Send us a Text Message.This week, Tiktok is on fire with the information that women feel safer with bears than men.  We dive into why that is, and along the way discuss Face-ism, Ding Dongs, and what animals Virginia is cool with and why.References:Would You Rather Be Stuck With A Man Or A Bear- Alex PortePromising Young WomanWomen Are More Afraid Of Men Than Bears- Liz BlankThe Scariest Encounters Women Have On The Appalachian Trail- Melanie HamlettHow Our Brains Turn Women Into Objects- Pierre Carlo ValdesoloHeadless Women of Hollywood- Marcia BelskyResearch Shows Brains See Men As People, Women As Body PartsSteve Smith

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, we discuss aphantasia, hyperphantasia, synaesthesia, and the forty to seventy percent of you guys who have no inner monologue!We also fight about Billy Joel, talk about #medievalrizz, an REM album, the Cure song All Cats Are Grey, and what Mary J. Blige and Beyonce have in common, besides being awesome.References:Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers: Robert Sapolsky

Send us a Text Message.TRIGGER WARNING: SA, SUICIDE, TRAUMAEvelyn Vieira is The Cycle Breaker Coach - helping parents break the cycle of codependency, abuse and family dysfunction.She's also a Certified Trauma Support Specialist, Parent Coach and Positive Discipline Educator. She specializes in family dysfunction, toxic relationships and narcissistic abuse and recovery.This week we cover such diverse subjects as:Why is Thanksgiving bad for your mentals?Who has the highest ACES score on the podcast?Why do some mice hate cherry blossoms?What if Jeff Foxworthy was a trauma coach?And so much more!References:Center For Disease Control and Prevention: ACESWashington Post: Study finds that fear can travel quickly through generations of mice DNA- By Meeri Kim  Purdue University News: Epigenetics offers puzzling twists and turns, but also possible cancer treatmentsHolocaust Survivors and Their Children: A Search for Positive Effects-Fara KaplanPsychology Today: What is a Cycle-Breaker?: Sarah Epstein, LMFTBowen Center For The Study of the Family: Multigenerational Transmission ProcessCyclebreakerparenting.com

Send us a Text Message.Two Gen-Xers talk about the dangers of nostalgia, Pop Tarts, A-Ha, and why they haven't had a Big Red float in thirty years. Sources:Fuentenebro; de Diego, F; Valiente, C (2014). "Nostalgia: a conceptual history". Psychology Today: The Psychology of Nostalgia: David Ludden, PhDWhy We Long For The Past: The Science Behind Nostalgia19 Best Narrative Therapy Techniques & Worksheets- Courtney Ackerman

Send us a Text Message.Virginia leads this week's discussion of their favorite mentally ill musicians, and why the rate of mental illness and neurodivergence in musicians might be so high.  We also cover why it sucks to go to famous people's parties, how a T-shirt made Daniel Johnston famous, and why Gary Numan feels safer in his car.References:2019 Study by Record Union Songs in the Key of Z: Irwin ChusidThe Devil in Daniel Johnston

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, Virginia and Laura talk about popular fantasy books and films and what services they provide for children (and adults) in need.  On the way, they talk about why Black Widow and the Hulk never get together, how sexy Roald Dahl was, and why Virginia really can't stand Harry Potter.

Send us a Text Message.Virginia has found a twenty-year-old dating advice book in a free little library and wants to talk about it!  On the way, the girls discuss ghosting, Love is Blind, and why you should always put free books in an autoclave.  EX BOYFRIENDS: FOR SURE DON'T LISTEN TO THIS ONE YOUR FEELINGS WILL BE HURTReferences:He's Just Not That Into You, By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tucillo I Don‘t Care About Your Band, by Julie Klausner

Send us a Text Message.What does it mean to have an avoidant attachment style?  What does an anxious person do?  Why is Virginia a bad bet for relationships?   An overview of attachment theory and its history, as well as a quiz at the end for who's avoidant, anxious, and secure?References:Attachment Theory In Psychology- Saul Mcleod, PhDAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment- Amir Levine, M.D., and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. Why Won't You Date Me?- Nicole ByerImprinting Psychology: Konrad Lorenz Theory The Nature of Love: Harry Harlow

Send us a Text Message.Should you or shouldn't you have kids?  The girls weigh in on their different perspectives, what Robert Smith thinks, and where U.S. parenthood trends are headed.References: All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood by Jennifer Senior

Send us a Text Message.In which the girls discuss the toxicity of manifestation lore, the role of white supremacy in manifestation, whether manifestation is the new American religion, the many cock-ups of Joseph Smith, and why Trolls 2 cost twenty GD dollars to stream.References:Barbara Erenreich: Bright-SidedJon Krakauer: Under the Banner of HeavenMandira Gowda: Manifestation: A Tutorial from a HinduThe Secret: Rhonda ByrneLydia Sohn: Atlantic: The Aspects Of Manifestation We Shouldn’t Discount Mark Manson: The Staggering BS of “The Secret”

Send us a Text Message.In which the girls discuss 90 Day Fiancee, the sultan's palace, sex tourism in Asia,  the amazing guy that was Paul Gauguin, the original Cinderella story, and Bella Poarch!Love Me: Mail Order BridesThe History of the Mail-Order Bride- Marcia ZugDate-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game- Jon BirgerWhite Sexual Imperialism: A Theory of Asian Feminist Jurisprudence- Sunny WoanBEi6vn4eWqw6bShWfXdQ

Send us a Text Message.Bad breakup?  Job loss?  Bad vibes?  Laura teaches you how to rewire your brain and helps you understand why you got in a rut in the first place!  Also, how emojis helped the girls process losing a parent.  Listening to this episode will give you brain superpowers!Trevor Noah: What Now? PodcastLaugh, Cry, Live: How the Brain Rewires as We Grieve-Deborah L. Davis, Ph.DWhy We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love- Helen Fisher, Ph.DIB Psychology: Synaptic Pruning and Neural Networks- Travis Dixon

Send us a Text Message.Before King Charles was battling disease, he was battling an emotionally distant family.   In this episode, the girls discuss a very important book in Laura's development, Oliver James' They F*** You Up, and the poetry of Philip Larkin.Reference: They F*** You Up, by Oliver James

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, the ladies discuss the Imago Relationship Therapy model, “Getting The Love You Want” Harville Hendrix,  and why it's a life-changer in couples therapy.  On the way, they talk Slipknot, Shamans, and the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy- and what MAKES chemistry?  Find out!

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, Virginia leads Laura on a quasi factual ramble that touches on the history of tipping in the United States, the Gilded Age, Stepford Wives, and High-Value Men!  Also: was I supposed to be tipping at Home Depot the whole time?

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, Laura defines the personality disorders referred to as B-Clusters, including histrionic, narcissistic, paranoid, and Borderline personality disorders.  Guess which one Ferris Bueller is!References:  Margalis Fjelstad- Stop Caretaking The Borderline or NarcissistTikToker Lee HammackSusan Albers- Here's How to Identify (and Cope With) a Covert Narcissist

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, Laura talks about what we should do now to have a better life later on. Virginia talks about the Socratic method, Persian cats, and Lamborghinis, and why our self-esteem is so tied to what other people think.References: Dr. Robi Ludwig. "Your Best Age Is Now"Dr. Alicia Arbaje- "Strategies for Aging Well"Erik Erikson's Stages of DevelopmentPeggy Lee- "Is That All There Is?"

Send us a Text Message.For the first time, the girls welcome a guest onto the podcast- therapist and Imago expert Michelle Bohls!  They cover the topic of hidden misogyny- the many ways the deck is stacked against women that we don't even realize.  In this episode, we discuss romance novels, diet culture, and, of course- the Sherman Community Players.References:  Invisible Women: Exposing Hidden Bias In A World Designed For Men, by Caroline Criado-Perez

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, the girls talk about anger in men AND women (take that, haters!), what makes a Karen, the link between anger and recovery, and lots more.  On the way we touch on Marc Maron, Jon Lydon, and the therapeutic benefits of Walt Disney's The Little Mermaid.References: Newton Highwater: Anger Busting 101, Anger Busting WorkbookJean Holthaus: Deciphering Anger- What It's Trying To Tell YouBernard Golden: Healthy Anger

Send us a Text Message.Laura and VJ talk about the history of men saying women aren't funny, including Freud, Christopher Hitchens, and Virginia's latest Tiktok troll,  Arthur Greebler.   On the way, we talk Shakespeare, Chaucer, and Amy Schumer.