Becoming Me

Ann Yeong

Becoming Me is your podcast companion and coach in your journey to a more integrated and authentic self. I explore the joys and challenges of the interior journey, and share practical wisdom about growing in wholeness and in living the authentic life. Visit www.becomingme.sg for podcast host bio, companion blog and subscribe to my mailing list for more engagement and resources! read less
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Season 8

How Learning About Trauma Helped My Spiritual Life
Jan 8 2024
How Learning About Trauma Helped My Spiritual Life
Episode 108   In this episode, I delve into how understanding complex trauma has helped me in my spiritual life. I share how certain challenges I face, such as emotional regulation in stressful environments, couldn't be solved merely through deepening my spiritual life and prayer routine. By learning more about trauma, I discovered how coping mechanisms and defense mechanisms have shaped my personality and reactions. I share how learning about trauma has led me to see myself more wholly and helped me to be more compassionately curious and courageous in my interior integration journey.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:03:24 ) - New Season Updates(00:14:47) - Introduction(00:16:05) - The Connection Between Spiritual Journey and Trauma(00:18:54) - The Struggle With Spiritual Growth(00:20:37) - The Revelation Of A Shaky Foundation(00:23:56) - Understanding Complex Trauma(00:27:26) - The Impact of Trauma On The Nervous System(00:28:30) - The Integration of Body, Mind and Spirit(00:29:51) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTWhat emotional response do you have to this episode? Are you open to exploring how trauma affects your own spiritual journey?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
What Does Interior Integration FEEL Like?
Jan 15 2024
What Does Interior Integration FEEL Like?
Episode 109   What's the difference that healing and integration makes we  get triggered back into old insecurities and anxieties? We often expect that healing will result in the absence of struggles but in reality, the journey involves self-awareness and fostering a sense of internal freedom with which we learn to manage our anxieties and insecurities. In this episode I recount a personal experience in which I was able to regain composure and freedom after encountering a stressful situation which had triggered me into being fearful and anxious. The integration journey slowly increases our ability to find the interior freedom to respond rather than just react, allowing us to be more wholly human even in our struggles.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:42) - Introduction(00:01:21) - The Healing Journey(00:02:58) - Experiencing Healing(00:04:04) - The Role of God in the Healing Journey(00:05:31) - The Struggle with Insecurities and Fears(00:08:53) - The Power of Self-Awareness in Healing(00:10:33) - Regaining Freedom through Healing(00:14:18) - The Role of Prayer and Discernment in Healing(00:17:22) - The Impact of Healing and Integration(00:19:30) - The Complexity & Courage of the Healing Journey(00:22:44) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTCan you identity with any part of the experience I shared in this episode about getting triggered and re-centering myself? What, in your experience, is an early sign you can pick up on that you are being triggered? What have you found useful as a first step to halt the slide into further anxiety or panic?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
Why Conviction Without Integration Doesn't Help Us
Jan 22 2024
Why Conviction Without Integration Doesn't Help Us
Episode 110   Conviction alone can’t get you where you want or need to go. When we don’t do the work of interior integration we often end up hiding behind our convictions to feel safe instead of flourishing because we are rooted in a secure relationship with God and our Self.In this episode, I explore how personal integration is a crucial factor for living an authentic and balanced life. I share from my personal experience how having strong convictions doesn't necessarily lead to fruitful actions. Instead, it is the work of facing and accepting one's truths without fear, healing, and evolving through different stages of growth that helps us to become more open to divine grace and bear good fruit.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:17) - Introduction(00:02:01) - The Importance of Conviction and Integration(00:07:20) - The Role of Trauma in Personal Growth(00:10:21) - Virtue and Emotion Regulation(00:11:51) - The Struggle of Living Out Convictions(00:13:58) - God's Love in Personal Transformation(00:25:58) - The Challenge of Living Out Conovictions in Relationships(00:26:59) - The Journey of Healing and Integration(00:29:52) - The Role of Discernment in the Interior Journey(00:43:20) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTHave you experienced being full of passion and conviction about the kind of life you want to live while realising that you don't have the power to make that conviction a reality in your life? Can you identify how a lack of integration may be the reason for that?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
3 Grounding Tips For When You Are Overwhelmed
Jan 29 2024
3 Grounding Tips For When You Are Overwhelmed
Episode 111   Have you experienced feeling overwhelmed while making the interior journey? In this episode I propose three coping strategies for these difficult periods: the understanding that nothing real changes, realising that we are not the saviours of ourselves or the world, and being extra gentle and mindful towards ourselves. I also highlight the significance of recognising seasons and rhythms in our lives and the importance of self-care during challenging times. This episode is relevant for anyone seeking comfort and guidance when confronting overwhelming emotions during their personal journeys towards authenticity and openness.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:17) - Introduction(00:02:01) - The Importance of Conviction and Integration(00:07:20) - The Role of Trauma in Personal Growth(00:10:21) - Virtue and Emotion Regulation(00:11:51) - The Struggle of Living Out Convictions(00:13:58) - God's Love in Personal Transformation(00:25:58) - The Challenge of Living Out Conovictions in Relationships(00:26:59) - The Journey of Healing and Integration(00:29:52) - The Role of Discernment in the Interior Journey(00:43:20) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTHave you experienced being full of passion and conviction about the kind of life you want to live while realising that you don't have the power to make that conviction a reality in your life? Can you identify how a lack of integration may be the reason for that?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
How Ignatian Examen Helps Heal Abandonment Wounds
Feb 5 2024
How Ignatian Examen Helps Heal Abandonment Wounds
Episode 112   In this episode's deep dive, I explain the vital connection between our senses of identity and security in faith, sharing insights drawn from Catholic tradition, modern psychology, and personal experience. I share about my journey towards developing a secure attachment with God, and how the prayer of the Examen, which originated with St. Ignatius of Loyola, helped me in this journey.   Through integrating perspectives from the study of trauma, I share how focusing on the concept of God's constant and loving presence rather than on self-evaluation helped me to deepen my felt sense of security in God's love for me.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:17) - Introduction(00:02:01) - The Importance of Conviction and Integration(00:07:20) - The Role of Trauma in Personal Growth(00:10:21) - Virtue and Emotion Regulation(00:11:51) - The Struggle of Living Out Convictions(00:13:58) - God's Love in Personal Transformation(00:25:58) - The Challenge of Living Out Conovictions in Relationships(00:26:59) - The Journey of Healing and Integration(00:29:52) - The Role of Discernment in the Interior Journey(00:43:20) - ConclusionREFLECTION PROMPTHave you experienced being full of passion and conviction about the kind of life you want to live while realising that you don't have the power to make that conviction a reality in your life? Can you identify how a lack of integration may be the reason for that?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
Why Exercising Boundaries Feel "Wrong" When You're Healing
Feb 12 2024
Why Exercising Boundaries Feel "Wrong" When You're Healing
Episode 113  When those of us who never had boundaries start learning to exercise them, it can feel really "wrong" to us and this may keep us second guessing if drawing boundaries is the right thing to do.In this episode I reflect upon the struggle of exercising personal boundaries in the context of faith, familial expectations, and societal norms. I delve into my journey of establishing an authentic relationship with God and how insecurities, trauma, and distorted perceptions can impact this process. Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:16) - Introduction(00:08:56) - The Struggle of Exercising Boundaries(00:12:52) - The Impact of Dysfunctional Family Systems(00:21:13) - The Role of Faith in Setting Boundaries(00:38:17) - The Journey Towards Secure Attachment with God(00:39:33) - My Personal Journey Towards Secure Attachment(00:40:35) - The Fear and Anxiety of Making Mistakes(00:43:34) - Embracing Freedom and Trust in God(00:45:19) - The Impact of Secure Attachment on Our Identities(00:46:54) - How to Exercise Boundaries(00:47:15) - Overcoming Fear and Embracing God's Love(00:53:42) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTDo you struggle with boundaries? Think about a particular instance of where and when you were unable to feel safe enough to exercise your boundaries? Do you feel this way with God as well? We are meant to feel safe with ourselves and God. Do you feel this secure attachment yet?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
Recovering From People-Pleasing and Insecure Attachment With God
Feb 19 2024
Recovering From People-Pleasing and Insecure Attachment With God
Episode 114  If you're a people-pleaser, chances are good that you also have an insecure attachment with God and that your understanding of "pleasing God" comes from a place of anxiety rather than confidence.This episode discusses the struggles of recovering people pleasers within the context of spiritual life. I  share some insights on a passage from 'Time for God' by Jacques Philippe, addressing the concept of pleasing God and how we can mis-interpret it when we lack healthy self-esteem and self-worth.This is a particularly relevant episode to those struggling with people-pleasing and who often feel concerned that they are not "good enough" at pleasing God.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:33) - Introduction(00:01:21) - The Connection between People-Pleasing and Pleasing God(00:03:28) - The Root Cause of People-Pleasing(00:06:24) - The Importance of Secure Attachement(00:08:40) - The Journey towards Secure Attachment with God(00:11:09) - The Grace of Humility(00:16:07) - The Importance of Interior Integration(00:19:03) - Embracing the Journey(00:21:12) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTDo you identify as a people-pleaser? Perhaps you recognise this in someone else. How does people-pleasing affect your relationship with God and with yourself? We need to have a secure attachment with ourselves and with God. Do you have this? How can you achieve this?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
Understanding Enmeshment's Impact On Our Faith & Relationships
Feb 26 2024
Understanding Enmeshment's Impact On Our Faith & Relationships
Episode 115  In this episode I explore the concept of 'enmeshment', a term used in psychology to describe dysfunctional family systems marked by poor boundaries between family members and thus over-dependence (and co-dependence). I reflect on how growing up in an enmeshed family has affected my own mental health, relationships, and understanding of faith, leading me to develop a 'Messiah Complex' - or feeling compelled to constantly help others to my own detriment.I highlight the important role of understanding personal emotional health and trauma while practicing faith, and encourage listeners to be more compassionate with themselves, to become more whole, and grow in capacity to love well and healthily.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:21) - Introduction(00:00:58) - Understanding Enmeshment and Attachment Styles(00:06:44) - The Messiah Complex and its Consequences(00:09:06) - My Personal Experiences with the Messiah Complex(00:37:04) - The Impact of Enmeshment on Faith and Relationships(00:43:33) - The Journey Towards Healing and Wholeness(00:45:51) - The Importance of Alignment and Self-Understanding(00:54:59) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTHave you experienced having the Messiah Complex in your life? Perhaps you identify and have felt moments of enmeshment in some of your relationships. How have these experiences hindered your relationship with God? Has it hindered others' relationship with you or with God?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
Primed For Conflict: The Link Between Our Present & Our Past
Mar 4 2024
Primed For Conflict: The Link Between Our Present & Our Past
Episode 116  In this episode I examine the connection between past emotional trauma and present conflicts in relationships. Aided by three personal stories, I illustrate how past familial conflicts have influenced my own internal emotional regulation triggering conflicts in my current relationships, especially within my marriage.I also share how greater self-awareness can lessen the severity of conflicts, promote reconciliation, and foster greater empathy in relationships. I encourage listeners to explore their emotional patterns noticing how certain behaviours might be influenced by past experiences and unresolved issues. Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:16) - Introduction(00:00:53) - Understanding the Importance of Interior Integration and Interior Healing(00:03:04) - My Journey of Conflict and Self-Discovery(00:05:57) - The Role of Past Experiences in Current Conflicts(00:13:07) - Example: The Impact of Financial Sress on my Relationships(00:19:55) - Recognising and Addressing Emotional Triggers(00:28:42) - The Journey of Self-Awareness and Healing(00:35:23) - The Importance of Repairing Relationships(00:38:40) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTHave you found yourself uncontrollably upset at someone or at a situation? Are the triggers in your life forming a pattern? Sometimes, we don't realised the effect our wounds have on our body. Certain incidents may trigger something in us, without us cognitively knowing first. Have you experienced something similar? What are your triggers? What are your patterns?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
Navigating Healing of Relationships In Dysfunctional Families: A Christian Perspective
Mar 18 2024
Navigating Healing of Relationships In Dysfunctional Families: A Christian Perspective
Episode 117    In this in-depth discussion, I provide a Christian perspective on the journey of healing from complex trauma within a dysfunctional family setting. Six gentle reminders are shared for those trying to manage relationships within such dynamics: acknowledging the enmity; having a trustworthy third party; remembering self-abandonment is not love; not measuring up to an imagined ideal; grounding oneself in God's infinite love; and understanding that God sees the hidden suffering. I emphasise the need for truth, self-protection, understanding the nature of abuse, the necessity of setting boundaries, and the importance of grounding oneself in God's unconditional love.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:23) - Introduction(00:01:16) - The Challenges of Integration and Discipleship(00:03:08) - Navigating Love and Enmity within Our Families(00:04:10) - The Complexities of Healing and Relationships(00:07:36) - Recognising and Addressing Toxic Family Dynamics(00:11:05) - Six Gentle Reminders for Navigating Toxic Relathionships(00:32:48) - Dealing with the Impacts of Setting Boundaries(00:45:02) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTDid anything in my sharing resonate with you strongly? Think about the six reminders that I've shared about in this episode. Which of these are the hardest to live out? Which of these reminders give you the most comfort on this journey?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
The Essential Role of Self-Care In The Interior Journey
Mar 25 2024
The Essential Role of Self-Care In The Interior Journey
Episode 118    In this episode, I dive deep into the topic of self-care, self-love, and how they relate to spirituality from a Christian perspective. I challenge the common misconception within some Christian circles that self-care may be seen as a sign of weakness or indulgence. I emphasise the importance of recognising our individual, personal needs for care and suggest that neglect of self-care might stem from past trauma. I encourage listeners to understand self-care as an expression of accepting God's love and affirm our worthiness for care, taking time to meet our physical needs without feeling guilty or indulgent. Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS00:21 - Introduction00:50 - Exploring the Complexities of Self-Care in our Faith01:50 - The Misconceptions of Self-Care06:04 - Self-Care: Indulgence vs. Discipline13:33 - The Importance of Understanding Personal Needs17:42 - Personalism vs. Individualism: A Deeper Dive26:45 - Embracing Self-Care Without Shame32:05 - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTWhat is your relationship with self-care and self-love? Does it bring up negative feelings or experiences for you? Perhaps you have judged yourself harshing for indulging in self-care, or recognise this in others. How can we be free to care for ourselves?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
Are You Spiritualising Forgiveness?
Apr 1 2024
Are You Spiritualising Forgiveness?
Episode 119    In this episode, I discuss the concept of spiritualising forgiveness and its implications in faith and daily life. I talk about how the struggles many people often face in integrating love and forgiveness in their lives are due to an insecure attachment with God and a fear of not doing the right thing. I talk about the pitfalls of spiritualising forgiveness and how true forgiveness should lead to human flourishing rather than spiritual subjugation. I discuss the necessity of healing ourselves instead of just focusing on forgiving others, arguing that forgiveness is both a journey and God's work, not ours alone. I conclude this episode by offering practical advice on working towards forgiveness within a secure relationship with God.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:13) - Introduction(00:00:50) - Exploring the Struggless with Forgiveness(00:03:34) - Three Signs Indicating you may be Spiritualising Forgiveness(00:09:32) - Understanding the True Essesnce of Forgiveness(00:23:09) - Real-Life Complexities of Forgiveness in our Relationships(00:29:48) - Exploring the Process of Forgiveness(00:30:40) - Why do we Spiritualise Forgiveness(00:38:41) - Embracing the Vastness of God's Love(00:47:24) - How to Navigate our Emotions and Forgiveness(00:55:04) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTDo you recognise any of the three signs of spiritualization in your life? Is your attachement with God secure? Perhaps, there is a more concrete step which you can take towards recognising spiritualising forgiveness in your life and relationships. What might that be?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
3 Spiritual Blocks That Stem From Attachment Trauma
Apr 8 2024
3 Spiritual Blocks That Stem From Attachment Trauma
Episode 120    In this episode I highlight three common spiritual blocks: the inability to develop a close and intimate relationship with God, the struggle with being still and silent, and the challenges of discernment and decision-making.We often think of these as spiritual blocks, but in my experience, they have a lot to do with attachment trauma. Spirituality rests on the bedrock of our humanity, it is part of our humanity not apart from it. Our nervous system, body, our emotions, our rational mind - they all form an organic WHOLE that is much more than the sum of each part.This sharing will be particularly beneficial for spiritual directors and formators who may have more learning on spiritual development but less knowledge on how attachment wounds affect people’s ability to mature spiritually.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:18) - Introduction(00:00:55) - The Journey of Integration: A Personal Story(00:01:23) - Exploring the Intersection of Spirituality and Personal Growth(00:04:17) - The Role of Emotional Healing in Spiritual Direction(00:07:27) - Unveiling Three Spiritual Blocks Linked to Attachment Trauma(00:08:04) - The Impact of Religion and Spirituality on Mental Health(00:10:05) - Navigating Spiritual Blocks: Personal Reflections and Insights(00:25:40) - Understanding Attachment Styles and Their Influence on Spirituality(00:40:33) - Different Perspectives of Perfection and Wholeness(00:50:00) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTHave you experienced any of the three common spiritual blocks I've spoken about? Do you perhaps recognise these blocks in people close to you, in your communities? Think about an instance where you had to discern. How did it make you feel? Did you feel safe? Did you feel unconditionally loved by God?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
The Contemplative Heart of Interior Integration
Apr 15 2024
The Contemplative Heart of Interior Integration
Episode 121    In this episode of Becoming Me, I delve into the contemplative heart of interior integration. I talk about the integration of spirituality, psychology, neuroscience, and other fields as essential in the journey of self-discovery. Using metaphors and reflecting on my own experiences, I emphasise the role of contemplation in managing life's paradoxes and challenges. I explain how contemplation, or being with God, serves as a foundational point, helping us embrace our complexities and live out our faith deeply. I offer assurance that, despite the complexities of the interior integration journey, finding stability in contemplation can bring peace and grace into our lives. I also suggest ways to cultivate awareness to recognise contemplative moments daily, guiding listeners towards profound self-understanding and a closer relationship with the divine.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:26) - Introduction(00:01:04) - The Heart of Interior Integration(00:09:42) - Exploring the Contemplative Heart(00:12:40) - The Power of Contemplation in Healing(00:15:41) - Embracing Paradoxes and Tensions(00:21:10) - Contemplation: Beyond "Saying Prayers"(00:23:01) - Real-Life Examples of Contemplation(00:37:58) - Cultivating Awareness and Stillness(00:40:11) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTWhat is contemplation? Do you find yourself being constantly busy? Have you experienced the stillness of God's love? Perhaps there has been an instance of this experience of stillness, even during a crisis. How can you live a life of contemplation?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
Is It Time to Change Your Spiritual Director or Therapist?
Apr 22 2024
Is It Time to Change Your Spiritual Director or Therapist?
Episode 122    This episode covers practical advice for individuals deeply invested in their integrated spiritual and emotional healing journeys. I particularly emphasise the importance of recognising when it might be time to change one's spiritual director or therapist and provide listeners with THREE signs that may indicate that it is time for a change.There is often a natural evolution in such guidance relationships because progress in one's spiritual journey may necessitate change due to the different stages of personal development and the inherent limitations of any single guide. Three main signs indicating the need for a new spiritual direction or therapeutic relationship are elaborated upon: the feeling of plateauing in one's growth, a change in the dynamics of the relationship that may challenge its professional boundaries, and a reduction in the feeling of safety with the current spiritual director or therapist. The discussion also stresses the importance of being trauma-informed and recognising when deeper therapeutic work is needed beyond spiritual direction. This episode will help listeners discern their needs more effectively and make changes that support their ongoing spiritual and emotional growth.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:26) - Introduction(00:01:04) - The Importance of Choosing the Right Spiritual Director or Counselor(00:04:39) - Understanding the Need for Change in Spiritual Guidance(00:10:11) - Sign #1: You're No Longer Growing(00:16:26) - Sign #2: The Relationship Has Changed(00:21:29) - Sign #3: You No Longer Feel Safe(00:30:43) - Navigating the Transition: Moving On(00:36:11) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTDid anything resonate with you in my Live sharing? Have you experienced any of the three signs that I've shared? Perhaps you have experienced more that one of the signs. What is stopping you from moving on to other resources?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
5 Considerations When Choosing A Spiritual Director
Apr 29 2024
5 Considerations When Choosing A Spiritual Director
Episode 123    In this in-depth episode, I share my personal experiences and insights on the importance and process of selecting a spiritual director to guide one's spiritual journey.  I outline five key considerations that have proved pivotal in my journey: assessing the spiritual director's emotional and spiritual maturity, understanding my current spiritual needs and season, recognising the stage of my interior journey, considering my budget and the different types of spiritual directors available, and finally, the critical role of discernment in action, emphasizing the reliance on synchronicity and God's guidance. Alongside these considerations, I share my reflections, personal anecdotes and recommend several books that have greatly aided me in navigating my own spiritual path.Books mentioned:The Friend of the Bridegroom by Thomas H. Green SJExperiencing God: The Three Stages of Prayer by Thomas H. Green SJOpening to God: A Guide to Prayer by Thomas H. Green SJArmchair Mystic: How Contemplative Prayer Can Lead You Closer to God by Mark Thibodeaux SJWatch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:14) - Introduction(00:00:51) - The Importance of Choosing the Right Spiritual Director(00:04:53) - Five Key Considerations for Selecting a Spiritual Director(00:14:56) - Understanding Your Needs and Where You are on Your Journey(00:26:20) - Practical Aspects: Budget and Types of Spiritual Directors(00:35:32) - Taking Action in Your Discernment Process(00:37:49) - The Grace of Synchronicity in Spiritual Guidance(00:42:19) - Transitioning Between Spiritual Directors: Embracing Change(00:49:25) - Navigating Seasons Without a Spiritual Director(00:51:23) - Leveraging Books for Spiritual Direction and Growth(01:01:34) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
4 Considerations When Choosing A Therapist
May 6 2024
4 Considerations When Choosing A Therapist
Episode 124    In this episode, I delve into the continuation of my exploration on seeking guidance, pivoting from the quest for a spiritual director to the intricate process of choosing a therapist. I reveal key considerations that have shaped my approach, highlighting the vital step of discerning which 'layer of life' demands healing - be it surface-level challenges or the deeper, foundational issues of one's core self. Drawing from my own experiences with counseling and psychotherapy, I elucidate the differences between the two, emphasising how they cater to distinct needs, from coping with immediate external stressors to addressing profound and complex traumas. Additionally, I address pragmatic aspects like budgeting for therapy sessions and the importance of a therapist's qualifications, their understanding of trauma, and their commitment to professional growth. This is a highly practical episode for listeners new to discerning whether a therapist is a good match for them.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:18) - Introduction(00:00:55) - Continuing My Sharing: From Spiritual Directors to Therapists(00:03:48) - Understanding the Layers of Life for Healing(00:08:42) - Choosing Between Counseling and Psychotherapy(00:16:59) - Starting Your Therapeutic Journey: Tips and Considerations(00:26:52) - Navigating Budget and Professional Expertise in Therapy(00:37:34) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTHas anything from my sharing resonated with you? Do you feel like you have plateaued in this season of your journey? Could you be in a space of needing something different, something more? Consider this for a moment, and be open to where God may lead you. What might your next step be?  Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
How Important Is It To Choose A Catholic/Christian Therapist?
May 13 2024
How Important Is It To Choose A Catholic/Christian Therapist?
Episode 125    In this episode of our current series, I delve into the topic of whether choosing a therapist or spiritual director of the same faith, specifically Christian or Catholic, is crucial for one's journey towards interior integration. How important is a therapist’s faith in their effectiveness for our interior journey and how much difference would having a Christian/Catholic therapist make vs one who doesn’t share our faith?In this video I unpack the subconscious assumptions we have about Christian/Catholic therapists and systematically explain why a therapist’s professional competence and ability to offer a safe, judgment-free space for healing is much more important than their professed faith in helping us in our interior integration journey. Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:00) - Introduction(00:00:48) - The Importance of Choosing the Right Therapist(00:02:03) - Choosing a Catholic / Christian Therapist(00:03:38) - The Significance of a Therapist's Faith(00:13:33) - Why Professional Competence Outweighs Faith in Therapy(00:19:23) - Understanding What 'Catholic Therapist' Really Means(00:26:36) - The Impact of Professional Competence and Integrity(00:29:43) - Navigating Therapy with Faith and Emotional Healing(00:31:44) - The Importance of Choosing the Right Therapist(00:32:26) - Personal Responsibility in Therapy and Integration(00:43:56) - The Role of a Therapist's Faith(00:57:06) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTAfter listening to my sharing, how do you feel? Do you still think that a counsellor or therapist of the same faith is important? Why do you feel this way? If you have been for counselling or therapy, what was your experience like? Was it a safe space for you? If you're looking to start your counselling journey, what do you look for in a counsellor or therapist?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
Embracing Your True Self & Making Authentic Connections
May 20 2024
Embracing Your True Self & Making Authentic Connections
Episode 126    In this episode, I delve into a poignant question raised during a webinar Q&A session about whether connecting with oneself inevitably enhances our connections with others, especially when expressing our true selves might not be warmly accepted by everyone. I unravel the complexities surrounding authentic connections, emphasising the significance of embracing our true selves for genuine interactions and personal growth. I reflect on personal experiences and the challenges of maintaining authenticity in relationships. I explore the indicators of growth on this journey, highlighting the fruits of the Holy Spirit as markers of deep, authentic self-connection and its profound impact on our relationships. This episode aims to broaden our understanding of how true self-connection can foster more meaningful and authentic relationships, despite the challenges that may arise.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:00) - Embracing Your True Self & Making Authentic Connections(00:00:21) - Introduction(00:00:58) - Unveiling the True Self(00:02:33) - Addressing a Vital Question: Authenticity and Connection(00:05:25) - Exploring the Nuances of Authentic Connections(00:09:17) - The Challenge of Being True to Oneself(00:16:17) - Authenticity in Relationships(00:23:37) - Indicators of Growth in the Interior Journey(00:23:59) - Fruits of the Holy Spirit(00:33:25) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTHow has this episode resonated with you? Do you struggle with authenticity and living out your true self? What are some factors that make it challenging? Think about the relationships and connections in your life. Do you think they are authentic?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)
Finding Self-Love Amidst Compulsions & Addictions
May 27 2024
Finding Self-Love Amidst Compulsions & Addictions
Episode 127    In this podcast episode, I open up about a deeply personal and often stigmatised issue - my struggle with compulsions and addictions. I discuss how these issues are not only challenging to confront but are also shrouded in shame and secrecy, particularly when they deal with substance abuse or sex. Drawing from my experiences, I reflect on the societal pressure to maintain an image of responsibility and control, and how even socially acceptable compulsions, like binge-watching TV or overworking, can trigger feelings of shame. I share the profound impact that self-criticism and a lack of compassion have had on my journey, emphasising the pivotal role of interior integration in my healing process. Through exploring concepts like Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the importance of understanding the underlying trauma behind compulsive behaviors, I advocate for a compassionate approach to oneself. The episode highlights my transformation towards self-love, emphasising that divine love and self-compassion are crucial for overcoming compulsions and addictions and finding wholeness.Watch this recording on YouTube.Follow me on my Instagram account @animann for more material on the integration journey and subscribe to my monthly reflections on Begin Again.CHAPTER MARKERS(00:00:21) - Introduction(00:01:36) - The Shame of Compulsions and Addictions(00:02:49) - Personal Struggles and Shame(00:06:05) - The Cycle of Addiction and Repentance(00:11:34) - Experiencing God's Unconditional Love(00:15:41) - The Role of Self-Compassion(00:28:16) - Internal Family Systems (IFS)(00:29:07) - 1. Managers(00:29:50) - 2. Exiles(00:30:48) - 3. Firefighters(00:37:15) - ConclusionTRANSCRIPTAvailable here.REFLECTION PROMPTHave you ever found yourself in similar patterns of compulsion? Are you able to recognise the root of these addictions and compulsions? Think about some of the ways you have been using certain compulsions and habits to escape unpleasantness in your life. Is there a better way?Support the Show.SUBSCRIBE | FOLLOW | SUPPORTSocial Media:Follow Becoming Me Podcast on Facebook & InstagramFollow Ann Yeong on Facebook & InstagramWebsite:Visit www.becomingmepodcast.com to leave me a message and sign up for my newsletter! To see where else you can connect with me or my content, click HERE.Support the Show:Monthly Support (starting at USD$3)One-time DonationLeave a Review:If this podcast has blessed you, please leave a review by clicking here.CLARITY INTERIOR INTEGRATION JOURNEYApplications Open Now (till 29 Feb 2024)