Do past mistakes decide the love you should receive?  Are we conditioned to accept less than we deserve due to our history? Can a person be tainted according to their family tree?  Is there anything that disqualifies you from love or feeling worthy?  Consider this Jacob Brown quote. YOU are who you're bloodline was waiting for.Quote: When everyone seems to be getting a miracle but you, you ARE the Miracle. Beth Moore.This episode of Real Talk with Tina and Ann promises a deep dive into the heart of this question as they discuss personal stories on guilt, grace and self-worth. Support the Show.

What if we have a blemish in our life? What if we have done something that we feel is so horrific that we allow other's to treat us badly? What if we feel that we do not deserve good? What if you flip that and realize that even if your parents and their parents had a lifetime of bad choices, that you look in the mirror and say, "I am the one who my bloodline has been waiting for?! (quote by Jacob Brown)What if you do not love yourself enough? What if you can't forgive yourself to receive good?What if you ponder the question, everyone is here for a purpose? Do you think God loves you more or less depending on your behaviors?What if everyone is getting a miracle, but you. Do you think you can look inward and give yourself permission to realize that YOU might just be the miracle? (Quote by Beth Moore) This episode surrounds the topic of worth and the realization of having allowed people to treat us badly for years.  Why do we stop short of demanding respect from even the people we love? Why do we stay with people who do not treat us with the worth that we deserve?Should we allow our wrongdoings to dictate how we feel about our own worth? Because we have done something wrong in our past, do we deserve what is 'coming to us?'There is a woman in. Luke 7, in the Bible  that was known as a sinner. She was crying at Jesus' feet and He accepted her where she was while the church leaders talked about her sins. What if she would have heard them and thought, 'they are right. I am not worth anything. I deserve to not be loved. I deserve to not have any worth. I have done bad things.'How do we turn that guilt that lives within ourselves  around and  allow love, kindness, and respect, in; no matter the guilt that  overshadows us.  We wrap up with an uplifting look at how affirming our self-love can be a game-changer to squelch inner and outward negativity. Join us for a candid discussion on embracing our worth and learning to rise above life's challenges with grace and self-respect. Support the Show.

Every time we step into the recording studio, we carry with us the stories of those we've met in the most unexpected places—like the battered woman's shelter where Ann once worked or the shadowed hallways of the courthouse where Tina and Ann witnessed the heartbreak of a murder trial. These experiences, though not their own, have left an indelible mark on their psyche, and today we shed light on the pervasive yet seldom-discussed phenomenon of secondary trauma. We navigate the complex terrain of absorbing the pain of others, from the silent struggles behind closed doors to the glaring headlines that shape our world.Our conversation is not for the faint of heart; it is an honest foray into the often invisible emotional toll taken on those who bear witness to the suffering of others—like friends, nurses, counselors, social workers, police, firefighters, and journalists. We share personal anecdotes and professional insights, unraveling the INVOLUNTARY process of internalizing trauma and the profound empathy in our bonds with survivors. Yet, with this vulnerability comes the realization of the need for boundaries and self-care, a delicate dance that many in helping professions must master to preserve their emotional health amidst the storm of human hardship.As we wrap up our heart-to-heart, the focus shifts to the societal ripple effects of traumatic events—be it the generational echoes of COVID-19 on our children, the haunting memories of 9/11, or the chilling normalcy of school lockdown drills. But even as we confront these harrowing truths, there remains a thread of optimism, a belief in the goodness that persists in people and the world. Listeners, you're invited to join us on this journey, to find the courage to acknowledge secondary trauma and discover the pathways to healing, because sometimes, the most significant steps we take are those that lead us back to ourselves.Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

We're all shaped by the moments that challenge us. This is part 2 with musical genius Michael Haburay. This episode begins with Michael and host, Ann, sharing the loss of both of their dad's at a very young age and their paths of self destruction and rebellion.The duo share what it took to get into treatment and to turn their lives around.  Tough life experiences bring you to a fork in the road. Mike had watched his dad die from alcoholism and he decided to take a different path. We all have choices to help us out of our own self-destruction. Michael and Ann found their way out, one step at a time. One moment at a time.  This episode is dedicated to those who have or want to forge new paths. This is not about the darkness; this is a story of of hope and healing. This promises to touch on the resilience required to stare down our demons and choose a different path. The two talk about their rock bottom, but listen as they celebrate life post-addiction, painted with stories of rediscovery. This promises to leave you with a sense of hope and courage to embrace life's next verse. Rewrite your story. One lyric at a time. Mike points out how going down a path of self-destruction is just a symptom of an underlying problem and that there is not progress without struggle. Let's listen, overcome and choose a different path, together. Listen to part 1 of Michael's story and learn about his dad's story, his early years, and what led him to being one of the best guitarists. You can join us each week anywhere you get your podcasts. You can listen to us every Sunday morning at 11 am on WDJYFM.com out of Atlanta and online. You can also listen to us on Denver’s radio station 92.9 and 89.3. You can listen online at denver open media.org and you can watch us on San Francisco’s Pacifica Community Television on Comcast Channel 26 and 27 and online at pacific coast tv.  You can reach us on facebook at Real Talk with Tina and Ann and you can go catch all of our episodes or message us at realtalktinaann.com. You can catch our monthly newsletters and get special messages. Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

From the death of his dad, to the consequences of addiction, Michael took his pain , did a 180  and now reaches the masses.  He realized he needed to change when he no longer recognized the man in the mirror and was compromising his moral compass on a regular basis.  He sought the help that he needed and is taking his musical talent  to stages all over the United States.Watch a clip of him playing and listen as we discuss the journey that he took from burying the pain that he inevitably needed to face to passing on love to anyone who will listen.When the chords of life play in unexpected harmony, the result can be transformative. That's the essence of our chat with Michael, who brings not only his incredible musicianship to the table but also his soul-stirring journey of personal triumphs and tribulations. This conversation isn't just about the music; it's about the man behind the guitar, his recent engagement, and the ripple effect of his influence as a teacher.Mike opens up about the resilience born from loss, the rebellion of his youth, and the path that led him from the shadows of self-destruction to the light of sobriety and self-awareness. This episode is a poignant look into the human spirit's capacity for healing, underscored by the rhythm of music and a relentless quest for personal redemption. Join us as we unravel the transformative power of music in shaping not just a career, but a life filled with purpose and passion.Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

Have you ever stood at life's crossroads, weighed down by the what-ifs and should-have-dones? Our latest episode takes you through the twists and turns of life's journey, reflecting on the tough decisions we've all made and the lingering sting of regret. We navigate the bittersweet paths of past choices, like the heartache of not saying goodbye to an old friend or letting go of a childhood home, and how these moments shape the fabric of our existence.As we traverse through memories and musings, we also find solace in the embrace of nature—whether marveling at the awe of a solar eclipse or finding tranquility amidst Shenandoah's peaks. We share stories of recharging our spirits in the great outdoors and how collective experiences, like the unity felt during an eclipse or a global event, can bridge our differences and heal old wounds. Concluding with a promise to live intentionally, we confront the bittersweet reality of time's fleeting nature. We talk about the raw urgency to cherish every moment with our loved ones, the importance of nurturing children's self-esteem, and the wisdom we hope to pass on. Our candid conversation aims to inspire you to vocalize affirmations, find motivation in the pursuit of health and well-being, and to welcome life's inevitable changes with open arms. Join us as we commit to a life of purpose, free of regrets, and rich with the bonds of family and friendship.Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

As Viola Davis once eloquently captured, life's akin to a relay race where we pass the baton between our past, present, and future selves. In this heart-to-heart session, we unpack this powerful metaphor, discussing how our history can tether us down and exploring the liberation that comes with confronting childhood trauma. Through personal tales we reveal the delicate art of glancing backward without stumbling, encouraging you on your path toward healing and discovery.Embrace the challenge of standing back up when life knocks you down. We delve into the triggers that unexpected present-day events can set off and the fortitude needed to face them head-on. We reflect on the importance of turning reflections of our past into the fuel that propels us forward.Normally when we run a race, we feel weaker, but we talk about how we feel stronger as we pass the baton to move on, in life. We have to take a glimpse back to see where we've been in order to grab that baton and move forward. The pair discuss, Viola Davis' quote that she had stopped with success and not significance. Finally, we draw inspiration from Denzel Washington's concept of "falling forward," emphasizing the growth that comes through adversity. Join us as we navigate the journey of self-acceptance and capture the essence of what it means to triumph over life's hurdles.Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

Navigating daily life can be a labyrinth, especially when you see the world through the unique prism of autism. On our latest episode of Real Talk with Tina and Ann, we're joined by Ann herself, who not only lives with autism but is also the mother to three autistic children. She opens up about the silent battles in classrooms and the victories won through self-advocacy, sharing a perspective that's as enlightening as it is deeply personal. As we traverse from the challenges that come with 'masking' to the art of communication—whether it be through spoken words or the profound silence of a non-verbal child—Ann's stories are a testament to the resilience and adaptability of the autistic community.This is not just another conversation; it's an intimate journey that spotlights the often-overlooked subtleties of autism in social and work settings. Ann provides a candid look at the practicalities of life on the spectrum, from strategically selecting a seat to the complexities of requesting workplace accommodations. The dialogue is rich with strategies for effective communication and living authentically in a world that's learning to embrace neurodiversity. Join us and be part of a discussion that doesn't just celebrate the unique talents of autistic individuals but also arms them—and those around them—with the understanding necessary to help them thrive.Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

This week's episode has never gone this deep before. Ann shares things she has never shared in this raw, unfiltered depiction of why she believes we survive the unthinkable. She shares why she dropped to the floor and found herself in a ball on the floor unable to get up. She finally found it within herself to get up and move, but what put her there and what helped her realize that she was able to rise up and be stronger than the pain. This episode takes you on a journey through the valleys of personal adversity, where the strength to rise again is not just possible but an inevitable part of the human experience. Tina shares some of her very personal experiences and talks about a quote that deeply touched her and why she realized that one can only survive without hope for three months. The goal is to move forward and realize why you survived through. Pain is movement (Ann) and there is no time stamp on pain. (Dawn Serra) You will hear how strength often emerges from the darkest moments. Tina's reflection on the importance of hope underscores the essential role it plays in our ability to endure and overcome challenges.This is an episode of empowerment and purpose and renewal. We are on anywhere you get your podcasts Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)You can also find us on... WDJYFM.com, PacificCoastTV  link is http://pacificcoast.tv/video/the-world-through-trauma-s-eyes?fbclid=IwAR1nQmmdp30K5eVgRzk4Eksn6fhQyKQ54bQzgj8_HPTYZBdMchS2TJ7UCvM, and a future Colorado station. We are very thankful and blessed for our continual growth. Thank you to all of our listeners and now watchers. Support the Show.

As we commemorate the 30th anniversary of Kurt Cobain's untimely departure, we find ourselves discussing the impact music makes in our lives. Tina and Ann discuss healing through music, a collective cry as many find their voice in the gritty anthems of a generation. Th pair talk about the artists who've given voice to their deepest struggles and how they have been helped through music. Tina and Ann invite you to a space where they share personal encounters of solace and healing in the music that has soundtracked the highs and lows of their lives, recognizing the irreplaceable role these cultural icons have played in their collective journey.The melodies that resonate with us tell a story far beyond their lyrics, often becoming enmeshed with our most pivotal memories. In this heartfelt dialogue, we reflect on how the simple act of listening can transport us back in time, reawakening emotions we thought were long since laid to rest. We discuss the importance of understanding the deeper narratives woven into the songs we hold dear, as we encourage you to unearth the tales behind your own cherished melodies. Join us on 'Real Talk with Tina and Ann' for an episode that promises to be as much a tribute as it is a testament to the transformative power of music in shaping our emotions, memories, and the very essence of our being.Many artists and songs are mentioned during the podcast. All are cited and honored with how they have changed our lives. Life Magazine is cited. We are on anywhere you get your podcasts Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Real Talk with Tina and Ann are now on WDJYFM.com, PacificCoastTV  link is http://pacificcoast.tv/video/the-world-through-trauma-s-eyes?fbclid=IwAR1nQmmdp30K5eVgRzk4Eksn6fhQyKQ54bQzgj8_HPTYZBdMchS2TJ7UCvM, and a future Colorado station. We are very thankful and blessed for our continual growth. Thank you to all of our listeners and now watchers. Support the Show.

This week's episode  is a reminder to look past the 'attention-seeking' behavior and look at it as connection seeking. This episode is for anyone who has had someone change the trajectory of their life with a simple act of kindness or if you have done this for someone else. Join us (Ann and guest host Denise Bard)  as we embrace the fact that our past gives us the wisdom we need to equip us to shine in the future.Denise Bard and her new book 30-second Moments and the Women Who Raised Me. We are on anywhere you get your podcasts and...Real Talk with Tina and Ann are now on WDJYFM.com, You can watch us on PacificCoastTV . link is We are on anywhere you get your podcasts and...Real Talk with Tina and Ann are now on WDJYFM.com, PacificCoastTV  link ishttp://pacificcoast.tv/video/the-world-through-trauma-s-eyes?fbclid=IwAR1kdNbaqDJNokd4z_-LdpnKM_9mgr4Qi1-HCwolUYkfLtJnSMOUfVSyhvIColorado radio station is coming soon. We are very thankful and blessed for our continual growth. Thank you to all of our listeners and now watchers. and a future Colorado station. We are very thankful and blessed for our continual growth. Thank you to all of our listeners and now watchers. We are on anywhere you get your podcasts Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Real Talk with Tina and Ann are now on WDJYFM.com, PacificCoastTV  link is http://pacificcoast.tv/video/the-world-through-trauma-s-eyes?fbclid=IwAR1nQmmdp30K5eVgRzk4Eksn6fhQyKQ54bQzgj8_HPTYZBdMchS2TJ7UCvM, and a future Colorado station. We are very thankful and blessed for our continual growth. Thank you to all of our listeners and now watchers. Support the Show.

This episode was inspired by a statement made in Kara Swisher's recent book, The Burn Book. Tina and Ann discuss how Trauma changed them for...wait for it...the better? How can that happen. Well, trauma is not what made them better, but their strength, determination and resilience changed trauma's path. The two discuss how their trauma actually made them stronger and more determined. Ann realized that her creativity was born in the pain and isolation of her bedroom.. Tina learned how to hyperfocus to get through and overcome.They two learned how that simple is good, family is everything and how to break the cycle. Ann learned one of life's most important lessons that got her through. Join this twisty, curvy podcast and learn more of how Trauma shaped them and how they rose above their circumstances. The Book A Loss that Lasts Forever by Kara Swisher is mentionedThe Sinful Woman by Ann Kagarise is mentionedA quote was used by William Martin from The Parent's Tao Te Ching Quote: There is no timestamp on trauma. There isn't a formula that you can insert yourself into to get from horror to healed. Be patient. Take up space. Let your journey be the balm." Dawn SerraA quote by Plutarch: "What we change inwardly will change outer reality.We are on anywhere you get your podcasts Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Real Talk with Tina and Ann are now on WDJYFM.com, PacificCoastTV  link is http://pacificcoast.tv/video/the-world-through-trauma-s-eyes?fbclid=IwAR1nQmmdp30K5eVgRzk4Eksn6fhQyKQ54bQzgj8_HPTYZBdMchS2TJ7UCvM, and a future Colorado station. We are very thankful and blessed for our continual growth. Thank you to all of our listeners and now watchers. Support the Show.

When the ground beneath you shakes, trust can crumble into dust. That's the stark reality for many who've walked through the storm of trauma, a journey Tina and Ann understand all too well. Do we keep up our walls, open a window, or build a bridge of trust.  Our intimate stories serve as beacons for those navigating the murky waters of skepticism, where accepting a compliment or a hand extended in kindness becomes an act of bravery. Throughout this raw and revealing episode, we discuss transforming barriers into connection, while never losing sight of the need for safety.As we wade deeper into the conversation, the ghosts of generational trauma emerge, challenging us to sever the chains of the past. We examine how personal healing is not just a solitary endeavor but a communal crusade to prevent the cycle from continuing.   It's a testament to the quiet power of patience and understanding in fostering bonds of trust that can survive the test of time.Psychology Today is referenced.Trauma, Trust, and Time | Psychology Today Quotes:  "Not let someone else's chaos dictate me." Tina"The trauma isn't our fault, but it's our responsibility to heal it." "Sometimes change happens slowly, but that's ok because direction is more important than speed." "If someone is poking you where you hurt, they don't deserve to be in your life." Ann"Losing trust in self can lead to hopelessness." Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

Every year, as the calendar circles back to the day we said goodbye to a loss, we find solace in the small rituals we've created to honor memories. Today's episode is a tender exploration of how we navigate the poignant anniversaries of loss—be it a loved one's passing, a divorce, or any pivotal goodbye. Together,, we share stories close to the heart, like enveloping ourselves in the comfort of a departed mother's favorite TV shows and the emotions that surge on a final outing that becomes a cherished memory. We also discuss the diverse traditions people embrace, from savoring a favorite meal to the release of butterflies, each a testament to the enduring bond with those we've lost.As we clutch the keepsakes that tether us to the past, we embark on a journey through the landscape of loss and the memories that accompany it. Our conversation traverses the emotional significance of these mementos and the myriad ways they can catapult us through time to relive both joyous and sorrowful moments. , We address the complexity of grief, underscoring the need for support as we face those anniversaries that inevitably return us to the age and circumstance of our heartache. This episode is an intimate look at the myriad faces of grief, the regrets and misconceptions surrounding the decline of a loved one, and the invisible pain of missing shared moments due to illness, all while maintaining a facade of normality. Join us in this heartfelt dialogue as we acknowledge the silent struggles and celebrate the memories that shape our stories of loss.Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

Tina and Ann get nostalgic in the complex tapestry of emotions that anniversaries weave into our lives. We unfurl the delicate threads of joy, heartache with reconciling past grievances with love and understanding. It's a journey through the winding roads of grief, where sorrow and celebration often hold hands.  The dialogue ventures into the realm of bittersweet realizations, recognizing the absence of loved ones in future triumphs and the heavy weight of 'unfinished business' that lingers after their departure. We also share the treasures that keep the essence of those lost, like cherished keepsakes and recorded voices, close to our hearts. Our conversation is a testament to the complex dance of memories, the solace found in the company of friends, and the solitary moments of reflection that anniversaries bring. Join us as we navigate this multifaceted emotional landscape together, finding unity in the shared experience of remembrance and loss.We ask you to check out Denise Bard's new book, 30-second moments and the Women Who Raised me on Amazon. Denise is a permanent guest host on Real Talk with Tina and Ann and we are so proud of her!! Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

As Ann and Charde Young ( Love Freely) wrap up this three-part series, they continue their conversation on doing it afraid and the beautifulness of being vulnerable. They inspire many as they talk family secrets, betrayal, their search for self-acceptance and how affirmations guide them toward self-love as they try to light the path for others. The two discuss how their creative sides can touch more than a canvas or a page, but it can also brush the human heart.Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

A personal message from Ann. She gets personal and candid after reading Mariska Hargitay's (Olivia Benson from SVU) article in People Magazine and saw her interview on the Today Show. Ann gets honest and talks about Mariska's situation and how to take pain and turn it into helping others. She discusses showing your true self, scars and all. S Having been a director at a battered woman's shelter and a rape crisis hotline, Ann delves into the often-misunderstood response of freezing during an assault and the web of blame and shame that survivors navigate. We stand together with those who have had to face such strength. The episode touches on abuse with people who have disabilities or pre-existing trauma. Ann talks grooming and how chillingly proficient abusers are in identifying their targets.  She discusses the reality of not belng believed by those in trusted, authoritative positions. Her main goal is to bring a voice to survivors. Ann briefly shares why she has dedicated this episode to her sister and to anyone who has holds the weight of unspoken secrets. You don't have to suffer by yourself or in silence. Support the Show.

Vulnerability equals strength.  Authentic, emotional bravery vs. societal pressures of concealment. Charde Young, also known as Love Freely, as we discuss how our toughest moments can lead us to profound growth and authenticity fosters genuine connections. Destiny vs. Choice. Was your path chosen for you or do you choose your path. Can we find life's purpose amidst the chaos. Charde and Ann discuss the lives that were given them and the paths that they chose to change their trajectory. The two discuss the narratives that we inherit and the ones we write for ourselves. They get pretty personal as they unlock their diaries so they can rewrite their stories.  Join us for this intimate exchange where the personal becomes universal and self-discovery becomes a transformation. Follow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.

In this episode of Real Talk with Tina and Ann, Ann interviews Charde young who is also known as Love Freely, on stage. Charde is in several bands. She is one of the singers in Apostle Jones, a band that has been named, Best Band in Cleveland, Ohio. She has two of her own bands, Mixed Feelings and New Vibe. She also has performed with Tropidelic. She has been on stage, live painting with Gladys Knight's drummer, Eljah Gilmore, while he performed. She is also a teacher. She is one busy lady who is making a difference in the world. Her entire purpose is to touch lives, to inspire and to remind people that they matter and are loved. The entire podcast centers around Doing it Afraid. Everything is found on the other side of fear. We talk about doing it with Shame and we discuss how you are not our circumstances. I would say her mantra would be, I am not confident, I am courageous. Often times, we do not know what we are doing, but we keep doing it. lol. Give yourself permission to succeed. Imagine standing at the edge of your fear with the nudge to fly. This episode is about embracing that leap, despite the fear that tries to control us. We share intimate conversations about the hurdles of stage fright, the courage to confront personal fears, and the liberation found when asking ourselves, "What would you do if you weren't scared?" Through Charde's story of self-discovery with herself and her bands, we celebrate the strength that comes from stepping outside comfort zones, proving that growth often requires a dance with fear.Acts of kindness can be both simple and revolutionary. We delve into the heartwarming power of a touch, a hug, or words of encouragement and their ability to lift spirits and change lives. Addressing the significance of making others feel seen and valued, we share personal stories that underscore the transformative effects of kindness, the importance of community, and how vulnerability can be a source of strength. Charde Young leaves us with a promise to two more episodes in this three-part series. We cannot wait to listen.This is the beginning of our second season. Support the Show.

When our own childhood traumas resurface in the role of a parent, the journey takes on a deeper significance. In the intimate space of this episode, Ann shares the story of her son's struggle at school, an ordeal that brought forth her buried yearnings for protection and understanding. This isn't just a narrative about the challenges we face; it's a celebration of the unbreakable bonds we form with our children.The dance of affection within our families can be tricky, especially for those with past traumas. . We discuss communication, self-forgiveness, and the individual needs of each family member. Finally, we turn to the frontlines of parenting—the advocacy for our children's emotional well-being within the school system. Ann gets personal about the difficult choices made to defend her son's happiness and zest for learning. As we unpack the distressing incident with his teacher, we highlight the power of trusting our parental instincts. This episode is for every parent who's ever fought for their child's well-being and also had abuse, themselves. *I mistakenly state that it is our 51st episode. Well this had been a 3 part series, but we are ending this on our 52nd episode which means the end to this first season. Next week, will be the first episode of our second exciting season. Thank you so much! * I apologize for some noise, at times, in this episode. But lol, we got a lot of it removed, but some of it would not GO lol. It is Ann's kids playing on holiday break. So, we just go with it. Flaws and all. lol Thanks for listening! Quotes used in the episode: “Let us reach out to the children. Let us do whatever we can to support their fight to rise above their pain and suffering.” - Nelson Mandela“We worry about what a child will become tomorrow, yet we forget that he is someone today.” - Stacia Tauscher“It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” - Frederick Douglass“Children need models rather than critics.” - Joseph JoubertFollow us on Tina and Ann's website  https://www.realtalktinaann.com/Facebook: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Facebookor at:  podcastrealtalktinaann@gmail.com or annied643@gmail.comApple Podcasts: Real Talk with Tina and Ann on Apple PodcastsSpotify: Real Talk with Tina and Ann | Podcast on SpotifyAmazon Music: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusiciHeart Radio: Real Talk with Tina and Ann Podcast | Listen on Amazon MusicCastro: Real Talk with Tina and Ann (castro.fm)Support the Show.