FINE is a 4-Letter Word

Lori Saitz

Wasn’t it just a couple years ago you were sitting on the beach at spring break in Ft. Lauderdale – listening to the Pet Shop Boys, U2, and Def Leppard - with your entire life ahead of you? Now you’re looking back 30 plus years and wondering what the hell happened. Not that it’s been all bad. Of course, there’ve been highs and lows. And today, everything’s fine. It’s just fine. That’s the problem. You don’t really feel like you have anything to complain about. Lots of people might envy what you have. But you’re feeling a deep undercurrent of suck. Like, there must be something more. And you don’t know what to do about it. Welcome to Fine is a 4-Letter Word, with host Lori Saitz. Each week, you'll hear inspiring stories of self-discovery and courage from people who have said F*ck Being Fine and have transformed their lives and businesses. Plus, get practical tips and takeaways to move you from spinning in place - to forward action - so you can create a life of joy. None of us knows how much time we have here. So we have to make the most of it. We have to do the things that light us up and bring us joy. This show will give you hope, help you find your passion and purpose, and dare you to see the life that’s waiting for you. You’ll never hear - or say - the word “fine” in the same way again. read less
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144. The Productive Perfectionist with Kathryn Mayer
3d ago
144. The Productive Perfectionist with Kathryn Mayer
When you hear the word “perfectionist”, what comes to mind? Maybe you think of yourself?Typically, it’s someone who holds themselves to impossibly and unachievably high standards, driven by fear of real or imagined consequences if they don’t get it (whatever “it” is) exactly right. Because perfect is rarely possible, they never “measure up,” and they get discouraged and burn out. They’ve given away all their f**ks and feel like they never got any results or recognition for all their work, so they stop caring altogether.To say the least, that makes them unproductive – which is exactly what Kathryn Mayer is here to change.Kathryn was raised by a father who was a neurologist and a professor who taught her that your identity comes from the work you do and a homemaker mother who passed on perfectionism – that you have to work hard and if you’re going to do something, you must do it well or not at all.As a child, Kathryn tried ballet and wasn’t good at it, then gymnastics which didn’t work out because she was too tall. Then she discovered tennis, which she enjoyed and showed real aptitude for. So, her mother put Kathryn in private lessons and then, because they were spending money on the lessons, she had to compete in tournaments.Until she was 14, she did well in singles tournaments due to her height advantage over opponents her age, but then the other girls caught up in height. So, she switched to doubles, which she was also good at, but she lost her joy for tennis and quit. When Kathryn went to college, she was Dean’s List level, but she graduated with no idea what to do as a career! So she hired a career coach, which began a three-year process of discovery that included mapping out a forty (yes, four-oh) year plan. Meanwhile, she went through five careers by the time she was 26 before landing what she thought would be her dream job in New York City.The following years would see her try more careers, plus take a biking vacation with her husband to Cambodia. It was that trip where it struck her that it was actually okay if she rode in the van instead of fighting to ride her bike over the bad roads. It was okay to not do the thing she thought she was “supposed” to do. Back home, she was “shoulding” all over herself, her career, and her life – which reminds me of the conversation back in episode 2 with Dara Goldberg where we talked about “shedding the shoulds.” Finally, she had a boss who told her to lighten up because she was constantly frustrated. When his message didn’t get through, he pulled her aside and asked her a curious question: “Why don’t you try going to clown school?”In a moment, when you meet Kathryn, you’ll see how all these threads came together and inspired her to mesh productivity with perfectionism. If you feel like you’re just not hacking it, this show is for you.Kathryn’s hype song is “I’m Coming Out” by Diana Ross.Resources:Kathyrn Mayer’s website: https://www.kcmayer.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathryncmayer/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KCMConsulting/ X (formerly Twitter): https://x.com/GrandSlamCoach Claim your copy of “The Productive Perfectionist:
143. Nurturing New Seeds After PTSD Uprooted Us with Luvyna Mantle
Jun 6 2024
143. Nurturing New Seeds After PTSD Uprooted Us with Luvyna Mantle
Building your family and your life is like planting, nurturing, and harvesting crops on a farm. You put a lot of effort, a lot of heart, and a lot of energy into it, hoping your knowledge, wisdom, and patience deliver a bumper crop that fills your pantry and allows you a life of comfort, security, and happiness.You may have heard the expression “Man plans, God laughs.” My version of that, of course, is Fine is a 4-Letter Word.That’s how things went for Luvyna Mantle, who saw the crops she had patiently planted and nurtured ripped out by the roots just when she thought the harvest was about to come in.Luvyna was raised with the values of hard work, sacrifice, and frugality by parents who owned a ranch in Kansas. Her father gave up his corporate job and her mother gave up becoming a global journalist to go all-in with the ranch.In college, Luvyna met a man who, unlike the folksy cowboys and farm boys she was used to dating, showed up driving a sleek sports car and listening to rap music. In contrast to her stable upbringing, his parents were divorced and he received little accountability as he was shuffled between his parents and relatives. On their first date, they barely said 3 words to each other.Funny, though - they got married at ages 19 and 18 and due in part to Luvyna’s values around money management and avoiding debt, they had a house and a lot more spending money than typical teenagers. Her husband went into the military to become a careerist. This meant following him to his assignment in Germany and giving up her studies – which she was fine doing.Fine… yes… Fine is a 4-Letter Word.Right before they shipped out, her husband suffered an injury and was unable to get proper treatment due to his responsibilities. Before long, it became apparent that his dreams of a military career would come to naught, and the family, which now included their infant son, would be coming back to Kansas.But then COVID kept them stuck in Germany. Eventually, Luvyna was able to return to the States, but because of his condition, her husband had to stay longer. So for nearly a year after she returned to Kansas, Luvyna and her husband were separated except for one three-week furlough.Once he was home for good, her husband seemed an entirely different man. While he got along fine with their second child, he constantly berated and flipped out on their toddler who was acting out with aggressive behaviors. Luvyna was afraid to leave her kids alone with their dad and scared that if she went out and came home, she’d find her husband dead. Something had to give.The spoiler alert? Luvyna and her husband are still together and are actually happier than they’ve ever been. How does THAT work? What changed? And how has her experience inspired her to help other military families?Luvyna’s hype songs are "The Man" by Taylor Swift and "Kings & Queens" by Ava Max.Resources:Luvyna Mantle’s website: https://mantleandco.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/luvyna-mantle Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mantleandco Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mantleandco/ Get Luvyna Mantle’s interactive cost-comparison that helps you save money marketing and selling...
142. The F*ck Yes Formula for Energizing Your Life: A Special Episode with Lori
May 30 2024
142. The F*ck Yes Formula for Energizing Your Life: A Special Episode with Lori
Today’s solo episode is about ENERGY! When you look it up, Energy is defined as the capacity or ability to do work. I’d expand it to include the capacity or ability to have fun too. If you have no energy, you’re not going to be getting any work done or having any fun. “Fine” is not fun – it’s a 4-Letter Word!Tune in now as we cover three key areas:1) Figuring out your values and why they matter2) Finding your energetic home and what’s important about that3) Why it’s essential to honor what’s not a F*CK YES for you!Thank you for being part of what we do.I love you, our listeners, and I appreciate that you’ve said F*ck Yes to listening to Fine is a 4-Letter Word!Resources:My Website: https://ZenRabbit.com/The F*ck Being Fine Experience: https://zenrabbit.com/f-being-fine-program/ LinkedIn: https://zenrabbit.com/linkedin/ Facebook: https://zenrabbit.com/facebook/ Instagram: https://zenrabbit.com/instagram/Invitation from Lori:If, like me, you find yourself ready to get energized and enjoy what life has to offer that, up until now, you may not have known existed, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is your roadmap.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. If you find yourself feeling stuck or stagnant, this could be the energetic catalyst you need to find what you truly need make this an amazing life.When you’re ready to say F*ck Being Fine, this guide is the place to start. It’s time to look beyond where you are now so you can get to where you are destined to go.Go to https://zenrabbit.com right now to download it for free.Now let’s get pumped up with energy and create a new F*ck Yes for ourselves!
141. Regenerating Joy with Brad Chandler
May 23 2024
141. Regenerating Joy with Brad Chandler
From the very first episode of Fine is a 4-Letter Word, where my guest revealed that she did not even know what emotions were until she was in middle age because she was punished as a child for having them, I’ve been sharing stories of what happens from the inside out.My mission and drive for this podcast is to give you hope, help you find your passion and purpose, and dare you to see the life that’s waiting for you, so you’ll never hear - or say - the word “fine” in the same way again.Brad Chandler, who was my client/boss when I was the marketing director for his real estate company, brings a level of clarity and understanding to this work that could change your life in just the next few minutes.See, Brad was created – not raised – with the belief that something was wrong with him and he was never good enough. Note how I phrased this. His parents didn’t mean for this to happen. It was simply a consequence of how they processed – or failed to process – their own traumas that were handed to them through generational patterns. They handed them down to Brad.Fast-forward to when Brad was in his mid-40s. He had a successful company and a boat, but he also had two failed marriages, two kids who lived with severe anxiety, a feeling that even though he was wealthy and owned a successful company he had not succeeded, a lack of joy, and a propensity to smoke a lot of weed.Lots of people get divorced, have anxious kids, question their self-worth, lack joy, smoke a little weed now and then, and they seem fine on the day-to-day.But you know… you guessed it… Fine is a 4-Letter Word.Looking at all these situations, Brad noticed a common denominator in all these situations – Brad Chandler.Why didn’t Brad Chandler ever seem to be good enough?Why wasn’t all that hard work paying off for him emotionally?He was scared. He was hurt. He realized he was protecting himself from something. What did a wealthy guy who from the outside had an incredibly blessed life need protection from?In a moment, when you meet Brad, you’re not only going to join him on his journey of self-discovery - that has changed him and made him possibly the happiest guy on earth - you’re also going to get a step-by-step prescription on how to understand and sort your own emotions so you finally come to understand that yes, you are good enough.If you can’t see that for yourself right now, gift yourself this episode now.Brad’s hype song is “Roar” by Katy Perry.Resources:Brad Chandler’s website: https://www.bradchandler.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lbradchandler/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/brad.chandler1 Instagram: https://instagram.com/bradchandlercoaching X (formerly Twitter): https://twitter.com/lbchandler1 Take the Self-Love Quiz: https://www.bradchandler.com/quiz/ Claim the Joy Regenerator: https://unlocklimitlessyou.com/joy-regenerator/Invitation from Lori:Now if, like Brad, you just don’t feel like you’re good enough, you’re always...
140. Replacing Fine with F*ck Off! with P.J. Roscoe
May 16 2024
140. Replacing Fine with F*ck Off! with P.J. Roscoe
Children who are told to be “seen, but not heard” learn early on that their thoughts, feelings, and words don’t matter.Then as adults, they continue to silence themselves even when they do speak by hiding and suppressing their true thoughts and feelings.Growing up in a small Welsh village, P.J. Roscoe learned early on to know her place, don’t have an opinion, don’t question or challenge anything, and generally stay completely out of the way. It was such a small village that as P.J. says, you could fart on one end of the village, and by the time you got home, everyone would know about it. The adults talked with each other about the children constantly, but the children were supposed to stay silent and contribute nothing.Ironically, when P.J. and her family moved to another town where she felt more free to express herself, she felt out of place and wanted to go back.Going away to college didn’t change much. She ended up in an abusive relationship that gave her no freedom, and in college she was told that she could not have certain jobs or career choices because she was a woman. She was studying to be a beauty health and sports therapist and dance instructor, but she really wanted to be an author. No, she was told, her grades weren’t good enough.When she was eight months pregnant, P.J. went for her usual scan where they discovered the baby didn’t have a heartbeat. This tragedy became the catalyst for her to write her first novel, called “Echoes”.So maybe things were going to be fine after all – but Fine is a 4-Letter Word.P.J.’s next step was training to become a therapist. Her instructor gave her an assignment – for the next three years, instead of saying the word “fine” (or “okay”) when asked how she was doing or how her day was, she was to say “fuck off”.Her instructor explained that when you say “fine” as the answer to questions like “how are you” or “how was dinner,” it disrespects the person asking because it shows them you reject their interest or concern for you. Similarly, P.J. should never accept “fine” or “okay” as the response when asking after someone else.What should she do instead? How does changing the conversation lead to better communication as well as empower and honor both you and the other person? In what ways does this help us be both seen and heard?In a moment, when you meet P.J., you’ll discover a new take on how Fine is a 4-Letter Word which could open new doors for you.P.J.’s hype song is "Rain” by The Cult.Resources:P.J. Roscoe’s website: https://pjroscoe.co.uk/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pjroscoeauthorgriefguru111/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PaulaGriefGuru/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pjroscoeauthor/ X (formerly Twitter): https://twitter.com/PJRoscoeauthor P.J. is offering you a 10% discount on her 5-month program when you contact her and say “I heard you on Lori’s show, Fine is a 4-Letter Word”.Invitation from Lori:Now if, like P.J., you feel seen but not heard – like you’re existing in a reality dictated by somebody else and you’ve no say in the matter, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide can help you find your own voice.Once you...
139. Are You a Fiction Writer of Your Own Story? with Lana McAra
May 9 2024
139. Are You a Fiction Writer of Your Own Story? with Lana McAra
Family trauma and drama flow through generations and can take on a form of fiction around “family unity,” “handed down traditions,” and “that’s the way it is” that sweep the suffering under the rug. But two things can happen.Either you’ll find yourself in pain from stepping on the lumps of dirt under the rug, or the rug will slip and slide due to the dirt making it less sticky to the floor – either way, you could fall when you least expect it.This need to create narratives could be part of why Lana McAra became a published fiction author, a coach and mentor to fiction writers, and host of an acclaimed podcast that delves deep into the ins and outs of fiction novel writing.Lana was raised in a conservative environment as the oldest of five children of a hospital handyman and a housewife. They lived in Amish country and belonged to a Mennonite community. Rustic, yes – however everything looked fine.But Fine is a 4-Letter Word – and the contradictions were just beginning.Her father seemed to be a pillar of integrity who upheld traditional values, while her mother was a rebel who didn’t wear her bonnet or stockings and therefore “scandalized” the entire family. Eventually, her mother filed for divorce, her father moved to the opposite side of the country, and not even two weeks after the divorce, her mother married a volatile and abusive man.As de facto parent to her four younger siblings, Lana created the narrative that their father, who had become a successful tradesman in his new life, was the example they should follow – even though he had completely abandoned them. So much for moral rectitude from both parents, huh?Lana went to college with the intention of breaking free and blazing her own trail… only to almost immediately meet, and soon marry, a man who had the same hypocritical character and controlling manner her father did.Lana and her husband became missionaries, traveling to different countries like Grenada where her husband’s efforts to control her didn’t fly with the culture. It was a culture shock to come back to the United States and learn it all again.In the meantime, just as she had been the sole caretaker as a teenager for her four siblings, she now became this for her seven children, all while pursuing her lifelong passion for fiction novel writing.After 30 years, Lana and her husband divorced. Her family relationships unraveled as she formed short-term reunion bonds with her parents before they died. Then she became estranged from her siblings. All of this led to a nervous breakdown.The fiction stories she had written all fell apart – but then she met someone at a conference who led her toward literally tapping the depths of her trauma.You’re about to meet Lana and discover the very real new story she is penning!Lana’s hype song is "You Don't Mess Around with Jim” by Jim Croce.Resources:Lana McAra’s website: http://LanaMcAra.com LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/lanamcara Facebook: https://facebook.com/lana.mcara2 Instagram: https://instagram.com/lanamcara2 X (formerly Twitter): https://www.twitter.com/lanamcara Invitation from Lori:Now if, like Lana, you find yourself discovering that the life you think is real has turned out to be a...
138. Wisdom from Grandpa Owl with Philip Lower
May 2 2024
138. Wisdom from Grandpa Owl with Philip Lower
In the United States, more than 64 million men identify themselves as fathers.Yet, 7 million American dads are absent from the lives of their minor children, and 17.4 million children live in fatherless homes!Philip Lower, technically, grew up as one of these statistics.His biological father took his own life when Phil was five years old, leaving him with the question: "Why did Daddy have to leave me?"Five years later his mother met and married a wonderful man who became Phil's stepfather. But, it wasn't until until he was 25 that Phil stopped treating his stepdad as a “butthead,”– that was his own term.As an adult, Phil became dad to two daughters and worked for a Fortune 250 company managing leadership development and training for 2,000 employees. It seemed like everything was fine - but Fine is a 4-Letter Word.There was a reorganization and the development team got whacked – and in the meantime, Phil was diagnosed with Guillain–Barré syndrome.Due to his condition, he couldn't get another job, even as a Walmart greeter, for the same reason. He and his family ended up homeless for almost three years, with a period of time where they lived apart before he was able to figure out a way to afford to live with them in hotel rooms.Not only was he physically separated from his daughters, but because of the impact of Guillain–Barré on his nervous system, he couldn't even feel them when touching them on the cheek.For Phil and his daughters, as well his career, this experience led to a new beginning. The dad jokes he told to his girls turned into the first published Dad Quote of the Day book. The second book was a collection of recipes they developed in the kitchenette of their Extended Stay hotel room.Phil is now on an endeavor to translate concepts and principles of leadership and empathy into language kids can easily understand. From the Trees of Leadership sprung the Grandpa Owl series, which features a wise owl who teaches family values in a way that relates to historical events in a unique, holistic approach you’ve not seen before.Phil’s hype song is "Strength of a Thousand Men" by Two Steps from Hell.Resources:Philip Lower’s website: https://dqotd.com/welcome-to-grandpa-owl/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lowerphil Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dadquoteoftheday Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadquoteoftheday To learn more about Granda Owl, e-mail Phil at grandpa@grandpaowl.com. Invitation from Lori:If, like Phil, you find yourself in a place where you either physically or metaphotically lose touch, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide can be the restorative vitamin that brings back the feeling.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. When you’re ready to say F*ck Being Fine, this guide is the place to start. It’s time to reach out and feel the power
137. The Truth Always Comes Out with Stephany Ann
Apr 25 2024
137. The Truth Always Comes Out with Stephany Ann
Imagine you start with a sense of purpose, aligned with your goals, accustomed to your family supporting you in living your authentic life, and successfully practicing the art of the possible.Then, all of a sudden, it gets taken away.Stephany Ann was raised in a supportive family environment that embraced individuality and encouraged her to pursue her passions. When she was 18, her mother released her to do what she intended to do.For five years, she lived the nomad life, backpacking worldwide. Then she returned to the United States for college but missed the application deadlines. Rather than get discouraged she said to herself, “Why don’t we just sit down and talk with Admissions and tell them why I need to go there and why they need to give me a full ride?”They accepted her and gave her a full ride – the art of the possible!Stephany finished college, entered law school, and met the man who would become her first husband. Everything seemed fine – but Fine is a 4-Letter Word.Stephany found out she had married a narcissist who gave her an ultimatum to either give up her dreams and goals and do as he wished, or he would leave.She acquiesced – and this is where her problems began.In a moment, when you meet Stephany, you’ll discover her journey through her first marriage, her divorce and subsequent custody battle, and then her second marriage to another man who was remarkably similar to the first.Along the way, she went blind – as in literally, lost her vision.How did she go from such a promising start of being in command of her destiny to finding herself at the mercy of the whims and machinations of narcissistic men to the point she lost her identity and sense of self?How did she get her vision back? (Yes, her eyes work now.)What lessons were her husbands teaching her, in their own way?You hear a lot about narcissism – the love-bombing, the idealization phase, the transition to constantly adapting yourself to anticipate the abrupt personality shifts of a man who claimed he never had an affair, while he was living with another woman.Now, you’re going to experience the journey in a way you’ve never seen before.Stephany Ann’s hype song is "Unstoppable" by Sia.Resources:Stephany Ann’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephany-ann-369a01293Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100092716308108 Invitation from Lori:If, like Stephany Ann, you so completely lose your identity that it feels like you’ve gone blind, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide can restore your vision of your life’s purpose.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. It could show you the answers to questions you haven’t known to ask because, up until now, you couldn’t see them.When you’re ready to say F*ck Being Fine, this guide is the place to start. It’s time to be open and honest with yourself so you can make things better.Go to https://zenrabbit.com right now to download it for free.Now let’s go chat with...
136. When The Shepherd Must Find His Own Way with Matthew Brackett
Apr 18 2024
136. When The Shepherd Must Find His Own Way with Matthew Brackett
When you go out to find yourself, the journey can take you places you didn’t imagine you’d ever go.Maybe it will take you to a different town, or even a different country.But once you get there, it’s possible you’ll discover you really need to go somewhere else. Kind of like in the book The Alchemist.Matthew Brackett felt the calling to go into seminary life from an early age, and it seemed to align with the values he was raised with.Growing up as the 10th of 13 children, he was fortunate that his father made enough money to cover the expenses, even if there weren’t a lot of luxuries, and to afford a house that had five bathrooms.As a child, Matthew was exposed to the core values of generosity and helping others, which was natural in such a large family in a house that also included other people who stayed with the Bracketts if they were down on their luck. Service, generosity, helping others, and sacrifice. There was also the vision of the transcendental, the idea that you’re a small piece of a bigger picture.Combining all this with Matthew’s need to live beyond the small town where he grew up, joining the priesthood seemed a natural next step as it took him all around the world serving thousands of people. First, he studied for 10 years, then served as a priest for 20 years, including as a chaplain in the United States Navy and Marine Corps. Everything seemed fine – but Fine is a 4-Letter Word.The problem was that while his life’s work aligned with his values of generosity and service, he found that he was not serving himself.Ultimately, he decided to take a year off. During that year, he spent four months as an inpatient learning about himself, before returning to his hometown and living with his dad while working menial jobs and collecting new experiences.Today, he coaches with individuals, couples, companies, and organizations of all sizes, whose leaders sometimes don’t quite know what to make of a former priest. Is he going to force his beliefs on them? Does his background give him the ability to see different points of view? Does he have the experience?Matthew is now three years into his new journey, and once again he is finding his niche as a small piece of a new bigger picture.Matthew’s hype song is “Back in Black” by AC/DC.Resources:Matthew Brackett’s website: https://brackettalliance.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-brackett/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matthew.brackett.12 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matthewbrackett_official/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@MatthewBrackett_OfficialInvitation from Lori:If, like Matthew, you get to where you set out to go and then discover that’s not where you belong, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide can point you down your next path.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through....
135. Pull The Weeds When They’re Wet with Kris Ward
Apr 11 2024
135. Pull The Weeds When They’re Wet with Kris Ward
What is our cultural obsession with busyness? How many businesspeople do you know who wear their exhaustion as a badge of honor? Kris Ward was raised with values she eventually learned she had to overcome – the values of moving fast, getting a lot of stuff done, and working hard. Hard work equals success.But is any of this true?Kris grew up, got married, and started a business. She was determined to succeed and put in a lot of long, hard hours. Her marriage seemed happy, her business seemed to be growing, and all that hard work seemed to be paying off. Everything seemed fine.But Fine is a 4-Letter Word, as Kris found out about two years into her entrepreneurial journey when her husband said, “You're starting to lose some of your charm.”After hearing this, Kris realized she was fatigued and stretched thin most of the time. She read studies conducted by Harvard professors that showed how working hard makes you less productive - optimal human productivity caps at about six hours per day - but thought she could outrun these studies. They didn’t apply to her because SHE was different. Eventually, and you’ll hear how, she was able to dramatically reduce her workday from sixteen hours to six, and discovered she was more productive, more fulfilled, and more successful than ever before.In fact, when her husband was diagnosed with colon cancer, she stepped away from her business for almost two years, and nobody – not her clients, not her local business community – even noticed she’d dropped out for a while!Her business was going so well that during her husband’s final months, people would ask how she was holding up and she’s say “I’m fine” – that 4-letter word – and for Kris, this was a subtle downgrade to what she usually said.Today, as creator of Win The Hour, Win The Day, she works with entrepreneurs who think everything’s going to be “fine” if they just work harder at the hustle and grind. She emphasizes the importance of energy management over mere time management, advocating for strategic delegation and prioritization that supports both personal well-being and professional success.What’s her secret?You’re about to find out, so get your pad and pen ready.Kris’ hype song is the “Rocky” theme song – “Gonna Fly Now” by Bill Conti.Resources:Kris Ward’s website: https://winthehourwintheday.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kriswardgetoutofyourownway/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/krisward.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kriswardlive/ X (formerly Twitter): https://twitter.com/krisward Take the Power Personality Quiz, get Kris Ward’s courses, and download her audiobook “Win The Hour, Win The Day” at https://www.freegiftfromkris.com. Invitation from Lori:If, like Kris, you discover that the values of working hard and going fast do NOT equal success the way you’d hoped or expected, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is your Great Reset.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how...
134. Update on My Nomad Life: A Special Episode with Lori
Apr 4 2024
134. Update on My Nomad Life: A Special Episode with Lori
Many of our listeners have been asking for an update on my life as a nomad. For those of you who don't know, in October 2023 I gave up my apartment, put most of my belongings into a 5x10 storage unit in North Virginia, and since then have been traveling the country housesitting cats (and some dogs too) through a program called Trusted House Sitters.Over the past six months, I've visited places like West Virginia, Virginia, Kentucky, Georgia, South Carolina, North Carolina, and Florida, and posted updates on social media as often as I can.Lately, I've been getting a lot of questions about my adventures housesitting cats and dogs, the road trips, my experiences, and some of the fascinating people I've been fortunate to meet.When you tune in now for this special episode, you'll hear about my random and fun discoveries, some of the deeper learnings I've experienced, the challenges I've faced and overcome along the way, and how you can apply my takeaways to your own situation, whether you're a nomad or you're staying put.This episode includes “The Abundance Prayer” from Tosha Silver's book, It's Not Your Money: How to Live Fully from Divine Abundance.Resources:My Website: https://ZenRabbit.com/The F*ck Being Fine Experience: https://zenrabbit.com/f-being-fine-program/ LinkedIn: https://zenrabbit.com/linkedin/ Facebook: https://zenrabbit.com/facebook/ Instagram: https://zenrabbit.com/instagram/Invitation from Lori:If, like me, you find yourself ready to hit the road and see what life has to offer that, up until now, you may not have known existed, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is your roadmap.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. If you find yourself feeling stuck or stagnant, this could be the catalyst you need to find what you truly need to make this an amazing life – even if you aren’t planning to put your stuff in storage and take to the open road.When you’re ready to say F*ck Being Fine, this guide is the place to start. It’s time to look beyond where you are now so you can get to where you are destined to go.Go to https://zenrabbit.com right now to download it for free.Now let’s hit the road. I’ve got the car loaded up and some cats waiting at my next gig, come with me and let’s have some fun!
133. Nobody Gave Me An Instruction Manual with Stephanie O’Brien
Mar 28 2024
133. Nobody Gave Me An Instruction Manual with Stephanie O’Brien
Leaving things better than you found them and being honest and open are good traits to have and will likely serve you well.The former makes the world, or your little part of it, better because you were part of it, while the latter both shows respect and earns you respect.Stephanie O’Brien was raised with these values. Although her life took an interesting path, they became her true north and steered her through challenges, including a business relationship that ended due to misaligned values.Growing up, she didn’t fit in well with a lot of classmates, which led her to an early interest in creating fiction stories and writing novels.Stephanie wrote her first novel when she was 12. Then she destroyed it before anyone other than her mother could see it, even though her mother warned her not to do that. Throughout her childhood, she explored a variety of hobbies – reading voraciously, writing fiction, playing the piano, and more. After her family took a Robert Kiyosaki real estate course, she discovered property management was not her thing, in part because – how crazy is this?! – tenants were stealing the doors!Then Stephanie’s mother took a course on coaching, which led Stephanie to launch a coaching business for entrepreneurs. It was a natural and welcome transition, getting to work with people who aligned with her values of leaving things better than they found them instead of stealing doors from their landlords. She was still writing fiction novels, she had her coaching business, and her entrepreneurial path was picking up, so everything seemed fine.But Fine is a 4-Letter Word.Stephanie came to feel like she was stuck in a prison, resentful of her business. The question she had to answer was who was guarding the door?The answer turned out to be one many creative, multi-passionate entrepreneurs have to discover eventually.Her values proved to be her liberation – and yours, too, as you’re about to hear.Stephanie’s hype song is “Armeria no Torikago”.Resources:Stephanie O’Brien’s website: https://www.coachclientconnection.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-obrien-program-design/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephanieOBrienCoaching Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephanieobriencoaching/ Get Stephanie’s Masterclass, “Course Creation Made Easy: Beat the Blank Screen, and Get Your Coaching Program Created Fast!” - https://www.coachclientconnection.com/Course-Creation-Made-Easy-Masterclass/ Invitation from Lori:If, like Stephanie, you find yourself in a prison of your own making, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is the golden key to your freedom.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. Especially when you find yourself caught between what you know to be your passion and what...
132. Something From Less Than Nothing with Zack Lemear
Mar 21 2024
132. Something From Less Than Nothing with Zack Lemear
This week’s guest, Zack Lemear, is a marketing and branding strategist who, on the surface, looks and sounds pretty much like any entrepreneur consultant.It makes sense he’s successful helping businesses with marketing and branding since his ticket in the birth lottery won him a blank slate to create and brand himself. Here on Fine is a 4-Letter Word, you may know my first question of every guest is to ask them what values they were raised with as they were growing up.Zack is probably the first guest to ever say he wasn’t raised with any values at all.Rather, he was surrounded by a dysfunctional family dynamic involving poverty, drug addiction, abuse, and systemic cycles repeated by generations of his family via their life choices.His mother was a con artist, from whom he learned sales skills, and who was constantly getting evicted. In one case, they got kicked out of an apartment and moved to another unit literally one floor above. How does that work?Because he moved around so much, he didn’t have the opportunity to keep friends long enough for them to have much influence on him.Attempting to trace his family lineage, he found 21 people with the last name Lemear, all of whom he knew somehow, but none he felt he could accurately organize into a family tree because the name had been handed around and relatives had had children without getting married.So, with no learned values or traceable family tree, he had an unprecedented opportunity to brand and create himself in any way he wanted, as well as break the systemic toxic family patterns.How did he do it?What enabled him to be the first in his family to finish high school, much less go to college?How did it influence his choices, including passing up a free ride to a state university to accept admission to an out-of-state school he couldn’t afford?What values has he instilled in his own children and how has he shielded them from the family patterns that still try to influence them?Zack’s hype song is "Something from Nothing" by the Foo Fighters.Resources:Zack Lemear’s website: https://www.pivotcreative.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/zacharylemear/ Invitation from Lori:If, like Zack, you find yourself looking at your situation and seeing an opportunity to clear the slate and innovate yourself, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is for you.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. Especially if it feels like you’re creating something from less than nothing, this guide provides a framework to go about it in a systematic way that honors who you authentically are and, like Zack, design (or redesign) yourself.So, when you’re ready to say F*ck Being Fine, this guide is the place to start. It’s time to blaze your own trail and allow your curiosity to take you on a new quest!Go to https://zenrabbit.com right now to download it for free.Now, let’s meet Zack. I bet within the next few minutes, you’ll be amazed at how little you know about yourself - and how much you may be about to learn!
131. Beyond Safe Spaces with Gregory Halpen
Mar 14 2024
131. Beyond Safe Spaces with Gregory Halpen
Have you considered how much of what you do - even the things that seem to bring you joy - began as coping mechanisms to deal with trauma?Even your talents and your brilliance might be subconscious, or even conscious, reactions to traumatic experiences from your past.Gregory Halpen came from a family background of violence, addiction, and abuse. Yet one of the main core values he felt he was raised with was the importance of creativity, which he learned from his mother.That's just it, though - his mother had developed creativity as a coping mechanism for her own childhood trauma and passed it on to Gregory.For a while, creativity brought Gregory success and joy as a theater actor and singer, which in turn made him a storyteller - meaning, he embraced the power to rewrite and create new stories.He was quite successful at it, but then he'd hit a wall. This became a pattern that affected Gregory for two decades.In 2007, he became a professional coach as a way to earn income so he could fund his performance art career until he made it big. This raised the question of whether someone in need of help themselves could help others.Still, on the surface, everything seemed fine.But Fine is a 4-Letter Word.Gregory's childhood trauma was sabotaging his personal relationships, his path toward success in all his endeavors, and more.And then he was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma in 2016.In a moment, when you meet Gregory, you'll join him on a journey through which he created his own "safe space" by taking responsibility for his own healing.One of the key realizations was discovering how a childhood lesson intended to help kids cope with the world, actually exacerbates their traumas into adulthood.Gregory’s hype song is “Suddenly” by Billy Ocean.Resources:Gregory Halpen’s website: https://www.GregoryHalpen.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/greghalpen Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gregoryhalpen X (formerly Twitter): https://x.com/gaylifeover40 Invitation from Lori:If, like Gregory, it hits you that some of the very things you think are fine are either symptoms - or causes - of what makes you NOT fine, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is for you.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. The five tactics are simple, but as Gregory will explain during our conversation, they could be the very thing that cracks something open in you and helps you see things differently.Are you ready to find out what that’s all about?Well, when you’re ready to say F*ck Being Fine – then this guide is the place to start. It’s time to blaze your own trail and allow your curiosity to take you on a new quest!Go to https://zenrabbit.com right now to download it for free.Now, let’s go meet Gregory. He’s holding a jar of peanut butter and has a mischievous grin on his face. What is he up to? Let’s meet up with him and find out!
130. Just F**king Be Nice – To Yourself with Ely Delaney
Mar 7 2024
130. Just F**king Be Nice – To Yourself with Ely Delaney
As human beings, we are both programmed and pressured to say everything is “fine”. Someone asks, “how are you?” and you’re supposed to reply “fine, how are you?”Have you noticed that a benign, well-meaning core value many of us are raised with could be reinforcing this and blocking us from improving ourselves?Ely Delaney, whom I met through Success Champions and recently reconnected with when he responded to an ad from our production company looking for guests, is one of these people.His parents raised him with a strong work ethic, emphasizing that you do your best with what you have. All well and good, and from what I know of Ely, I can see his parents’ positivity and love reflected in the man I’ve come to know and respect.But could you be translating this in your mind into “good enough is good enough”? For Ely, it’s the difference between the common notion of "working hard equals success" and the necessity of pushing oneself beyond average effort.By 2019 Ely, had his business, his life partner, their daughter, and though he had been some ups and downs, everything seemed “fine”.But Fine is a 4-Letter Word.In 2020, COVID hit and took a toll on his business. At the same time, his partner was diagnosed with what turned out to be a fatal brain tumor. Plus, he didn’t feel like he fit in living in Portland, Oregon. All the while, he was expected to say “Fine, how are you?” when asked how things were going.So, after attending a seminar in Texas, Ely decided he had found his people – those who aligned at least 80% with his core values – and moved there for a fresh start.It was basically a “fuck this, I’m OUTTA here” moment. Given your current circumstances, would you like to do that?These days, Ely is on the rise – his business is growing again, he has a great circle of friends, and he’s found happiness unlike what he knew before. In fact, he has watched podcast interviews of himself from two years ago vs. today and sees in himself the changes in his facial expressions and the energy he projects.In a moment, when you meet Ely, you’ll discover the influences and learnings that coalesce to bring him to this place. It’s an eclectic mix of archery, Bushido, and two of the core philosophies he has developed for himself and teaches others – “Meet Cool People” and “Just Fucking Be Nice”.Ely’s hype song is “Main Attraction” by Jeremy Renner.Resources:Ely Delaney’s website: https://ConnectWithEly.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elydelaney/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elydelaney Instagram: https://instagram.com/elydelaney/ X (formerly Twitter): https://x.com/elydelaney Invitation from Lori:If, like Ely a couple years ago, you’ve reached the point where you’re tired of saying “fine, how are you?” and are ready to say “Fuck this, I’m OUTTA HERE” - the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is for you.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you...
129. An Inspired (And Haunted) Road Trip with Tracy St. Croi
Feb 29 2024
129. An Inspired (And Haunted) Road Trip with Tracy St. Croi
Do you remember a time when the phone would ring and you had to answer to find out who was calling?How about when you saw that stack of presents with your name on them for Christmas or your birthday – did you have a sixth sense that told you which one was the present you really wanted?Tracy St. Croi was one of those kids back in the 1980s who just knew.Tracy revolted against all the "so-called" values and systems she was raised with growing up in the Midwest, such as bragging about your high school, going away to college, coming back to town and settling down, having a job you hate, where you then complain about your sicknesses and illnesses, and then you die.There HAD to be more.Tracy's mom passed away when she was 10, which led to Tracy and her siblings getting split up, as her mother had been married twice and the kids went with their respective fathers.These events, combined with the expectations of the educational system and the anxiety she felt to not stand out, caused her intuitive gifts to go dormant.She got a lot of pressure as a kid to say everything was “fine”.But Fine is a 4-Letter Word.In her young adulthood she navigated through trauma, addiction, and societal pressures, eventually finding solace in therapy, sobriety, and spiritual exploration. Things were improving, but she couldn’t say she was “fine”.Then, the intuition came alive again.Tracy became an intuitive medium.In a moment, when you meet Tracy, you’ll embark on a profound and supernatural journey discovering psychic medium abilities and what they mean for you, her experiences with spirit communication, and her endeavors in hosting an internationally-acclaimed, groundbreaking podcast (and upcoming streaming series) called "The Haunted Road Trips Show." Through her work, Tracy aims to demystify the spirit world, educate others about mediumship, and help people develop their intuitive gifts.Tracy’s hype songs are "Lose Yourself" by Eminem, "They Call Me The Breeze" by Lynyrd Skynyrd, and "We Are The People Our Parents Warned Us About" by Jimmy Buffett.Resources:Tracy St. Croi’s websites: https://www.tracystcroimedium.com/ and https://www.hauntedroadtripsshow.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-st-croi-73391710 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TracyStCroi Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tracyst.croimedium TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tracystcroimedium Invitation from Lori:If, like Tracy, you have this sense there’s a lot more out there – that there has to be more - the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is for you.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can...
128. Motivational Firewood with Steve Gamlin
Feb 22 2024
128. Motivational Firewood with Steve Gamlin
Are you someone who uses self-deprecation to get laughs?Steve Gamlin was too until a pivotal moment when his friend Kris figuratively put on a pair of steel toe boots and kicked his ass and woke him up to the dangerous effects of doing that. Steve was raised to believe in the value of hard work. When Steve was 7, his dad bought their house and started remodeling it, one room at a time. All the Gamlin kids pitched in – helping with the remodeling, yardwork, and before Steve was ten years old he was clearing brush and chopping firewood.Additionally, Steve’s mother instilled in him a love of reading and writing.When Steve was 11, he decided he wanted to be a radio DJ, a standup comedian, an author of books, and a teacher of people - but not in a classroom. To inspire and coach people. When he was 24, he landed his first radio station job. His dad gave him sound advice, “You got your foot in the door, now bust your ass so you don’t get thrown back out the door!”For over a decade, Steve worked in radio 50 to 60 hours a week, going through several jobs as radio stations were bought out and the new management fired the old crew. After 10 years of this stress, he walked away, emotionally, physically, and spiritually exhausted. When his marriage ended shortly after that because of poor communication since he was never home, he found himself $62,000 in debt. Soon after, a mentor helped him triple the revenue from his weekend event DJ business in just two years. But he was still beating himself up for the decisions he’d made in those previous 10 years. As I mentioned a moment ago, he’d started speaking on stages and was incorporating a lot of self-deprecating humor. After that conversation with Kris, he started learning how to continue using humor, but not at the expense of his self-esteem. Along the way, he created Vision Board Mastery, a unique approach to vision boarding you’ve likely not heard before. This one consists of 10 steps but doesn’t involve selecting the photos of your lifestyle for the board until Step 7. There’s a reason for that. Oh, and you’ll also hear how a random email led Steve to find the love of his life.Are you ready to hear more?Steve’s hype song is "Happy" by The Rolling Stones.Resources:Steve Gamlin’s website: https://stevegamlin.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevegamlin/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Steve.Gamlin.Author.Speaker.MotivationalistInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/stevegamlin/ X (formerly Twitter): https://twitter.com/SteveGamlin Claim your access to Steve's FREE "Visualize in 5" video: http://VisionBoardSpecial.com Invitation from Lori:If, like Steve, you find yourself stuck in burnout, exhausted in every possible way, and struggling to create a vision for your dream life, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is for you.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your...
127. Rage Against the Midlife with Kimberly (Kimby) Samson
Feb 15 2024
127. Rage Against the Midlife with Kimberly (Kimby) Samson
Have you ever seen those memes that compare the co-stars of “The Firm”, Wilford Brimley looking elderly at age 56 and Tom Cruise looking young at age 56?These memes show us that these days, people are aging much more gracefully, or at least not according to the same timetable they used to.Did the timetable ever make sense to begin with?Is there supposed to be a specific age where we begin to question whether Fine is a 4-Letter Word?Kimberly, or Kimby Samson grew up without a lot of specific values. It was more like learning through modeling rather by teaching. Her parents showed her an example and she was expected to follow – there wasn’t a lot of conversation.When it came time for her Bat Mitzvah, she was told she couldn’t have one, and she’d get a big wedding instead.Oh, and did she – Kimby got the most fabulous, amazing wedding – as she says, the wedding of her mother’s dreams!In this episode, I didn’t ask Kimby about that specific moment when she realized things weren’t “fine” – it was implied that since we were talking about the midlife crisis, especially as it pertains to women, hitting “midlife” is when we’re supposed to begin facing those questions.For Kimby, it was finding she had done well in her career, in her great marriage and with her three wonderful children, and also seeing that she was bored.Her journey was to find her mojo again. And then she wrote a guide to help you do the same. Her recently published book is appropriately called, F*CK THIS: Practical Advice To Get You Through Your Midlife Crisis.In a moment, when you meet Kimby, you’ll get a new point of view about this midlife time. You’re looking to push an easy button – “change your career”, “reconnect with your dreams” – and “take this pill”.What if it’s not an easy button but more a matter of taking one small step at a time? Maybe instead of big milestone celebrations, make every moment a small party?Allowing your curiosity to take you on a journey where one thing leads to the next and you discover things you’d never thought possible?Kimby’s hype song is "Milkshake" by Kelis.Resources:Kimberly Samson’s website: https://themidlife.co/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimberly-samson-460593227 Facebook: https://facebook.com/themidlife.co Instagram: https://facebook.com/themidlife.podcast X (formerly Twitter): https://x.com/kimbynotkim Get Kimby’s newly released book, F*CK THIS: Practical Advice to Get You Through Your Midlife Crisis at https://amzn.to/3UDdKDZ Invitation from Lori:If, like Kimby, everything in your life is good but you’re still bored, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is for you.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your feelings and your struggles so you can address them.✅ Find out how to face fears, step out of your comfort zone, and rewire your beliefs.It’s only 7 pages, so it won’t take you long to get through. The five tactics are simple, but you could find yourself seeing that what you’re...
126. Living the Beige Life with Sonia Graham
Feb 8 2024
126. Living the Beige Life with Sonia Graham
When your life story is dominated by trauma resulting from one fucked-up thing after another, it plays a nasty trick on your definition of what’s “fine”.After surviving being killed almost three times before she was two years old, Sonia Graham was adopted into a strict Puerto Rican / Irish Catholic family. Her father was in the Air Force, so while she developed resilience to deal with ever-changing situations, she did NOT learn how to create lasting relationships because she knew whatever friends she made, she would not have for very long.Because of her extensive behavioral issues, her parents eventually put her into Boys Town. The bigger issue was that she had PTSD from her childhood traumas, and in the 80s, PTSD was misunderstood. As a result, Sonia was treated with psychiatric drugs rather than the proper treatment.So, as an adult, she hesitated to seek the therapy she needed, which prolonged her suffering.All this instilled one of Sonia’s core values – at the end of the day, the only person you really have is you, so you have to be true to you.After she got out of Boys Town, she graduated high school early, then had her first child at age 18. Six years later she was pregnant again. Then at age 27, she married, divorced, and remarried – all in one year.Sonia’s husbands, like her father, were in the military, so she went back to the pattern of moving around. After the family moved to Maryland, she became a Realtor. Then she got divorced again. She discovered her passion for teaching and found a unique niche helping Maryland Realtors learn the business side of real estate, beyond simply getting a license.All in all, everything seemed fine.Until her teenage son tried to murder her.Indeed, Fine is a 4-Letter Word.In a moment, when you meet Sonia, you’ll discover her quest for what she calls “living in beige”. When your life is dominated by trauma and violence, with occasional good things such as finding your niche in your career and excelling at it, you just don’t see the middle.Sonia's hype song is “The Greatest” by Sia.Resources:Sonia Graham’s websites: https://www.simplemovesgroup.com/ and https://soniagraham.jpar.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sonia-graham-7060b442/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SoniaMaria1980 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sold_with_sonia X (formerly Twitter): https://x.com/SoniaMGraham1The movie mentioned in the episode is called "Inside Out".Invitation from Lori:Like Sonia, it’s possible you’re not “fine” because trauma is the only thing you really understand – as a result, trauma itself becomes your “fine”.If you want to start changing the coding in your brain so you can see past the trauma and find the beige, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is for you.Once you read it, you’ll ✅ Discover a counter-intuitive approach to making intentional changes in mindset and lifestyle.✅ Learn how to own your...
125. The Joy Code with Marc Zalmanoff
Feb 1 2024
125. The Joy Code with Marc Zalmanoff
Does it seem like everyone else is doing great while you’re struggling?And because it seems like you’re the only one who can’t manage and everyone else has their shit together, you’re either afraid or unwilling to talk about it?But what if you then got to have deep, meaningful conversations with other people and discovered they’re going through the same struggles as you?Marc Zalmanoff was raised largely by a single father who didn’t really explain much to him. His father taught him lessons by example – how to be a good human being, how to be an entrepreneur, and how to be decent toward women regardless of the circumstances.His other major influence was his joyful, warm grandmother who went through a lot of health struggles yet maintained her optimism and cheer until the end.Marc grew up, married, and had a child. He became a partner in a gym. Then he got divorced. Not long after, he had another child with another woman, but then they broke up. Then the gym ran out of money. Marc didn’t speak with his partner about any of what was happening, he just walked out in the middle of the night, inviting his own personal training clients to follow him to a new venue he rented. Somehow Marc managed to get through every situation, so it seemed fine.But Fine is a 4-Letter Word.Over and over again, he found himself going through major changes without talking about it. He had learned from his dad that this is just what men do. And he never noticed that others might be going through the same thing. Until one day, when he found out the other gym owners he shared a parking lot with were also struggling in business.In a moment, when you meet Marc, you’ll discover how his life significantly changed when he got himself around other good men and discovered the power of masterminding. Coupled with this, he realized how our culture teaches men to talk about surface-level stuff like sports, politics, and current events, but never to really open up to each other in the same way women find themselves able to do naturally.Through his new venture, The Joy Code, Marc is bringing men together to help them share their successes and struggles by creating a space where they feel comfortable. Where they can get around others who are leveling up and pouring into themselves to become better humans. Asking “how can I have a better relationship with myself?”Marc's hype songs are "Bodies" by Drowning Pool and "The Game" by Motorhead.Resources:Marc Zalmanoff’s websites: https://pillars.thejoycode.net/8-pillars-of-joy and https://www.marczfitness.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marczalmanoff/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marc.zalmanoff Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marczalmanoff Invitation from Lori:Like Marc, it’s possible you’re not “fine” because you don’t feel comfortable admitting things in your life aren’t as fine as you’re convincing people they are.If you want to start changing the coding in your brain so you can – as Marc is known for saying – make good choices, the 5 Easy Ways to Start Living The Sabbatical Life guide is for...