Respect Circles - The Podcast

From the beginning, our mission with Respect Circles has been to foster open communication, learning, and respectful dialogue. We’ve referenced the importance of deliberate listening, and we’ve specifically mentioned a popular past episode of Respect Circles about this subject. That’s why we thought it would be timely to present a special encore of that episode on becoming a deliberate listener, for listeners who haven’t yet heard that discussion, or as a refresher for long-time listeners to deepen their learning. Deliberate listening can dramatically improve the quality of our conversations and, in turn, our personal and professional relationships. In this episode, we discuss the importance of becoming a better listener, because so often we jump to our own biases and form judgments before truly processing what the other person is saying. What might be possible if we just listened more? Let’s find out!  Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and thank you for leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message, or by email, respectcircles@gmail.com.  In this episode you’ll hear:  Personal experiences we have both had where we noticed a lack of listening taking place [6:53] A big lesson about learning that AJ has learned along the way [13:05] Tips for how we can all become better listeners [15:42] Specific questions to ask yourself to assess whether you area good listener [16:30] What the 3 levels of listening are, and why they’re all important to be aware of [17:17] The tremendous gift that deliberate listening can give you [23:11] Why slowing down is such a powerful tool in the listening process [27:08] Self-assessments of our own listening skills [30:32] Links & Resources:  The Power of Deliberate Listening | Ronnie Polaneczky | TEDxPhiladelphia Three Levels of Listening - Co-Active Coaching: Henry Kmsey-House, Karen Kimsey-House, Phillip Sandhal, and Laura Whitworth, authors.  https://amzn.to/3mG7RDd Theory U: Levels of Listening:  Otto Scharmer, author. https://amzn.to/2WXTx00 Be a Better Listener - Assess Yourself:  https://bit.ly/3DvSKD5

In our last episode, we looked back at some of our most impactful conversations and we talked about how we can put what we have learned into action. At the time we were recording, another school shooting had just occurred in Nashville, Tennessee, where three 9-year old children and three teachers were killed. We shared our frustration at the escalation of gun violence here in the United States, and the apparent lack of action to change it. In this episode, we decided to call B.S. on the complacency and lack of real action on this critical issue.  The solutions should be common sense, as this is really about saving lives, and yet the country is more divided than ever. We all have to be a part of the public outcry for real change, right now, and in this episode, we explore how we can do just that.  We also provide some helpful information in the links below.  Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and thank you for leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message, or by email, respectcircles@gmail.com.  In this episode you’ll hear: Our opinions on gun control in light of the recent events in this country [3:42]  The bigger picture to focus on when it comes to gun control legislation [9:38] A video that brought together both sides of the gun issue and how it can help show us where we can go from here [17:25]  The role that Hollywood and video games play in the infatuation that Americans have with guns and gun culture [18:22] What we are seeing being put in place as the trends turn to better gun legislation [23:29]  How you can reach your elected officials and let your stance be known right now [32:47] Introducing our Models of Respect for this week [36:10] Links & Resources:  50: Celebrating 50!  In Britain, it took just one school shooting to pass major gun control (NPR) YouTube: Pro-Gun Vs. Anti-Gun: Is There Middle Ground? These are the gun control laws passed in 2022 (CNN) 2023 Everytown Gun Law Rankings Permitless Carry States: https://www.handgunlaw.us/documents/Permitless_Carry_States.pdf Washington Post - The Destructive Power of an AR-15  Angel Reese Janie's Life-Changing Bakery

It’s the 50th episode of Respect Circles, and we’re excited to take this opportunity to celebrate all the great conversations and guests we’ve had on the podcast the last year and a half!  In this episode, we reflect upon some of our most meaningful lessons and share what we hope to carry forward from our learning.  We want to thank each of you who has listened, subscribed and shared our podcast, and provided feedback and encouragement along the way.  We’re looking forward to all the good that is possible as we continue to grow and expand our reach.   Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and thank you for leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message, or by email, respectcircles@gmail.com. In this episode you’ll hear:  AJ’s take on the first 50 episodes of Respect Circles [7:13] The one episode that really showed us what is possible [8:08] AJ’s retirement plans and this relates to our episode on climbing our second mountain [10:29] A specific episode he views as a gift and that gave us a whole new perspective on the Jewish experience [13:06] The episode that really got AJ thinking about what’s fair versus what’s acceptable [14:08] Why the episodes on listening are some of Stephanie’s favorites [16:13]  A topic that has really challenged our thinking, and some possible solutions for what can be done about it right now [18:47] Introducing our Models of Respect for this week [30:56]    Links & Resources:  31: The CROWN Act: I Am More Than My Hair  36: Climbing Your Second Mountain: Creating Joy and Leaving a Legacy In the Second Half of Your Life  5: Spotlight on Resilience: How Dziko Singleton is Paying It Forward 25: The Jewish Experience: Why is Anti-Semitism On the Rise? 27: Fair and Inclusive Athletic Competition: Competing As a Trans Athlete  7: Becoming A Deliberate Listener  47: Survival & Forgiveness: Powerful Lessons with Dylan Pryor & Cory Spain  48: Connecting Across Our Differences  Harnarayan Singh (Canadian Sports Announcer) 'Not even our husbands knew!' The women who have been secretly delivering cakes to underprivileged families for over 30 YEARS (The 9 Nanas)

When we think about the documents that have framed and influenced our nation, there are few that are more important than The Declaration of Independence. While there were a number of edits and updates made to Jefferson’s original version, one thing that remained constant or consistent throughout were the rights that were given to all Americans for things like life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.  For many years, researchers have studied the meaning of happiness, which has provided valuable clues to what it takes to live happy and healthy lives. Most recently however, reports have shown that we’ve hit a 50-year low as a nation, which is why we wanted to look at this topic, the pursuit of happiness, on the podcast today. We want this episode to be a reminder for all of us to enjoy the ride that is this life, be present in the moment, and allow happiness to flow into our lives.  Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you subscribing and leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts.  In this episode you’ll hear:  Our take on whether relationships and community are the keys to a happy life, and an important distinction to make between happiness and joy [3:43] Why we think people are so unhappy right now [9:40]  AJ’s personal experience with a job that he thought was going to make him happy, and what he would do differently if he could do it over again [12:06] The critical role that expectations play when it comes to happiness, and what are the external influences behind these expectations [16:20]  Our tips and what we really want you to understand about the pursuit of happiness [24:53] Introducing our Models of Respect for this week [31:15] Links & Resources:  The secret to happiness? Here’s some advice from the longest-running study on happiness How to Find Happiness (Psychology Today)  Americans Offer Gloomy State of the Nation Report (Gallup) 48: Connecting Across Our Differences  Richard Williams & LaVar Ball Jason Arday Was Diagnosed With Autism As A Child And Will Now Be The Youngest Black Professor At The University Of Cambridge

In this episode, join us as we explore the cultural divide in our country and discuss what it means to be proud of who you are and where you come from.  What do you hear when someone says they are proud to be black?  And how does the meaning change if they are proud to be white?   What’s possible if we learn to connect across our differences?  This concept is an important part of our mission here at Respect Circles, and in this episode we deepen  the discussion about the ‘whys’ behind the cultural divide and keep looking for ways to foster respect and dignity for everyone, everywhere. Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you subscribing and leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts.  In this episode you’ll hear: Stephanie reads a powerful paragraph from a book that inspired today’s topic and episode [1:53]  How we would describe what a culture war is, some historical background and what researchers are saying about it [3:21]  An interesting conversation that AJ had with his daughter and how it relates to culture [10:42]  What pride is, plus how it can trap or save us [13:02]  The struggle the country is facing in the redefinition of America [23:45] An interesting look at AJ’s experiences with affinity groups in the workplace [28:19]  A look at why pride is nothing to be proud of [29:57] Introducing our Models of Respect for this week [39:17] Links & Resources:  TikTok Video   Vermont state rep: ‘I’m proud to be white’  Use Your Difference To Make a Difference by Tayo Rockson Aspects & Assumptions Of White Culture  Psychology Today Article, Why Pride Is Nothing to Be Proud Of  Whitney Houston - Greatest Love Of All (Official Video) The Odd Life of Timothy Green - Have a Great Day SceneAfter traumatic early childhood, high school football star uses fame to help foster kids Carter: Still a model for candidates asking 'Why not me?'

On today’s episode of Respect Circles, we are honored to be joined by guests Dylan Pryor and Cory ​​Spain, as they share their perspectives of a tragic incident that happened 5 years ago in Lone Tree, Colorado.  March 22nd, 2018 is a day that neither Cory or Dylan will forget, and in this episode, they share the events of that day and the powerful lessons they have learned from it, including the power of forgiveness, what true friendship really is, why adversity does not need to define you, and how to become better, not bitter, in the face of challenging times. You’ll also hear what matters most to them after experiencing an act of gun violence, which we think is timely due to the rising incidents of gun violence in this country.  We are so grateful that Cory and Dylan stopped by and were so open and vulnerable in sharing their story, and if this beautiful conversation has impacted you as it did for us, please reach out and let us know your biggest takeaways from the episode. Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts.  In this episode you’ll hear: How Cory and Dylan first met and started their friendship, and what this friendship really means to them today [5:05] The day in 2018 that changed both of their lives forever [8:51] The way that Cory responded after realizing that his friend had been shot twice [15:01] What happened in those moments after Dylan got shot, and what the recovery journey was like for him [19:21] What they’ve learned about the choice to be bitter or better, along with the power of forgiveness [26:33] A look at the justice path and how the sentencing process unfolded from their perspectives [32:31] Cory shares an actual part of his testimony from court [38:18]] Dylan’s thoughts on the increasing amount of guns in the United States and how he feels about gun ownership [43:34] The importance of mental health care and support, plus why prioritizing your mental health is truly a gift to yourself and the ones you love [48:45] How Dylan is moving forward from what he experienced that night in the bowling alley [54:12]  Links & Resources:  Suspect in Lone Tree bowling alley shooting surrenders to authorities Jury can't reach decision on most serious charge related to bowling alley shooting Man shoots bowler who bumped into him, receives 23 years Cory’s Instagram, Facebook & Email Dylan’s Instagram & Email

At the time of this recording, it’s been two and a half years since the murder of George Floyd.  As we kick off Black History Month in February, it feels relevant and timely to look back and to see what progress has been made since his death.  We believe one of the ways we continue to create a more just society is to ensure all citizens are provided the same rights, protections, pursuit of happiness and justice that are still important to us...and to keep having the hard conversations about it. We also want to look at what opportunities still lie ahead.  Each of us has something to offer moving forward, and, as Maya Angelou said, “When we know better, we should do better!”  How are you doing with our #MOVE365 initiative?  Comment below and then share your efforts and successes on social media and tag us @respectcircles in your post.  We’ll share your posts in our stories and may even give away some prizes as we kick off the year with #MOVE365!  And as we’ve been doing the last few months, we’re excited to share our latest nominees for our new Models of Respect segment, highlighting people in the world that are living and demonstrating our Respect Circles values. If you have someone in mind that you’d like to nominate and have featured on a future episode, please let us know!  Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts. In this episode you’ll hear: An update on how we’re doing with the #MOVE365 Challenge [1:28] What Black History Month means to AJ [3:45] Our thoughts on the recent events with the Florida governor trying to ban all studies of AP African American history [5:46] The meaning of Black History Month for Stephanie [8:31] Some of the positive changes we have seen since the tragic killing of George Floyd [9:37] What the term “defund the police” actually means, and how some municipalities are allocating budgets to build more of a justice system [11:09] The biggest change AJ has seen since the killing of George Floyd [15:15] The opportunities we feel lie in policy and organizational changes in this country [17:58] How 2022 was a record year for police killings, and what needs to happen right now  [22:47] Some of the ways that our education system needs help and reform [23:48] Key ways that you can help support real change in this country [27:20] Honoring our Models of Respect for the Week [31:37]   Links & Resources: 45: Modern Friendship: Meeting People Where They Are 34: How A Horse Can Improve Your Mental Health (Part 1) & 35: How A Horse Can Improve Your Mental Health (Part 2) Reins of Hope Website & Donation Link  Our Instagram Post with Their Photos

Today we discuss our perspectives on friendship, exploring what it means to be a friend and what happens when what we give in a relationship feels out of balance. As we share our own personal  experiences, we’ll talk about ways that each of us can show up as the best version of ourselves for the friends in our lives.  How are you doing with our  #MOVE365 initiative?  Comment below and then share your efforts and successes on social media and tag us @respectcircles in your post.  We’ll share your posts in our stories and may even give away some prizes as we kick off the year with #MOVE365!  And as we’ve been doing the last few months, we’re excited to share our latest nominees for our new Models of Respect segment, highlighting people in the world that are living and demonstrating our Respect Circles values. If you have someone in mind that you’d like to nominate and have featured on a future episode, please let us know!  Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts.  In this episode you’ll hear: The importance of meeting your friends where they are and the role this plays in friendship [3:34] What happens when what you are giving out in a friendship is not reciprocated [3:56] A major realization that Stephanie has made about friendship and what she can, and can’t, control in the relationship [7:07] A recent experience AJ had with one of his close friends and the lesson he got about putting yourself in your friends’ shoes [11:30] Reflections about friendship that he had following a horrific event that recently happened in Colorado [16:58] How you can find ways to learn about other cultures and things that are important to the friends in your life [21:13] Questions that you can begin asking yourself right now to determine how you are showing up as a friend to others [23:55] Highlighting this week’s Models of Respect [24:53] Links & Resources:  Gunman kills 5 at LGBTQ nightclub in Colorado Springs before patrons confront and stop him, police say Ana Navarro Takes Her Dad to a Drag Brunch on New Year’s Day Sports league provides opportunity for kids with special needs (Ashley White - Hanover, Virginia) Mel Robbins on Instagram

Happy New Year! This time of year is such a fun time of gift giving and celebration with the people that we love, so today we thought it would be timely to share our perspectives on this timely topic.  Gift giving looks different for everybody, and is very personal, so we hope that what we share today helps you be more intentional when giving, and receiving, gifts!  Movement is medicine, and ​we all know we need to move more, which is why we’re introducing #MOVE365.  We may have gotten out of the habit over the past 2-3 years as we’ve worked from home and stayed in more (thanks pandemic!)   But it’s time to get moving. ​We’re not “New Year’s resolution” people, but we do love the energy that comes with the start of a new year.  So for all of 2023, we’re committing to moving EVERY day.  Some days will be more strenuous, others will be rest days where we’ll still move, even if just going for a walk or playing outside. Most of all, we can all find a little more fun as we build more movement into our lives! ​Are you in?  Comment below and then share your efforts and successes on social media and tag us @respectcircles in your post.  We’ll share your posts in our stories and may even give away some prizes as we kick off the year with #MOVE365!  And as we’ve been doing the last few months, we’re excited to share our latest nominees for our new Models of Respect segment, highlighting people in the world that are living and demonstrating our Respect Circles values. If you have someone in mind that you’d like to nominate and have featured on a future episode, please let us know!  Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts.  In this episode you’ll hear: Our experiences with gift giving this most recent Christmas [3:21]  The type of gift givers we are and some funny stories we have around gift giving [7:51] What we think is behind the societal pressures of gift giving [13:41] How to approach balancing out the meaning, use and value of gift giving [15:55] What we think we can do to be better at gift giving in the future [19:51] Exciting details on our #MOVE365 initiative we recently announced on social media [22:16] What AJ’s will be focusing on in 2023 when it comes to implementing more movement, and why he’s approaching this process in chunks and increments [25:25] How becoming more intentional about movement, no matter how small the amount, will pay great dividends in your life [26:37] The way that we plan to be saying “Yes” to more opportunities in this new year, and why we are doing this [27:16] Introducing this week’s Models of Respect who have demonstrated extraordinary acts of kindness [28:52] Links & Resources:  Hidden Brain Podcast:  The Secret to Gift Giving Buffalo man hailed a hero for saving lives during deadly blizzard Buffalo couple takes in stranded tourists amid monstrous winter storm

Here we are at the end of 2022, and in this episode, we take time to reflect on some of our topics this past year, as well as what we’re proud of at Respect Circles. We also look forward to what else is possible with this platform we’ve built, and to consider the conversations ahead this upcoming year.  Looking forward, there are so many topics we want to talk about, including the importance of reducing the stigma associated with focusing on mental health, as well as how critical self-care and movement are to our overall well-being. In this episode, we explore different ways to show up as better neighbors and to recreate the sense of community that was somewhat lost through the pandemic, along with more topics that we’re excited to explore. A lot happened in 2022, and we know we’re just scratching the surface with what we, along with you, can achieve with Respect Circles. We wish you and your loved ones the very best this holiday season, and we can’t wait to bring you more episodes in the new year!  And as we’ve been doing the last few weeks, we’re excited to share our latest nominees for our new Models of Respect segment, highlighting people in the world that are living and demonstrating our Respect Circles values. If you have someone in mind that you’d like to nominate and have featured on a future episode, please let us know!  Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts. In this episode you’ll hear: A retrospect of this past year, our greatest hopes for 2023, and what we are proud of having accomplished so far [1:07] Why it’s so important for us to reduce the stigma that often comes along with seeking help for our mental health [6:50] The ways in which we want to be role models for promoting the link between self-care and movement [9:38] What we have planned to help people get out of their own way, and what this really means [12:02] Why the need is so great for all of us to show up as neighbors, citizens, and friends [13:28] Stephanie’s goals for the new year, including how she plans to help people learn to communicate more effectively with others [16:12] Our reflection on why we created Respect Circles in the first place, and our thoughts on the current state of gun violence in this country [17:57] Introducing a few more very deserving Models of Respect that we want to honor [22:40]  Links & Resources:  https://www.respectcircles.com/14-spotlight-on-generosity-how-greta-randolphs-outreach-is-impacting-lives/

Here in the United States, we just held midterm elections that broke all kinds of expectations and historical trends. Although the house will have a Republican majority by a very slim margin, the “red wave” of wins that was projected across the country did not happen, even though typically the party of the sitting President does poorly in the midterms. In this episode, we’re going to dive deeper into what these results mean, and again talk about the divisions that exist in this country and the communication challenges that come as a result of this divide.  Now more than ever, it feels like the voices at the extreme, or the “fringes”, are getting louder and louder, and we want to explore this and do our part to see how we can all listen and move away from these extremes.   And as we’ve been doing the last few weeks, we’re excited to share our latest nominees for our new Models of Respect segment, highlighting people in the world that are living and demonstrating our Respect Circles values. If you have someone in mind that you’d like to nominate and have featured on a future episode, please let us know!  Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts.  In this episode you’ll hear: What we are observing on the fringes of both sides of the political spectrum, and where AJ feels we are right now as a society and how we can do things differently [3:01] A closer look at the concept of “naive realism” and how this applies to political views in our country at this moment [5:13] A life-altering experience that AJ had and how it made him realize he was moving towards the fringes himself [7:18] Why the candidate race in Georgia has been garnering so much attention and the many surprises that came out of this race [13:40]  A discussion around the question of why certain demographics support each of the candidates [15:49] What people can or should do, and how we can start the journey back from the fringes [24:50] The role that conversational receptiveness plays in listening today [26:50]  Announcing our Models of Respect for this week [33:00]

Today we want to take some time to dive into the topic of respect in America, or the lack thereof, that we might be seeing and feeling these days. As we’ve shared, we started Respect Circles because we recognized a growing divide in this country, partially due to people not listening to each other or communicating effectively. We’ve seen the behavior and harm this has caused, and believe our podcast is one way to open up broader conversations, have respectful debates, and move things forward together.  And we’re excited to share our latest nominees for our new Models of Respect segment, highlighting people in the world that are living and demonstrating our Respect Circles values. If you have someone in mind that you’d like to nominate and have featured on a future episode, please let us know!  Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts.  In this episode you’ll hear: A discussion around the question of what it truly means to be an American [3:09] AJ’s family history and how that influences the ways that he feels about being American [5:50]  The shifts that we are seeing online and on the various social media platforms, and what we think can be done to help people have more respect for one another [9:05] One of the main reasons why we may be seeing and hearing more individuals act out at this point in time [10:28] What each of us will be committing to this week and an opportunity that exists for you as well [15:52] A celebration for our latest Models of Respect [26:32] An invitation for you to appear on Respect Circles, have a conversation and perhaps challenge us, respectfully  [32:22]  Links & Resources:  https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2022/10/covid-response-forgiveness/671879/ https://www.ted.com/talks/t_morgan_dixon_and_vanessa_garrison_the_trauma_of_systematic_racism_is_killing_black_women_a_first_step_toward_change World Central Kitchen (Chef José Andrés):  https://wck.org/

It’s been an interesting and challenging time for business, companies, and organizations post-pandemic. The work environment changed, both throughout the pandemic and since, and both leaders and employees are trying to navigate this new world.  How do companies re-engage their people, and how do workers gain the new skills that are necessary to operate in a changed workplace where remote and/or hybrid work is the new norm in many situations?  Creating new ways of operating together presents both challenges and new opportunities.  Today we share our thoughts about what we’ve learned throughout our own leadership journeys and open a conversation about what might be possible moving forward.   We hope to provoke new thinking and inspire you, as a manager or employee, to be a part of creating a workplace that looks much different than it did just a few years ago.   We also talk about “quiet quitting” and “quiet firing” and what it really means in the business arena.   And we’re excited to share our latest nominees for our new Models of Respect segment, highlighting people in the world that are living and demonstrating our Respect Circles values.   Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts.  In this episode you’ll hear: What is “quiet quitting” and how to approach it from a discretionary standpoint as a manager, and the way that co-workers can make a positive impact in these situations [2:24] The “3 C’s” that AJ looks for with employee engagement, plus how leaders can use this framework to notice when an employee is disengaged [8:00] What can be done to help leaders get the skills needed, change their mindsets and to learn how to communicate differently [12:15] A look at “quiet firing” and the impact that it can have on company culture and objectives [15:43] Why support at work is also a responsibility of the team as a whole, and not just on the manager [19:37] Action steps to create the work environment of the future both from a business owner and an employee perspective [22:57]  A challenge AJ has for older generations of leaders who experienced relationship-building in a different format that what typically exists today [26:53] Our Models of Respect for this week and why we are so inspired by these individuals [28:37]  Links & Resources:  https://www.cnbc.com/2019/05/28/who-recognizes-workplace-burnout-as-an-occupational-phenomenon.html   https://www.forbes.com/sites/davidmorel/2022/10/24/its-time-to-speak-up-about-quiet-firing--and-what-to-do-instead/?sh=2459f1fd6a98 https://www.gallup.com/workplace/398306/quiet-quitting-real.aspx?version=print https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbesbusinesscouncil/2021/08/12/will-the-gig-economy-become-the-new-working-class-norm/?sh=6d5912b8aee6 https://www.cbsnews.com/video/rabbi-angela-buchdahl-on-the-rise-in-antisemitism-its-roots-and-common-misconceptions-1/ https://www.respectcircles.com/25-the-jewish-experience-why-is-anti-semitism-on-the-rise/  The Three Signs of a Miserable Job: A Fable for Managers (And Their Employees) by Patrick Lencioni

We’re back, and thank you for joining us once again! We took a break over the summer to recharge, regroup, and spend a little time with our families, and we’re so excited that we’ll again be bringing you thought-provoking and meaningful conversations, as we dive into some new topics on the podcast.  We’ve both really missed having these conversations and we feel, more than ever, that helping people know how they can approach these topics with others is really needed, and we’ll be doing our own work as we continue on this path with you as well.  In this episode, you’ll hear how there is an opportunity right now, and especially over the next few weeks leading up to the midterm elections in the U.S., to get curious about the information being presented and think about where you are getting it from. Look for some different resources and perspectives, and see if you can come away with a balanced approach to deciding who is best for your local community, your state, and the nation as we move forward. So, get involved, because now is not the time to sit on the sidelines!  We have an exciting new segment debuting today where we highlight people who we refer to as “Models of Respect”, and who demonstrate the values of Respect Circles that we promote here and that inspire both of us each and every day. If you have someone you’d like to suggest for this segment and we can feature in an upcoming episode, go to our website, https://respectcircles.com/ and let us know who that person is and why you feel they are such a good role model for others. Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram and Facebook, and we’d really appreciate you leaving a review on your favorite podcast platform to let us know what you’re enjoying about this show. You can also go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts.  Again, we’re so happy to be back having these conversations, and we’re looking forward to bringing you another topic and episode very soon. In this episode you’ll hear: A look at what’s happened since we took a break for the podcast, and how we’re seeing the divide in our country growing larger [2:44] Why the upcoming United States midterms may just be the more important elections we’ve ever had in this country [4:59] Questions you can ask to start determining if character, and voting, still matters [6:19] How Stephanie is getting informed through international media [8:07] Our thoughts on the recent Dobb’s decision on abortion in the United States and why it’s something that we need to pay attention to [11:19] A personal experience that Stephanie had, and how the laws of today could have impacted her if they were in effect at the time [18:29] The ways that AJ is trying to find a more moderation position, and how he’s keeping the messages talked about on this podcast in mind [20:59] The challenge we have for you, and the opportunity that exists for all of us at this point in time [26:11] A look at our first “Models of Respect” that we are now featuring as a segment of the podcast [30:07]  Links & Resources:   31: The CROWN Act: I Am More Than My Hair BBC News & Al Jazeera  The Impact of Legalized Abortion on Crime (2001 Study)  Texas Woman Nearly Loses Her Life After Doctors Can't Legally Perform an Abortion: 'Their Hands Were Tied'  MacKenzie Scott’s latest $84.5 million donation could transform Girl Scouts as you know them Tracee Ellis Ross’s Docuseries with Oprah Winfrey, The Hair Tales  John Legend’s Powerful Op-Ed on Supporting Criminal Justice Reforms: ‘The Future and Freedoms of Our Country Depend on Them’

It was late last summer when we decided to expand our Respect Circles conversations to the airways by starting this podcast. Since that time, we’ve had some incredible guests and have covered topics that are so meaningful. Today we thought it would be fun to reflect back on some of our most memorable episodes, the ones that really stood out to us, and share what we’ve learned from them and the actions we’ve taken as a result.   We want to share that we’ll be taking a pause after this episode with the podcast, for at least the summer, as we consider what our future offerings may look like. We’ve gotten a lot of ideas based on your feedback for what’s needed in the world today, and we want to make sure that we’re taking time to really consider how to make the most meaningful impact that we possibly can.  We can’t wait for the next chapter as we continue to move forward stepping into the space of making human connections on a different scale. We’re sure that this will give us the opportunity to do this work in a way that will continue to resonate with the audience, but also feed our souls.  Stay tuned to our social media, Instagram and Facebook, and we’ll keep you posted on future developments. We’d love to get your input on what you’d like to see us offer next, whether it’s in the community or corporate space, and how you think we can make the biggest difference. You can go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message and you can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com to give us your thoughts.  Thanks so much for your support and being a part of this amazing journey (so far!) and we can’t wait to see what’s next!

Today we are joined by a very special guest, Jodi O’Donnell-Ames, as we learn about her journey and the amazing work she is doing to make a difference in the world and the lives of others. Jodi is a speaker, coach, author, and founder of Hope Loves Company - a non-profit organization with the mission of supporting children and young adults who love someone with ALS. Jodi’s story of caring for her husband as he lived with, and eventually passed away from, ALS is a powerful one. In this episode, she helps us open up a dialogue on ALS, the experiences she had in caring for her husband, her own process of grief and healing, and the ways she now helps others who are dealing with difficult loss.  We also explore some of the challenges that people who have limited mobility face daily, and how we can all be more aware and advocate for increased accessibility for all. It’s a big issue that most of us may not think about if it doesn’t impact us directly, but we can all be part of the solution in minimizing and eliminating these barriers.  We truly appreciate Jodi for stepping into the circle and trusting us by sharing her story on the podcast. She is a beautiful human being on a powerful mission.  We encourage you to check out Jodi’s resources to learn more and to then take action to help (you can donate to Hope Loves Company by clicking here, or at the link in the show notes.)  The beautiful thing about Respect Circles is we always learn something and can take action to make a difference.    You can also invite Jodi to speak to your group or organization through her website.   As always, we love to hear your feedback.  If you have a question or topic that you’d like us to discuss in a future episode, please go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message.  You can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com, on social media at https://www.facebook.com/respectcircles and https://www.instagram.com/respectcircles/, or by visiting our website at www.respectcircles.com too.  We look forward to hearing from you! Thanks so much for listening. We’d love to have you subscribe to the podcast,  leave us a rating and review, and share with your friends!  In this episode you’ll hear: What ALS is and how Jodi came to learn about it in a very personal way [5:49] The first steps Jodi and her husband took after receiving the devastating diagnosis and the ways in which they got busy advocating [9:26] Where she got the tremendous will to fight and how she knew that she was born for the role of caregiving and helping others [13:29] What she did to use grief to propel her forward on her mission, and how a certain event shifted her entire perspective on her family’s situation [18:26] Jodi’s philosophy on caregiving and showing up to help someone in needed, even when you may not know the right way to do it [21:51] How she used love and memories to move forward and create Hope Loves Company [28:45] What we need to be aware of about accessibility issues and becoming an advocate for change in this area [32:36] The actions steps we can take to become a better ally for these causes today [39:35] Links & Resources:  Jodi’s Website, Instagram, Facebook & Twitter Her Books, Someone I Love Has ALS: A Family Caregiver Guide & The Stars That Shine    Share the Care: How to Organize a Group to Care for Someone Who Is Seriously Ill by Cappy Capossela & Sheila Warnock Hope Loves Company’s Website, Instagram & Facebook Hope Loves Company Documentary Donate to Hope Loves Company Register for Camp HLC 2022 & Apply for a Hug of Hope Care Package ​​CBC News Article, Here are the N.B. beaches that have accessibility features ​​36: Climbing Your Second Mountain: Creating Joy and Leaving a Legacy In the Second Half of Your Life

Does success breed happiness?  And how do we live for a cause larger than ourselves, as we’re often encouraged to do? Today we are diving into answering these questions and exploring the concept of preparing to find true joy in the second half of your life, or as has been referred to as your “second mountain”. In this conversation, we talk about how natural it is to be longing for more at this point of our lives, and the importance of investing in relationships instead of accumulating more possessions and higher social status.  In today’s episode, we explore what we can do to show up right now to live our values and experience life in a more meaningful way, for ourselves and others. Longing for more out of life is not uncommon and you’re definitely not alone in that longing. Through our conversation, we hope to provoke your thinking about the life you want to create and the joy that is possible, and remind you that you can’t leave it up to chance.   As always, we love to hear your feedback.  If you have a question or topic that you’d like us to discuss in a future episode, please go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message.  You can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com, on social media at https://www.facebook.com/respectcircles and https://www.instagram.com/respectcircles/, or by visiting our website at www.respectcircles.com too.  We look forward to hearing from you! Thanks so much for listening. We’d love to have you subscribe to the podcast,  leave us a rating and review, and share with your friends!  In this episode you’ll hear: A look at what the “First Mountain” and “Second Mountain” of life is, and the critical lie that people are telling themselves about success and happiness [4:54] How we can begin to fix what has happened over the last few decades to the cultural and moral structure of our society [7:26] The unhealthy habits that AJ is shedding and the person that he is becoming as he approaches his second mountain [10:27] What Stephanie sees in the clients that she coaches who are in the second act of their lives [13:29] What surprises most people as they reach the peak of their first mountain and being the descent towards the next one [28:37]  How Stephanie navigated the phase of her career when she recognized she had reached the summit of her first mountain [29:40] Some of the common pitfalls of always chasing “more” [37:10] What you can do to prepare to ascend your second mountain and how to develop a plan versus just letting it happen [38:45]  Links & Resources:  The Second Mountain: The Quest for a Moral Life by David Brooks  From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life by Arthur C. Brooks Captain Corelli's Mandolin by Louis de Bernières

If you joined us last week, you’ll know we started a great conversation with two experts in the field of equine therapy and training, Alia Shahi and Becky Nibecker. This week we continue the conversation, learn more about their experiences, and explore how working with horses can be a gift to students, teachers, leaders, and to all of us who embrace this experience.  Alia works for a non-profit organization called Reins of H.O.P.E. as an EAGALA certified Equine Specialist, assisting in providing equine assisted psychotherapy to at-risk youth and military personnel. She is currently pursuing licensure as a Marriage and Family Therapist, and recently graduated with a master’s degree in counseling psychology. Horses have been Alia’s passion since she was a child. They have taught her some of the greatest life lessons she has learned thus far: how to show up as a partner, that leadership has nothing to do with dominance, and the importance of present-centered connection. Today, the wisdom and knowledge they pass on to her continues to inform her as a single parent, an equine specialist, a mental health clinician, and as a human. Becky was first introduced to Equine Assisted Learning (EAL) upon starting her 25th year as an educator. She was fascinated to learn that horses are motivated by pressure and learn by the release of that pressure. That year, as a middle school principal, her opening faculty meeting included a video of a horse at liberty with a human. She encouraged the faculty to dance with their students in this same manner; to see their presentation of the subject matter as the pressure, and to allow time at the end of each class period for reflection, the release that teaches. In a world that is full of information, deadlines and the need to prove and produce, this dance is often interrupted and we lose the ability to self-regulate and set healthy boundaries. Becky believes we need to create margins in our life to pause, reflect and release tension. If you missed Part 1 last week, you can find it on your favorite podcast app, or at https://www.respectcircles.com/34-how-a-horse-can-improve-your-mental-health-part-1/.  This conversation really was an invitation for us to get out of our heads and comfort zones in order to try something new, and who would have imagined that we could discover so much about ourselves through horses? We’ve learned that horses have the intuition to teach us what we may not be able to see. If you are willing to step into the arena with these fascinating animals, you’ll experience incredible growth. As always, we love to hear your feedback.  If you have a question or topic that you’d like us to discuss in a future episode, please go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message.  You can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com, on social media at https://www.facebook.com/respectcircles and https://www.instagram.com/respectcircles/, or by visiting our website at www.respectcircles.com too.  We look forward to hearing from you! Thanks so much for listening. We’d love to have you subscribe to the podcast,  leave us a rating and review, and share with your friends!  In this episode you’ll hear: The big realizations that Alia made about bringing equine therapy into the parenting arena [1:42] Becky’s thoughts on the how work with horses could be applied as an educator of children [6:03] How she allowed the horse to be a powerful partner in overcoming internal chatter that she was having [8:02] Ways to provide safety and security of the horse, and why this is so important to do [10:13] What horses can teach us about all of our relationships [13:01] The feedback that these animals can provide us, and how the horses were able to help Becky share more about her own faith with others [15:26] A story that demonstrates how horse work can be applied to leadership development [17:55] What their organization is doing to give everyone greater access to their horses [23:49] The similarities that Becky sees between the work they do with horses and what we do here at Respect Circles [26:50] Our biggest takeaways from this conversation with Alia and Becky, and what we plan to do with this knew knowledge [31:02] Links & Resources:   Reins of Hope Website, Instagram & Facebook  Alia’s Thesis, Parenting Through Horsemanship: A Relationship-Based Approach to Children https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X8leBjvGeQYdYDyFp7Sm1PhKU4cJotqv/view?usp=sharing  NBC News Article, Black horse trainers offer horseback riding as therapy BBC News Article, The black cowboys of Chicago's South Side Time Magazine, The True Story of the Black Cowboys of Philadelphia Depicted in Concrete Cowboy 34: How A Horse Can Improve Your Mental Health (Part 1) 33: The Path to Stronger Relationships - Getting Clear on Your Emotions 32: Wholeheartedness - Living Life From a Place of Courage 20: How to Become an Emotionally Intelligent Leader 7: Becoming A Deliberate Listener

If you’ve ever felt the need to improve your physical or mental health, or you’re looking for a personal or professional development opportunity, we bet you’ve never thought of looking for help in a horse barn! Yet, the growing field of equine therapy is showing us that spending time with animals can be extremely beneficial to our well-being. In the first part of this special 2-part series, we welcome our expert guests, Alia Shahi and Becky Nibecker, as they each share the experiences and wisdom that they’ve gained from their fascinating work with horses.  Alia works for a non-profit organization called Reins of H.O.P.E. as an EAGALA certified Equine Specialist, assisting in providing equine assisted psychotherapy to at-risk youth and military personnel. She is currently pursuing licensure as a Marriage and Family Therapist, and recently graduated with a master’s degree in counseling psychology. Horses have been Alia’s passion since she was a child. They have taught her some of the greatest life lessons she has learned thus far: how to show up as a partner, that leadership has nothing to do with dominance, and the importance of present-centered connection. Today, the wisdom and knowledge they pass on to her continues to inform her as a single parent, an equine specialist, a mental health clinician, and as a human. Becky Nibecker was first introduced to Equine Assisted Learning (EAL) upon starting her 25th year as an educator. She was fascinated to learn that horses are motivated by pressure and learn by the release of that pressure. That year, as a middle school principal, her opening faculty meeting included a video of a horse at liberty with a human. She encouraged the faculty to dance with their students in this same manner; to see their presentation of the subject matter as the pressure, and to allow time at the end of each class period for reflection, the release that teaches. In a world that is full of information, deadlines and the need to prove and produce, this dance is often interrupted and we lose the ability to self-regulate and set healthy boundaries. Becky believes we need to create margins in our life to pause, reflect and release tension. There is such a richness in the messages that both Alia and Becky share in this conversation about their work, and we appreciate their openness to be vulnerable and transparent as they each speak their truth. We hope that you will return next week for Part 2, as they reveal more about the incredible powers that horses possess and the transformations that they have experienced themselves and witnessed in the clients that they serve.  As always, we love to hear your feedback.  If you have a question or topic that you’d like us to discuss in a future episode, please go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message.  You can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com, on social media at https://www.facebook.com/respectcircles and https://www.instagram.com/respectcircles/, or by visiting our website at www.respectcircles.com too.  We look forward to hearing from you! Thanks so much for listening. We’d love to have you subscribe to the podcast,  leave us a rating and review, and share with your friends!  In this episode you’ll hear: What equine-assisted psychotherapy and learning is all about, and what led them to this field of work [7:15] The biggest impact that the horses have had on Becky [8:20] Why there is power in pausing to reflect, both for children and adults [9:30]  Why the work that she does means so much to Alia [12:12] The story of the horse, Tank, that changed everything for her [17:02] What Becky thinks makes the connection between horses and humans so special [21:13] How horses have the ability to help anyone who is willing to step into that world find their authentic self [24:00] Links & Resources:  Reins of Hope Website, Instagram & Facebook Alia’s Thesis, Parenting Through Horsemanship: A Relationship-Based Approach to Children https://drive.google.com/file/d/1X8leBjvGeQYdYDyFp7Sm1PhKU4cJotqv/view?usp=sharing NBC News Article, Black horse trainers offer horseback riding as therapy BBC News Article, The black cowboys of Chicago's South Side Time Magazine, The True Story of the Black Cowboys of Philadelphia Depicted in Concrete Cowboy 33: The Path to Stronger Relationships - Getting Clear on Your Emotions 32: Wholeheartedness - Living Life From a Place of Courage

This week on the podcast we’re continuing our discussion around what it takes to live a wholehearted life, based on the teachings of Brené Brown (if you haven’t yet listened to last week’s episode, we encourage you to check that out)!  Today we’re going deeper around emotions and discuss the importance (in every relationship) of clearly naming and communicating what you’re feeling.  It’s especially important when things feel uncertain or like they’re “too much”, as can often be the case in the times we find ourselves in right now.  We’re excited to practice more of Brené’s teachings, and we want to hear how you use them as well to reach a better version of yourself!  As always, we love to hear your feedback.  If you have a question or topic that you’d like us to discuss in a future episode, please go to https://www.respectcircles.com/voicemail/ to leave us a message.  You can also reach us by email, respectcircles@gmail.com, on social media at https://www.facebook.com/respectcircles and https://www.instagram.com/respectcircles/, or by visiting our website at www.respectcircles.com too.  We look forward to hearing from you! Thanks so much for listening. We’d love to have you subscribe to the podcast,  leave us a rating and review, and share with your friends!  In this episode you’ll hear: How we are emotional beings that have never been trained how to name, manage, or label our emotions [3:56] Why our connections with others are only as deep as the connections we have with ourselves [8:01] Understanding the concept that above all, we are emotional beings that think [15:03] Why we feel that overall our communications are falling flat [16:23] What the emotion of anguish is about, and why it’s so powerful [20:11] How talking about Brene’s series is a great way to start expressing your emotions and strengthening your connections with others [24:58] The distinctions between worry and anxiety and being stressed and overwhelmed [27:32] The dangers in mislabeling our emotions and forcing ourselves into an emotion by doing this [30:59] A few healthy things you can do now to manage your emotions when things become uncertain [32:39]