Isn't it fair to ask our partner not to scoff at us?

Why Does My Partner

Jan 16 2024 • 24 mins

Here we are in season 6 of the Why Does My Partner podcast! We want to start out with a question we’ve been getting a lot, especially since our boundary mini-series (go back and give that a listen now if you haven’t already!). It goes something like this:

“I get that practicing boundaries means working to not personalize others’ actions, but also…isn’t it fair to ask them not to do something that doesn’t feel loving to me?”

Of course, it’s fair! Take a listen to this episode to hear our thoughts on just that, as well as how practicing your psychological boundaries can actually mean speaking up for yourself more, not less, plus much, much more!

Don’t forget to subscribe to WDMP on your favorite podcast app to stay up to date with the rest of season 6!

Quotes:

Your psychological boundary helps you figure out what you're not okay with…and [helps you have] relationally cleaner conversation about the thing you don't like.

Setting a boundary is about adding protection, not punishment.

I don’t need to make you more like me to be okay.

I have worth just for being who I am. And I get to speak for that because if I don't, who's gonna?

This episode is brought to you by Therapy Wisdom.

Jules' new book is out now! Buy Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered wherever books are sold.

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