Isolated but Not Alone

James Rains

The Isolated but Not Alone podcast features James Rains and guests as they bring mental health awareness to rural and isolated communities through a unique combination of psychology and theology. Through engagement with these communities through questions submitted by listeners, stories, interviews, and conversations, James seeks to dive into the deep places of the heart and mind that are not readily addressed in society, especially in communities that do not have access to these and other mental health resources that are often readily available in larger urban communities. Join him and his guests as they seek to teach, inform, and gain knowledge from these rural and isolated communities as well as mental health communities at large as they engage with this podcast. James Rains is a mental health advocate, mental health practitioner, avid storyteller, and lecturer! For nearly two decades, he has been writing and telling stories that captivate audiences of all ages and lecturing on a variety of topics including law enforcement, NASA, education, business, addiction, and mental health. James holds a bachelor’s degree in religion, a master’s degree in education, an education specialist degree, and a master's degree in Adlerian Counseling and Psychotherapy focusing on marriage and family therapy. In addition to these degrees, James had completed graduate work in modern educational techniques and business administration. He currently runs a small private practice, Harvest Counseling Services, in a rural community. He spends his free time writing, reading, collecting retro video game systems and games, traveling, and hanging with his wife, Sarah, his children, Celeste and Cora, and his dog, Horace.Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947 found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy. Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship. Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns. Nothing should be construed to be specific advice. It is for educational and entertainment purposes only. read less
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Episodes

The Family from the Christian Perspective-Mate Selection-Romance and Realty
Aug 15 2023
The Family from the Christian Perspective-Mate Selection-Romance and Realty
On this week's episode, we are going to continue our discussion on mate selection from the Christian Perspective.  Today, we are diving into romance and realty or maybe romance or realty.  So, stay tuned! The information for this podcast today comes from the book The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home written by Balswick, Balswick, and Frederick.  Please consider purchasing this book to enjoy the depth at which these author's develop a picture of the Christian Family.  Here is a link to that book:https://www.amazon.com/Family-Christian-Perspective-Contemporary-Home/dp/0801032490Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Intimacy
Jun 27 2023
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Intimacy
On this week's episode, we are going to continue to develop a theology of the family.  On this episode we are going to dig deeper into one of the relationship values, intimacy.  Intimacy, from the authors' points of view is knowing and being known.  The information for this podcast today comes from the book The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home written by Balswick, Balswick, and Frederick.  Please consider purchasing this book to enjoy the depth at which these author's develop a picture of the Christian Family.  Here is a link to that book:https://www.amazon.com/Family-Christian-Perspective-Contemporary-Home/dp/0801032490Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Empowerment
Aug 23 2022
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Empowerment
On the previous series on spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, I discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics focused on the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, we are going to continue to develop a theology of the family.  On this episode we are going to dig deeper into one of the relationship values, empowerment.   Empowerment, from the authors' points of view is serving and being served.  The information for this podcast today comes from the book The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home written by Balswick, Balswick, and Balswick.  Please consider purchasing this book to enjoy the depth at which this author's develop a picture of the Christian Family.  Here is a link to that book:https://www.amazon.com/Family-Christian-Perspective-Contemporary-Home/dp/0801032490Another book that this series discusses speaks on the subtle power of spiritual abuse.  Here is the link for that book:https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Power-Spiritual-Abuse-Manipulation/dp/0764201379Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Grace
Aug 16 2022
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Grace
On the previous series on spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, I discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics focused on the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, we are going to continue to develop a theology of the family.  On this episode we are going to dig deeper into one of the relationship values, grace.   Grace, from the authors' points of view is forgiving and being forgiven.  The information for this podcast today comes from the book The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home written by Balswick, Balswick, and Balswick.  Please consider purchasing this book to enjoy the depth at which this author's develop a picture of the Christian Family.  Here is a link to that book:https://www.amazon.com/Family-Christian-Perspective-Contemporary-Home/dp/0801032490Another book that this series discusses speaks on the subtle power of spiritual abuse.  Here is the link for that book:https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Power-Spiritual-Abuse-Manipulation/dp/0764201379Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Covenant
Jul 26 2022
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Covenant
On the previous series on spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, I discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics focused on the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, we are going to continue to develop a theology of the family.  On this episode we are going to dig deeper into one of the relationship values, covenant.   Covenant, from the authors' points of view is love and being loved.  The information for this podcast today comes from the book The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home written by Balswick, Balswick, and Balswick.  Please consider purchasing this book to enjoy the depth at which this author's develop a picture of the Christian Family.  Here is a link to that book:https://www.amazon.com/Family-Christian-Perspective-Contemporary-Home/dp/0801032490Another book that this series discusses speaks on the subtle power of spiritual abuse.  Here is the link for that book:https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Power-Spiritual-Abuse-Manipulation/dp/0764201379Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
Isolated but Not Alone: Personality Development Theories: Gestalt Theory
Jul 15 2022
Isolated but Not Alone: Personality Development Theories: Gestalt Theory
On today's episode, I'm going continue my discussion on personality development.   I have always found personality development to be interesting ever since I sat in college listening to a professor discuss whether or not there people have a soul.  In this episode, my goal is to provide a brief overview of Gestalt Theory and its approach to personality development.  This therapy came from the work of Fritz and Laura Perls and their focus on people and being more than the sum of our parts.  The therapy focuses on self awareness and confronting blocks to achieve full potential.  The majority of the educational materials for this series comes from Ginter, Roysircar, and Gerstein (2019) Theories and Applications of Counseling and Psychotherapy, which can be found at https://www.amazon.com/Theories-Applications-Counseling-Psychotherapy-Relevance/dp/1412967597Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Part 3
Jul 12 2022
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Part 3
On the previous series on spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, I discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics focused on the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, we are going to continue to develop a theology of the family.  On this episode we are going to discuss covenant, grace, empowerment, and intimacy.   We are going to focus on these components to the theology of the family as well as discuss the importance of mutuality in the health of a relationship.The information for this podcast today comes from the book The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home written by Balswick, Balswick, and Balswick.  Please consider purchasing this book to enjoy the depth at which this author's develop a picture of the Christian Family.  Here is a link to that book:https://www.amazon.com/Family-Christian-Perspective-Contemporary-Home/dp/0801032490Another book that this series discusses speaks on the subtle power of spiritual abuse.  Here is the link for that book:https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Power-Spiritual-Abuse-Manipulation/dp/0764201379Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
Isolated but Not Alone: Personality Development Theories: Person-Centered Therapy
Jul 8 2022
Isolated but Not Alone: Personality Development Theories: Person-Centered Therapy
On today's episode, I'm going continue my discussion on personality development.   I have always found personality development to be interesting ever since I sat in college listening to a professor discuss whether or not there people have a soul.  In this episode, my goal is to provide a brief overview of Person-Centered Therapy and its approach to personality development.  This therapy came from the work of Carl Rogers and his focus on self-actualization.  The therapy focuses on unconditional positive regard and empathy, which are concepts that are utilized by most therapist today even if they are doing a different type of therapy.  Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Part 2
Jul 5 2022
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Part 2
On the previous series on spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, I discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics focused on the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, we are going to continue to develop a theology of the family.  On this episode we are going to go into depth on a topic that the author's call Trinitarian Relationality.   This is a concept that discusses how we have been create in the Imago Dei, or the image of God, and this includes our minds, emotions, and will as well as our distinction and unity.  We are relational beings with unity and distinction just like God. The information for this podcast today comes from the book The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home written by Balswick, Balswick, and Balswick.  Please consider purchasing this book to enjoy the depth at which this author's develop a picture of the Christian Family.  Here is a link to that book:https://www.amazon.com/Family-Christian-Perspective-Contemporary-Home/dp/0801032490Another book is mention in the podcast that speaks on the subtle power of spiritual abuse.  Here is the link for that book:https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Power-Spiritual-Abuse-Manipulation/dp/0764201379Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
Isolated but Not Alone: Personality Development Theories: Existential Theory/Therapy
Jul 1 2022
Isolated but Not Alone: Personality Development Theories: Existential Theory/Therapy
On today's episode, I'm going continue my discussion on personality development.   I have always found personality development to be interesting ever since I sat in college listening to a professor discuss whether or not there people have a soul.  In this episode, my goal is to provide a brief overview of Existential Theory/Therapy and its approach to personality development.  Existential Theory/Therapy holds that individuals are active agents who are free and responsible.  It is focused on the meaning of life as well as the anxiety that comes from the big things in life like death, isolation, relationships, and meaning.  Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Part 1
Jun 28 2022
The Family from the Christian Perspective: Developing a Theology of the Christian Family: Part 1
On the previous series on spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, I discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics focused on the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, we are going to begin to develop a theology of the family.  One of the first things that needs to be discussed when addressing the family from the Christian perspective is how to we develop this theology?  What does it look like?  Today, we are going to focus in on the usual approach to the Christian family and Christian theology.  Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
The Family from the Christian Perspective
Jun 20 2022
The Family from the Christian Perspective
On the previous series on spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, I discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics focused on the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, I'm going to change directions on the series and discuss the family from the Christian perspective.  To introduce this topic, we need to first address how Psychology is address from this perspective.  There are "5" major views in Evangelical Christianity.  They are the Levels-of-Explanation View, the Integration View, the Christian Psychology View, the Transformational View, and the Biblical Counseling View.  This podcast episode will briefly define each focusing on the Integration View vs. the Biblical Counseling View. Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
Isolated but Not Alone: Spiritual Grooming Part 10
Jun 14 2022
Isolated but Not Alone: Spiritual Grooming Part 10
***If you would be interested in sharing your story on a future episode of Isolated but Not Alone or have your story shared, please reach out via this email, isolatedbutnotalone@outlook.com*** On today's episode, I'm continuing my discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics are the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, I'm going continue discussing the profound impacts of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse.  Like the previous episodes, I am expanding the definition of spiritual abuse and spiritual grooming focusing how it looks practically.  Today, I include a discussion on shame and provide a glimpse of the experience and fallout of grooming and abuse in hyperdrive.  ***If you would be interested in sharing your story on a future episode of Isolated but Not Alone or have your story shared, please reach out via this email, isolatedbutnotalone@outlook.com*** Here is a link to the Faithful and True Podcast on spiritual abuse,https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/faithful-true-podcast/id717296553?i=1000564049260Here is a link to Allender Center podcast on spiritual abuse, https://theallendercenter.org/2022/05/revisiting-spiritual-abuse/ and here is a link to their website where you can find all kinds of content on spiritual abuse, https://theallendercenter.orgThis is a revisitation of their original podcast series.  I want to caution listeners that this content is passionate, and my feel a little different than my normal content.  Please listen to the preface for this topic where I explain why I choose to do these episodes, why they are so passionate, and a disclaimer that I do not want to disparage anyone from their religious values or their spirituality.  I simply want to bring to light what I see as a major problem within evangelical churches especially in rural and isolate communities.  Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.***If you would be interested in sharing your story on a future episode of Isolated but Not Alone or have your story shared, please reach out via this email, isolatedbutnotalone@outlook.com***
Isolated but Not Alone: Personality Development Theories: Adler's Individual Psychology
Jun 10 2022
Isolated but Not Alone: Personality Development Theories: Adler's Individual Psychology
On today's episode, I'm going continue my discussion on personality development.   I have always found personality development to be interesting ever since I sat in college listening to a professor discuss whether or not there people have a soul.  In this episode, my goal is to provide a brief overview of Adler's Individual Psychology and approach to personality development.  Adler at one point was connected with Freud, but had disagreements with Freud in how he saw the human psyche.  Adler felt that individuals more from a "felt" minus to a "perceived" plus.  He also felt that the internal workings of the mind did not fight for dominance as Freud suggested but instead worked together for that purpose.  Adlerian psychotherapy is still practiced today, and a lot of his concepts helped inform many of the theories of therapy that currently are used in the realm of mental health treatment.  Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
Isolated but Not Alone: Spiritual Grooming Part 9
Jun 7 2022
Isolated but Not Alone: Spiritual Grooming Part 9
On today's episode, I'm continuing my discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics are the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, I'm going continue discussing the profound impacts of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse.  Like the previous episodes, I am expanding the definition of spiritual abuse and spiritual grooming focusing how it looks practically.  I also discuss an episodes of the Faith and True Podcast where they discuss spiritual abuse.  Here is a link to the Faithful and True Podcast on spiritual abuse,https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/faithful-true-podcast/id717296553?i=1000564049260Here is a link to Allender Center podcast on spiritual abuse, https://theallendercenter.org/2022/05/revisiting-spiritual-abuse/ and here is a link to their website where you can find all kinds of content on spiritual abuse, https://theallendercenter.orgThis is a revisitation of their original podcast series.  I want to caution listeners that this content is passionate, and my feel a little different than my normal content.  Please listen to the preface for this topic where I explain why I choose to do these episodes, why they are so passionate, and a disclaimer that I do not want to disparage anyone from their religious values or their spirituality.  I simply want to bring to light what I see as a major problem within evangelical churches especially in rural and isolate communities.  Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
Isolated but Not Alone: Spiritual Grooming Part 8
May 17 2022
Isolated but Not Alone: Spiritual Grooming Part 8
On today's episode, I'm continuing my discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics are the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, I'm going continue discussing the profound impacts of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse.  I add to the definition of spiritual abuse as well as discuss how it may look practically inside and outside of religious institutions.   I also discuss a social media post that was sent to me that was a perfect example of spiritual abuse.  Here is a link to Allender Center podcast on spiritual abuse, https://theallendercenter.org/2022/05/revisiting-spiritual-abuse/ and here is a link to their website where you can find all kinds of content on spiritual abuse, https://theallendercenter.orgThis is a revisitation of their original podcast series.  I want to caution listeners that this content is passionate, and my feel a little different than my normal content.  Please listen to the preface for this topic where I explain why I choose to do these episodes, why they are so passionate, and a disclaimer that I do not want to disparage anyone from their religious values or their spirituality.  I simply want to bring to light what I see as a major problem within evangelical churches especially in rural and isolate communities.  Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.
Isolated but Not Alone: Spiritual Grooming Part 7
May 10 2022
Isolated but Not Alone: Spiritual Grooming Part 7
On today's episode, I'm continuing my discussion on a current situation that is having a profound impact on me that has all kinds of intersectionality within the rural and isolated communities in which I have interaction and reside.   The topics are the difficult and complex issues of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse, which I believe often leads to sexual abuse but not always.  Spiritual grooming has become an epidemic in evangelical communities and is often subtle affecting children and adults.  It is subtle because it uses our spirituality against us, and causes us to distrust ourselves and our buddies in order to trust others who claim that what they are saying comes from God.  On this week's episode, I'm going continue discussing the profound impacts of spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse.   I also give my own personal story as to how I learned about spiritual grooming and spiritual abuse from listening to an Allender Center Podcast and its hosts Dr. Dan Allender and his team, specifically Rachael Clinton Chen.  Here is a link to their podcast on spiritual abuse, https://theallendercenter.org/2022/05/revisiting-spiritual-abuse/ and here is a link to their website where you can find all kinds of content on spiritual abuse, https://theallendercenter.orgThis is a revisitation of their original podcast series.  I want to caution listeners that this content is passionate, and my feel a little different than my normal content.  Please listen to the preface for this topic where I explain why I choose to do these episodes, why they are so passionate, and a disclaimer that I do not want to disparage anyone from their religious values or their spirituality.  I simply want to bring to light what I see as a major problem within evangelical churches especially in rural and isolate communities.  Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds, ambient-atmospheric-4947, found at https://cdn.pixabay.com/download/audio/2021/06/07/audio_cdfb955189.mp3?filename=ambient-atmospheric-4947.mp3National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673Crisis Text Line - Text “MN” to 741741Call 911 for emergencyThis and other content produced by James Rains is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.  Nothing in this podcast creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.  Please seek help from your therapist or seek help from one in your area if you are experiencing any mental health concerns.  Nothing should be construed to be specific advice.  It is for educational and entertainment purposes only.