Avoiding the Comparison Trap: 5 Powerful Ideas to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others | E126 Hayley Dawson

The Struggle is Real: Financial Independence Strategies for Young Adults

Nov 27 2023 • 49 mins

Today we dive deep into a universal struggle that affects us all: the comparison trap. In a world fueled by social media highlights and curated success stories, it's easy to find ourselves measuring our worth against others.

This happens to me all of the time. I see someone else’s life: the promotion, the new house, a fancy vacation, their business success…and start frantically wondering why I don’t have that yet. Setting aside dismissing my own successes, never once did I stop and think…is that something I actually want?


With the highlight reels and the constant moving of our own goalposts, it is easy to see how our definition of success would start to get muddy. We slip into allowing others to define it for us and fall back into the never-ending loop of the comparison trap.


It’s time to take back control, use comparison as inspiration, not envy, and define success on our own terms. To help us do that is my friend Hayley Dawson, Founder of The Blocks.


Hayley and I immediately connected over many of our shared interests including unpacking the unique struggles of today’s 20-somethings. On top of overcoming the Comparison Trap, we discuss why your goals aren’t timebound to your 20s, why quitting should be celebrated, and how to make decisions based on what matters to you.


Key Takeaways:

  • Today’s unique struggles of people in their 20s
  • How social media has exasperated comparison and self-doubt
  • 5 powerful ideas for overcoming the Comparison Trap
  • How to change jealousy and envy into inspiration
  • Your dreams don’t have deadlines
  • Defining success on your own terms
  • The false definition of success
  • Why quitting should be celebrated
  • How to make up your own mind


Mentions:

Tenants: The People on the Frontline of Britain's Housing Emergency by Vicky Spratt (https://www.amazon.com/Tenants-Frontline-Britains-Housing-Emergency-ebook/dp/B094DTJLZR)


More of Hayley:

Instagram: @_theblocks


More of The Struggle is Real:

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