Forgive Yourself for Wanting a Different Experience

Finding Love in the Chaos of Life

Sep 11 2023 • 37 mins

Join Jacqui and Tanagh as they unpack the third step of the #DaretoBeLove Journey: Forgiveness.

From an early age, most of us are taught that forgiving others is the ‘right’ thing to do. While we don’t oppose this notion, an even deeper step is necessary to heal from a situation where we feel wrong-done by.

This step requires Forgiving Yourself for Wanting a Different Experience. This way, we can own the experience, celebrate the wisdom it affords us, grow and heal.

Sometimes, terrible things happen to us at the hands of other people or circumstances. When we acknowledge that each person is merely acting out their trauma patterns because of their past experiences, we can step into the space of Love and realise that forgiving another is an act of kindness, not an act of unconditional Love. Forgiving ourselves for wanting a different experience, frees us from judging the other or the circumstance, surrendering our will to grace and compassion. This act of Love allows us to let the pain through and let go of our ego attachment to the story.

It can sound cliché, but everything truly does happen for a reason and by changing our perspective, we can start to see these pain experiences as gifts.

As Viktor Frankl so wisely said, ‘When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.’

Jacqui and Tanagh share their personal stories of adopting this philosophy into their lives, and their struggles in doing so.