Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

Alyssa Zander

Finding our authenticity and joy through shadow work and healing codependency. We heal the Mother Wound by coming together, sharing our truth, & being seen and witnessed by others. You can absolutely do this healing alone, the point is you don't have to.

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What is a "situationship"?
May 1 2024
What is a "situationship"?
Opening up about a past "situationship" was incredibly difficult (or should I say embarrassing), but I really wanted to share with you all how that experience illuminated my insecure attachment patterns and codependent behaviors that I was completely unaware of.What is a situationship? I would describe a situationship as a romantic connection, but nothing that suggests commitment. It’s perfect if you want to be in limbo and constantly question your sanity. 🤣Resources:* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. ONLY $25 FOR THE MONTH OF MAY!* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube! This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
Is There Codependency in Your Parenting?
Mar 27 2024
Is There Codependency in Your Parenting?
Many of the women I have the privilege of working with are mothers. Mothers who feel touched out and need space, but feel guilt when it comes for asking or taking it, or they struggle trusting the resilience of their child and their partner to figure out their own way. I share about my background with child development and things I've learned about cultivating a prepared environment that supports the child's development and behavior.Resources:Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on InstagramCLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDOn Children - By Kahlil GibranCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
What is Reasonable When it Comes to Seeking Support from Your Partner?
Mar 20 2024
What is Reasonable When it Comes to Seeking Support from Your Partner?
What is reasonable, or not reasonable when it comes to asking your partner for support. Additionally, what can you rely on your partner for? What are you afraid will happen or what are you afraid it might mean about you if you ask for what you need, or if you ask for support?  This was a question submitted in the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram. If you want to drop your own topic suggestions make sure you join the Broadcast Channel by clicking here: Codependency Alchemy Broadcast ChannelResources:CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDCatch the Healing the Mother Wound Masterclass Replay on SubstackCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
When There is an Imbalance in Your Relationship
Mar 13 2024
When There is an Imbalance in Your Relationship
When one partner consistently over-gives or seeks to create comfort for the other, a pattern emerges—one that often stems from deep-seated codependent tendencies rooted in fears of abandonment and rejection. In this episode we explore how these patterns manifest, the toll they take on both partners, and how to navigate towards healthier, more balanced relationships. Resources:CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
Are You Anxious, Avoidant, or Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style?
Feb 21 2024
Are You Anxious, Avoidant, or Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style?
This week we're talking about insecure attachment styles! We'll uncover the roots of anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles. From understanding childhood traumas to its impact on our adult relationships, we'll explore how self-awareness, vulnerability, and personal responsibility can pave the way towards earned secure attachment, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
Did I Just Do That? Healing Anxious Attachment in Conflicts
Feb 14 2024
Did I Just Do That? Healing Anxious Attachment in Conflicts
In this episode, Alyssa shares her personal journey of navigating conflict with a dysregulated partner while healing from an insecure attachment style. We'll talk about setting boundaries with compassion, creating space for your partner's emotions without feeling the need to "fix" them, and trusting in the resilience of both yourself and your partner. If you've struggled with anxious attachment or fearful avoidant attachment in your relationships, this episode offers gives you a real life experience of what conflicts can look like when you're stepping into earned secure attachment.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
Discover Your Shadow Self
Feb 7 2024
Discover Your Shadow Self
In this episode Alyssa Zander will give four prompts that will help you in understanding your shadow self. Learn how staying curious opens your heart and eases the ego, paving the way for self-reflection and personal growth.Explore powerful journal prompts to meet your shadow self. Uncover the nuances of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors by bringing curiosity to situations that trigger strong reactions.Discover how asking why certain aspects of your personality make you uncomfortable can lead to greater self-awareness, unveiling potential elements of your shadow self.Engage in honest and open journaling about your experiences. Identify recurring patterns in your thoughts and behaviors to uncover themes of your shadow self.Learn about what your shadow aspects need from you instead of suppressing them. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
Navigating Relationship Triggers: Taking Responsibility for Your Emotional Safety
Jan 31 2024
Navigating Relationship Triggers: Taking Responsibility for Your Emotional Safety
In this episode, Alyssa Zander addresses a listener's question on managing triggers within a current relationship. Discover three transformative strategies that have personally supported Alyssa in navigating relationship triggers, highlighting the importance of taking personal responsibility for emotional safety.Learn about how triggers often arise when we don't feel safe within ourselves, and why it is so important to take personal responsibility for our emotional safety.Self-Regulation and Co-Regulation: Understand the two-fold approach to managing triggers.Discover how practicing self-compassion and sharing your healing journey with your partner, with consent, can deepen understanding and connection.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
No Spark? The Reality of Healthy Relationships and Unresolved Trauma
Jan 24 2024
No Spark? The Reality of Healthy Relationships and Unresolved Trauma
In this episode, Alyssa opens up about the journey of her relationship, exploring the nuances of a healthy, consistent connection and the unexpected challenges she faced. Discover the hidden dynamics that can arise in healthy relationships, and how unresolved trauma can impact our perception of love.Uncover the subtle triggers that may arise and how they are invitations to heal unresolved trauma.Explore the concept of self-sabotage in healthy relationships, particularly for those who have experienced trauma. Personal share about things I wish I had done differently in the beginning.Want to hear Part 2: The Breakup? Let me know in the poll or the comments!🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
Breaking Through Depression: Confronting Intrusive Thoughts with Empowering Questions
Jan 17 2024
Breaking Through Depression: Confronting Intrusive Thoughts with Empowering Questions
In this deeply personal episode, Alyssa Zander shares a vulnerable moment of navigating through a depressive state and intrusive thoughts that sent her spiraling. Discover three empowering questions that guided Alyssa through the darkness and can support you in moments of discomfort or when you are feeling stuck.Move from victim consciousness to empowerment by exploring the wisdom and teachings within challenging experiences.Illuminate the traits you are being invited to embody during moments of depression, providing a guiding anchor to filter your experiences through.Reality check intrusive thoughts and align your thoughts with how you desire to feel, creating a shift in your emotional state.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Oprah's Super Soul Conversations with Michael Bernard Beckwith: Participate in Your UnfoldingWhy People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & JoyCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
How to Regulate Your Nervous System When You’re Fighting with Your Partner
Dec 13 2023
How to Regulate Your Nervous System When You’re Fighting with Your Partner
Conflicts can bring out the worst in us, and they can also be catalysts for the deepest kinds of connection and intimacy. In this episode I share about what to do to avoid the nasty cut-throat interactions so that you can have heart-opening conversations that lead to productive and desired outcomes, for everyone.🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & Joy
Dec 6 2023
Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & Joy
Let's talk about people-pleasing, codependency, "making other people happy brings me happiness" and where this way of relating can actually be keeping you from accessing your authentic joy. Genuine happiness in relationships is built from an overflow of trust, safety, and love that's been cultivated from within yourself first. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Shadow Work Prompts for People-Pleasing Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe
When You Can't Stand Your Partner
Nov 15 2023
When You Can't Stand Your Partner
We've all been there (I think 😅) where you just can't stand your partner and you're at your wits end. In this episode I share something that has helped me overcome my limited perceptions of my partner and others so that I could experience more love and joy in my life and relationships. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or review so that other people can receive support and find the podcast!Resources:Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community. Use this link and save on The Membership! The Codependency Assessment: 10 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. (USE PROMO CODE "PODCAST" TO GET 50% OFF)Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, & BookBaby BookstoreLet's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!Support the show This is a public episode. If you’d like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit alyssaaazander.substack.com/subscribe