The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

Jack Shitama

The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast uses a family systems theory approach to increase your spiritual, emotional and physical well-being so you can be the best leader possible. Each episode explores research and practical tips to help you be a personal and professional non-anxious presence. read less

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Episode 276: 10 Steps to Effectively Deal with Resistance (Part 1 of 2)

Episode 276: 10 Steps to Effectively Deal with Resistance (Part 1 of 2)

Leading change inevitably involves dealing with resistance. Non-anxious leaders create healthy emotional space for difficult conversations. Here's how. Show Notes: Calling People Forward Instead of Out: Ten Essential Steps by Justin Michael Williams and Shelly Tygielski Find out more about the FREE Jenny Brown Book Study. How to be a non anxious person in this political season w/Jack Shitama - Minding the Gap | Podcast on Spotify Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

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Episode 276: 10 Steps to Effectively Deal with Resistance (Part 1 of 2)

Episode 276: 10 Steps to Effectively Deal with Resistance (Part 1 of 2)

Leading change inevitably involves dealing with resistance. Non-anxious leaders create healthy emotional space for difficult conversations. Here's how. Show Notes: Calling People Forward Instead of Out: Ten Essential Steps by Justin Michael Williams and Shelly Tygielski Find out more about the FREE Jenny Brown Book Study. How to be a non anxious person in this political season w/Jack Shitama - Minding the Gap | Podcast on Spotify Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 275: A Family Systems Take on Daniel Goleman's 6 Leadership Styles

Episode 275: A Family Systems Take on Daniel Goleman's 6 Leadership Styles

Daniel Goleman is known for his Emotional Intelligence work. He described six leadership styles and when to use them. This episode interprets them from a family systems perspective. Show Notes: Leadership That Gets Results by Daniel Goleman 6 Common Leadership Styles — and How to Decide Which to Use When by Rebecca Knight Find out more about the FREE Jenny Brown Book Study. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 274: 4 Things You Can Do to Be a Non-Anxious Presence this Election Year

Episode 274: 4 Things You Can Do to Be a Non-Anxious Presence this Election Year

The polarized presidential election is a major source of anxiety this year. Here's how you can buck the trend. Show Notes: How to survive another Trump-Biden election by Amanda Ripley Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 273: 5 Reasons You Have Trouble Setting Boundaries

Episode 273: 5 Reasons You Have Trouble Setting Boundaries

Non-anxious leaders know how to take a healthy stand with those who make them anxious. Understanding non-violent communication can help. Show Notes: Cup of Empathy - Marianne van Dijk Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 272: 6 Things You Need to Do to Be a Non-Anxious Leader (Rebroadcast)

Episode 272: 6 Things You Need to Do to Be a Non-Anxious Leader (Rebroadcast)

Emotional intelligence and self-differentiation go hand-in-hand. Here are six ways EQ can help you be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: 6 Super Effective Ways to Show Your Emotional Intelligence at Work by Marcel Schwantes Episode 122: How Emotional Intelligence Helps You to Be a Non-Anxious Presence (Part 1 of 2) Episode 123: How Emotional Intelligence Helps You to Be a Non-Anxious Presence (Part 2 of 2) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 271: 6 Ways to Avoid Choking in Anxious Situations

Episode 271: 6 Ways to Avoid Choking in Anxious Situations

Learning to self-differentiate in anxious situations doesn't come naturally. Understanding the science of performing under pressure can help. Show Notes: Thinking About the Consequences in the Moment of Decision from Admired Leadership Field Notes The science of performing under pressure with Sian Beilock from the Re-Thinking Podcast with Adam Grant The Science of Choking Under Pressure by Alyson Meister and Maude Lavanchy Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 270: The Problem with Diagnosis (and How to Avoid It)

Episode 270: The Problem with Diagnosis (and How to Avoid It)

When we diagnose others, we avoid taking responsibility for self. Here's what that looks like and how we can do things better. Show Notes: Here's What Happens When We Stop Diagnosing Each Other by Kathleen Smith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 269: 5 Ways to Stop People Pleasing

Episode 269: 5 Ways to Stop People Pleasing

Many leaders who want to make an impact are people pleasers. Yet, this leads to over commitment and overwhelm. Here's how to stop. Show Notes: Cup of Empathy - Marianne van Dijk Podcast Episode 230: How to Say "No" as a Non-Anxious Presence Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 268: How Self-Differentiation Breeds Self-Confidence (rebroadcast)

Episode 268: How Self-Differentiation Breeds Self-Confidence (rebroadcast)

Non-anxious leaders have a confidence that is based in knowing their goals and values, as well as embracing humility, curiousity and courage. This is both attractive and influential. Here’s how it works. Show Notes: 5 habits of confident people by Stephanie Vozza Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 267: Non-Anxious Leaders Don't Complain (and 5 ways to stop)

Episode 267: Non-Anxious Leaders Don't Complain (and 5 ways to stop)

Complaining is not helpful to you or those you lead. Here's how to stop. Show Notes: The Happy Way to Drop Your Grievances by Arthur C. Brooks Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 266: 4 Ways to Be a Better Parent (and Leader)

Episode 266: 4 Ways to Be a Better Parent (and Leader)

This episode explores why parents are so annoying to their children from a family systems standpoint. Understanding how to do things differently will make you a better parent and leader. Show Notes: What makes parents so annoying, even to their middle-aged children? by Carolyn Hax Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 265: A Family Systems Take on The Five Dysfunctions of a Team

Episode 265: A Family Systems Take on The Five Dysfunctions of a Team

Patrick Lencioni's book, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, helps you understand what makes for ineffective and effective teams. This episode tells you what you can do about it. Show Notes: The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 264: 3 Ways Avoidance Increases Anxiety and 3 Things You Can Do About It

Episode 264: 3 Ways Avoidance Increases Anxiety and 3 Things You Can Do About It

We use psychological avoidance to manage anxiety, yet it actually makes things worse. Here's how to recognize it and address it. Show Notes: Avoidance, not anxiety, may be sabotaging your life by Luana Marques Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 263: The Spotlight Affect and Taking Responsibility for Self

Episode 263: The Spotlight Affect and Taking Responsibility for Self

Taking responsibility for self means not making assumptions about others are thinking. Here's what that looks like and how to do things differently. Show Notes: How Anxiety Distorts Your To-Do List by Kathleen Smith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 262: How Can Someone Who Is Trying to Help Be So Annoying?

Episode 262: How Can Someone Who Is Trying to Help Be So Annoying?

Self-differentiation is complicated. My own experience with my mother illustrates this. Show Notes: Hiroshima survivor tells her story as G7 world leaders meet in the Japanese city - CBS News --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 261: What Exactly IS a Failure of Nerve - Part 2 of 2

Episode 261: What Exactly IS a Failure of Nerve - Part 2 of 2

Knowing the characteristics of a chronically anxious system, as well as the principles of leadership through self-differentiation makes all the difference. Show Notes: ⁠A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix⁠ by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠⁠Two for Tuesday⁠⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 260: What Exactly IS a Failure of Nerve - Part 1 of 2

Episode 260: What Exactly IS a Failure of Nerve - Part 1 of 2

Edwin Friedman's last book, A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, challenges us to lead differently. Here's how. Show Notes: A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 259: 5 Tips to Start Your New Year Well

Episode 259: 5 Tips to Start Your New Year Well

I'm not a fan of New Year's resolutions. I AM a fan of getting better each year. Here's why and what has helped me. Show Notes: Get a FREE copy of One New Habit, One Big Goal: Change Your Life in 10 Weeks. Get information and register for the FREE Friedman's Failure of Nerve Book Study. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 258: Overfunctioning, Underfunctioning and Healthy Emotional Space

Episode 258: Overfunctioning, Underfunctioning and Healthy Emotional Space

Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning go hand in hand. Here's what that looks like, as well as how you can find the sweet spot that creates healthy emotional space. Show Notes: Find out about Friedman's Failure of Nerve, a free course for non-anxious leaders. There will be no episode on Christmas Day. The next episode will drop on January 1, 2024. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message

Episode 257: 5 Ways Non-Anxious Leaders Facilitate Healthy Organizational Culture

Episode 257: 5 Ways Non-Anxious Leaders Facilitate Healthy Organizational Culture

Leadership and social norms are the two most important factors in organizational culture. Here's what you can do to improve yours. Show Notes: How to Fix a Toxic Culture (mit.edu) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ emails. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jack-shitama/message