A Fight Worth Fighting: A Marriage and Family Podcast

A Marriage and Family Podcast By Amanda Borrego

On your wedding day you said those famous words, right? You know, “for better or for worse”? Well, what happens when the "for worse" part just seems to go on and on and on and on!? Lol. On this podcast we will seek advice and encouragement from those who have long happy marriages and have lived out the saying, “it may not be easy, but it will be worth it!” So please, join me friends, because my hope is that one day we will look back and say “wow, it was A Fight Worth Fighting!” read less

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The host of A Fight Worth Fighting: A Marriage and Family Podcast has a lot of examples of good marriages in her life. Amanda Borrego-Perea's parents are still married. Her grandparents were still together before they passed. In addition, her dad is one of six siblings, and they are all in happy partnerships that seem only to get better. This is all good news. But it also made Amanda feel like she was alone when she started having issues in her relationship.

When Amanda entered what she calls "a hard season" with her husband, she thought they weren't going to make it. She presumed that no one else was fighting in their partnerships. However, one girls' night out with her cousins, aunts, and mom taught her otherwise.

That evening, she heard stories about the struggles her family members were dealing with. Amanda learned that every single woman in that group had fights. Every wife had low moments with her spouse, and they all had to overcome differences. Moreover, those struggles made their relationships stronger and made them last longer. This gave Amanda remarkable comfort. It also gave her an idea for the A Fight Worth Fighting podcast.

A Fight Worth Fighting: A Marriage and Family Podcast has a simple mission. It's a place for Amanda to expand on the advice from that girls' night. It's a platform for Amanda to consult with her elders. It's where she tries to get the best guidance about intimacy, parenting, managing a household, and more. In some episodes, Amanda talks to her divorced friends about what they learned in the process. In another episode, she asks a husband in a long-term marriage about the importance of sex. She touches on everything from postpartum depression to pornography. There is no topic off limits when it comes to marital life. Her goal is to make her listeners feel less alone in their marital struggles.

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Episodes

😳Do you have a Back-Up Plan?
Apr 5 2023
😳Do you have a Back-Up Plan?
Time to Throw Away Your Back-up Plan Our guest this week shares that being married young was only the beginning of the obstacles they faced.  For her, she always felt as though she needed a “back-up plan.”Check out our website,  and get the 7 Marriage Challenges to start Creating Miracles in your Marriage today! Rate and Review Here! (scroll to the bottom)I recorded our first episode in the middle of what could have turned into a big, ugly fight over a cardboard box. Yes. Really. I am not here to give you advice because trust me- I do not have it all figured out! There have been many days where we have wondered if our marriage is going to make it. On this podcast we will seek the advice from husbands and wives whose marriages have stood the test of time and I ask them one question: Was there ever a time you wanted to call it quits, separate, or get a divorce? If so, how did you make it through it?Please connect with me on Instagram! It wasn’t until about 10 years into their marriage that she had to give it all to the Lord and confront her back-up plan. From then on, her entire mindset around her marriage changed.  The thing is, for anyone who comes from divorced parents, there tends to be this idea that they need a back-up plan. A safety net, if you will. A way to not get hurt.  The motivator for this is almost always to protect themself from hurt. But the reality is, you will never ensure complete protection from pain. Your greatest form of protection comes from the Lord.  "Your back-up plan is hurting you and your spouse." In this week’s episode I interview Melody Jacobs. A mother of five who is passionate about her marriage, her kids, and seeing women find their potential. We talk all things marriage and what having a “back-up plan” is actually doing to you. Married for 25 years, Melody and her husband are overflowing with wisdom to share. High school sweethearts, they got married at a young age. When I asked Melody if there was ever a time in her marriage when she didn’t think it’d work out, she replied “yes!”  This week I encourage you to check yourself, do you have a back-up plan for your marriage? Does your spouse? Sometimes the reality is that this back-up plan is in the subconscious. There’s a subconscious need to protect and, until you confront it, your marriage will never reach its full potential.  God is big enough to change your heart, your spouse’s heart, and your marriage. The best thing you can do is align yourself with who the Lord wants you to be. If you do this, when trouble comes in – which it will – you will be centered and unshakeable.  By making it clear you do not have a back-up plan you are bringing stability to your marriage, your household, and even you.
Divorce is NOT an Option, Becoming a Team in Marriage...
Mar 15 2023
Divorce is NOT an Option, Becoming a Team in Marriage...
Divorce is Not an Option. If you feel like this advice is harsh because of how bad your marriage is, check out our free giveaway:"What to do if your Spouse is Tearing your Marriage Apart"So, what is the most downloaded episode in the history of this podcast? I don’t think it’ll be a surprise! When looking for the #1 all time episode, there was no shock when the statistics showed that the two-part interview discussing divorce are the two most downloaded episodes. In this episode, I interview Dan Yeazel and learn about the agreement he and his wife built the foundation of their marriage on, divorce is never an option. Their driving force? Not wanting their kids to grow up seeing the things they did, not wanting their family to struggle with the implications of divorce.  “We walked into this marriage knowing and committing that divorce would never be on the table.”Not giving their marriage the option of divorce provided stability within their marriage, they both understood from minute one that divorce would never be an option, therefore it was not a lurking fear in the back of their minds. Marriage is hard and struggle is inevitable. Building your relationship through God can help the struggle not feel so lonely.  The best advice Dan shares to the stability of his marriage is seen in James 1:19, “Be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger” because, as Dan shares, “you can apologize but you can’t take those words back.” Words hurt, harsh words are unforgettable and neither your partner nor your marriage deserves that. “God wants our families to stay together. Take a stand for your marriage!”Listen to the interview here to hear everything about marriage, the different roles between man and woman within marriage, and the ways in which turning to God can change everything for the better. The advice Dan shares is full of encouragement for you and your marriage. For 3 steps on how to embrace this philosophy in your marriage, no matter how bad things are, read the entire blog post here. Love Always, AmandaPS. If you are a business owner in need of a website or graphic design, checkout my husbands business! He's honestly amazing!!! LenaDesignCo.
One Moment of Courage can Change your Entire Marriage...
Dec 28 2022
One Moment of Courage can Change your Entire Marriage...
"I wasn’t a bad guy, I didn't do wrong things, I did everything to care for my children. But I didn’t understand that caring for my family meant caring for my wife. I worked hard but I didn’t often put her first. I put my own interest before my marriage. Really, more of the problems were centered around me and her processing through me putting her second. And her feeling second a lot was a lot of why she felt angry. She would respond in anger because she was so filled up with being treated poorly."Do not miss what our AMAZING guest Bryan Jacobs has to share on this episode!! Definitely one of my favorites!! Check out his podcast "The Underdressed Podcast" here! Check out his wife's podcast here the "Elijah Rising" podcast To give back to this podcast please become a patreon HEREIf you're a business and need a website or graphic design check us out HEREI recorded our first episode in the middle of what could have turned into a big, ugly fight over a cardboard box. Yes. Really. I am not here to give you advice because trust me- I do not have it all figured out! There have been many days where we have wondered if our marriage is going to make it. On this podcast we will seek the advice from husbands and wives whose marriages have stood the test of time and I ask them one question: Was there ever a time you wanted to call it quits, separate, or get a divorce? If so, how did you make it through it?Please connect with me on Instagram! We love you and want to remind you that God is for you and for your marriage and family!Amanda Thanks for joining us for all things husband and wife life, relationship goals, marriage advice,  Motherhood  and stepmom help!
How to be the Man your Family Needs, How Divorce feels from a Child's Perspective
Jul 20 2021
How to be the Man your Family Needs, How Divorce feels from a Child's Perspective
You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.” James 1:19Have past hurst and marriage struggles caused you to put up your guard and protect yourself? With each hurt we put up our guards a little more and a little more, this can cause us to become bitter and resentful-without really realizing it. When we become overly protective of ourselves, as to not get hurt we can show up very selfishly. It becomes hard to serve, or to really even love our spouse. When we have had so many hurts and hangups it is hard to see clearly how selfish we have really become. Listen to this weeks episode for ideas on how to break through that selfishness and start serving your spouse. "Both my wife and I came from parents who divorced and broken families. So we came into our marriage committing that divorce would never be on the table and that we would do whatever we could to prevent our children from going through what we had to endure as children of divorce. We decided that divorce would never be an option." - Dan Yeazel Have you resolved that divorce is not an option? Or do you live in constant fear that your marriage may one day end? Resolving that you are in it to stay can create space for you and your spouse to feel reassured and safe enough to put in the real work that is needed to have a lasting marriage. Our guest Dan Yeazel shares how as a child of divorce, and despite the struggles and crisis that they faced, resolved to do whatever it takes to stay married and shares that because of the hard work, commitment, and sticking it out though the hard times "wakes up every morning thanking God for his wife."Check out our website,  and get the 7 Marriage Challenges to start Creating Miracles in your Marriage today! Rate and Review Here! (scroll to the bottom)About this podcast: I recorded our first episode in the middle of what could have turned into a big, ugly fight over a cardboard box. Yes. Really. I am not here to give you advice because trust me- I do not have it all figured out! There have been many days where we have wondered if our marriage is going to make it. On this podcast we will seek the advice from husbands and wives whose marriages have stood the test of time and I ask them one question: Was there ever a time you wanted to call it quits, separate, or get a divorce? If so, how did you make it through it?Please connect with me on Instagram! To Join My 21 Day Healthy and Active Challenge Complete this Wellness ProfileSupport this Podcast Here! Books mentioned: (if you are interested in purchasing please use these links as I will receive a small commission to help keep this podcast going)LOVE AND RESPECTHow to Win Friends and Influence People A Complaint Free WorldThe Magic  We love you and want to remind you that God is for you and for your marriage and family!Amanda Thanks for joining us for all things husband and wife life, relationship goals, marriage advice,  and stepmom help!
Divorce is Not an Option, Becoming a Team in Marriage
Jul 7 2021
Divorce is Not an Option, Becoming a Team in Marriage
"Both my wife and I came from parents who divorced and broken families. So we came into our marriage committing that divorce would never be on the table and that we would do whatever we could to prevent our children from going through what we had to endure as children of divorce. We decided that divorce would never be an option." - Dan Yeazel Have you resolved that divorce is not an option? Or do you live in constant fear that your marriage may one day end? Resolving that you are in it to stay can create space for you and your spouse to feel reassured and safe enough to put in the real work that is needed to have a lasting marriage. Our guest Dan Yeazel shares how as a child of divorce, and despite the struggles and crisis that they faced, resolved to do whatever it takes to stay married and shares that because of the hard work, commitment, and sticking it out though the hard times "wakes up every morning thanking God for his wife."Check out our website,  and get the 7 Marriage Challenges to start Creating Miracles in your Marriage today! Rate and Review Here! (scroll to the bottom)About this podcast: I recorded our first episode in the middle of what could have turned into a big, ugly fight over a cardboard box. Yes. Really. I am not here to give you advice because trust me- I do not have it all figured out! There have been many days where we have wondered if our marriage is going to make it. On this podcast we will seek the advice from husbands and wives whose marriages have stood the test of time and I ask them one question: Was there ever a time you wanted to call it quits, separate, or get a divorce? If so, how did you make it through it?Please connect with me on Instagram! To Join My 21 Day Healthy and Active Challenge Complete this Wellness ProfileSupport this Podcast Here! Books mentioned: (if you are interested in purchasing please use these links as I will receive a small commission to help keep this podcast going)LOVE AND RESPECTHow to Win Friends and Influence People A Complaint Free WorldThe Magic  We love you and want to remind you that God is for you and for your marriage and family!Amanda Thanks for joining us for all things husband and wife life, relationship goals, marriage advice,  and stepmom help!