Meet Kendra Holliday, a sex consultant, surrogate partner, and a sex worker. She has a fresh outlook on how healing men can butterfly effect out to increase the dating, romantic relationship, and sex lives of men and the women who are looking for them. She is a founding member of Sex Positive St. Louis, a wealth of knowledge on how humans interact intimately, and a person who you can just see connected to the world around her. Tuck in, my lovelies. This is an episode you don't want to miss. Have questions or want to suggest a topic for Story Time or Kinksplain NOT Kink Shame? Email me at theintimacyally@gmail.com. Follow the podcast and subscribe to my newsletter at www.theintimacyally.com to never miss a new workshop or gathering. To work with Kendra, you can visit: https://www.beopenandhonest.com/ To read and connect with Kendra, visit: https://www.thebeautifulkind.com/ For more information on Sex Positive St. Louis, visit: https://sexstl.com/about/

Happy Masturbation Month my lovelies! You are in for a treat! Meet Amy Weissfeld, founder of Joyful Self Love! Oh I do hope you enjoy this one my lovelies! If you are digging the podcast, please follow and tell a friend! Be sure to check out her website, http://www.joyfulselflove.com/ This is a great time to give yourself or someone you love the gift of a Workshop & Retreat with Somatic Sex Educator & Orgasm Coach, Amy Weissfeld. In person outside Portland, OR at the Dayenu Wind Mountain Retreat Center! 1:1 Coaching via Zoom and FT, as well as in-person, is also available. Be your best sexual self! All bodies, genders and orientations are welcome in this judgment free, sex positive, sacred healing space. https://www.joyfulselflove.com/coaching Bodysex: May, August & October, is a powerful and transformative workshop created by famed sexologist Betty Dodson, and facilitated in a lovely retreat setting by certified Somatic Sex Educator and coach, Amy Weissfeld. Love Your Body. Liberate Yourself. Experience Joy in Sisterhood. For anyone who identifies as a woman.  Together we explore sexuality, orgasm, masturbation, body image and pleasure. The power of the circle and the Bodysex workshop will forever change you. Come discover your best sexual self! Featured on Gwyneth Paltrow's Goop Labs, episode 3, The Pleasure is Ours, this retreat often sells out. Sign up today, you'll be so glad you did! Loads of testimonials, more information and the sign up are here:  http://www.joyfulselflove.com/bodysex-workshop  “Bodysex has given me the permission to realize and celebrate my own sexual power as something sacred.”  Dive Deep into Joyful Connection: Unlock the Power of The Wheel of Consent Retreat. Are you ready to revolutionize your relationships and embrace a newfound sense of connection and joy? Join us for an immersive three-day journey into The Wheel of Consent Retreat, this June & October in the breathtaking Columbia River Gorge, outside Portland, OR.Experience the profound impact of this powerful embodiment workshop, designed to elevate the quality of your interactions and awaken a sense of vitality and fulfillment in your life. The Wheel of Consent offers a transformative framework for understanding and navigating relationships, both with ourselves and with others. Through deep attunement to your own desires and boundaries, you'll learn to navigate interactions with clarity and grace, fostering a sense of safety and empowerment in your connections. As you embrace this liberating approach, you'll unlock the floodgates to a wealth of pleasure, gratitude, playfulness, intimacy, and confidence.Trusted by thousands and practiced worldwide, The Wheel of Consent is more than just a workshop—it's a catalyst for profound personal growth and relational harmony. Don't miss this opportunity to embark on a journey of self-discovery and joyful connection. Spaces are limited, so reserve your spot today! https://www.joyfulselflove.com/in-person-wheel-of-consent“I’ve learned the language of relationship in lots of different ways, but this was more like learning the notes or the letters I didn’t know I was missing! A few big AHAs for me for sure.” Amy's Bio: As a certified Somatic Sex Educator, Sexological Bodyworker & Orgasm Coach, Amy provides a compassionate, body‐based approach to sexual health and wellness ‐ a sort of sex therapy for the body. She is deeply passionate about healing the world through pleasure, about truth in relating, about choice and voice, about empowerment and about joyful living.She is also a School of Consent Teacher, a Betty Dodson Bodysex Facilitator, Mother, Advocate and Fierce Friend. Pronouns: she/her.Her life’s purpose is to empower people to live fully and joyfully in our bodies; to see and believe in our own beauty. Because knowing yourself and your own body makes you happy and whole. It also makes for better community and a healthier planet. www.JoyfulSelfLove.com

Hello my lovelies! Meet Courtney Brame! He is the creator of Something Positive for Positive People. I think it is an incredibly noble and creative solution to the herpes stigma many people are dealing with out here in the world. He has a virtual conference happening on Thursday, May 23, 2024 and so I had to get on it to get this episode out! I hope you will appreciate his candor, his wealth of information, and his inspiring message as much as I do. Here are some helpful links to reach Courtney, explore his non-profit, or to learn more about Herpes stigma and how to find community or help. FOR TICKETS TO THE VIRTUAL CONFERENCE HAPPENING THURSDAY, MAY 23 11AM TO 5PM www.spfpp.org/conferences To sign up for Courtney's newsletter, get information on upcoming events, get a membership, or donate to the cause visit: www.spfpp.org To view survey info from 2021, visit: www.spfpp.org/data Follow Courtney on Instagram: @CourtneyBrame_ As always, any questions, shoot me an email at theintimacyally@gmail.com

Pleasure Empowerment Sex Coach Shannon joins me to talk about loving yourself, giving yourself the freedom to explore, and allowing for the infinite options to attain pleasure. Shannon Burton is a sex coach out of New Orleans. She is certified by the Sexological institute. She enjoys going on journeys of self-pleasure with those she works with and geeks out on learning about people's fantasies and desires. Her insight is phenomenal and her ideas are exciting and original. Sooooo pressed for this episode my lovelies! If you would like to get on the waitlist for her group coaching program, Come Like a Queen, please use the link below to get a 15% discount! https://school.sexcoachshannon.com/come-like-a-queen?coupon=INTIMACY15 For inquiries on working with her directly, you can email her at hello@sexcoachshannon.com Visit her website for FREE resources at: https://sexcoachshannon.com/resources/ Her website is: https://sexcoachshannon.com/ As always, questions, concerns, ideas for Kinksplain or other episodes, shoot 'em my way at theintimacyally@gmail.com or send a message at www.theintimacyally.com.

Get ready to giggle as I say Suessical Joyney...instead of Journey. Woops. Today we explore letters D, E, and F. D is for Damsel in Distress Kink E is for Exhibitionist Kink F is for Flogging Fetish As promised, here are a couple links I referenced and look up Flogging Molly ffs! https://www.verywellmind.com/exhibitionism-8406423 https://xtramagazine.com/love-sex/flogging-101-49845 Message me at theintimacyally@gmail.com with questions or suggestions for kinks to cover. Subscribe at www.theintiamcyally.com to never miss a happening and don't forget to follow the podcast if you haven't yet.

My guest, Christina Ioannides is a 6-time World Karate Fighting Champion, a breast cancer survivor, and the creator of the empowerment brand, Fabulous & FearLESS! She is living proof of the power of resilience, spirituality, and preparation. She also speaks on the balance between achieving your dream goals while maintaining a corporate world job. This is one episode you will want to look up on YouTube so you can see the things she demonstrates for self-defense. My lovelies, she wants you all to feel safe, strong, confident, and TAKE UP ROOM!!! Links to work with Christina below. Enjoy my lovelies! christina@fabulousfearless.comhttps://www.fabulousfearless.com/https://www.linkedin.com/in/christina-ioannides/https://www.instagram.com/fabulous.fearless/https://www.facebook.com/FabulousandFearLESShttps://www.youtube.com/@fabulousfearless As usual, if you have any questions, comments, or would like to subscribe, please visit my website at www.theintimacyally.com. You get a fun freebie when you do.

Want to learn about the chakras and how they can affect your sex life and love life? Look no further. Yvette LeFlore of Healing with Yvette takes us through the chakras, crystals, her own online dating story, and how healing comes most from the work from within. She's one of my favorite people and I've been lucky enough to have healing sessions and learn rituals from her! She is a reiki master and teacher, a healer, and a hoot and a half! Such a fun episode. As usual, feel free to reach out with questions at theintimacyally@gmail.com and you can subscribe to get your freebies at www.theintimacyally.com. Don't forget to follow @theintimacyally on socials and follow the pod! To work with Yvette you can find her on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/healingwithyvette or you can head to her website at https://www.healingwithyvette.com/ Click below for a freebie from Ms. Yvette! https://www.healingwithyvette.com/diy-chakra-support/?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAAR0vUK8c7s6rCVQdVDWzkh4fexkoC7i4GAGF4vVOkTpELN0vmCZhEHTV8RE_aem_ARAP7yTvxkUjP8-Xq3JTL6Hy8p3ZGXVKCKMP1-te1JTXGRmZWIch7AoJY8rPqbOgCjF2Aeq6DvU0nfLipUZoEE8Q

It is time to explore some relationship style options and get to hear the ins and outs (oh you know that pun was fully intended) of being ethically non-monogamous. I'm so grateful to have had Tamara Pincus, Clinical Social Worker, to help walks us through some of the finer points of this subject. She not only works with kinky folks who may be exploring different relationship styles, she is also a practicing non-monoger herself. Hope you are as delighted with her wisdom, candor, and wonderful humor as I was. Links to her center and the books she mentioned below! As usual, if you have any questions or would like to submit your kink question for Kinksplain NOT Kink Shame next month, submit a contact form at www.theintimacyally.com or you can email me at theintimacyally@gmail.com https://tamarapincus.com/ https://thepincuscenter.teachable.com/p/mono-poly-coaching-support-group https://elisabethsheff.com/books/

Welcome to the first episode of Kinksplain NOT Kink Shame, my bonus episodes. Like Dr. Seuss...but about kinks. Ah really it's like it just because A is for Aquaphilia, B is for Breeding, and C is for Cuckolding. These are the 3 kinks we explore in this first episode. As usual, if you have any questions, or if you think of a kink you would like me to cover, feel free to shoot me a message at theintimacyally@gmail.com or fill out a contact form at www.theintimacyally.com As mentioned, here's the story quoting Dr. Lee Phillips: https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a60430974/what-is-breeding-kink/ Dr. Justin Lehmiller has an amazing podcast called Sex & Psychology you should check out. You can find his book, Tell Me What You Want, here: https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Me-What-You-Want-ebook/dp/B0776PYDNM And last, but certainly not least, here is the link to Dr. David Ley's book, Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them: https://www.amazon.com/Insatiable-Wives-Women-Stray-Love/dp/1442200316 If you've been listening at all, you know I love me some Dr. Ley and the Sexual Health Alliance for introducing me to many of my sexuality heroes and letting me know that learning and teaching about kink is not only acceptable, but necessary. Check them out at: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/

Apologies Abound. First for being MIA. Second for the shitty sound. Not really sure what went wrong here, but it is better after 3 and a half minutes. Some great nuggets here about how magic and weilding it has played a part in my growth and good fortune in finding a partner over the last couple years. I go into detail about my marriage ending, my moon ritual and how I manifested Zach. Results will absolutely vary, but I wanted to share what helped guide me to manifest my man. Also, there's an announcement about Kinksplain not Kinkshame episodes starting this weekend. I'd better head down to the hovel and figure out wtf is wrong with my mic! As usual, I'm open for questions. Submit a contact form or sign up for updates at www.theintimacyally.com or you can follow me @theintimacyally on IG for all the fun.

Soooo, why do dudes hate boundaries? Well, we're gonna talk a lil about that but we're also gonna discuss why we're not so great at upholding them. Then I'm gonna give ya a few tips on how to strengthen them. Sound good? Cool. Until Next Time, My Lovelies, Remember: Say Fuck No to the Status Quo! As mentioned, here are some sites to look into if you're looking to get some more training in this area: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/ https://www.meetmichellerenee.com/

In this episode, Jeni Simas discusses stress management for women. She shares her personal experience with stress and the challenges of balancing multiple responsibilities. Jeni explores common myths about stress and provides her own perspective on the topic. She also highlights the symptoms of stress in women and offers various stress management strategies. Jeni reveals her secret to not letting stress get the best of her and emphasizes the importance of orgasms for stress relief. She addresses the pleasure gap and the benefits of orgasms for women's health. Jeni challenges the guilt associated with stress and encourages women to prioritize self-care, particularly through masturbation.Takeaways Stress is not solely determined by external circumstances but also by our thoughts and emotions.Stress can have physical, emotional, mental, occupational, social, and spiritual symptoms.Effective stress management strategies include guided imagery, meditation, deep breathing, exercise, and social support.Orgasms can provide powerful stress relief and have numerous health benefits for women.Women should prioritize self-care and not feel guilty about taking time for themselves. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Stress 02:28 Myths About Stress 06:22 Women and Stress Symptoms 07:20 Stress Management Strategies 11:16 The Secret to Managing Stress 14:16 The Pleasure Gap and Orgasm Stress Relief 21:49 Guilt and Stress in Women 22:57Masturbation as Stress Relief Visit www.theintimacyally.com and subscribe to get your free self-love guide. Sign-up for Making Online Dating Magical Group starting 4-8-2024! Just click the link below! https://subscribepage.io/aHVf1S Links: https://www.ebooks.com/en-us/book/2662141/becoming-cliterate/laurie-mintz/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-myth-stress/201005/8-deadly-myths-about-stress https://www.self.com/story/5-explosive-facts-about-the-female-orgasm https://www.verywellmind.com/tips-to-reduce-stress-3145195

It's Episode 25 My Lovelies!!! So much happening in here. Today we dive into this myth that somehow "ugly" girls deserve scraps and crumbs and should just take what they can get when it comes to romantic relationships. I used to buy in HARD on this line of patriarchal bullshit. I start off the episode with news about me winning a Pitch-off with the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA) which included a panel of my Sexual Professionals World heroes, Dr. David Ley, Dr. Chris Donaghue, and Jetsetting Jasmine! Y'all I about died! And I won for my upcoming Group Coaching Program, "Making Online Dating Magical" so check that link out and secure your spot honey lambs! If you would like more info about any of these stars, please shoot me a message! Also the book I mentioned is "The Body is Not an Apology" by Sonya Renee Taylor. I highly recommend you check it out if you are suffering from feeling like your body makes you unworthy of love and attention. I round out the episode by revealing my tagline!!! Finally!!! Took some soul searching but I have found it.

Summary In this episode, Jeni Simas discusses the topic of fixing others in relationships. She shares her personal experiences and how it relates to the TV show Parks and Recreation. Jeni explores the cultural influence on the idea of fixing others, highlighting the gendered expectations placed on women. She also discusses the impact of family dynamics and the relationship with parents on this behavior. Low self-esteem and fear of intimacy are identified as factors that contribute to the desire to fix others. Jeni emphasizes the importance of finding a good partner who complements you rather than a project. She concludes by announcing a group coaching program. Takeaways Cultural norms and gendered expectations contribute to the belief that women should fix others in relationships. Family dynamics and the relationship with parents can influence the desire to fix others. Low self-esteem can lead to seeking out projects in relationships. Fear of intimacy can manifest as a desire to fix others. It is important to find a partner who complements you rather than trying to fix them. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Experience 01:01 Cultural Influence on Fixing Others 04:21 Family Dynamics 05:38 Relationship with Parents 07:30 Low Self-Esteem 08:10 Fear of Intimacy 12:32 Emotionally Unavailable Partners 19:19 Fight Antiquated Social Norms 20:09 Group Coaching Program Announcement 20:59 Conclusion

Meh. I hates it. I'm going to sound like the absolute bitterest buddy in this episode, but hear me out. I just think it does more harm than good and the "story" behind it is actually quite gross. Capitalism has taken over Valentine's day for over a century. Let's spend our hard earned moola on something better and not be victims to the pressures this Hallmark holiday creates. Who's with me? Dig what you're hearing? Gimme a like n follow and find me @theintimacyally on Instagram. Are you re-entering the dating scene over 40 or have you been trying to online date as a mom and it just sucks? Never fear, The Intimacy Ally is here! Let me help you get the fun and magic spark back in your dating adventure. Find the link to sign up for my workshop in my linktree here: https://linktr.ee/theintimacyally Also, as promised here's the link to my favorite History YouTuber History Calling: https://www.youtube.com/@HistoryCalling

Y'all, I hope you've missed me as much as I've missed sharing info with you! Life just crept up on me. I started an online grad school program and the final for my first class overlapped with some major mental health issues for a loved one and well, everything but the bare minimum came to a screeching halt. Anywho, today I'm jabbering on about ways that sex can deteriorate in relationships and some ways to combat its demise. If you like what ya hear, follow me on IG @theintimacyally. You can DM me there for info on my upcoming course for helping moms over 40 get back in the dating game. STILL haven't come up with what I wanna say at the end of the episodes. If you have an idea, shoot me an email at theintimacyally@gmail.com.

Heeeyyyyy! The podcast is old enough to drink! LOL...so for episode 21, I present to you...how the 5 love languages are bullshit. I want you to wipe all of this Christian misogynistic rhetoric out of your head honey lamb! Credit where credit is due I have some links below to stories that inspired this episode and also, I made a whoopsie about Scary Mommy...don't hate me cuz I still love Scary Mommy! Enjoy my lovelies! Oh, and if you wanna get on the waitlist for "Making Online Dating Magical" you can do that on the page for the class on my website www.theintimacyally.com OR you can shoot me a DM on Instagram @theintimacyally OOORRRR you can send me an email at theintimacyally@gmail.com. Now for those links to others! https://www.scarymommy.com/creator-5-love-languages-homophobe https://www.canculturemag.com/feature-1/2023/2/10/the-loveless-truth-behind-the-five-love-languages#:~:text=Gary%20Chapman%20published%20his%20book,the%20importance%20of%20love%20languages. https://www.tiktok.com/@raquelmartinphd?lang=en

Summary In this episode, Jeni Simas debunks the myth of soulmates and explores the harmful impact of this belief. She emphasizes the importance of finding soul connections beyond romantic relationships and challenges the scarcity mindset associated with soulmates. By letting go of the idea of soulmates, individuals can experience freedom and open themselves up to a wider pool of potential partners. Jeni also discusses the key factors that contribute to lasting and fulfilling relationships. Additionally, she announces the launch of the Making Online Dating Magical Mastermind. Takeaways Soulmates are a myth and a harmful belief that can negatively impact one's dating journey. Finding soul connections can extend beyond romantic relationships and include meaningful connections with friends and family. Letting go of the idea of soulmates allows individuals to explore a wider pool of potential partners and experience freedom in their dating journey. The key factors that contribute to lasting and fulfilling relationships include intimate connection, honest communication, mutual respect, shared values, and similar life goals. Chapters 00:00 The Myth of Soulmates 02:30 The Harmful Impact of Soulmates 05:03 Finding Soul Connections Beyond Romance 06:36 The Scarcity Mindset of Soulmates 08:06 The Freedom of Letting Go of Soulmates 10:03 What Makes a Relationship Lasting and Fulfilling 12:42 Announcement: Making Online Dating Magical Mastermind

Calling BS on how we all came up thinking that Al and Peg's interactions were okay and that if someone treated you like scum, you could and should stay. I think personally, they had a more lasting effect on me than ANY positive role model. I still see it in so many relationships and interactions. So, here goes. Let's blow this one out of the water. Married with Children done f*cked a lot of our heads.

Do guys want a date or the info for a sex worker? Is there really a number of dates you are supposed to go on before you are "allowed" to have sex? Are you doomed to be coined a slut if you hit it on the first date or a prude if you haven't by the 10th? Auntie Jeni is here to tell you it is all bull and that as long is there is communication, consent, and risk awareness you should be good to go. Also, money and time spent should not force anyone to give in to someone else's sexpectations.