Shrinks Rap

James Bramson, Psy, D & Rafael Cortina, MFT

Shrinks Rap welcomes psychologists and healers to share their journeys - both personal and professional. James H. Bramson, licensed Psychologist and Social Worker, and Rafael J. Cortina, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist "rap" with a variety of guests, including new and seasoned therapists, thought leaders, creative artists, and lifestyle experts about how their paths brought them to the field of healing and what they've learned along the way. read less
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Episodes

Imago Therapy, Spiritual Development, and the Rise of Consciousness
Apr 3 2024
Imago Therapy, Spiritual Development, and the Rise of Consciousness
Live From Boulder Colorado, an Interview with Dr. Paul BretzJim catches up with his long-time friend and colleague from his halcyon days at the University of Chicago. Dr. Paul Bretz (a.k.a. Reverend Paul). Paul is still prolific after all these years —and is still doing his part to make the world a better place. Paul is the CEO of Centus Counseling Center (Centus.org). He is passionate abut high quality, cost effective, spiritually integrative behavioral healthcare. He is also a surveyor for the Joint Commission, whose mission is to continuously improve healthcare. (A real slacker…)In this episode, Paul discusses the stages of psychological, moral, and spiritual development and its impact on individuals and couples. He compares a cosmic consciousness framework with a dualistic framework. Paul delves deep into the importance of Imago Therapy for doing couples work, and shares how it improved his own relationship. Paul makes a strong case for how spiritual development and Imago therapy can be combined to conduct highly effective couples therapy. Paul believes the intensive format is particularly efficacious for doing deep work. Paul is the embodiment of emotional, psychological, spiritual, and intellectual sophistication. He continues to be an inspiration and teacher for me and many others.WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
The Thinking Man’s Forest Gump: Live from Berkeley, California it's Dr. Ken Dychtwald
Jan 24 2024
The Thinking Man’s Forest Gump: Live from Berkeley, California it's Dr. Ken Dychtwald
Dr. Ken Dychtwald is an entrepreneur, author, lecturer, gerontologist, and psychologist. He is the co-founder and CEO of Age Wave. In this live recording Ken presents his memoir “Radical Curiosity” at the Human Potential Conference in Berkeley, California, sponsored by WCMI (West Coast Mindfulness Institute). You will find yourself mesmerized and inspired by Ken’s story — and will want to run, not walk, to buy one of his books.Ken artfully discusses his meetups with Arnold Schwarzenegger, Jimmy Carter, along with some luminaries in the field of psychology. You will learn about his storied (and often humorous) journey form Jersey to Big Sur and beyond. Very much like Forest Gump (the movie), Ken always seems to be at the right place at the right time to “influence or be influenced by the influencers.”Ken is an expert on aging and mind-body healing. His seminal book Bodymind has been translated into countless languages over the years (so if you speak Mandarin like his son Zak, also a thought leader in his own right, you are all set). Interestingly, there were some naked illustrations or pictures in the original edition that have been edited out (sorry Marjorie Taylor Greene). So I guess my original copy of Bodymind is a collectors item, much like my cherished Draymond Greene T-Shirt. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
Managing Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), the Holiday Blues, and Your Sports Team Possibly Letting you Down. A Rafael and Jim Episode
Dec 20 2023
Managing Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), the Holiday Blues, and Your Sports Team Possibly Letting you Down. A Rafael and Jim Episode
Rafael and Jim join forces after catching a 49’ers victory over Seattle at Levi Stadium to tackle the topic of what makes this time of the year particularly challenging (and not just for Lions fans). Football is only discussed at the “kickoff” of this episode. Instead, Rafael and Jim focus mainly on managing the holidays, demanding relatives, shorter days, and your bulging waistline practical tips.Jim and Rafael share some of the strategies that have helped their clients stay resilient and hopeful. According to NAMI, 64% of individuals living with mental health challenges reported that their conditions worsened during the holidays. If Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) was not enough to contend with … how about being stuck with annoying relatives and guests? Clearly, this is when mindfulness strategies really come into play. Rafael and Jim emphasize setting realistic expectations and boundaries upfront. And when all else fails, they encourage you to learn to sidestep acrimonious discussions with grace. After all , “what you resist persists.” There is a lot of pressure to make the holidays perfect, to be perfect, and to overextend yourself. Don’t drink the eggnog (Kool-Aid)The dinner table can be fertile ground for discourse and acrimony versus a much-needed time for community, restoration, peace, nurturance, and love. Inevitably, you will meet up with your archetypal family member or guest. These holiday-goers may come in the form of pleasers, placaters, agitators, bulldozers, blowhards, pontificators, advice givers, guilt trippers, know-it-alls, and/or dramatists. Whatever form they take (or you take), it’s important to be ready to handle whatever and whoever comes your way. ‘Tis the season!WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
The Seeker of Untruth Returns:  An exploration into whether suffering is inevitable
Sep 20 2023
The Seeker of Untruth Returns: An exploration into whether suffering is inevitable
Rafael and Jim interview Andre Decary Andre Decary, “The Seeker of Untruth,,” returns for another stellar discussion, this time about  his new writing project.  In this episode, Andre makes an important distinction between pain and suffering. He references Jung and Einzelganger’s work to illustrate his point: “Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.” There is the Buddhist story of the two arrows that come toward you on the mountain path. When the first arrow hits, you know it hurts. Worse still, in the distance, you see a second arrow coming your way. Will you avoid it or let it hit you? How will you respond?  The second arrow represents your reaction to the first arrow. The piercing of the first arrow is inevitable, while the second arrow presents an opportunity. Andre conveyed how by the time the second arrow comes your way you have more experience. And you have a choice. You can respond as you did to the first one, and experience suffering. Or you can opt to respond with hope or joy, or dodge it altogether. Andre references this story to distill the difference between pain and suffering. He discusses how we can be injured by someone’s words and actions (the first stinging arrow). However, we can learn to anticipate the second arrow and respond differently (which can give us hope). Nothing can change the fact we got hit by the first arrow that caused us inevitable pain or what Buddhists call “Duhkha.” But we can chose how we respond to the subsequent arrows we encounter on our path.Andre also makes another important distinction in this podcast. He describes the difference between intimacy and closeness. Part of this distinction involves the calibration of vulnerability, self-awareness, differentiation, and empathy. Andre explores how couples can work on both closeness and intimacy. When you have both it is optimal. Tune in to the podcast to hear how — just by discussing these themes — we experienced closeness and professional intimacy.WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
The Royal Road to Resiliency   Jim & Rafael Interview Each Other
Aug 18 2023
The Royal Road to Resiliency Jim & Rafael Interview Each Other
Rafael highlights his journey from Poland to Croatia. While there he shared his Gestalt framework on trauma and hope. He also took a deep dive into the history, culture, beauty, and atrocities of the region. Rafael was particularly moved after visiting Auschwitz. He immediately thought about the resiliency of its survivors, including the original tour guides who were survivors themselves. Jim thought about the well-known psychologist Viktor E. Frankl and what he taught us about resiliency after he survived the camps.Viktor E. Frankl invented Logotherapy which holds that “our primary drive in life is not pleasure, as Freud maintained, but the discovery and pursuit of what we personally find meaningful.”  Living a meaningful life can enhance one’s own resiliency.  Jim and Rafael share their own resiliency factors and how they have tried to impart resiliency skills and wisdom to their own clients. Rafael and Jim find themselves awestruck by the transformational power of resiliency and how it can be a learned skillset. They stressed the 7 C’s of resiliency and its potentiating effect. They noted that resiliency is a critical ingredient for transcending our own history. Resiliency also helps us transcend our own self-limiting thoughts and behaviors. Carl Jung once said the following about resiliency: “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
Mindful Parenting: A Child's Point of View
Jul 31 2023
Mindful Parenting: A Child's Point of View
Dr. Jim interviews Bryn Khan, Psy.D., Jessica Lim, AMFT, and Eti Valdez-Kaminsky, MFTIn this episode, three highly talented and impassioned clinicians from EBMC and the Samsara Intensive Therapy program discuss mindful parenting. Bryn who manages EBMC together with her associate Jessica, run a mindful parenting class, do intensive therapy sessions with parents, and provide executive functioning coaching and assessment services for children and adolescents through the Satori college prep and executive functioning program. Eti is the Clinical Director at EBMC and runs the Samsara Intensive Therapy Program. In addition to running the EBMC clinic, he supervises clinicians. He is also highly sought- after as a parent coach, music enthusiast, rock climber, and family therapist. As clinicians, they emphasize understanding a child’s point of view. Their approach centers on parenting from the inside out (Daniel Siegal’s model).  In short, they focus on mindfulness. But wait, there’s more— Bryn, Jessica, and Eti are all dedicated parents themselves who walk the walk and talk the talk. They utilize mindfulness tools with their own kids too. In this podcast, they discuss their own parenting and childhood experiences and how it has informed them as clinicians, and vice versa. Many contemporary topics are discussed in this episode including the impact of social media, electronics, cyber bullying, sexting, and oppositional behavior. Some tools parents can usefor self-regulation and co-regulation are discussed. The importance of being an ego-less role model is stressed - - along with the importance of empathy, acceptance, and emotional attunement. Key application of Attachment theory and Acceptance Commitment Therapy (A-C-T) is also detailed. As the adage goes “being a parent is like folding a fitted sheet, no one really knows how to do it.”  (Except for maybe these three . . .)WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
Psychedelics, Hope, Integration, and the Medical Industrial Pharmaceutical Complex
Jul 8 2023
Psychedelics, Hope, Integration, and the Medical Industrial Pharmaceutical Complex
Dr. Jim interviews Dr. David Pepper & Christine Benvenuto  David and Christine are not only a dynamic couple, but they are also incredible healers, impassioned speakers, skilled trainers, and mindful practitioners of psychedelic medicine and psychotherapy. They have worked in tandem (and separately) to help individuals who are traumatized or demoralized find relief, equanimity, and joy.  Dr. David Pepper is a trained family doctor who has worked at UCSF for 30 years. He has been a part of a “1,000 births and 1,000 deaths.” He completed CIIS training in Psychedelics and Medicine and has done groundbreaking work that includes Palliative Care and Hospice work alongside Chemo/Radiation/Surgery in ICUs. He understands how Psychedelics can be useful in helping people who are at the end of their life. He and Christine are also committed to helping people become fully alive, and they see Psychedelics as the royal road to the collective unconscious. Allowing people to face their shadow side and come back more aware, resolute, grounded, and whole.  Christine is quite accomplished in her own right. She has hosted several Psychedelics and Dying gatherings. She and David have provided Dharma for clergy members, doctors, and therapists, and emphasize “best practices” methods (for physicians and psychotherapists). Christine founded the DBT center in Oakland and integrates Ketamine in her practice. She has had great success using Ketamine for PTSD. If that was not impressive enough, she built a temple at Burning Man in her spare time. (Not to be outdone, Dr. David Pepper sued the EPA while he ran an asthma clinic with a bunch of doctors in California’s Central Valley and had success as an activist physician. Not exactly a slacker couple.)Note* Dr. David Pepper & Christine Benvenuto will be presenting at the WCMI & EBMC, Psychology, Inc. “Radical Curiosity, Psychedelics, and Human Potential” Conference on October 26th at the Hillside Club (Berkeley, CA). Tickets can be secured through Eventbrite. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
My Dinner with the Caveman: Men in Search of Self-Awareness, Humility, & Laughter
Jun 2 2023
My Dinner with the Caveman: Men in Search of Self-Awareness, Humility, & Laughter
Drs. John Schinnerer and Jim Bramson reunite to tackle the subjects of self-awareness and humility. They share their own missteps on this subject and can now laugh about it (tragedy + time = humor). In this interview, Dr. John (whom  we lovingly like to call, the Caveman) takes us deep into his own cavernous mind and discusses the “death of ego” as a prerequisite to connecting to “source” (meta-consciousness). He opines about how the ego hamstrings our curiosity, psychological development, and narrative of “who we are” and “who we are becoming.” Dr. Jim and the Caveman deconstruct the movie “My Dinner with Andre” and Senator Josh Howley’s new book “Manhood: The Masculine Virtues America Needs.” They break into laughter reading reviews on Howley’s book which was seriously panned by critics. The book is a misguided portrayal on how men should show up in our society (much more “manly”) and how our society should show up better for manly men. Fortunately, Howleys’ book did not reference Tucker Carlson’s recommendation that men can return to their testosterone fueled dominance by tanning their testicles. Yet, there were other equally absurd assertions made by the Missouri Senator and fledgling author. This is the same guy who supported the January 6th insurrectionists storming the capital building (only to run away from them at the end). The Caveman and Dr. Jim delight in some old fashioned schadenfreude. Howley’s book has the opposite message Dr. John wants to convey in his popular Podcast (the Evolved Caveman) or in his men’s group he runs (for EBMC, Psychology, Inc). Dr. John does NOT want to normalize toxic masculinity (and he does not recommend tanning your testicles to become more manly). You may recall from our previous podcast with the Caveman, Dr. John consulted on the Pixar film “Inside out.” In this episode, he discusses the importance of men becoming curious and highly aware of their own feelings, not just anger and frustration, but the whole gamut of feelings. The aforementioned Pixar movie the Caveman consulted on illustrates the Internal Family System (IFS) model and the importance of EQ (emotional intelligence). In the film, the main protagonist learned how to be less agnostic about her own emotions. She learned to embrace her core feelings (or internal parts) and they connect her to what John refers to as “source” (i.e., sacred space, satori or nirvana).WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
Couples Work: What works, what doesn’t, and why
May 29 2023
Couples Work: What works, what doesn’t, and why
Rafael Cortina and his fellow Podcaster, Dr. Jim Bramson, discuss their unique approach to couples therapy. Rafael and Jim utilize an eclectic therapeutic approach that pulls from the following: Gestalt therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS) Work, Imago Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Terrance Real, and the PACT model (Tatkin’s work), to name but a few. In this episode, Rafael and Jim talk about what has worked well with couples, what has, and why. It is their aim at all times to build genuine rapport with their clients, creating an emotionally safe environment with an emphasis on honesty, curiosity, respect, heart-centered awareness, mutuality, and transparency. Jim discusses the importance of differentiation versus convergence, while Rafael considers the binary described as abandonment versus engulfment. They both agree that laughter is the ultimate elixir. Humor is important for couples work as it breaks down tension, can be a sign of self-acceptance, self-reflection, egolessness, and meta cognition.Cross cultural difference with couples, language barriers, and other barriers to entry are discussed. There is an emphasis on how to be fluent in the unique dialogue the couple shares. Rafael and Jim hope that practitioners listening to this Podcast may learn a thing or two of import that informs their work. Additionally, this episode covers topics relevant to individuals seeking couples therapy. Rafael and Jim want prospective clients to be better consumers of couples therapy and to know what to look for and what to expect. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
The Tao of Fatherhood
Feb 28 2023
The Tao of Fatherhood
Rafael and Jim take a deep dive into the subject of fatherhood—that is, after getting derailed on the subject of 49ers football. Why? Rafael was afraid of jinxing the team during the last episode. He refused to discuss the 49ers loss until this episode. Fortunately, your podcasters got on track again to discuss Fatherhood as promised. Not surprisingly, they even linked the subject to the 49ers somehow. They did so by imagining how they would console 49ers QB Brock Purdy after he got injured in his last playoff game (a loss). What would they say to console him if they could be his father for just one day?  You cannot help but being moved by their heartfelt approach to this subject that clearly transcends sports.Rafael and Jim regal their own experiences as sons, fathers, and shrinks and what they learned from it all. Also, what they still hope to learn. They discuss what goes into being a loving, competent, caring, curious, compassionate, and committed role model. Many men are adrift. Rafael & Jim share their own challenges and pitfalls. They discuss what their male clients are typically seeking help for. Some men are pushed by their spouses to be better fathers. Some push themselves. And others put too much pressure on themselves to be perfect …. to try to make up for their own miserable childhood experiences. Some fathers are absentee parents and can easily justify it. They won’t welcome any input and don’t see the ripple effect. Rafael and Jim have seen it all as shrinks. The various attachment styles and approaches fathers take on is artfully deconstructed. Rafael and Jim believe that deep down inside most men really want to be good men, stellar parents, role models, and respected along the way. This issue of being respected as a father (and being respectful to children) is carefully weighed. How is it earned? Finally, the impact of narcissism being the nemesis to effective parenting is discussed. This episode is for fathers and anyone who has had one.WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
One World, One Love, One Healing
Jan 17 2023
One World, One Love, One Healing
Dr Jim & Rafael are back! The band is back. Dr. Jim & Rafael are back together agin exploring healing on a global level. Rafael shares his thoughtful impressions of Georgia (not the peach state, but the country) where he did a recent training on Compassion, Addiction, and Trauma. Rafael also has gone to where the action is - - doing (virtual) trainings for professionals in the Ukraine and Russia. As almost everyone knows the Ukraine and Russia are currently the epicenter of war and trauma. Rafael plans to sojourn to that part of the world soon to impart his wisdom, to teach professionals in this war torn region his compassionate approach to healing trauma. In applying his craft across geopolitical lines, Rafael has had to be the Magellan of intra-psychic and inter-psychic terrain. In so doing, he has noticed the oneness we all share, particularly when it comes to trauma and how to heal it. As healers we are a formulary of medicine and wisdom. The elixir combines compassion, wisdom, humility, love, kindness, resiliency, and the thoughtful application of Gestalt therapy. In this interview Dr. Jim also discusses his book project, which is still stalled out. He runs some of the themes by Rafael and feels inspired again to write. Dr. Jim also finds inspiration in the Detroit Lions who had their first winning season since 2017 under their extraordinary coach, Dan Campbell. Dr. Jim wants to channel his internal Coach Campbell to finish his book. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
Chris Huitfeldt: Interventionist to Celebrities, Stars, and Regular Folks
Oct 18 2022
Chris Huitfeldt: Interventionist to Celebrities, Stars, and Regular Folks
Chris Huitfeldt (pronounced Wheatfelt) owns a company called, Terra Firma, which means solid ground.  It provides intervention services for celebrities, professional athletes, and common folks. He even does pro bono work to help the economically disadvantaged. His philosophy is that “every good foundation starts on solid ground.”  Terra Firma usually provides interventions for individuals with addiction and dual diagnosis disorders. His group also offers recovery coaching, consultation, and case management work.Chris believes that interventions are not designed to surprise, jolt, shame, or corner someone into getting help. Instead it is a thoughtful, caring, and loving process that can lead to miraculous changes. He believes that interventions —when done correctly — can have a very positive ripple effect. Successful interventions can provide healing to individuals, families, and communities. Chris’s philosophy is that interventions work best when they are predicated on love, kindness, and compassion. He is also realistic that the work often starts after someone lands in a facility. Yet, getting someone into a facility is a success story in and of itself. Chris bears a striking resemblance to the erudite punk rocker, Henry Rollins, from the band, Black Flag, in his younger days. (Chris took this comparison as a compliment during the interview. Phew.) Interestingly, Rollins and Chris share some of the same philosophy. Rollins once said that “someone, somewhere is thinking about you,” and “scar tissue is stronger than regular tissue.” Interventions work because someone is thinking about you (and loving you) enough to help you, especially when you least want help but most need it. And the recovery process can help become stronger in the broken places that adhere beneath the scar tissue. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here
Running with Ray Horwitz: Evolutionary Psychiatry
Oct 11 2022
Running with Ray Horwitz: Evolutionary Psychiatry
Dr. James Bramson interviews Dr. Ray Horwitz Drs. Jim and Ray were undergraduate classmates and roommates. As college kids, they bonded over music, psychology, humor, and working out. And now, as seasoned professionals, they both subscribe to the philosophy that good self-care is good client-care. Dr. Ray is a an accomplished psychiatrist and a man of many talents. He is a skilled musician, a triathlete, and a sought-after teacher. He’s taught classes in medicine at Emory University and in pharmacology for physicians across the country.  His clientele ranges from struggling moms to Olympic athletes. And he’s a mensch to boot.Dr. Ray agreed to be interviewed, not for self promotion, but to support other medical professionals and therapists who might stumble or may make avoidable mistakes. Plus he wants to make sure patients are better consumers of psychiatry. He talks about how he will go above and beyond to serve his patients in ways other docs may not. Dr. Ray also kvetches about the challenges of prescribing controlled substances and how it hamstrings physicians.  His natural humor and wisdom shine through when he discusses the evolution of psychiatry, and how it must address a new epidemic:  loneliness. We learn that loneliness is as lethal as smoking 15-cigarettes a day. Dr. Ray is concerned that telemedicine may perpetuate a client’s sense of isolation and loneliness. Not sure if it leads to more or less smoking? You decide. To get on the same wave length as Dr. Ray. I suggest you listen to this Podcast while working out, running, biking, lifting weights, etc. (The only way I got him to this was to go on a run with him!) However, he would not recommend that you listen while swimming, doing handstands in yoga, helicopter skiing, or rock climbing…. but whatever works. WCMI networking group A networking group for mindfulness-focused clinicians dedicated to learning together & collaborating for more information click here