Healing with Haelly

Haelly Kirk

Do you feel numb and not yourself? Are you tired of the life that you are living, the pain you experience on a day to day basis? Let's get ready to make 2024 MAGICAL and create the transformation of your lifetime. My name is Haelly Kirk and I am a life coach, momma bear, dancing queen and singing machine here to show you how to be the hero of your own story.

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Episodes

20: Let Them Be Right & Wrong About You
May 29 2024
20: Let Them Be Right & Wrong About You
Send us a Text Message.Weird right? Why would you want to let someone be right about you? Why do you want people to be wrong about you too? They sound like contradicting ideas right? In this episode we dive into the ideology of Byron Katie who created The Work. This simply means putting your thoughts to paper and inquiring. When people tell us things about ourselves we are immediately resisting and will only process things that validate our identities or reject things that don't align with our identities. Here are some take aways from her  book "A Mind at Home with Itself" that I love: The world is suffering, people think the mind needs to be controlledThe mind can never be controlled. it can only be questioned, loved and met with understanding. The mind is like an unruly child. Thoughts come one after the other to pester us and demand our attention like unloved children. Our job is to discern the difference between an internal argument and a state where we are open to listen and receive. Suffering appears when we try to control reality. When we think we are the source rather than the mirror image. Everything in the world is equal it’s all a reflection of the mind. We can notice the thought without believing it. We can notice it with a questioning mind. I explain how my last episode, episode 19 is almost a mistake in the title. The goal isn't to control our mind, it's to question and understand it. I make mistakes and constantly change what I think and how I approach coaching and philosophies. Im human what can I say lol. If you are looking to change your life in 2024, look no further. I have a coaching program built just for you. Each month we will dive deep into limiting belief systems, thought patterns, habits, and so much more to take make your dream life a reality. Sign up for my 12 month coaching program before spots fill up, I’m only taking 15 clients who are serious about taking massive action towards their dream life.Click here to get started!If you are interested in a free 30 minute consultation to get to know each other better and see if we are a good fit, schedule a free consultation here.
19: 5 Steps To Get You In Control of Your Brain
May 25 2024
19: 5 Steps To Get You In Control of Your Brain
Send us a Text Message.This podcast is going to dive deep into one of my favorite coaching tools, The Model. This was developed by Brooke Castillo and rooted from the work of Bryon Katie. The model goes like this:5 StepsCircumstances:Thoughts:Feelings:Actions:Results: Circumstances: These are the facts, take out the drama. They said words, they did actions, are examples of circumstances. These are the things outside of you, the things you can't control. THOUGHTS: This is what precedes the circumstance. When something happens what comes to mind, this is the drama. This is where the ego resides and dominates, or unconscious thought, the thoughts that just come to you without your awareness. FEELINGS: These are the emotions that come from the thoughts that you are thinking. These are one word answers like angry, sad, afraid, fearful, hopeless, happy, peaceful, joyful. ACTIONS: These are the behaviors you excude because of the the thoughts you are believing and emotions you are feeling.  Do you like the behaviors? RESULTS: This is the conclusion of what you are thinking feeling and acting, what does this give you, do you like how you are showing up? Do you like the results, especially considering that sometimes you cant change circumstances all the time. If you are looking to change your life in 2024, look no further. I have a coaching program built just for you. Each month we will dive deep into limiting belief systems, thought patterns, habits, and so much more to take make your dream life a reality. Sign up for my 12 month coaching program before spots fill up, I’m only taking 15 clients who are serious about taking massive action towards their dream life.Click here to get started!
18: Mothers
May 16 2024
18: Mothers
Send us a Text Message.In today's belated Mothers Day themed podcast, we discuss my evolution of my relationship with my mother and how our greatest journey in life is learning how to love what created you. From my story, I hope you gain insight into how you can apply these principles to any strained or estranged relationships you may have with your family. Here are the 3 things I recommend in the podcast to start your healing journey with your mother:1. Write them a letter (you decide later if you actually want to give it to them). The first draft is unfiltered, purging of all emotions and experiences you had and tell them off! The second draft is doing a turn around. For example, "Mom, I can't stand that you embarrassed me in front of my friends when I was little." Then the turn around would be, "Mom I love that you didn't embarrass me in front of my friends." You sit in the turnaround and finds ways that it could possibly be true.2. Start a Ho'oponopono practice regarding your mother for at least a week, I recommend a month. Click here to watch a video demonstrating how its done, skip to 25:33 if you want to just get right to the instructions. Recite the following:Im sorryI love youI forgive youThank you3. Fill out a judge your neighbor worksheet. Click here for access to a free worksheet created by Bryon Katie. If you are looking to change your life in 2024, look no further. I have a coaching program built just for you. Each month we will dive deep into limiting belief systems, thought patterns, habits, and so much more to take make your dream life a reality. Sign up for my 12 month coaching program before spots fill up, I’m only taking 15 clients who are serious about taking massive action towards their dream life.Click here to get started!
16. Your Life Awaits
May 1 2024
16. Your Life Awaits
Send us a Text Message.We are going down memory lane with this one! This episode is all about my thoughts on the movie Frozen and the amazing advice Elsa gives her sister Ana in a ballad saying, "Please go back home, your life awaits, enjoy the sun, and open up the gates."Here is what we unpack:Where is home? I believe home is your center, your awakening, your consciousness. Many times we operate out of survival brain, or in unconsciousness. What do I mean by that? To illustrate im going to pull examples from the movie. Elsa in crippled with fear and operates out of this emotion and never even opens her bedroom door to interact with her sister which actually would help her and her fears. Anna could leave the castle but decides to stick to what is comfortable and known, operating out of survival instead of awareness of other alternatives or life choices. Anna is even offended that Elsa suggested she leave the castle when Anna says “I cant live like this anymore”. One of my favorite authors Byron Katie suggests that when we feel pain or discomfort by something someone says, there is work to do. There is something inside of us that believes what they said is true. Your life awaits- this is my favorite part of the line of lyrics. To me this thought evokes emotions of hopefulness, anticipation, embarking on a new journey, offers a clean slate. This thought is jovial to me, it makes me want to be adventurous. I want to offer you my audience this thought to try on when you feel hopelessness. In honest, I’ve had my bouts of uncertainty and hopelessness during this time of job searching and unemployment. Studies show that when we expose ourselves to 10-15 minutes (depending on skin tone) of sunlight we increase our Vitmain D and serotonin levels. Go enjoy the sun is quiet honestly some of the best advice you could give someone. It not only improves your mood, it improves your body and mind. In a literary sense the sun represents becoming and truth. Being outside as a mom has also helped me to feel free and not trapped in a house. I get a bigger perspective and get outside of myself. I feel like the voice in my head gets quiet and the silent observer, as Michael Singer would put it, becomes the stronger presence. 4.The website Quoro explained that in literature, opening up the gates, “It can symbolize the passage from one condition to another, such as a physical or metaphorical entrance into a new phase of life, a shift in consciousness, or a journey between different worlds. The gate can also represent a boundary or barrier that separates and protects what lies beyond it.” Shifting consciousness is the greatest work we can do. Living unconsciously or by our survival minds doesn’t serve us at the highest level. We don’t show up as our true and authentic selves in this unconscious state. It is amazing how much more lively and fulfilled we can show up when we open up the gates of our hearts and our minds.  If you are looking to change your life in 2024, look no further. I have a coaching program built just for you. Each month we will dive deep into limiting belief systems, thought patterns, habits, and so much more to take make your dream life a reality. Sign up for my 12 month coaching program before spots fill up, I’m only taking 15 clients who are serious about taking massive action towards their dream life.Click here to get started!
15. The Target Miracle: How to Find Light in Dark Times
Apr 11 2024
15. The Target Miracle: How to Find Light in Dark Times
Send us a Text Message.Todays podcast is going to give you tools to find light during dark times. Dark times like grief or loss will come at some point in your life, its not if, but when. I want to prepare you and give you tools to embrace all the uncomfortable and unbearable situations in life with grace and wisdom. Different types of grief discussed in the book "The Garden Within" by Dr. Anita Phillips:Anticipatory grief- reaction to a death/loss you were able to anticipate such as when an individual dies from a long term illnessComplicated grief- debilitating, long lasting, and/or impair your ability to engage in daily activities. Ambiguous grief -wondering what could have been or wondering if it ever will be Disenfranchised grief-parents if still born babies, nurses loosing a patient Click here to watch Brene Brown's TedEx talk "The Power of Vulnerability" where she discusses how, "We are the most in-debt, obese, addicted and medicated adult cohort in U.S. history." She argues that the reason we are this way is because of our fear of feeling, our fear of being vulnerable. We would rather buffer with overeating, social media, tv, anything but feel out emotions. This TedTalk will inspire you to feel and connect on a deep level with those around you.If you are looking to change your life in 2024, look no further. I have a coaching program built just for you. Each month we will dive deep into limiting belief systems, thought patterns, habits, and so much more to take make your dream life a reality. Sign up for my 12 month coaching program before spots fill up, I’m only taking 15 clients who are serious about taking massive action towards their dream life.Click here to get started!