Creating A Safe Place To Fail | Pete Murray on Boy Scouts, Leadership, Fatherhood

Modern Dadhood | Unpacking Fatherhood + Parenting for Dads (and Moms!)

Jul 22 2022 • 35 mins

There’s no argument that we, as humans, learn from our mistakes. As we grow, we apply learnings from our negative or challenging experiences in order to be happier, more comfortable, or more prepared in the future. As parents though, it can be a challenge to give our children the opportunity to fail at something—especially when we have the foresight to see it coming and the ability to prevent it. But is it doing our kids justice if we always shield them from the often valuable lessons that come from failing? Our guest Pete Murray, a father of two teenagers and former Boy Scouts of America troop leader, says no. Pete joins us to chat about his childhood in the Boy Scouts program, and the art of balancing Scoutmaster and Dad.


Episode 70 of Modern Dadhood opens with a brief session of commiserating about emotional children and the desire to leave one's body in order to escape the drama. The guys begin talking about Boy Scouts of America. Though neither Adam nor Marc participated in the program, they ponder about the values of the organization before welcoming Pete Murray into the chat. Pete works for Firaxis Games by day, and until recently, served as Scoutmaster for his teenage son's Boy Scouts troop. Pete candidly shares his experiences with Boy Scouts both as a scout he was growing up, and as a leader when his son went through the program. Pete shares a lesson that he learned during his time with Boy Scouts which centers around the notion of failing in a safe environment, and learning from your mistakes to become a more experienced and well rounded person. Other topics include:

•  Pete's journey spanning multiple roles at Firaxis Games
•  Boy Scouts as a family tradition
•  The value of giving young people opportunities to fail and learn from their mistakes
•  Positive peer pressure
•  Dad bonding
•  And more!

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Pete Murray (LinkedIn)
Boy Scouts of America
Red Vault Audio
Caspar Babypants
Spencer Albee
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