My guest, Christina Ioannides is a 6-time World Karate Fighting Champion, a breast cancer survivor, and the creator of the empowerment brand, Fabulous & FearLESS! She is living proof of the power of resilience, spirituality, and preparation. She also speaks on the balance between achieving your dream goals while maintaining a corporate world job. This is one episode you will want to look up on YouTube so you can see the things she demonstrates for self-defense. My lovelies, she wants you all to feel safe, strong, confident, and TAKE UP ROOM!!! Links to work with Christina below. Enjoy my lovelies! christina@fabulousfearless.comhttps://www.fabulousfearless.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/christina-ioannides/https://www.instagram.com/fabulous.fearless/https://www.facebook.com/FabulousandFearLESShttps://www.youtube.com/@fabulousfearless As usual, if you have any questions, comments, or would like to subscribe, please visit my website at www.theintimacyally.com. You get a fun freebie when you do.

Want to learn about the chakras and how they can affect your sex life and love life? Look no further. Yvette LeFlore of Healing with Yvette takes us through the chakras, crystals, her own online dating story, and how healing comes most from the work from within. She's one of my favorite people and I've been lucky enough to have healing sessions and learn rituals from her! She is a reiki master and teacher, a healer, and a hoot and a half! Such a fun episode. As usual, feel free to reach out with questions at theintimacyally@gmail.com and you can subscribe to get your freebies at www.theintimacyally.com. Don't forget to follow @theintimacyally on socials and follow the pod! To work with Yvette you can find her on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/healingwithyvette or you can head to her website at https://www.healingwithyvette.com/ Click below for a freebie from Ms. Yvette! https://www.healingwithyvette.com/diy-chakra-support/?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAAR0vUK8c7s6rCVQdVDWzkh4fexkoC7i4GAGF4vVOkTpELN0vmCZhEHTV8RE_aem_ARAP7yTvxkUjP8-Xq3JTL6Hy8p3ZGXVKCKMP1-te1JTXGRmZWIch7AoJY8rPqbOgCjF2Aeq6DvU0nfLipUZoEE8Q

It is time to explore some relationship style options and get to hear the ins and outs (oh you know that pun was fully intended) of being ethically non-monogamous. I'm so grateful to have had Tamara Pincus, Clinical Social Worker, to help walks us through some of the finer points of this subject. She not only works with kinky folks who may be exploring different relationship styles, she is also a practicing non-monoger herself. Hope you are as delighted with her wisdom, candor, and wonderful humor as I was. Links to her center and the books she mentioned below! As usual, if you have any questions or would like to submit your kink question for Kinksplain NOT Kink Shame next month, submit a contact form at www.theintimacyally.com or you can email me at theintimacyally@gmail.com https://tamarapincus.com/ https://thepincuscenter.teachable.com/p/mono-poly-coaching-support-group https://elisabethsheff.com/books/

Welcome to the first episode of Kinksplain NOT Kink Shame, my bonus episodes. Like Dr. Seuss...but about kinks. Ah really it's like it just because A is for Aquaphilia, B is for Breeding, and C is for Cuckolding. These are the 3 kinks we explore in this first episode. As usual, if you have any questions, or if you think of a kink you would like me to cover, feel free to shoot me a message at theintimacyally@gmail.com or fill out a contact form at www.theintimacyally.com As mentioned, here's the story quoting Dr. Lee Phillips: https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a60430974/what-is-breeding-kink/ Dr. Justin Lehmiller has an amazing podcast called Sex & Psychology you should check out. You can find his book, Tell Me What You Want, here: https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want-ebook/dp/B0776PYDNM And last, but certainly not least, here is the link to Dr. David Ley's book, Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them: https://www.amazon.com/Insatiable-Wives-Women-Stray-Love/dp/1442200316 If you've been listening at all, you know I love me some Dr. Ley and the Sexual Health Alliance for introducing me to many of my sexuality heroes and letting me know that learning and teaching about kink is not only acceptable, but necessary. Check them out at: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/

Apologies Abound. First for being MIA. Second for the shitty sound. Not really sure what went wrong here, but it is better after 3 and a half minutes. Some great nuggets here about how magic and weilding it has played a part in my growth and good fortune in finding a partner over the last couple years. I go into detail about my marriage ending, my moon ritual and how I manifested Zach. Results will absolutely vary, but I wanted to share what helped guide me to manifest my man. Also, there's an announcement about Kinksplain not Kinkshame episodes starting this weekend. I'd better head down to the hovel and figure out wtf is wrong with my mic! As usual, I'm open for questions. Submit a contact form or sign up for updates at www.theintimacyally.com or you can follow me @theintimacyally on IG for all the fun.

Soooo, why do dudes hate boundaries? Well, we're gonna talk a lil about that but we're also gonna discuss why we're not so great at upholding them. Then I'm gonna give ya a few tips on how to strengthen them. Sound good? Cool. Until Next Time, My Lovelies, Remember: Say Fuck No to the Status Quo! As mentioned, here are some sites to look into if you're looking to get some more training in this area: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/ https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/

In this episode, Jeni Simas discusses stress management for women. She shares her personal experience with stress and the challenges of balancing multiple responsibilities. Jeni explores common myths about stress and provides her own perspective on the topic. She also highlights the symptoms of stress in women and offers various stress management strategies. Jeni reveals her secret to not letting stress get the best of her and emphasizes the importance of orgasms for stress relief. She addresses the pleasure gap and the benefits of orgasms for women's health. Jeni challenges the guilt associated with stress and encourages women to prioritize self-care, particularly through masturbation.Takeaways Stress is not solely determined by external circumstances but also by our thoughts and emotions.Stress can have physical, emotional, mental, occupational, social, and spiritual symptoms.Effective stress management strategies include guided imagery, meditation, deep breathing, exercise, and social support.Orgasms can provide powerful stress relief and have numerous health benefits for women.Women should prioritize self-care and not feel guilty about taking time for themselves. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Stress 02:28 Myths About Stress 06:22 Women and Stress Symptoms 07:20 Stress Management Strategies 11:16 The Secret to Managing Stress 14:16 The Pleasure Gap and Orgasm Stress Relief 21:49 Guilt and Stress in Women 22:57Masturbation as Stress Relief Visit www.theintimacyally.com and subscribe to get your free self-love guide. Sign-up for Making Online Dating Magical Group starting 4-8-2024! Just click the link below! https://subscribepage.io/aHVf1S Links: https://www.ebooks.com/en-us/book/2662141/becoming-cliterate/laurie-mintz/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myth-stress/201005/8-deadly-myths-about-stress https://www.self.com/story/5-explosive-facts-about-the-female-orgasm https://www.verywellmind.com/tips-to-reduce-stress-3145195

It's Episode 25 My Lovelies!!! So much happening in here. Today we dive into this myth that somehow "ugly" girls deserve scraps and crumbs and should just take what they can get when it comes to romantic relationships. I used to buy in HARD on this line of patriarchal bullshit. I start off the episode with news about me winning a Pitch-off with the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) which included a panel of my Sexual Professionals World heroes, Dr. David Ley, Dr. Chris Donaghue, and Jetsetting Jasmine! Y'all I about died! And I won for my upcoming Group Coaching Program, "Making Online Dating Magical" so check that link out and secure your spot honey lambs! If you would like more info about any of these stars, please shoot me a message! Also the book I mentioned is "The Body is Not an Apology" by Sonya Renee Taylor. I highly recommend you check it out if you are suffering from feeling like your body makes you unworthy of love and attention. I round out the episode by revealing my tagline!!! Finally!!! Took some soul searching but I have found it.

Summary In this episode, Jeni Simas discusses the topic of fixing others in relationships. She shares her personal experiences and how it relates to the TV show Parks and Recreation. Jeni explores the cultural influence on the idea of fixing others, highlighting the gendered expectations placed on women. She also discusses the impact of family dynamics and the relationship with parents on this behavior. Low self-esteem and fear of intimacy are identified as factors that contribute to the desire to fix others. Jeni emphasizes the importance of finding a good partner who complements you rather than a project. She concludes by announcing a group coaching program. Takeaways Cultural norms and gendered expectations contribute to the belief that women should fix others in relationships. Family dynamics and the relationship with parents can influence the desire to fix others. Low self-esteem can lead to seeking out projects in relationships. Fear of intimacy can manifest as a desire to fix others. It is important to find a partner who complements you rather than trying to fix them. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Experience 01:01 Cultural Influence on Fixing Others 04:21 Family Dynamics 05:38 Relationship with Parents 07:30 Low Self-Esteem 08:10 Fear of Intimacy 12:32 Emotionally Unavailable Partners 19:19 Fight Antiquated Social Norms 20:09 Group Coaching Program Announcement 20:59 Conclusion

Meh. I hates it. I'm going to sound like the absolute bitterest buddy in this episode, but hear me out. I just think it does more harm than good and the "story" behind it is actually quite gross. Capitalism has taken over Valentine's day for over a century. Let's spend our hard earned moola on something better and not be victims to the pressures this Hallmark holiday creates. Who's with me? Dig what you're hearing? Gimme a like n follow and find me @theintimacyally on Instagram. Are you re-entering the dating scene over 40 or have you been trying to online date as a mom and it just sucks? Never fear, The Intimacy Ally is here! Let me help you get the fun and magic spark back in your dating adventure. Find the link to sign up for my workshop in my linktree here: https://linktr.ee/theintimacyally Also, as promised here's the link to my favorite History YouTuber History Calling: https://www.youtube.com/@HistoryCalling

Y'all, I hope you've missed me as much as I've missed sharing info with you! Life just crept up on me. I started an online grad school program and the final for my first class overlapped with some major mental health issues for a loved one and well, everything but the bare minimum came to a screeching halt. Anywho, today I'm jabbering on about ways that sex can deteriorate in relationships and some ways to combat its demise. If you like what ya hear, follow me on IG @theintimacyally. You can DM me there for info on my upcoming course for helping moms over 40 get back in the dating game. STILL haven't come up with what I wanna say at the end of the episodes. If you have an idea, shoot me an email at theintimacyally@gmail.com.

Heeeyyyyy! The podcast is old enough to drink! LOL...so for episode 21, I present to you...how the 5 love languages are bullshit. I want you to wipe all of this Christian misogynistic rhetoric out of your head honey lamb! Credit where credit is due I have some links below to stories that inspired this episode and also, I made a whoopsie about Scary Mommy...don't hate me cuz I still love Scary Mommy! Enjoy my lovelies! Oh, and if you wanna get on the waitlist for "Making Online Dating Magical" you can do that on the page for the class on my website www.theintimacyally.com OR you can shoot me a DM on Instagram @theintimacyally OOORRRR you can send me an email at theintimacyally@gmail.com. Now for those links to others! https://www.scarymommy.com/creator-5-love-languages-homophobe https://www.canculturemag.com/feature-1/2023/2/10/the-loveless-truth-behind-the-five-love-languages#:~:text=Gary%20Chapman%20published%20his%20book,the%20importance%20of%20love%20languages. https://www.tiktok.com/@raquelmartinphd?lang=en

Summary In this episode, Jeni Simas debunks the myth of soulmates and explores the harmful impact of this belief. She emphasizes the importance of finding soul connections beyond romantic relationships and challenges the scarcity mindset associated with soulmates. By letting go of the idea of soulmates, individuals can experience freedom and open themselves up to a wider pool of potential partners. Jeni also discusses the key factors that contribute to lasting and fulfilling relationships. Additionally, she announces the launch of the Making Online Dating Magical Mastermind. Takeaways Soulmates are a myth and a harmful belief that can negatively impact one's dating journey. Finding soul connections can extend beyond romantic relationships and include meaningful connections with friends and family. Letting go of the idea of soulmates allows individuals to explore a wider pool of potential partners and experience freedom in their dating journey. The key factors that contribute to lasting and fulfilling relationships include intimate connection, honest communication, mutual respect, shared values, and similar life goals. Chapters 00:00 The Myth of Soulmates 02:30 The Harmful Impact of Soulmates 05:03 Finding Soul Connections Beyond Romance 06:36 The Scarcity Mindset of Soulmates 08:06 The Freedom of Letting Go of Soulmates 10:03 What Makes a Relationship Lasting and Fulfilling 12:42 Announcement: Making Online Dating Magical Mastermind

Calling BS on how we all came up thinking that Al and Peg's interactions were okay and that if someone treated you like scum, you could and should stay. I think personally, they had a more lasting effect on me than ANY positive role model. I still see it in so many relationships and interactions. So, here goes. Let's blow this one out of the water. Married with Children done f*cked a lot of our heads.

Do guys want a date or the info for a sex worker? Is there really a number of dates you are supposed to go on before you are "allowed" to have sex? Are you doomed to be coined a slut if you hit it on the first date or a prude if you haven't by the 10th? Auntie Jeni is here to tell you it is all bull and that as long is there is communication, consent, and risk awareness you should be good to go. Also, money and time spent should not force anyone to give in to someone else's sexpectations.

Like what you're hearing? Don't forget to Follow the podcast and follow me on Instagram @theintimacyally Want to get on the waitlist for "Making Online Dating Magical"? Go to www.theintimacyally.com Episode Summary In this episode, Jeni Simas challenges the myth that no one wants to date women in their 40s with kids. She shares her personal experience of finding love online and emphasizes that age and parental status do not define a person's worth or desirability. Jeni encourages women to embrace their roles as mothers and individuals and confidently get on dating apps. She also promotes her Making Online Dating Magical course as a resource for guidance and support in navigating the online dating world. Key Takeaways Age and parental status do not determine a person's worth or desirability in the dating world. Women in their 40s with kids can find love and have successful relationships through online dating. Embrace your role as a mother and a person, and be proud of who you are. Get on dating apps with confidence and showcase your unique qualities and interests. Chapters 00:00 Apologizing for Life and Kids Getting in the Way 01:45 Challenging the Myth of Dating Women in Their 40s with Kids 03:08 Starting Online Dating at 40 04:27 Initial Experiences on Dating Apps 05:25 Overcoming Societal Myths and Insecurities 07:12 Considering Deleting the Dating App 08:17 Taking a Chance on a Younger Man 11:55 Finding Love as a Woman in Her 40s with Kids 13:19 Age and Parental Status Do Not Define Your Worth 15:41 Embracing Your Role as a Mother and a Person 16:46 Being Proud of Who You Are and Getting on Dating Apps 18:14 Promoting the Making Online Dating Magical Course 18:45 Apology and Closing Remarks

"Oh no, you must not give away your flower, I mean your virginity. You will just be an apple with a bunch of bites taken out of it. You'll be a chewed up piece of gum." If this is some of the bullshit you grew up hearing concerning virginity, strap in for a ride through time finding out just WHY virginity seems to matter so much. Join me and Adelina Adler (she/they) as we embark on a journey through time deciphering the meaning behind and the myths surrounding the notions of sacred virginity! Interested in learning with me directly, email me at theintimacyally@gmail.com for upcoming events, you FREE self-love guide, and to get on the waitlist for the new course, "Making Online Dating Magical" coming in 2024! To work with Adelina please email her at askaddyadler@gmail.com or visit her website at askaddyadler.wixsite.com/coaching and check out her podcast at https://open.spotify.com/show/3L86apSmWsG2KMNGCHz6WR?si=3f7a74472b264434 Be kind. Stay Curious. And try to never be the smartest person in the room.

Have you ever wondered what tantra is or how it could help you? In this episode, Tantrica Kira Leigh gives us insider tips on what tantric massage and this modality can do for you and your partner. Whether you are young or old, working with a penis or a vulva, or committed in a long-term relationship or learning about yourself, tantra can be an excellent tool to broaden your embodiment and pleasure. Visit https://www.krystatantric.com/ for more information! If you like what you're hearing, don't forget to follow the podcast and @theintimacyally on social media. You can learn more about my upcoming "Making Online Dating Magical" Course at www.theintimacyally.com. You can also subscribe for my newsletter and never miss an event. Email me at theintimacyally@gmail.com if you have questions, concerns, or want to get more information about 1:1 coaching availability.

What is a delusionship? How do you know you're in one...or more to the point...how do you know when someone is in one with you. My guest, Annie Nonymous, received a letter from a prison one day and found out that someone sure thought they were having a relationship with her and she hadn't a clue. Tune in for the rest! Check out my article on delusionships here: https://medium.com/@theintimacyally/7-facts-about-delusionships-c7709845126b As always my lovelies, should you need me, I am but a discovery call away. Book yours at www.theintimacyally.com

Y'all, fan girl moment! Dr. David Ley, PhD, a personal hero of mine who ran some of my favorite discussions in my Sexual Health Alliance trainings and conferences is my guest today to discuss women and porn consumption amongst other topics we hit on along the way. He is the author of Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them Back, Ethical Porn for Dicks (now one of my FAVORITE books!), andThe Myth of Sex Addiction. He also is one of the expert sex therapists who signed my certification from the Sexual Health Alliance. Okay, fangirl moment over...but also Squeeeeeee! His takes on porn addiction, sex addiction, societal influence on trends in women's porn consumption, and more will knock your socks off and get your synapses firing for more! You can find him on social media or on his website at: @drdavidley  Davidleyphd.com Dr. David Ley, PhD Bio David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his second book, The Myth of Sex Addiction, which started a firestorm of controversy about the validity of the concept of sex or porn addition. His third book presents a model for men to use to approach their use of pornography in a healthy manner. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in sources such as the New York Times, CNN and Time Magazine, to Hustler and Playboy magazines. Now that my website should be working correctly again, please subscribe at www.theintimacyally.com to get your FREE Self-Love Guide and/or get on the waitlist for new course debuting in 2024 "Making Online Dating Magical!" and start 2024 as your most authentic, empowered, and divine self! If you're diggin what you're hearing, don't forget to follow me on social media @theintimacyally and follow the podcast so you don't miss any juicy goodness!