In this episode Paul will begin by reading a poem "There is a hole in the sidewalk", and the meaning he gets from this poem and from when it has been discussed in past Complete Men sessions.  One can make the same choices in life that only lead to mistakes and into the same "hole in the sidewalk", which often can be very difficult to get out of. eg, addictions, alcoholism, drugs, negative relationships and negative thought patterns and not managing one's anger. It is important for one to look back on the mistakes they have made in their life, not beat themselves up for them or blame others. One can only get out of the hole in the sidewalk by learning from their mistakes, becoming wiser and developing their personal and organizational skills. in this episode some of what Paul will discuss are
- where he made significant mistakes in his life, how he took life for granted, how it negatively impacted those close to him and how by self-reflection and attending men's groups it helped him learn from the mistakes and not be so hard on himself.
- how others have inspired him by being open and talking about past mistakes they have made in life and how they have wiser and stronger.
- tips to help deal with mistakes one makes and how to stop repeating them in the future. These include owning your mistake, reframing the error, analyzing the mistake, putting lessons learned into practice and reviewing your progress.
Mistakes as Billy Joel's song "Your only human", are a normal part of life. They are great opportunities to learn and become better individuals.

References
1.Lifelessons4u.wordpress.com “how life works. There is a hole in my sidewalk. “By Portia Nelson 30/9/2009. How to live life. Life’s lessons by Dct Randy Pausch.
2.There’s a hole in my sidewalk by Portia Nelson. Complete men, the states of change.
3.9NOW a current affair ‘how a former bikie is trying to change broken youth crime system’, by Sacha passi, 2021.
4.Mindtools.com ‘how to learn from your mistakes,’ by the mind tools content team.
5.https://www.niagarainstitute.com, ‘I keep making mistakes at work. What to do to break the pattern,’ by Emily may, 10/6/2021.
6.Genius.com, ‘you’re only human, (second wind), by Billy Joel, produced by Phil Ramone, 1/7/1985
Intro music- Thrive by All Good Folks from Album Music Vine
Interim- Sky High by Trinity from Uppbeat.
Outro music- Revelations by Richard Smithson from album Uppbeat.