In this episode, Paul will talk about the importance of setting healthy boundaries and how it defines our identity and all comes down to clear communication. The clearer one can communicate their boundaries, the more likely the persons' boundaries will be respected and it will serve to protect our physical, mental and emotional well-being. Paul will discuss examples of what boundaries he sets for himself and where he has let himself down in the past by not establishing and setting boundaries in place. Paul will also discuss some of the following
- Batteries (people who give us energy and respect our boundaries) and vacuums (people who drain us of energy and have little respect for our boundaries).
- by setting healthy boundaries we are less likely to become stressed and physically and emotinally fatigued.
- setting boundaries is based around aspects such as as emotional energy, time, personal space, sexuality, morals and ethics, material possessions and finances.
- the difference between rigid boundaries and loose/open boundaries and how we can have a mix of boundaries eg, rigid at work, loose/open at home.
- characteristics of a person who sets healthy boundaries for themselves.
- what to consider when setting boundaries for yourself eg, physical, sexual, intellectual, emotional, financial aspects.
- how by not respecting another person's boundaries can create feelings of resentment and contempt and cause one to withdraw.
Paul will also provide some tips on how to set healthy boundaries such as
1. reflecting on reasons for your boundaries
2. starting with a few boundaries
3. setting boundaries early on and being consistent.
4. allowing time to do activities that you enjoy and caring for yourself
5. setting healthy boundaries on social media
6. communicating when your boundaries are crossed.
7. recognising and respecting the boundaries of others.

References

1. https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-set-boundaries/ by logan Hailey n.d

2.    The mindset mentor podcast “How to set boundaries.” By Rob Dial. 2022.

3.    Psychcentral.com, “10 ways to build and preserve better boundaries”, by Chantelle Pater more, medically reviewed by Jacquelyn Johnson PhD. 3/6/2021.

4.    How to set boundaries without feeling guilty (and why people drain your energy) by Aaron Doughty.2020.
Intro music- Thrive by All Good Folks from album Music Vine
Outro music- Revelations by Richard Smithson, Upbeat.