[BONUS] Why do I feel so bad when my partner gets disappointed or mad at me?

Why Does My Partner

Nov 21 2023 • 29 mins

This is a really special episode of WDMP to share with you! Our regular listeners know that we don’t shy away from sharing examples of our own relationship work on the show, but today Vickey takes it even further, signing herself up to do some psychological boundary work of her own right here, on air. As you follow along with Vickey, you’ll learn how to discern what really is or isn’t about you in a conflict, as well as how to listen with acceptance, allowing and valuing your partner having their own feelings and process, without feeling threatened or hurt.

These exercises are based on Jules’ new book Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected, and Empowered, available now for pre-order at all major booksellers. We’re also so grateful to Vickey for bravely sharing her process, and of course a HUGE thanks to her husband, Gabe, who also gave his blessing to share this with you, our listeners, even though he wasn’t there to record.

Finally, join us next week when we talk about containing boundaries!

Quotes:

“If somebody is experiencing disappointment or anger, even in response to a very specific thing you did, that does not mean it’s entirely about you.”

"A psychological boundary is the space between your mind and my mind where it’s totally possible for us to feel very differently…and have it be okay and safe enough for us to stay in connection."

This episode is brought to you by Therapy Wisdom.

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