Pelham Place

Jay Pelham

In the midst of the Coronavirus lockdown, Pelham Place sprouted as a way to connect with friends, acquaintances, and people who I have crossed paths with in a variety of ways. read less
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The Art of Giving
Nov 28 2023
The Art of Giving
The Art of Giving Back Welcome back to Pelham Place, this episode we are going to explore a topic that goes hand in hand with the holiday season—the art of giving back. In a world that often moves at such a fast pace, the concept of giving reminds us of the impact that those small acts of kindness can have. It's not just about the generosity of material possessions; it's about the generosity of spirit, time, and compassion. Giving back really is is an art form — it’s a way of creating positivity and change in our lives and the lives of others. It's a direct connection to kindness. And kindness can transform communities, one act at a time. So, what does it mean to truly give back? It's more than writing a check or making a donation, although those financial actions are clearly valuable. Giving back is about understanding the needs of others and finding creative ways to make a difference. One of the most beautiful aspects of giving back is that it's not limited by financial resources. Time is a precious gift, and the act of giving one's time to a cause or an individual in need can be just as impactful as any financial gift or donation. As we navigate the holiday season, it's worth reflecting on how we can incorporate the art of giving back into our lives. It could be as simple as volunteering at a local shelter, spending time with someone who may be feeling lonely, or supporting a cause that aligns with your values. The art of giving back is also about sustainability. It's not just a seasonal practice; it's a mindset that we can carry with us throughout the year. Consider integrating giving into your daily routine, whether it's through random acts of kindness or supporting local businesses that prioritize social responsibility. Now, let's talk about the ripple effect of giving. Just as a single drop creates ripples across a pond, our acts of kindness can create a ripple effect in the lives of those we touch. It's an amazing cycle where the impact of giving multiplies and spreads, creating a wave of positive change. As we embrace the art of giving back, let's challenge ourselves to think creatively about how we can contribute to the well-being of others. Maybe it's organizing a neighborhood cleanup, starting a community garden, or initiating a youth mentorship program. Remember, the art of giving back is not about the size of the gesture but the intention behind it. Every small act of kindness contributes to the larger picture of compassion and empathy that we're collectively creating. So, as we approach this holiday season, let's be mindful of giving back. Whether it's through time, resources, or a heartfelt gesture, let's spread kindness that brightens the world around us. Thank you for joining me today. Go out and continue to create a masterpiece of   generosity.
Kindness and Gratitude
Nov 21 2023
Kindness and Gratitude
Thanksgiving With Thanksgiving just around the corner, I want to pause, reflect, and dive into a conversation about kindness and gratitude. In a world that sometimes seems chaotic, where headlines can be overwhelming, we often find solace and strength in the simplest of things—kindness and gratitude. So, I think it’s important that we advocate for spreading kindness and fostering gratitude in our daily lives. As we approach Thanksgiving, a time traditionally dedicated to expressing gratitude, I want to explore the power of kindness in our communities. Kindness is like a ripple effect. When we are kind to others, it creates a positive impact not only on them but on ourselves and the people around us. It's a simple yet powerful force that has the potential to transform our communities and spread throughout the world. Now, what about gratitude? How can we incorporate gratitude into our daily lives, making it more than just a once-a-year practice, celebration, family feast? Gratitude is about acknowledging and appreciating the good things, big or small, in our lives. One way to make it a daily habit is to keep a gratitude journal. Write down three things you're thankful for each day. It could be as simple as a kind word from a friend, a beautiful sunset, or that your car started right up when it was time to leave for work this morning. I truly believe that everyone, from any walk of life, can find something to be grateful for. In fact, a few years ago, I had a great conversation with retried Marine, Craig Grossi. His book, Craig and Fred, tells the story of how he rescued a dog - named Fred - while fighting in Afghanistan and had to make some tough decisions to ultimately bring Fred back home. Now, they travel the world and speak to audiences about being stubbornly positive. Listen to this clip: (Clip from Craig Grossi) It's all about finding joy in the little things. So, as we approach Thanksgiving, think of some ways that you can spread kindness in your community. It could be volunteering at a local charity, reaching out to someone who might be feeling lonely, or even just offering a genuine compliment. Small acts of kindness can have a huge impact on you and the person on the receiving end. Now, let's talk about Thanksgiving specifically. How can we make Thanksgiving more than just a day of feasting and incorporate the true spirit of gratitude into our Thanksgiving celebration? Thanksgiving is a perfect opportunity to express gratitude. Instead of just focusing on the food, take a moment to go around the table and share something you're thankful for. It creates a sense of connection and reminds us of the importance of gratitude. It really is a beautiful tradition to incorporate. And, if folks don’t want to speak up at the table, have everyone write something on a piece of paper, then pass a hat around the table and let each person read one out loud. That actually seems like it would be more fun! Before we wrap up, I would just encourage everyone to approach the holidays with an open heart and a spirit of kindness. Take the time to express gratitude not just on Thanksgiving but every day. It has the power to transform our lives and the world around us. That concludes this special episode of Pelham Place. Wishing you all a Thanksgiving filled with love, gratitude, and the warmth of kind deeds. Until next time, be kind and do good.
The Tell-Tale Heart - A Halloween Reading
Oct 31 2023
The Tell-Tale Heart - A Halloween Reading
Welcome to the month-long, Halloween special edition relaunch of Pelham Place. To conclude this month of daily episodes, enjoy this reading of The Tell Tale Heart by Edgar Allan Poe.  It’s true! yes, I have been ill, very ill. But why do you say that I have lost control of my mind, why do you say that I am mad? Can you not see that I have full control of my mind? Is it not clear that I am not mad? Indeed, the illness only made my mind, my feelings, my senses stronger, more powerful. My sense of hearing especially became more powerful. I could hear sounds I had never heard before. I heard sounds from heaven; and I heard sounds from hell! Listen! Listen, and I will tell you how it happened. You will see, you will hear how healthy my mind is. It is impossible to say how the idea first entered my head. There was no reason for what I did. I did not hate the old man; I even loved him. He had never hurt me. I did not want his money. I think it was his eye. His eye was like the eye of a vulture, the eye of one of those terrible birds that watch and wait while an animal dies, and then fall upon the dead body and pull it to pieces to eat it. When the old man looked at me with his vulture eye a cold feeling went up and down my back; even my blood became cold. And so, I finally decided I had to kill the old man and close that eye forever! So you think that I am mad? A madman cannot plan. But you should have seen me. During all of that week I was as friendly to the old man as I could be, and warm, and loving. Every night about twelve o’clock I slowly opened his door. And when the door was opened wide enough I put my hand in, and then my head. In my hand I held a light covered over with a cloth so that no light showed. And I stood there quietly. Then, carefully, I lifted the cloth, just a little, so that a single, thin, small light fell across that eye. For seven nights I did this, seven long nights, every night at midnight. Always the eye was closed, so it was impossible for me to do the work. For it was not the old man I felt I had to kill; it was the eye, his Evil Eye. And every morning I went to his room, and with a warm, friendly voice I asked him how he had slept. He could not guess that every night, just at twelve, I looked in at him as he slept. The eighth night I was more than usually careful as I opened the door. The hands of a clock move more quickly than did my hand. Never before had I felt so strongly my own power; I was now sure of success. The old man was lying there not dreaming that I was at his door. Suddenly he moved in his bed. You may think I became afraid. But no. The darkness in his room was thick and black. I knew he could not see the opening of the door. I continued to push the door, slowly, softly. I put in my head. I put in my hand, with the covered light. Suddenly the old man sat straight up in bed and cried, “Who’s there??!” I stood quite still. For a whole hour I did not move. Nor did I hear him again lie down in his bed. He just sat there, listening. Then I heard a sound, a low cry of fear which escaped from the old man. Now I knew that he was sitting up in his bed, filled with fear; I knew that he knew that I was there. He did not see me there. He could not hear me there. He felt me there. Now he knew that Death was standing there. Slowly, little by little, I lifted the cloth, until a small, small light escaped from under it to fall upon — to fall upon that vulture eye! It was open — wide, wide open, and my anger increased as it looked straight at me. I could not see the old man’s face. Only that eye, that hard blue eye, and the blood in my body became like ice. Have I not told you that my hearing had become un  usually strong? Now I could hear a quick, low, soft sound, like the sound of a clock heard through a wall. It was the beating of the old man’s heart. I tried to stand quietly. But the sound grew louder. The old man’s fear must have been great indeed. And as the sound grew louder my anger became greater and more painful. But it was more than anger. In the quiet night, in the dark silence of the bedroom my anger became fear — for the heart was beating so loudly that I was sure some one must hear. The time had come! I rushed into the room, crying, “Die! Die!” The old man gave a loud cry of fear as I fell upon him and held the bedcovers tightly over his head. Still his heart was beating; but I smiled as I felt that success was near. For many minutes that heart continued to beat; but at last the beating stopped. The old man was dead. I took away the bed covers and held my ear over his heart. There was no sound. Yes. He was dead! Dead as a stone. His eye would  trouble me no more! So I am mad, you say? You should have seen how care ful I was to put the body where no one could find it. First I cut off the head, then the arms and the legs. I was careful not to let a single drop of blood fall on the floor. I pulled up three of the boards that formed the floor, and put the pieces of the body there. Then I put the boards down again, care fully, so carefully that no human eye could see that they had been moved. As I finished this work I heard that someone was at the door. It was now four o’clock in the morning, but still dark. I had no fear, however, as I went down to open the door. Three men were at the door, three officers of the police. One of the neighbors had heard the old man’s cry and had called the police; these three had come to ask questions and to search the house. I asked the policemen to come in. The cry, I said, was my own, in a dream. The old man, I said, was away; he had gone to visit a friend in the country. I took them through the whole house, telling them to search it all, to search well. I led them finally into the old man’s bedroom. As if playing a game with them I asked them to sit down and talk for a while. My easy, quiet manner made the policemen believe my story. So they sat talking with me in a friendly way. But although I answered them in the same way, I soon wished that they would go. My head hurt and there was a strange sound in my ears. I talked more, and faster. The sound became clearer. And still they sat and talked. Suddenly I knew that the sound was not in my ears, it was not just inside my head. At that moment I must have become quite white. I talked still faster and louder. And the sound, too, became louder. It was a quick, low, soft sound, like the sound of a clock heard through a wall, a sound I knew well. Louder it became, and louder. Why did the men not go? Louder, louder. I stood up and walked quickly around the room. I pushed my chair across the floor to make more noise, to cover that terrible sound. I talked even louder. And still the men sat and talked, and smiled. Was it possible that they could not hear?? No! They heard! I was certain of it. They knew! Now it was they who were playing a game with me. I was suffering more than I could bear, from their smiles, and from that sound. Louder, louder, louder! Suddenly I could bear it no longer. I pointed at the boards and cried, “Yes! Yes, I killed him. Pull up the boards and you shall see! I killed him. But why does his heart not stop beating?! Why does it not stop!?”
’Twas the Night Before Christmas
Dec 22 2022
’Twas the Night Before Christmas
Introduction by Malcolm J. Pelham, Jr. Read by: Lauren Moran A Visit from St. Nicholas, a poem originally published anonymously on December 23rd 1823, tells the story of a family settling in to sleep on Christmas Eve as the father is disturbed by noises on the lawn outside. In 1837, Clement Clarke Moore claimed authorship of the poem, as it continued to be printed in the newspaper each year around Christmas.  Moore, known as a professor, did not want to have his name connected with the unscholarly verse. However, upon insistence of his children, the work was included in Moore’s own book of poems published in 1844.  Join us for this special Pelham Place reading of A Visit from St. Nicholas - better known as ’Twas the Night Before Christmas - read by our friend, twelve year old Lauren Moran. 'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse; The stockings were hung by the chimney with care, In hopes that St. Nicholas soon would be there; The children were nestled all snug in their beds; While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads; And mamma in her 'kerchief, and I in my cap, Had just settled our brains for a long winter's nap, When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter, I sprang from my bed to see what was the matter. Away to the window I flew like a flash, Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash. The moon on the breast of the new-fallen snow, Gave a lustre of midday to objects below, When what to my wondering eyes did appear, But a miniature sleigh and eight tiny rein-deer, With a little old driver so lively and quick, I knew in a moment he must be St. Nick. More rapid than eagles his coursers they came, And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name: "Now, Dasher! now, Dancer! now Prancer and Vixen! On, Comet! on, Cupid! on, Donner and Blitzen! To the top of the porch! to the top of the wall! Now dash away! dash away! dash away all!" As leaves that before the wild hurricane fly, When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky; So up to the housetop the coursers they flew With the sleigh full of toys, and St. Nicholas too— And then, in a twinkling, I heard on the roof The prancing and pawing of each little hoof. As I drew in my head, and was turning around, Down the chimney St. Nicholas came with a bound. He was dressed all in fur, from his head to his foot, And his clothes were all tarnished with ashes and soot; A bundle of toys he had flung on his back, And he looked like a pedler just opening his pack. His eyes—how they twinkled! his dimples, how merry! His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry! His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow, And the beard on his chin was as white as the snow; The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth, And the smoke, it encircled his head like a wreath; He had a broad face and a little round belly That shook when he laughed, like a bowl full of jelly. He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf, And I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself; A wink of his eye and a twist of his head Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread; He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work, And filled all the stockings; then turned with a jerk, And laying his finger aside of his nose, And giving a nod, up the chimney he rose; He sprang to his sleigh, to his team gave a whistle, And away they all flew like the down of a thistle. But I heard him exclaim, ere he drove out of sight— “Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good night!”   *A Visit From St. Nicholas, by Dr. Clement C. Moore, is a work in the Public Domain.
Chris Koss aka K-oss
Aug 3 2021
Chris Koss aka K-oss
As the intro goes, Pelham Place is casual conversations with interesting people… and some of those people just happen to be friends of mine. So, in a pinch, this week I’m giving you a short edited conversation that was recorded during a weekly call with Chris Koss, better known as K-oss to his fans. K-oss and I have been friends for the better part of 10 years or so, and we have yet to meet in person. Our mutual friend, Thommy Noodlez, introduced us back in 2012 or 13 to work together on various radio and podcast projects… and we’ve remained friends. The three of us… K-oss, Thommy, and Myself have stayed more in touch throughout this pandemic, and K-oss and I now hold weekly Wednesday night zoom calls to catch up. It’s really our own little mastermind group where we share ideas and resources to help motivate each other on projects that we are working on, but there’s always other little side conversations. And, this is one of those side conversations that fits right in with the topics that he’ll be covering on his podcast “From the Mind of K-oss” - we get into the new NFL rules around COVID, we talk TV, specifically me trying to convince him to watch Ted Lasso, and K-oss teaches me the basics of sports betting. If you or someone you know need help with a gambling problem, the National Council on Problem Gambling offers help and hope. The national helpline can be reached at 800-522-4700 or online at ncpgambling.org. Follow K-oss on Instagram at www.instagram.com/sportsourway
Ken Rusk
Jul 20 2021
Ken Rusk
In this episode of Pelham Place, I chat with Ken Rusk. Ken is the author of the book Blue Collar Cash and a successful entrepreneur who has spent over three decades working in blue-collar trades. Starting out as a ditch digger, and working his way up to become a successful entrepreneur, Ken is now sharing his years of knowledge and wisdom with the rest of us. Timestamps: [00:00] Introduction [02:22] Ken and Nancy, high school sweethearts met on their birthdays [05:10] Pandemic created a demand for blue collar trades [08:20] I've never built a sky scraper, but if I did, I would take certain steps [10:00] Ditch digging at the age of 15 and worked my way up [10:30] Nicole getting sick was the biggest sky scraper I imagined. Created a plan to get through it. [11:00] Nicole is healthy and thriving today [11:08] Within each one of us, we have the character traits that entrepreneurs need for success. [12:30] Old habits are hard to break, but habits are formed over time. [13:14] The most important bill that they'll ever pay is themselves first. [14:02] You can save $60 a week for 10 years starting at age 21 and retire with a million dollars. [14:28] We need to teach our young people to think about the future when they're young. [15:43] Living a life of anticipation over many goals is the only way to live. [16:15] First interview question is "Why are you here?" [18:48] My biggest goal is to make sure that people are aware of all their options. [19:24] If there's 170 million people working in the US, about 70 million of them are working with their hands. [19:26] You can enter as an apprentice and make at least $40,000 to start. [21:40] Comfort, Peace, and Freedom [23:43] If you could design your perfect life, what does it look like? [24:36] It starts with the life drawing [28:35] Everything is your fault [30:59] Connect with Ken [31:14] I did this as my give back moment. Proceeds from book sales are donated to causes like Make-A-Wish and Junior Achievement Connect with Ken Rusk: Website: www.kenrusk.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/kenruskofficial
Victoria Banks
Jul 13 2021
Victoria Banks
In this episode of Pelham Place, I welcome singer-songwriter Victoria Banks. Victoria moved to Nashville in 1997 with the prospects of becoming one of the greats in songwriting. She has contributed to many chart-breaking songs like Saints and Angels (Sara Evans), Come on Over (Jessica Simpson), and most notably What Are You Gonna Tell Her (Mickey Guyton). An honorable mention goes to Garth Brooks for recording Midnight at a Red Light, although it was never released. Victoria shares with us her experience working in the music industry as a woman, being a part of a historic moment in country music, and gives us an in-depth description of how things work behind-the-scenes at NBC's Songland. TIMESTAMPS: [00:00] Introduction [02:00] Songland [02:30] Pitching a song to Florida Georgia Line [05:50] The behind-the-scenes process  [11:07] Feeling connected to a historic moment in country music [14:45] Co-Writing What Are You Gonna Tell Her? With Mickey Guyton [17:58] Watching the ACM awards [19:52] Blogpost; Thank You, Garth – A moment with Garth Brooks [26:05] Painstakingly care for the music [27:19] Midnight at a Red Light – The song that Garth Brooks recorded, but hasn’t released [28:55] Podcast; The Table Women [34:25] Seeing the industry finally making some change [35:50] Advice for aspiring songwriters [40:33] Connect with Victoria    Connect with Victoria Banks: Website: https://www.victoriabanks.net/ Referenced people/sources: Mickey Guyton: https://www.mickeyguyton.comGarth Brooks: https://garthbrooks.comNBC’s Songland: https://www.nbc.com/songlandFlorida Georgia Line: https://floridageorgialine.com/ Songwriter Resources: Nashville Songwriters Association International - https://www.nashvillesongwriters.com/SongTown - https://songtown.com/Global Songwriters Connection (GSC) - https://globalsongwriters.com/