Understanding and Healing Core Wounds: How to Become Securely Attached with Thais Gibson

Oct 1 2024 • 50 mins

"We have to go in there and find out what the core wounds are associated with the trauma and recondition those ideas about ourselves." ~Thais Gibson

In this conversation, Jennifer Hurvitz interviews Thais Gibson, a counselor and co-founder of The Personal Development School. They discuss topics such as shadow work and attachment styles. Shadow work explores and integrates the parts of ourselves that we try to deny or hide. It involves identifying triggers and examining the root causes of our reactions.

In this conversation, Thais Gibson discusses the importance of reconditioning core wounds and beliefs about oneself to heal from trauma and develop a secure attachment style. She emphasizes the need to move beyond simply blaming others for our problems and instead focus on understanding and changing our beliefs. Thais also explains the five key pillars of becoming securely attached: reconditioning core wounds, knowing and communicating our needs, setting boundaries, regulating our nervous system, and positively reinforcing good behavior. She provides practical tips for effective communication and suggests setting a timeline for personal growth and relationship change.

Takeaways

Core wounds are subconscious beliefs about ourselves that often stem from past experiences.
Healing core wounds involves reconditioning the subconscious through repetition, emotion, and imagery.
The three-step process for healing core wounds includes finding the opposite of the core wound, identifying ten memories of feeling the opposite, and recording and listening to those memories for 21 days. Reconditioning core wounds and beliefs about oneself is essential for healing from trauma and developing a secure attachment style.
Blaming others for our problems is not productive; instead, we should focus on understanding and changing our beliefs.
The five key pillars of becoming securely attached are reconditioning core wounds, knowing and communicating our needs, setting boundaries, regulating our nervous system, and positively reinforcing good behavior.
Effective communication involves positive framing, clearly showing what we need, seeing our needs through, and positively reinforcing good behavior.
Setting a timeline for personal growth and relationship change can help determine if the other person is willing to do the work and make a positive difference.