is one way to do that. As always, there are ideals in life and then there’s the reality. You may HAVE to be up at a certain time for work or to help your kids get ready, but if you can make even just ONE of these changes, you probably see a difference in your experience while you’re awake and how you sleep. We see life through the lens of how much we slept the night before. If you can shift small things and get more/better sleep, you will start to experience more ease and joy. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

Teachers are essential. Teachers are not essential workers.  As schools across the country begin the process of reopening, many parents are deciding whether or not to send their children to class or to stay virtual - many teachers are not being given an option.  In the US, education has always been at the bottom of the list when it comes to funding and public policy. Teachers, by default, are often undervalued, underpaid, and underappreciated. Now, in the midst of a global pandemic, many are also being gaslit into returning to class and teaching in person.  Somehow teachers are now the enemy because they're advocating for safety for themselves and their students, as they always have. The same parents who are publicly professing their love and admiration for teachers a year ago, with performative grand gestures about how teachers are heroes are now the ones demonizing them. If you want your kids to go back to school, send them back to school. If you want to keep your kids home, keep them home. Do not, however, fall into the trap of blaming the teachers for demanding safety in their jobs, and further concerns that they don't have the resources to keep our kids safe. If you argue that families must have the right to choose to go back or not, then you must also extend the same opportunity to teachers. No questions asked. More on the new normal in education, children's mental health, and the gaslighting of America's teachers in this week's episode.  --- Let me know what you think about this episode and: *Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien *Check out my website and see how we can work together *Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/abby-desjardien/message --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

Ashleigh Brown is the founder and creator of Compliments ‘n Coffee.  She believes  everyone should start your day with more love and less doubt.  Whether you are using the mug to sip coffee or as a vessel for ice cream, each cupful comes with its own signature affirmation. In this episode, you will learn: How Ashleigh came up with the idea of compliments ‘n coffee Why she decided to sleep train herself Why she believes in “Power Hours” Where can you find more about Compliments ‘n Coffee? https://www.complimentsncoffee.com/ Discount code: SLEEP15 - to get 15% off your order https://www.instagram.com/complimentsncoffee/ Honorable Mention: The Relaxed Guy Eye Mask with Bluetooth 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down. Let me know what you think about this episode and: *Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien *Check out my website and see how we can work together *Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

Nayla Bahri is the go-to person for leadership and career development. She believes “How we think about work is a reflection of how we see ourselves in the world.” After more than 20 years as a coach, consultant, educator and facilitator, she wants to deepen her clients' experience on how we contribute to the world professionally. In this episode, you will learn: Why she believes continuously changing jobs is like changing wallpaper How work defines your general well-being How many hours are spent in your life working. Hint: ALOT Where can you find more about Nayla Bahri? Nayla’s website:https://www.naylabahri.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drnaylabahri/ Podcast: https://www.insidejobthepodcast.com/ 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down. Let me know what you think about this episode and: *Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien *Check out my website and see how we can work together *Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

As a woman of color, Copywriter & Brand Strategist Zafira Rajan began noticing her clients were not inclusive and unaware of the practices they were imparting to their audience.  As she stepped into the copywriter/educator role, she knew she wanted to do more to call them in to shift their pattern. After speaking with other women of color, she decided to write a book. In this episode, you will learn: How being the only brown woman in the wellness space impacted her The fatigue of women of color in this industry Why action is more important than talking Where can you find more about Zafira Rajan? Zafira’s website:https://www.zafirarajan.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zafira.rajan/ The Women of Colour In Wellness EBook Honorable Mention: https://www.cicelyblainconsulting.com/ https://www.rachelricketts.com/ https://www.instagram.com/antiracismdaily/ 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down. Let me know what you think about this episode and: *Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien *Check out my website and see how we can work together *Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

Iffy Ibekwe is a 14 year practicing estate planning lawyer. She activates intentional women with wills, trusts, and other legal documents so they can take agency over their lives and build impactful legacies. Iffy has conquered many things: a beautiful family including her husband and four children but she could not master sleeping. But then she changed the rules! In this episode, you will learn: How having a sleep consultant can be beneficial to your family. Why expressing your struggles is not shameful. Why implementing bedtime rules and routines is important for a full night's sleep Where can you find more about Iffy Ibekwe? Iffy's website: https://ibekwelaw.com/ Iffy's Personal Website: www.iffyibekwe.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejustincaselawyer/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ibekwelawyer LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ifeoma-iffy-ibekwe-esq-7b319238/ Honorable mentions Hatch LightsDohme Sound MachineTemperature for sleep 66 - 68 degrees 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down. Let me know what you think about this episode and: *Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien *Check out my website and see how we can work together *Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

Violet Cavendish is the Communications Manager at Marijuana Policy Project. What is that? Per their website, The Marijuana Policy Project is the largest organization working solely on marijuana policy reform.  Their motto: “We Change Laws”. In this episode, you will learn: How MPP goes about changing the marijuana laws on the state levelProof that voters are ready for laws to changeMedical marijuana vs. adult-use marijuana Where can you find more about the Marijuana Policy Project? Marijuana Policy Project website Instagram Facebook YouTube Twitter 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down. Let me know what you think about this episode and: *Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien *Check out my website and see how we can work together *Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

What does community mean to you? To me, it means a safety net. People to call when I have a problem, people to commiserate with when going through a hard time, people to celebrate with when happy things happen. It means having people there to help when you need it and being there to offer help when they need it. Being in community means taking care of eachother. But what happens when many of the ways we typically do this for each other become impossible because of the circumstances we’re living through? According to Dr. Vivek Murthy in his book, Together, loneliness is an epidemic. One of the most prevalent epidemics of our time. Loneliness was an issue long before COVID and it will surely be one long after. But, if we start to recognize it and take actionable steps towards addressing it, maybe we can slowly lessen the burden over time. What is loneliness? The subjective feeling that you’re lacking the social connections you need. According to leading researchers of loneliness (I will put the sources in the show notes), there are 3 dimensions of loneliness: Intimate(emotional): longing for a close confidante or intimate partner Relational (social): yearning for quality friendships and social companionship and support Collective: Hunger for a network or community of people who share your sense of purpose and interests Being alone, in and of itself is not a risk factor for loneliness. Distinguish between isolation vs. solitude. What if we responded to loneliness (like we do to hunger and thirst), instead of giving in to it? What does any of this have to do with sleep? Loneliness directly impacts our quality of sleep. Dr. Vivek Murthy citing the work of John Cacioppo said, “When we’re profoundly lonely, we tend to sleep lightly and rouse often, just as our ancestors did to prevent being overtaken by wolves or enemies.” - They found that “lonely people come out of sleep many times throughout the night, and though they may think they’ve slept through the night, these microawakenings undermine the quality of their sleep, leaving them fatigued and irritable.” Coronosomnia/COVIDsomina… isolation→ loneliness→ awakenings So what do we do? Right now, it’s necessary for survival to be physically separated from people outside of your household. Make plans to do a masked, socially distanced walk or chat, outside, with a friend or family member. Do something kind for someone. Acts of service create connection. Connection produces happy chemicals in your brain. If you’re someone who struggles with sleep and you haven’t been able to make the changes necessary to start living a well-rested life, I’ve created The Sleep Reclamation Project for you.  😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 *Check out my website and see how we can work together *Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

Claire Hammill is the type of woman you feel like you have known for years, even if you just connected with her on social media! She believes her mission is to help women step into the version of themselves that is needed to level up in their life and business! With her kind but direct way which forces you to see the real you, she does just that with each of her clients. In this episode, you will learn: What Claire believes about the phrase “Self Love”How diet culture was created to make women not trust themselvesWhy it's important to love all facets of yourself  Book Recommendations: Anti-Diet Christie Harrison The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor Where can you find Claire?  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thecurvycollective/ Instagram: @ClaireHammill 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Reclamation Project! Join the The Sleep Reclamation Project where you can become part of a community for those seeking accountability, resources and direction to make small, lasting changes to get better sleep. Let me know what you think about this episode and: *Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien *Check out my website and see how we can work together *Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

The power of possibility is not just some inspiring, feel good concept. It is the driving force behind why we do what we do. You cannot create change if you cannot imagine the possibility. So, whether you are working towards a personal goal or trying to do your part to change the systems in our country, let’s talk about how we use the power of possibility to make change. Awareness: Tune into your body. How do you feel in certain situations? Most of the time we don’t desire to change something that feels good, long term, in our bodies. When we feel discomfort, we often leave our bodies, tune-out, and distract ourselves so we don’t have to feel it. Don’t. The way you’re feeling is one of your guides. That old saying, “Listen to your gut.” It will rarely lead you astray. If you actually spend time in your body, it will guide you in the right direction. What is the change that you want to see in yourself or the world around you? Urgency: Change is hard. In order to change, we have to feel that the cost of not changing is larger than the discomfort and work of change. What will happen if you don’t change? Why now? Imagine the possibility: Close your eyes and imagine. What do you want to change? What will it look like? Try to create as vivid a scene as possible. Where are you? What do you see? What colors? Who’s there? How are the people around you acting? What kind of a feeling do you get while existing in that imagined situation? Reverse Engineer a Plan: Once you’ve imagined the possibility, work backwards from there to create smaller milestones along the way. Then, break those down into even smaller steps. The key here is to make the steps small enough to be attainable in a short amount of time. Small wins create a feeling of accomplishment and feelings of accomplishment create resolve. Small wins along the way add up to big change over time. Community: Find a community of people with a shared vision and the desire to work together towards that shared vision. When people bring their individual ideas of a vision together with others, it strengthens the possibility. The slight differentiation in the way people plan to live out that vision creates a solid, inclusive foundation for change.  When you’re wavering in your resolve, those people will be there to remind you of the vision you have and help you keep going. Listen to the full episode to get your action items. This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Reclamation Project. Head to abbydesjardien.com/membership to find out more. Cleo Wade's TED Talk: "Want To Change The World? Start By Being Brave Enough to Care." Let me know what you think about this episode and: Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien  Check out my website and see how we can work together  Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night"! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

Beginning a business as an introvert was challenging but Tonia Noland knew she was called to help Millennial women and hold them accountable to build their confidence and remove the roadblocks to build foundations so they can fulfill their lives, careers, and businesses.  Even if it was uncomfortable! Listen to this episode to find out: Why confidence plays in every aspect of our livesHow to get your inner mean girl/boy to SHUT UPThe Power of Mirroring Where can you find Tonia? https://tonianoland.com/https://www.instagram.com/tonianoland/https://www.facebook.com/tonianoland86https://tonianoland.com/blog/Unapologetically Alive Podcast 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Reclamation Project! Join the The Sleep Reclamation Project where you can become part of a community for those seeking accountability, resources and direction to make small, lasting changes to get better sleep.  Let me know what you think about this episode and: Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardienCheck out my website and see how we can work togetherSubscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

Today’s episode is all about creating more time for the things we want and saying, “no,” to the things we don’t.  What if we stopped using the phrase, "I don't have time for that."? What if we started saying, “I’m choosing to do other things with my time”  Or, "That’s not important enough for me to make time." Then, we are forced to actually take stock of what we are spending our time doing. Do I really not have time, or do I just not want to do it? What if we added up all of the spare time and used it to do things that are essential to life, but that many of us actively choose not to do enough of?!  So, how do we create more time in our days? Here are 5 ways. This is not a be all end all list. There are many ways to create more time, but these may give you some ideas. Just say, “No”: This slogan got a bad rap as part of the war on drugs in the 80s and 90s, but when you take it out of that context, it’s a valuable tool. It’s okay to say no. Actually, it’s necessary to say no to things you don’t want to make room to say yes to the things you do want. Create a to-do list: This helps us clear our brains of the information and get it on paper. It creates more space for the other important thinking that needs to happen. Then, you don’t waste time trying to remember what you needed to do on any given day.Work during your most productive time: If you’re unsure of what your most productive time is, start being mindful of when your day seems to flow. When tasks are done with ease. When does it feel good to be working? It may be different times of day for different types of work. Focused, detail oriented work may be easy at one time, while creative thinking may happen best at another time. If you want to investigate this further, listen to episode #12: Lions, Wolves, and Bears...And dolphins?! Oh My!. In this episode I introduce the concept of chronotypes. A chronotype is the classification of the general timing of your biological clock. It dictates your sleep/wake cycles, hunger, energy levels, and just about everything else you do in your life. Create a Routine: A morning and evening routine will help you further save your finite decision making power. Creating a morning routine, with a consistent wake time, and an evening routine with a consistent bedtime will program our brain to do these things without much willpower required. When you don’t have to make those decisions about when to get up and when to go to sleep, you save a lot of time each day.Sleep More: I know this seems counterintuitive. Sleeping more, means more time that you’re not doing things. But, more sleep actually leads to improved wellbeing, productivity, creativity, decision making power, and so many other benefits. By sleeping more, you will be more efficient while you’re awake. Increased efficiency means more time to do the things that you previously didn’t have time for. Listen to the full episode to get your action items. This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Reclamation Project. Head to abbydesjardien.com/membership to find out more. Let me know what you think about this episode and: Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien Check out my website and see how we can work together Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

For the first 3 decades of her life, Robin Legat did not consider herself an athlete. Transforming herself from the kid who was picked last to the adult who spent 11 years as a roller derby skater before becoming a Spartan race competitor, she now wears the moniker “Athlete” proudly.  Listen to how Los Angeles awoke the athlete in Robyn. In this episode you will learn: How Craiglist (yes, THAT Craigslist) changed Robin’s lifeThe correlation between monkey bars and starting your own businessWhy sleep is where the magic happens in athletic performance. Where you can find Robyn: https://www.robinlegat.com/https://www.facebook.com/robinlegatsgx/https://www.instagram.com/robinlegat/Seasoned Athlete Podcasthttps://www.instagram.com/seasonedathlete/ 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down. Let me know what you think about this episode and: Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardienCheck out my website and see how we can work togetherSubscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

When Sarah was in graduate school, she received a degree in Art Therapy.  When she was laid off as in art therapist, she looked at it as an opportunity to change direction and work as a couple's therapist.  At the advice of her mentor who informed her if she was going to be a couple's therapist, she better know about sex therapy; Sarah began the sex therapy program at the University of Michigan. Her life has never been the same!  In this episode you will learn: What is sex therapy?Why “How are you Sleeping” is an important question in sex therapyHow to create space for alone time during CovidWhat is your self-care like? Where can you find Sarah Watson: Email: sarah@sarahwatsonlpc.com Website: www.sarahwatsonlpc.com Instagram: @sextherapywithsarah 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down. Let me know what you think about this episode and: Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardienCheck out my website and see how we can work togetherSubscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

Simone Little is a hair salon owner turned Online Business Manager (OBM).  When she discovered her CEO clients were running themselves ragged, she found herself offering advice and strategy on how they can best schedule their days to get things done.  When Simone experienced burnout herself, she decided to stop and really focus on what she loved most about her business…and her business productivity coaching company was born! In this episode, you will find: Why Simone created a never busy business strategyHow planning and scheduling is a benefit to your businessThe importance of planning your tasks to focus around your energy Where to find Simone Little: website: http://thelittlevirtualassistant.com/ email: simone@thelittleva.co Instagram: @thesimonelittle Facebook: www.facebook.com/thesimonelittle 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down. Let me know what you think about this episode and: Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardienCheck out my website and see how we can work togetherSubscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

After experiencing numerous abuses and traumas throughout her childhood, Jessica Bird learned that self sacrifice and silence was a way of protection.  Through bravery and vulnerability, she learned how to tune in to her own desires and speak her truth.  Silent no more, Jessica dives into living the life she wants on her own terms! During this episode you will learn: How Jessica learned to listen to herself and be curious about what calls herWhy she has never slept better after choosing to be a digital traveling nomadWhat Jessica’s serendipity life style looks, sounds and feels like Jessica Bird can be found: website:  www.theserendipitylifestyle.com/sleep Instagram: @serendipitybird  "When he was your hero... and you realize he's racist. | A Broken-hearted Letter to My Grandpa": https://theserendipitylifestyle.com/blog/when-he-was-your-hero-you-respect-his-wisdom-and-you-realize-hes-racist 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down. Let me know what you think about this episode and: Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardienCheck out my website and see how we can work togetherSubscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message

*DISCLAIMER - THIS EPISODE TALKS ABOUT PORNOGRAPHY - LISTENER'S DISCRETION ADVISED* If you didn't listen to Episode 15, which is part 1 of this series, PLEASE GO BACK AND LISTEN BEFORE YOU LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE. Now that we got that out of the way, Amy Lang is a sexuality educator who teaches parents how to speak to their children about sexuality.  In Part 2, Amy breaks down how to be really open to your children about sexuality and internet safety. In this episode, you will learn: How horses led one of her client's children finding pornWhat to say to your 4-year old regarding the internetWhy communication is key Where can you find Amy: Website: https://birdsandbeesandkids.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/birdsbeeskids YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOXz2W3cq8F71MslLXn8apA Podcast: https://birdsandbeesandkids.com/category/podcast/ Recommended Resources The Porn Conversation Good Pictures Bad Pictures 😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴🥱😴 This episode is sponsored by The Sleep Society! Join the Sleep Society where you can find tips and tricks to winding down. Let me know what you think about this episode and: *Connect with me on Instagram at @abbydesjardien *Check out my website and see how we can work together *Subscribe to "Things That Keep Us Up at Night" here! Loving what you are hearing at Things That Keep You Up at Night!? Have you found some tips to help you sleep better?  Make sure you subscribe and leave a 5 STAR – Review at Apples Podcasts or wherever you listen to your podcasts! Song Credits: I Can't Sleep by My My Snake Eyes feat. Red Red Revision --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/abby-desjardien/message