Ever been caught in the endless cycle of saying "yes" when you really mean "no"? Together with Michaela Beaver, we share a heart-to-heart on the subtle, yet powerful grip of people-pleasing and codependency in our latest episode of 'Why Am I Like This?'. From the roots of our eagerness to please that burrow deep into our childhood soil, to the dance of fawning that keeps the peace at the expense of self, we unpack the complexities of these behaviors with honesty and empathy.Join us as we navigate the treacherous waters of losing one's identity in the quest to accommodate others, where the need to be seen as 'good' often overshadows our true desires and needs. Michaela and I reflect on our own moments of internal conflict, even over something as simple as choosing a restaurant, and we discuss how such everyday decisions are telling signs of a larger issue. We also delve into the dangerous liaisons between people-pleasers and narcissists, charting a course through the toxic fog with the beacon of boundary-setting and self-acceptance.Our conversation is a candid exploration of what it means to assert ourselves, to claim space for our thoughts and feelings, and to revel in the joys of hobbies that reflect our true selves. From teenagers grappling with social pressures to adults unlearning a lifetime of self-neglect, we emphasize the transformative power of respecting our own voices. So tune in, as we offer a compelling look at how to step into a more authentic version of you, and remember to share this journey with those who might see themselves in our stories. Don't forget to hit subscribe and leave us a review if our words strike a chord.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Benavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Have you ever caught yourself muttering "I'm fine" when your heart was heavy with unspoken emotions? This episode peels back the curtain on emotional invalidation, a subtle yet profound force shaping our adult lives from the shadows of our upbringing. With trauma therapist expertise and psychiatric nurse Michaela's insights, we navigate the complex interplay between parental responses, childhood experiences, and long-term emotional health. Our conversation reveals how deeply our early interactions with caregivers can etch patterns of emotional suppression into the very fabric of our being, potentially echoing into the way we relate to our children's emotional worlds.Amid the ebb and flow of life's emotional tides, finding balance is key—enter the 'wise mind.' Borrowing from Dialectical Behavior Therapy, we explore how this concept guides us through the stormy seas of our feelings without letting them capsize our sense of self. We demystify the notion that understanding equates to agreement and shine a light on the transformative power of validation in fostering emotional resilience in both ourselves and our children. The narrative continues as we address the struggles of new mothers, where my coach Allison joins us to discuss the nuanced terrain of postpartum mental health, the critical significance of a strong support system, and the silent battle against internalized stigma.In the throes of emotional distress, recognizing our internal struggles is the first step toward reclaiming our well-being. We share stories, including my own personal journey, that underscore the importance of challenging the stigmatized narratives surrounding mental health and seeking help. By embracing grounding techniques, we can begin to cultivate immediate relief from emotional upheaval, leading to profound personal growth and more nurtured parent-child connections. Join us as we close the chapter on this episode, extending an invitation to engage with our free course on grounding skills and emotional development, because fostering awareness today lays the foundation for a healthier, more connected tomorrow.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Benavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of toxic relationships, wondering how you got there and how to break free? Today, I'm joined by Laura Wood, a trauma therapist, and Michaela Beaver, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, as we navigate the complexities of emotional entanglements and the childhood roots that often lead us there. This episode promises to equip you with the understanding and tools to identify harmful patterns, establish boundaries, and cultivate healthier connections.Together, we address the hard truths about personal accountability and the impact of past traumas on our adult relationships. Our candid conversation uncovers the myths that perpetuate unhealthy dynamics, like the belief that we can avoid conflict by being perfect. We emphasize the necessity of setting boundaries, not as a means to distance ourselves, but as a vital step towards nurturing safety and open communication in our interactions. Laura and Michaela share insights on how acknowledging and staying grounded in the present can be your best defense against the unintentional reenactment of past traumas.Wrapping up this powerful session, we delve into the significance of personal accountability and balancing our attachment needs within relationships. We examine how emotional reliance on partners can create shaky foundations and the potential for toxicity. Through our discussion, listeners will learn about the importance of understanding the cries for connection and the self-protective mechanisms that emerge when these are neglected. Join us on this journey of self-reflection and growth as we explore strategies for fostering genuine intimacy and emotional resilience.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Benavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Discover the hidden forces shaping women's mental health as trauma therapist Laura Wood and psychiatric nurse practitioner Michaela Beaver join forces to bring to light the often overlooked aspects of depression, anxiety, and the emotional toll of societal expectations on women. In an earnest conversation that promises both enlightenment and empowerment, we dissect the complicated reasons why women are more frequently diagnosed with these conditions, and how early childhood interactions regarding boundaries can set the stage for future mental well-being.Navigating through the thorny landscape of gender roles and their influence on mental health, our discussion reveals the psychological consequences of the support—or lack thereof—that children receive while crafting their sense of self. The pressures to conform to unrealistic standards often leave women battling a relentless cycle of guilt, shame, and helplessness, which we examine with heartfelt understanding and compassion. Sharing relatable stories and scientific insights, Laura and Michaela offer a fresh perspective on how these dynamics contribute to the broader challenges faced by women in maintaining their mental health.As we wrap up, the conversation shifts to the undeniable necessity of self-care. We illuminate the path towards embracing one's own needs and the transformative power of choosing wellness. From practical lifestyle tips to the profound impact of early intervention in mental health, this episode arms you with knowledge and strategies to prioritize your well-being. This isn't just another chat about mental health; it's a call to action, urging every listener to take that decisive step towards a healthier, happier existence. Join us for this compelling exploration and find the courage to place yourself at the top of your to-do list.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Benavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Embark on a journey through the intricate maze of self-improvement with us, Laura Wood and Michaela Beaver, as we dissect the rituals of New Year's resolutions and the art of goal setting. Ever wonder why some of us sprint towards our goals like marathon runners, while others take a scenic route, allowing the path to unfold? Our latest episode is a treasure trove of insights, where we question if the goals we chase truly reflect our individuality or if they're just another set of rigid expectations we impose upon ourselves. Setbacks in life are as guaranteed as the changing seasons, and in this revealing conversation, we share our strategies for transforming self-sabotage into stepping stones. Whether you're struggling to lace up those running shoes each morning or fighting the siren call of negative self-talk, join us for heartfelt advice on cultivating a resilient mindset. Discover the power of self-compassion as we discuss how to embrace life's hurdles without letting them define our self-worth. Laura and I open up about our own setbacks and how we've learned to cheer ourselves on, hoping to inspire you to do the same.As we wrap up this episode, we delve into the beauty of crafting goals that resonate with your soul. Trying a vegan diet or creating a vision board might not be everyone's cup of tea, but we encourage you to find what tickles your fancy. Learn from our experiences with diet changes and the importance of tailoring personal aspirations to your unique narrative. Accompany us as we advocate for a kinder, more personalized approach to goal setting that celebrates who we are, not who we think we should be.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Benavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com

Ever felt like the holidays were more stress than cheer? You're not alone. Join hosts Laura Wood and Michaela Beaver as we take a personal journey through the joys, disappointments, and pressures of the holiday season. From the nostalgia of childhood traditions to the stress of creating perfect memories for our own children, we share candid stories and reflections about navigating the holiday hustle. Whether it's the love-hate relationship with festive cards or the anxiety over the perfect gift, we've been there and we're talking about it.In the midst of holiday chaos, it's easy to lose sight of what truly matters. We delve into the societal expectations that often come with the season, such as the guilt that creeps in when feeling like we aren't doing enough for our families. We share personal anecdotes about Elf on the Shelf, the pressure to create elaborate holiday experiences, and our own struggles with feelings of inadequacy and comparison. But remember, the magic of the season isn't in the perfect gift or the most lavish decorations, it's about the love and joy we share with those around us.As we wrap up our holiday chat, we tackle the often stressful topic of gift-giving, discussing the pressures and emotional gymnastics that often accompany it. From hiding emotions to the guilt of not participating in every holiday activity, we provide a safe space to share our own struggles and insights. We conclude with a focus on self-forgiveness and finding contentment during the holiday season. After all, the holidays are a time for love and joy, not stress and judgement. So whether you're wrapping gifts or sipping hot cocoa by the fire, join us for this heartwarming and insightful discussion on navigating the holidays with grace and authenticity.Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation: https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/This show is sponsored by: Benavieri Counseling & Coachingwww.benavieri.comActive Healing Psychiatric Serviceswww.activehealingpsych.com