Fearless Tips and Talks with Christy Boulware

Christy Boulware

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Talk 35 Your View Isn’t Their View with Jessica Taylor
1w ago
Talk 35 Your View Isn’t Their View with Jessica Taylor
Send us a Text Message.In this compelling episode of the Resilience in the Pews series, Christy sits down with her good friend and fellow Enneagram 8 friend,  Jessica Taylor to explore the theme "Your View Isn’t Their View", focusing on tackling anxiety and healing from church wounds.  As co-pastors, Jessica and her husband have turned their past church wounds into a mission of healing and understanding within their own ministry.Jessica discusses the importance of loyalty—a trait deeply ingrained in her and something she values immensely in both personal and spiritual contexts. She shares insights into how this trait has influenced her life and leadership, and reflects on whether loyalty should hold as much importance for others as it does for her.Through her journey, Jessica encountered significant challenges, including dealing with differing perspectives among close friends which led to deep wounds. She offers advice on navigating such emotionally charged situations, especially for those who, like her, have a high loyalty meter.Additionally, Jessica recounts how her "challenger personality" played a role in both exacerbating and healing her past church wounds. She opens up about the anxiety this tension caused and the strategies she employed to cope with it.In their current pastoral roles, Jessica and her husband are committed to not repeating the mistakes that led to their own spiritual injuries. They have implemented specific steps in their church leadership to foster a nurturing and inclusive community.This episode is especially meaningful for anyone struggling to trust or find their place in a church community again. Jessica provides hopeful insights and practical steps for rebuilding trust and finding a supportive faith community. Tune in for a story of resilience, perspective, and the power of a healed heart to lead others toward healing.Jessica Taylor is a mother, speaker, nonprofit owner, author, and co-host of the podcast, Pastors’ Wives Tell All. She is a dynamic leader and creative, who runs Come Away missions, a nonprofit serving the people of Rwanda, Africa. She sends multiple teams to Rwanda each year to serve alongside a local Rwandan pastor.  She serves on staff at her local church as the missions and women’s ministry leader. Get her book here. Christy's Book on Amazon Signed copy of Christy's book with personal message shop here What is a Soul Shepherd/Mental Health Advocate? Learn here Do you want to see the video from this podcast? Check it out here: Get Christy's weekly anxiety tips emails, click purple "get anxiety tips" box On Social Media? Connect with Christy and on Instagram: @christymboulwareConnect with Fearless Unite and on Instagram: @fearlessunite Send us your feedback, questions, encouragement and anxiety tip ideas: podcast@fearlessunite.com Click here to subscribe to Podcast Plus
Fearless Talk 34: Unexpected Miracles with Hilda Bih Muluh
May 2 2024
Fearless Talk 34: Unexpected Miracles with Hilda Bih Muluh
Send us a Text Message.In this inspiring episode of the Resilience in the Pews series, we dive into the remarkable life of Hilda, whose story of faith and determination unfolds in unexpected ways. Our episode, titled "Unexpected Miracles," explores how Hilda, despite being physically limited to a tricycle and later a wheelchair, overcame immense challenges and societal stigmas from her upbringing in Cameroon to finding her true community and calling in journalism.Hilda’s journey began with her family seeking help from a witch doctor, a common practice in her culture for those deemed "cursed" due to disabilities. She shares her terrifying experiences and how her budding faith in Jesus provided protection and strength during these dark times. The conversation also touches on the painful yet all-too-common experiences of misguided healing services within the Christian community, which tested her faith but never broke her spirit.One of the most profound parts of Hilda's story is her battle with severe depression, which led her to the brink of suicide. She discusses this dark period with candor, offering hope and advice to others who may be facing similar struggles. The unexpected miracle here is her survival and continued faith in God’s plan for her life.As Hilda navigated through college, she found her tribe—a community that showed her the true meaning of Jesus's love and support. She shares a poignant story about her advocacy for a new wheelchair, demonstrating her resilience and ability to effect change. Inspired by another person's story of overcoming physical limitations, Hilda realized her own potential to make a significant impact.Now a successful journalist, Hilda uses her platform to share stories of faith, resilience, and the power of unexpected miracles. Join us as Hilda imparts her wisdom and insights, proving that miracles don’t always look like you'd expect, but they come just when you need them most. This episode is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the transformative power of faith.Get Hilda's book hereChristy's Book on Amazon Signed copy of Christy's book with personal message shop here What is a Soul Shepherd/Mental Health Advocate? Learn here Do you want to see the video from this podcast? Check it out here: Get Christy's weekly anxiety tips emails, click purple "get anxiety tips" box On Social Media? Connect with Christy and on Instagram: @christymboulwareConnect with Fearless Unite and on Instagram: @fearlessunite Send us your feedback, questions, encouragement and anxiety tip ideas: podcast@fearlessunite.com Click here to subscribe to Podcast Plus
Talk 33: God is Good with Brant Hansen
Apr 25 2024
Talk 33: God is Good with Brant Hansen
Send us a Text Message.Join us on a heartfelt journey with Brant Hansen in the latest episode of the Fearless Tips and Talks podcast, part of our resilience-in-the-pews series. This episode, titled "God is Good," features Hansen, an author and radio personality known for his engaging storytelling and insightful doodles. In his latest book, "Life is Hard. God is Good. Let’s Dance," Brant explores the complexities of faith with simplicity and humor, offering a fresh perspective on walking with Jesus without getting lost in dogma.In this episode, Brant discusses the themes of his book, sharing stories that will make you laugh, cry, and perhaps even dance with joy. He delves into the role humor plays in communicating deep truths and reflects on growing up as a pastor's kid, his experiences with autism, and how these have shaped his unique view of Christianity. Brant also recounts an inspiring story of three young women from the University of Oklahoma’s women’s softball team, whose expressions of faith on a national stage challenged conventional views on women's roles in church.This episode is a call to embrace the simplicity and joy of faith, even in challenging times. Tune in to hear Brant’s take on keeping faith real and accessible, the importance of community support for families with autistic members, and his advice on managing stress and anxiety in today’s world.Whether you're a faithful follower or just curious about how humor and honesty can reveal profound spiritual truths, this episode promises to be both enlightening and entertaining.Brants BooksCureChristy's Book on Amazon Signed copy of Christy's book with personal message shop here What is a Soul Shepherd/Mental Health Advocate? Learn here Do you want to see the video from this podcast? Check it out here: Get Christy's weekly anxiety tips emails, click purple "get anxiety tips" box On Social Media? Connect with Christy and on Instagram: @christymboulwareConnect with Fearless Unite and on Instagram: @fearlessunite Send us your feedback, questions, encouragement and anxiety tip ideas: podcast@fearlessunite.com Click here to subscribe to Podcast Plus
Talk 32: Healthy Fear of God with Angel Williams
Apr 11 2024
Talk 32: Healthy Fear of God with Angel Williams
Send us a Text Message.Join us on  for a powerful episode with Angel Williams, a beacon of faith and resilience, as she shares her journey of overcoming excruciating abuse and finding a "Healthy Fear of God." Angel's story, set against the backdrop of a childhood marred by physical and sexual abuse at the hands of her father—a leader in her church—offers a raw, unfiltered look into the complexities of faith, fear, and forgiveness. In this episode, part of our "Resilience in the Pews" series, we delve into how Angel navigated her anxiety and church wounds to foster a relationship with God not based on fear of punishment but on reverence and awe. Her insights offer hope and guidance to those wrestling with their own church wounds or seeking to understand how God can use imperfect people in holy ways. A word of caution: Angel's recounting of her experiences may be triggering for abuse survivors. We encourage listeners to approach this episode with care. Discover how Angel's unyielding spirit and deep-rooted faith in Jesus illuminate the path to healing and a healthy fear of God.Other Podcast Episode mention: Freedom From Toxic Relationships Christy's Book on Amazon Signed copy of Christy's book with personal message shop here What is a Soul Shepherd/Mental Health Advocate? Learn here Do you want to see the video from this podcast? Check it out here: Get Christy's weekly anxiety tips emails, click purple "get anxiety tips" box On Social Media? Connect with Christy and on Instagram: @christymboulwareConnect with Fearless Unite and on Instagram: @fearlessunite Send us your feedback, questions, encouragement and anxiety tip ideas: podcast@fearlessunite.com Click here to subscribe to Podcast Plus
Talk 31: Pastors' Wives Tell All
Apr 5 2024
Talk 31: Pastors' Wives Tell All
Send us a Text Message.In this episode of Resilience In the Pews, we explore the authentic and often challenging journeys of the hosts behind "Pastors Wives Tell All." From confronting the stigma of being tatted-up women of faith to tackling imposter syndrome and the complex dynamics within church communities, Stephanie, Jessica, and Jenna share their personal stories and the lessons they've learned. They discuss the resilience required to navigate criticism, the courage to challenge conventional religious spirits, and the intimate struggles that come with their unique positions. The conversation delves into the widespread issues faced by churches today, as observed through the confidences shared by pastors' wives, and offers advice on addressing these problems. Through a blend of vulnerability and strength, they reveal how they've dealt with personal and communal church hurts, including the impact on their marriages and their own faith journeys. The episode closes on a note of hope, highlighting powerful redemption testimonines that speaks to the healing and transformative power of genuine community and understanding within the church. Join us as we uncover the raw and redemptive stories of faith, resilience, and the power of standing firm in one's beliefs amidst adversity.Get their book here plus pre-order goodies! Come Away Missions is what Jessica founded. Find them on TikTok and Instagram and Facebook at Pastors Wives Tell All. Christy's Book on Amazon Signed copy of Christy's book with personal message shop here What is a Soul Shepherd/Mental Health Advocate? Learn here Do you want to see the video from this podcast? Check it out here: Get Christy's weekly anxiety tips emails, click purple "get anxiety tips" box On Social Media? Connect with Christy and on Instagram: @christymboulwareConnect with Fearless Unite and on Instagram: @fearlessunite Send us your feedback, questions, encouragement and anxiety tip ideas: podcast@fearlessunite.com Click here to subscribe to Podcast Plus
Talk 30: Calling Out Truth with Julie Roys
Mar 28 2024
Talk 30: Calling Out Truth with Julie Roys
Send us a Text Message.Our guest today is a veteran investigator reporter and founder of The Roys Report.Christy asked Julie these questions and more! What are the three top common themes of bad behavior/unhealth that you see within the churches you are reporting on? I often see that the churches you are reporting on, decline to comment. Why do you think that is? How do you conduct an investigation fairly? Has your reporting ever been wrong? If so, what action steps did you take? How would you like to address your critics who think you are causing division by your reporting?Do you read the comments on your social pages and blogs? How do you protect your heart from all the mean things being said? Part of your mission is not only reporting the truth, but restoring the church. What is your vision for restoring the church?What are your goals for making that mission (restoring the church) happen in the short term and long term? Messages that Julie mentioned can be found on her YouTube Channel. Resources: Katie RobertsBozLawChristine JonesThe Roys ReportDiane LangbergA Church Called TovWade Mullen (Something is Not Right) Christy's Book on Amazon Signed copy of Christy's book with personal message shop here What is a Soul Shepherd/Mental Health Advocate? Learn here Do you want to see the video from this podcast? Check it out here: Get Christy's weekly anxiety tips emails, click purple "get anxiety tips" box On Social Media? Connect with Christy and on Instagram: @christymboulwareConnect with Fearless Unite and on Instagram: @fearlessunite Send us your feedback, questions, encouragement and anxiety tip ideas: podcast@fearlessunite.com Click here to subscribe to Podcast Plus
Talk 29: Leadership: Too Heavy to Carry with Lance Ford
Mar 21 2024
Talk 29: Leadership: Too Heavy to Carry with Lance Ford
Send us a Text Message.It’s an intriguing title, why would leadership be too heavy to carry? In this episode Christy asks Lance Explain the idea of the starfish and spider in terms of your chapters on leadership. Talk about how you went “from being the spider, to being the one caught in the spider web”? Why is the current way Churches are doing leadership too heavy to carry? What happened in the mid 1990’s in regards to the church growth movement that changed the landscape of local churches? “The Church is a business and has to run like a business.” I have heard that as well from people I respect greatly. Why is that a problem and what mind shifts do we need to take that is a healthier approach to church and collecting money?  You have a powerful quote in The Starfish and the Spirit that says; “When the church is dysfunctional, it is the most appalling of all the institutions.” Explain.  Doesn’t someone have to be in charge? Help us understand the main characteristics/duties of a light-load leader? Get Lance's new book: Atlas Factor: Shifting Leadership Onto the Shoulders of JesusPapa B's Star Fish MessageChristy's Book on Amazon Signed copy of Christy's book with personal message shop here What is a Soul Shepherd/Mental Health Advocate? Learn here Do you want to see the video from this podcast? Check it out here: Get Christy's weekly anxiety tips emails, click purple "get anxiety tips" box On Social Media? Connect with Christy and on Instagram: @christymboulwareConnect with Fearless Unite and on Instagram: @fearlessunite Send us your feedback, questions, encouragement and anxiety tip ideas: podcast@fearlessunite.com Click here to subscribe to Podcast Plus
Talk 27: Women's Voices Being Silenced with Natalie Runion
Mar 7 2024
Talk 27: Women's Voices Being Silenced with Natalie Runion
Send us a Text Message.There is hope for healing when you walk with humility. Do not give up on a perfect God because the church is made up of imperfect people. In this episode Christy asks Natalie;Why are women's voices are being silenced in the American church?If you are a women in the church what should you do if you are feeling oppressed, held back, or silenced?How do you know when to stay and fight and when to leave peacefully?What does submission look like in your home?Why do you think God picked this time and place for your book to go viral?What would you say to people that feel like your messaging in Raised to Stay is not harsh enough to people that have experienced church abuse?If you could give three pieces of advice to the local church what would it be?Links: Raised To Stay BookSee Natalies bonus episode on Green Rooms by subscribing to Podcast Plus. "I won't go speechless" Sept 19th is more on Christy's story on silencing women's voice. Christy's Book on Amazon Signed copy of Christy's book with personal message shop here What is a Soul Shepherd/Mental Health Advocate? Learn here Do you want to see the video from this podcast? Check it out here: Get Christy's weekly anxiety tips emails, click purple "get anxiety tips" box On Social Media? Connect with Christy and on Instagram: @christymboulwareConnect with Fearless Unite and on Instagram: @fearlessunite Send us your feedback, questions, encouragement and anxiety tip ideas: podcast@fearlessunite.com Click here to subscribe to Podcast Plus
Talk 26: Understanding Abuse in the Church with Remy Diederich
Feb 29 2024
Talk 26: Understanding Abuse in the Church with Remy Diederich
Send us a Text Message.Today's episode starts a new series called: Resilience in the Pews: Tackling Anxiety and Church Wounds.The goal of this series is to explore the often-overlooked aspects of anxiety, trauma, and emotional wounds that many individuals experience in their church communities. Christy asks Remy Why do you think there is such a rise in abusive behavior in church settings? What is the difference between bad leadership or mistreatment and abuse in the Church?“Toxic faith is the soil from which spiritual abuse grows.” Explain that quote.Could there be different degrees of abuse?“Even good people can abuse” Can you explain how you violated people’s right to think for themselves? Why do most people have such a hard time with using the word “abuse” inside the church? What do you do if your called to leave or confront? How would you advise someone feeling held back in the church? And more! Get the book Christy read by Remy called Broken Trust. Connect with Remy here. Other mentions: A Church Called Tov: Forming a Goodness Culture That Resists Abuses of Power and Promotes HealingChristy's Spiritual Abuse story on Julie Roy's Podcast Christy's Book on Amazon Signed copy of Christy's book with personal message shop here What is a Soul Shepherd/Mental Health Advocate? Learn here Do you want to see the video from this podcast? Check it out here: Get Christy's weekly anxiety tips emails, click purple "get anxiety tips" box On Social Media? Connect with Christy and on Instagram: @christymboulwareConnect with Fearless Unite and on Instagram: @fearlessunite Send us your feedback, questions, encouragement and anxiety tip ideas: podcast@fearlessunite.com Click here to subscribe to Podcast Plus
Tip 21: Control is an Illusion
Jan 9 2024
Tip 21: Control is an Illusion
Send us a Text Message.How do you know if you are struggling with surrender? See if any of these statements ring true for your life:·  I think I can change people.·  I worry more often than I’m at peace.·  I like to hover over people and make sure they are doing things to my expectations.·  I have a hard time being in the passenger seat.·  I have confidence in myself but not in others.·  I trust myself more than I trust God. ·  I often tell people how things will go and leave no room for other options.·  I rarely consult God. ·  I compare myself to other people.·  I question the validity of God’s Word.  ·  I would rather do things myself than ask God for help.  ·  I don’t think God has my best interest at heart. ·  I control my children because I don’t want them to make mistakes.  ·  I don’t want God’s will in my life; I would rather do things my way.·  I’m confused about my purpose in life.*I feel like my plan is the most important.Christy's Book on Amazon Signed copy of Christy's book with personal message shop here What is a Soul Shepherd/Mental Health Advocate? Learn here Do you want to see the video from this podcast? Check it out here: Get Christy's weekly anxiety tips emails, click purple "get anxiety tips" box On Social Media? Connect with Christy and on Instagram: @christymboulwareConnect with Fearless Unite and on Instagram: @fearlessunite Send us your feedback, questions, encouragement and anxiety tip ideas: podcast@fearlessunite.com Click here to subscribe to Podcast Plus