Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D.

Are you in a relationship that confuses you? One that leaves you feeling attacked or walking on eggshells? Maybe you've left but aren't sure what to do next; then you're in the right place.

Join  Dr. Kerry McAvoy, a mental health clinician and author of Love You More, as she tackle toxic relationship dynamics.

Listen as Dr. McAvoy describes destructive personalities, typical partner profiles, progressive stages of abuse, and common manipulation tactics. Find out why these relationships are difficult to avoid, what makes them tough to leave, and how to recover and rediscover healthy self-compassion and self-respect again.

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"You’re not taking my babies from me!" How Jessica Kent Escaped Abuse
Yesterday
"You’re not taking my babies from me!" How Jessica Kent Escaped Abuse
(Trigger Warning: This episode contains graphic descriptions of abuse.)This week, Jessica Kent, a wildly popular social media figure, joins me to share her story of escaping abuse. Jessica reveals how covert narcissistic abuse can go from subtle to violent, especially when victims leave the relationship. Jessica Kent is best known for prison reform advocacy. To learn more about her and her work:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/JessicaKentInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jesken12/?hl=enTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jesken12?lang=enFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/OfficiallyJessicaKentNow, you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix. For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras! Join me on Ko-fi!Follow Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdWebsite: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.comKerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.As an Amazon affiliate, a commission is earned from qualifying purchases.Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
How Could I Have Not Known? How Devastating Betrayals Blind Us
Apr 22 2024
How Could I Have Not Known? How Devastating Betrayals Blind Us
Sometimes, the truth can be right in front of you, but you still can't see it. Rossana Faye joins me this week to discuss a concept Dr. Jennifer Freyd, in her book Blind to Betrayal, calls “betrayal blindness.” Some truths can be so devastating that they are difficult to face. And, the self-help tip is the importance of listening to what feels off, uncomfortable, or wrong to recognize signs you may be missing critical details in your relationship or family.Blind to Betrayal: Why We Fool Ourselves When We Aren’t Being Fooled by Jennifer Freyd, Ph.D.: https://amzn.to/3TRNPpONow, you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix. For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras! Join me on Ko-fi!Follow Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdWebsite: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.As an Amazon affiliate, a commission is earned from qualifying purchases.Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
Why I'd Snoop Again: How this Toxic Behavior Sometimes Provides Closure and Safety
Apr 15 2024
Why I'd Snoop Again: How this Toxic Behavior Sometimes Provides Closure and Safety
Is it ever okay to go through your partner's phone? I've been guilty of snooping and might consider doing it again.Narcissists and toxic personalities are masters at creating ambiguity. My ex used to readily offer me his credit card after we first started dating. He'd send photos of broken machinery and take me on company runs, all as a way to build trust so that I couldn't tell real company crises from manufactured ones. I later learned he'd created this elaborate ruse to hide a double life.Yet going through our loved one's phone can become a hard habit to break. Sometimes, we struggle to exit toxic relationships despite overwhelming evidence of betrayal. In this podcast, Lisa Sonni and Dr. Kerry share their personal stories and discuss important considerations when facing these tricky situations. Now, you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix. For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras! Join me on Ko-fi!Follow the Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdWebsite: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
Did the Church Groom Me for Abuse? When Spiritual Leadership Becomes Toxic
Apr 1 2024
Did the Church Groom Me for Abuse? When Spiritual Leadership Becomes Toxic
Have you been a victim of spiritual abuse? It's not just interpersonal relationships that can be toxic, but also group systems and leaders. Many are stepping forward to expose toxic church leadership and oppressive and abusive spiritual belief systems. This week, Natalie Hoffman, author of Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse and her latest book, All the Scary Little Gods: a Memoir, joins me to discuss this sensitive topic. To learn more about Natalie, you can find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flyingfreesisterhood/And she's also the hold of the Flying Free podcast: https://www.flyingfreenow.com/flying-free-podcast/Her books:Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse: https://www.flyingfreenow.com/is-it-me/ All the Scary Little Gods: a Memoir: https://www.flyingfreenow.com/all-the-scary-little-gods/Now, you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix. For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras! Join me on Ko-fi!Follow the Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdWebsite: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
Am I The Narcissist? When Toxic People Accuse You of Being The Problem
Mar 25 2024
Am I The Narcissist? When Toxic People Accuse You of Being The Problem
Have you ever wondered, "Am I the narcissist?" Have you been accused of being the problem? In this podcast episode, Rossana Faye joins me to discuss how to know who's creating the chaos. Narcissists are notorious for never seeing themselves as the root cause, but how do we know that the issue isn't us? And the self-help tip is how to use your history to identify dysfunctional relationship patterns. Please join me for the weekly Podcast Extra! For just $5 a month, get key takeaways, helpful psychological insights and tools, and an exclusive podcast audio extra. This week, Rossana and I will discuss why narcissists refuse to see themselves as the problem. Sign up here for this exclusive content! http://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphd/tiers           *******************Follow Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdWebsite: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
Is It Really Abuse If I Can't Do What I Want? What is Coercive Control?
Mar 18 2024
Is It Really Abuse If I Can't Do What I Want? What is Coercive Control?
Is being overly controlling a form of abuse? In this podcast episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the subtleties of coercive control. Learn how to recognize the common control tactic of this insidious form of abuse. And this week's self-help tip is to assess how your partner's feelings and demands affect you. Are you doing less and becoming increasingly isolated to please them?Would you like to learn more about this topic? Be sure to become a subscriber for the weekly Podcast Extra. Get a jam-packed newsletter with examples, psychological insights, reflective questions, and further resources.  And each week, you'll receive a bonus audio clip! Sign up here: http://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphd/tiersFollow the Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdWebsite: https://www.kerrymcavoyphd.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
When Stonewalling Is Used Against You: How to Disarm Toxic Interactions
Mar 11 2024
When Stonewalling Is Used Against You: How to Disarm Toxic Interactions
Stonewalling or giving someone the silent treatment is one of the nastiest forms of unfair fighting. When we ignore or reject another person's bid for a connection more than thirty percent of the time, the likelihood the relationship won't make it dramatically increases. In this episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss why stonewalling is such a popular toxic behavior and what to do if it's happening to you.  A big thank you to this podcast's sponsor, GettheTea.com. Check out their supplements and teas and get better health today!You don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix. For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras! Join me on Ko-fi!Are you following the Dr. McAvoy?YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdLearn more about Toxic-Free Relationship Club: https://kerrymcavoyphd.com/toxic-free-relationship-club/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
What's wrong with me? The Power of Gaslighting to Confuse and Control: Interview with Dr. Robin Stern
Mar 4 2024
What's wrong with me? The Power of Gaslighting to Confuse and Control: Interview with Dr. Robin Stern
Have you wondered what's wrong with me? This could be a sign of gaslighting. Dr. Robin Stern, psychoanalyst, author, and expert on gaslighting, joins me to discuss the underlying dynamics of a toxic or narcissistic relationship. She delves into the hidden motivations of both the gaslighter as well as the gaslightee. •Learn more about Dr. Stern: https://robinstern.com•The Gaslight Effect Podcast: https://robinstern.com/podcast/about-the-gaslight-effect-podcast/•My Interview with Dr. Stern on The Gaslight Effect Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/032-breaking-chains-dr-kerry-mcavoys-triumph-over-marital/id1645322193?i=1000637507698•The Gaslight Effect book: https://amzn.to/4bfGWqxJoin us on Ko-Fi learn how to spot signs you're being gaslit: https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdFollow the Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdWebsite: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
When Fear of Change Keeps You from Leaving: How to Say Goodbye to a Toxic Life
Feb 26 2024
When Fear of Change Keeps You from Leaving: How to Say Goodbye to a Toxic Life
Leaving often brings along with it a fear of change. We might dread how change will affect our kids or our friendships. Maybe we're concerned about how leaving could disrupt life as we know it. In this podcast episode, Tara and Dr. Kerry discuss the fears of change they faced and how they overcame them to leave. Tara also is leaving the show and shares about her future plans. The self-help tip is the power of letter writing to find closure after leaving a toxic relationship.    Join Our Newsletter!Did you know you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix? For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras!  For the same great content, join me either on Substack or Ko-fi! Same great content in 2 different places: substack.com/@breakingfreenarcabuse or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdFollow Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdWebsite: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
Could Your Relationship be Making You Sick? The High Cost of Living With a Narcissist
Feb 19 2024
Could Your Relationship be Making You Sick? The High Cost of Living With a Narcissist
Could living with a narcissist be making you sick? Are you struggling with more illnesses? Maybe you even have an autoimmune disease.In this podcast episode, Tara Blair Ball and Lisa Sonni discuss the invisible impact of living with a narcissist on our health. Learn how narcissists and other toxic people not only sabotage our self-care but also impact our physical and mental health. Resources: The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk- https://amzn.to/3Sh06nc                                               ***************Did you know you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix? Sign up for our newsletter for weekly podcast extras!  Join us here! Follow the Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. She educates on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube as @kerrymcavoyphd. Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
Don't Trust Yourself? How Self-Doubt Keeps Us Stuck in a Bad Relationship
Feb 12 2024
Don't Trust Yourself? How Self-Doubt Keeps Us Stuck in a Bad Relationship
Are you stuck in a bad relationship? Are you wondering if you have good enough reasons enough to leave? In this podcast episode, Rossana Faye, Rollercoaster of Love, joins to me to discuss how self-doubt can trap us in a bad relationship. How we can get stuck in our own heads, which only adds to the confusion we already feel in narcissistic relationships. And the self-help tip is the power of finding forgiveness for ourselves through acceptance and love.You don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix. For only $5/month, sign up for weekly podcast extras!  For the same great content, join either on Substack or Ko-fi!Follow the Dr. McAvoy!YouTube: @kerrymcavoyphdInstagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/ or https://ko-fi.com/kerrymcavoyphdWebsite: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.As an Amazon affiliate, a commission is earned from qualifying purchases.Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.
Time to Leave? Top Dos and Don'ts When Divorcing a Narcissist: Interview with Kate Anthony
Feb 5 2024
Time to Leave? Top Dos and Don'ts When Divorcing a Narcissist: Interview with Kate Anthony
Are you considering divorcing a narcissist? Wondering how to do it safely?In today's podcast, Kate Anthony, a High-Conflict Divorce Coach and author of The D Word, joins me to discuss how to become our own best advocate when leaving a narcissist. She covers the top dos and don'ts to exiting these challenging and even dangerous relationships. Kate Anthony: https://kateanthony.comThe D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage: https://amzn.to/3HDbTHhDid you know you don't need to wait a week for your next podcast fix? Sign up for our newsletter for weekly podcast extras!  Join us here! - https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/Follow the Dr. McAvoy!Instagram: @kerrymcavoyphdFacebook: @kerrymcavoyphdE-mail: hello@kerrymcavoyphd.comNewsletter: https://breakingfreenarcabuse.substack.com/Website: https://www.breakingfreenarcissisticabuse.com/Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., a mental health specialist and author, is an expert on cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her memoir, Love You More: The Harrowing Tale of Lies, Sex Addiction, & Double Cross, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. She educates on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube as @kerrymcavoyphd. Uncover the unconscious psychological blocks holding your recovery back and reclaim your confidence at the Strong & Unstoppable Retreat this October. I've saved you a spot! Support the Show.