Dear Fathers: Not a TV Dad but a Real Father

Just My Baby Daddy Podcast

Mar 26 2024 • 1 hr 10 mins

Summary
In this episode, AJ and Eli interview Lamar Johnson Jr., co-founder of Dear Fathers, about the importance of #fatherhood and the #challenges faced by #fathers who grew up without a #strong father figure. They discuss the #influence of TV portrayals of fathers, the #fear and uncertainty of discussing puberty with daughters, and the #emotional #impact of daughters' first periods. Lamar shares his journey of maturing as a #man and a father, the influence of a supportive partner, and the importance of building a team in co-parenting. They also explore the impact of father absence on #maturity and reflect on their own #experiences of fatherhood and abandonment. In this part of the conversation, Lamar Johnson Jr. discusses the impact of absent fathers and reflects on his own #relationship with his father. He shares his hesitation to start a conversation with his father and the first #question he would ask him. Eli also shares his experience with his father and the importance of being a good dad. They discuss using the Dear Father's platform to start the conversation and the significance of being named after a father. They also touch on the tradition of naming in Eli's #family and the #ego behind naming patterns. Lamar Johnson Jr. discusses the #inception and ultimate #vision of his platform dedicated to Black fatherhood. He shares how the platform started as a forum to provide guidance and support for Black men in their role as fathers. The platform has since evolved into a #media platform, including a podcast, events, and a book club, with the goal of changing the narrative around Black fathers and promoting positive fatherhood. Lamar emphasizes the importance of being intentional as a father and creating lasting memories with his children. He also discusses the impact of conversations on fatherhood and the therapeutic nature of sharing experiences.

Takeaways
Fatherhood is important for creating a positive legacy and shaping the next generation.
TV portrayals of fathers can be misleading and do not fully prepare men for the realities of fatherhood.
Discussing puberty and periods with daughters can be challenging, but open communication and support are crucial.
Maturing as a man and a father requires self-reflection, growth, and learning from positive role models. The platform started as a forum to provide guidance and support for Black men in their role as fathers.
The platform has evolved into a media platform, including a podcast, events, and a book club, with the goal of changing the narrative around Black fathers and promoting positive fatherhood.
Being intentional as a father and creating lasting memories with children is crucial.
Conversations about fatherhood can be therapeutic and provide valuable insights and advice.