Romance Novels Ruined My Sex Life

Adventures From The Bedrooms Of African Women

Jul 19 2022 • 31 mins

Did your obsession with romance novels mess up your sex life? Did you grow up wishing it was Femi on the cover, not Fabio? This week, the aunties Malaka and Nana Darkoa return to their teen reads and question how the genre tantalized and traumatized them.

Inspired by an Adventures From The Bedrooms of African Women blogpost written by contributor, Voluptuous Voltarian – or VV - they dig into the problematic power dynamics of novels from Mills & Boon and Harlequin Romance. “I had just poisoned my brain,” VV says. “That stuff had given me a blueprint for romance and sex that was totally, totally, totally, totally unrealistic.”

But they also excitedly discover that new generations of African girls have more to look forward to as Black women reclaim and rewrite the genre. “My commitment is that girls who look like me will see themselves in my books,” best-selling author Nana Malone says.

Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers.

The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO.

Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions.

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