S3E26 How to Calm the F*ck Down

Fierce Authenticity

Apr 21 2022 • 24 mins

We are continuing the conversation on your nervous system and relationships. Last week, we talked about the role of your nervous system in your relationships, and how one nervous system truly does impact all of the other nervous systems around it.

Today, I want to talk to you about co-regulation. One nervous system has the ability to impact another nervous system, because all nervous systems communicate with each other. So, today’s episode is all about how you can use that to calm the fu*k down when you are feeling dysregulated.

In today’s episode, we cover:

  • What is co-regulation and how it benefits us
  • Activating the polyvagal nerve to deescalate an activated nervous system.
  • The importance of hugs and cuddle time for our nervous system
  • Regulating our nervous system by ourselves: one hand on heart, one hand on belly

Quotes

[00:07:37] The best way for doing this and activating that part of our nervous system, the polyvagal nerve to help calm us the f*ck down, is a really great big chest to chest hug with someone, especially someone that you love, or you care for or have strong positive feelings towards.

[00:20:03] There's something so magical that happens when we connect with that space, the center of our body, up and down the front, between our heart space and our belly. Whether that's with another human in that really big hug and cuddle time, whether it's with our furbaby and just being present with them, whether it's with yourself by placing that hand on heart, hand on belly and breathing. And then as a result, that trickles out to every other nervous system around you and that you come into contact with.

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