Kelly Powers, CRNA and Divorce Coach, offers invaluable insights and guidance for those facing the daunting prospect of a crumbling marriage amidst the burden of losing a baby.The episode touches on several key points:Kelly's Personal Journey: Kelly shares her own challenging divorce experience and how it led to her career as a divorce coach.Compounded Grief: The discussion explores how divorce can intensify grief, especially after pregnancy or infant loss, and the reluctance of healthcare providers to seek emotional support.Seeking Professional Help: Kelly stresses the significance building a team of professionals including a assistance early in the divorce process, whether through therapy, counseling, or working with a divorce coach.Building a Support Team: Creating a support network a therapist, divorce coach, attorney, real estate agent, financial planner, etc.Divorce Statistics Among Healthcare Professionals

Reverend Daryl Lavway engages in a meaningful conversation with host Amy Pelkey, CRNA.  Leveraging his extensive ministry experience and role as a chaplain in a Level 1, academic, medical center, Daryl provides profound insights into the intersection of grief and faith.Five key points discussed include:Unhelpful religious comments like, "It was God's will,” or "God needed another angel,” can be challenged with, "How do you know?"The complex relationship between religion and grief (including church)God grieves with usUsing faith as a comforting tool if it feels right to youAvoiding isolation and seeking trustworthy support with an individual or communityDaryl's insights offer a fresh perspective on how to approach religious comments, embrace your faith, and seek meaningful support with the help of an individual or community. He reminds listeners to trust their instincts honoring the memory of your baby.  Read more here.If you have questions or would like to connect with Daryl, email: amy@puasetoremember.org.Pause to Remember Resources for female, healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy and infant loss:Facebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar to talk 1:1, eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc), Be a guest on the podcast, Contact AmyWhere to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss.  Learn more and sign up on the waitlist  nofollow noopener noreferrer">

Dr. Errin Weisman is a burnout coach, mentor, speaker, podcaster, and friend.   She shares her experience with burnout that began in medical school and escalated during her residency and early years as an attending physician.  This led to her feeling trapped.The episode highlights the impact of the pandemic on burnout and the challenges faced by healthcare professionals.  Dr. Weisman emphasizes the importance of seeking support, finding a community, and making changes to overcome burnout. The conversation explores topics like self-discovery, navigating grief, and making assertive choices. Financial concerns, prioritizing mental health, and addressing work addiction are also discussed. Find inspiration and resources to deal with burnout by listening to the conversation.Mentioned in the podcast:Life coach, Philippa Kennealy, MDDr. Kara PepperDr. Michelle QuirkConnect with Dr. Errin Weisman:Email: hello@burntouttobadass.comWebsite: https://www.burntouttobadass.com/ and https://www.doctormefirst.com/Podcast: Burntout to Badass and Doctor Me FirstInstagram: @errinweisman and @burntout_to_badassBlog post with additional information is here.Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant LossFacebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar to talk 1:1, eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc), Be a gu

Two experiences can co-exist. Create space to tend to your experiences and the feelings that arise along the way while cultivating self-compassion and love.  This meditation is about 5 minutes long.Pause to Remember InformationPause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant LossFacebook GroupVirtual Support GroupAmy's Calendar to talk 1:1eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant LossRefer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc)Be a guest on the podcast, Contact AmyWhere to find Pause to RememberWebsite InstagramFacebook NEW OFFERING IN 2023!  -  MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss.  Learn more and sign up here.Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate.

Katie Cooper, MS, CRNA, APRN has a unique perspective on fertility care.  Not only did she donate her eggs to a family in her 20s, she now specializes in fertility anesthesia.Listen to our conversation as we cover:Tips to optimize your health in preparation for infertility treatmentsSuggestions and questions to ask when researching a fertility clinicFinancial considerationsAnesthesia for fertility treatmentsPersonal experience with miscarriageABC News segment about four families going through infertility care.  One family received treatment where Katie works (you can see Katie at 10:15).Here is Katie's contact information:Website: www.CRNAACLS.comContact Katie hereKatie's email address is: kcoopercrna@gmail.com Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant LossFacebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar to talk 1:1, eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc), Be a guest on the podcast, Contact AmyWhere to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook NEW OFFERING IN 2023!  -  MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss.  Learn more and sign up here.Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click " rel="nofollow">

Chelsey Herzig, CRNA works in a critical access hospital in Minnesota.  She talks about her daughter, Brynn, and the impact losing her has made in her life including her career and marriage.Some of the things discussed include:Infertility treatmentProcess of diagnosing Brynn with a life limiting diagnosis (included a fetal MRI)Decision to terminate the pregnancy in a larger facility with more resourcesAnticipatory grievingExperience of labor induction at ~21 weeksSpecial urn made from a woman on Etsy (click here)Maternity leave before gradually re-entering the operating roomImpact of infertility and loss on Chelsey's marriageTherapyFreezing eggsPause to Remember InformationPause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant LossFacebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar to talk 1:1, eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss, Refer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc), Be a guest on the podcast, Contact AmyWhere to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook NEW OFFERING IN 2023!  -  MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss.  Learn more and sign up here.Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate.Music credit: Fractal of Light,

MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss.  Learn more and sign up for group or private options here.Pause to Remember FREE Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant LossFacebook GroupVirtual Support GroupAmy's Calendar to talk 1:1eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss Where to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook Other LinksRefer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc)Be a guest on the podcast, Contact AmyFinancially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate. HIiMofX2gDuMey3t2Ulx

Bailey Dykema, CRNA works in Minnesota at a critical access hospital.  She has been on a four year infertility journey (IUI and IVF) and experienced a miscarriage in November 2022.Bailey shares her experiences with:PCOS, hypothalamic amenorrhea, and nutritional issues related to overtraining/HIIT workoutsStress related to moving, getting married, starting a new job/career, COVID-19, infertility, financial strain of paying for fertility treatments, draining PTOSelf care includes therapy with Debbie Fischer at Partners (in)fertility, taking time off from work, changing her workouts, and Fertility Hope YogaCommunity support including Hugh and Grace and Mom's In the MakingHolistic/functional medicine approach to infertility, questioning what is in our environment, in our personal care products, and endocrine disruptorsBailey recommends Dr. Hopeman at the Center for Reproductive Medicine in MinneapolisYou can connect with Bailey on Instagram @mrs_dykemaFind more resources in this blog post. Pause to Remember InformationNEW OFFERING IN 2023!  -  MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss.  Learn more and sign up for the March 2023 group or private options here.Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant LossFacebook Group, Virtual Support Group, Amy's Calendar to

MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss.  Learn more and sign up for the March 2023 group or private options here.Do you have questions?  Talk to Amy here. Pause to Remember Free Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant LossFacebook GroupVirtual Support GroupeBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant LossAlso, you can Refer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc), Be a guest on the podcast, or Contact AmyWhere to find Pause to Remember Website, Instagram, Facebook Financially Support Pause to Remember - Click here to donate.

Sara Asch, from The Center for Grieving Children, in Portland, Maine, works closely with families, volunteers, and the community in the areas of grief and loss, program development, outreach, and training.Sara offered many suggestions and insights regarding grieving children.  Some include:Sitting with difficult news about a life limiting diagnosis or a pregnancy or infant loss before sharing it with your living children.  Acknowledge your feelings and begin your grief work first.Think about what the next few days or weeks might look like for you and your family.Model and show some of your feelings feelings for your children when you are talking to them.Tears are an indication of sadness and that is OK.Stay away from euphemisms.  They are confusing.  Use the words "die" and "death."Let your children know you are always open to talking about the baby, death, and dying.A toy or favorite blanket may bring comfort to young children during difficult conversations.  Avoid bringing up death at bedtime.If your baby dies at the hospital, follow your children's cues for visiting.  Give them a choice about seeing the baby.  Prepare them before the visit.  Have a trusted adult bring them and be available to take the sibling(s) home.Suggestions to honor your baby's memory.Help your children learn to express feelings. Behavior and clues to watch for if your child is struggling after loss.Navigating bereavement resources.  Peer support groups are helpful.Tell children the truth so they do not imagine the worse.Recommended Books:  (Note: If you decide to purchase through these links, the Pause to Remember receives a small commission at no extra cost to you.)Life Is Like the Wind by Shona Innes (age 4+)The Goodbye Book by Todd Parr (age 2-4)The Invisible String by Patrice Karst (age 3-7)Cry Hard But Never Break by Glenn Ringtved (age 4-8)Resources: National Alliance for Children's Grief (NACG), " rel="nofollow">

Macy Guisto, DPT talks about chronic pain after pregnancy and infant loss.In this episode she talks about:Risk factors - emotional overload, traumaPain after delivery or c-sectionIdentifying contributing factorslack of sleepemotional overloadconstantly in "fight or flight" modestressors (like loss)hormonesnutritionInduced labor, epidurals, and c-sections have been shown to increase the risk of developing chronic painHow do you make a plan and where do you start?3 PrioritiesGive yourself graceStart movingHave a way to manage stress Where to find Macy Guisto.Instagram: @paincoachmacyEmail: macy.guisto@gmail.comWebsite: Wonsettler Physical Therapy Pause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant LossFacebook GroupVirtual Support GroupAmy's Calendar to talk 1:1eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant LossRefer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc)Be a guest on the podcastContact AmyYoga with the Pause to Remember CommunityNEW OFFERING IN 2023!  -  MNDFL Rx (Mindful Prescription) A 4-week mindfulness based grief course for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss.  Learn more and sign up for the January 2023 group or private options here.Where to find Pause to RememberWebsite nofollow noopener noreferrer">

David Allsop, MS, CFLE, CNP is completing his PhD in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Dalhousie University in Halifax, Nova Scotia.He is investigating how sexual wellbeing changes after pregnancy loss and hopes to better understand the experiences of the couples in the ALOE study.ALOE stands for Acknowledging Loss Outcomes and Experiences.  Couples can participate in the ALOE study if they have:Have experienced a pregnancy loss within the past 4 monthsHave been in a relationship with their partner for a year or moreAre not currently or recently receiving fertility treatmentEach partner must be willing to complete a survey (30-45 minutes) once a month for four months.  They will be compensated.  You can sign up here or contact the team by email: ALOE@Dal.caIn this episode we talked about how sexual health impacts both mental health and happiness.  Samantha Joel's research about predictors of relationship quality is mentioned.  Sexual satisfaction is a predictor or a good relationship.Researchers know little about how pregnancy loss affects couples’ sexual relationships, which makes it difficult for couples to get the help they need after a loss.  Studying this is fairly new.  There are only three empirical studies on this topic.  One trend in the data includes mothers having a decreased sexual desire after loss.The research that showed 42% of surgeons had experienced pregnancy loss was in 2021 in JAMA Surgery.  You can access it here.Natalie Rosen - Couples and Sexual Health ResearchDavid Allsop's email: David.Allsop@dal.caPause to Remember Resources for Healthcare Providers Grieving After Pregnancy and Infant LossFacebook GroupVirtual Support Group Amy's Calendar to talk 1:1eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant LossRefer a provider

ResourcesFacebook Group-Grief Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant lossVirtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant lossAmy's Calendar to talk 1:1eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant LossRefer a provider (therapist, counselor, psychiatrist, etc)Be a guest on the podcastContact AmyYoga with the Pause to Remember Community Where to find Pause to RememberWebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember  Want to donate to help support this podcast, the virtual support group, and other resources that are offered for free?  Click here.  OtherMusic credit: Fractal of Light, by Chris Haugen

Three goals are outlined to create a guide for you.  With these goals, suggestions are made for what you can do or buy to help alleviate feelings of isolation, support day-to-day responsibilities at home, and offer comfort.This information is written in a blog post found here.You can also have it emailed along with information from Episode 20 by clicking here.Resources:Free eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant lossPrivate Facebook Group-Grief Support Group for Healthcare ProvidersFREE Yoga with the Pause to Remember Community Where to find Pause to RememberWebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember  Want to donate to help support this podcast, the virtual support group, and other resources that are offered for free?  Click here.  OtherTalk to Amy Pelkey - her schedule is hereContact Amy Pelkey here.www.AmyPelkey.comMusic credit: Fractal of Light, by Chris Haugen

This episode is for all the support people who care about a family member, friend, neighbor, or co-worker who is grieving after a pregnancy or infant loss.A comprehensive list of what not to say is reviewed with examples.  Suggestions to start a conversation with a griever and how to create a safe space for them to share is also offered.This information is written in a blog post found here.You can also have it emailed to you by clicking here.Resources:Free eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant lossPrivate Facebook Group-Grief Support Group for Healthcare ProvidersFREE Yoga with the Pause to Remember Community Where to find Pause to RememberWebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember  Want to donate to help support this podcast, the virtual support group, and other resources that are offered for free?  Click here.  OtherTalk to Amy Pelkey - her schedule is hereContact Amy Pelkey here.www.AmyPelkey.comMusic credit: Fractal of Light, by Chris Haugen

Mindfulness PracticeDo you ever feel like your mind is scattered or you're distracted by your emotions?Meditation is one mindfulness practice to help you redirect your awareness to the present moment. Here is a meditation for when you feel like your mind or emotions are getting the best of you.You can listen to this mindfulness practice in your call room, car, bedroom, gym, or anywhere else.Resources:Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant lossPrivate Facebook Group-Grief Support Group for Healthcare ProvidersFree eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant LossFREE Yoga with the Pause to Remember Community Where to find Pause to RememberWebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember  - "Buy a Latte"Want to donate to help support this podcast, the virtual support group, and other resources that are offered for free?  Click here.  OtherTalk to Amy Pelkey - her schedule is hereContact Amy Pelkey here.www.AmyPelkey.com

Dr. Tyra Abdalla, DPT specializes in pelvic health.  In detail, Tyra talks about:signs and symptoms of pelvic dysfunctionhow to find a pelvic health specialisthow the pelvis is evaluatedtraumatic birthhow to obtain the best outcomes with a holistic approachpelvic floor issues after c-sections vs vaginal delivers including scar tissue and adhesionsreturning to workpainful sexYou can find Tyra on Instagram @pittsburghpelvicpt or at Wonsettler Physical Therapy in Scenery Hill, PA (724) 945-5161.  Tyra can do in-person and tele-health evaluations.Resources:Free eBook - A Guide After Pregnancy & Infant Loss Virtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant lossPrivate Facebook Group-Grief Support Group for Healthcare ProvidersFREE Yoga with the Pause to Remember Community Where to find Pause to RememberWebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember  - "Buy a Latte"Want to donate to help support this podcast, the virtual support group, and other resources that are offered for free?  Click here.  OtherTalk to Amy Pelkey - her schedule is hereContact Amy Pelkey here.www.AmyPelkey.comMusic credit:

Brenda Behan, LSW, learned there was something wrong with her son, Tucker, when a cystic hygroma was detected at her first ultrasound appointment.At that time, she was experiencing numbness on the right side of her body.  Soon after, a large lesion was detected on her brain stem, MS was diagnosed, and treatment began.Brenda had many difficult decisions to make including:Continuing to work in her "dream job" or take care of herselfTerminate her pregnancy or carry TuckerLeave or stay in her marriageGetting help from a therapistTucker's memory is preserved through the work Brenda and her husband, Trevor, do through Good Day Racing.Want a free eBook and receive a weekly email from Pause to Remember? Click hereVirtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant loss2nd Monday of every month7:45-8:45pm ESTLed by Amy Pelkey, CRNA and Whitney Jablonski, CRNAVia Zoom - get the link and updates hereThis is for female, licensed healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant lossFREE YOGA with the Pause to Remember CommunityLed by Amy Pelkey, MSN, CRNA, RYT 200This is for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. There will be time for gathering and conversation if you would like to talk with othersClick HERE for information and link to join (future dates will be added here)  Where to find Pause to RememberWebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember  - "Buy a Latte"Want to donate to help support this podcast, the virtual support group, and other resources that are offered for free?  Click here.  OtherTalk to Amy Pelkey - her schedule is

In this episode, Amy Pelkey talks about taking a break from digital break.She shares some thoughts from Cal Newport's book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World and how they can be applicable to anyone including grieving mothers.Both positive and negative aspects of social media while grieving are highlighted with the hopes of inspiring more mindful use of social media.Want a free eBook and receive a weekly email from Pause to Remember? Click hereVirtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant loss2nd Monday of every month7:45-8:45pm ESTLed by Amy Pelkey, CRNA and Whitney Jablonski, CRNAVia Zoom - get the link and updates hereThis is for female, licensed healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant lossFREE YOGA with the Pause to Remember CommunityLed by Amy Pelkey, MSN, CRNA, RYT 200This is for healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss. There will be time for gathering and conversation if you would like to talk with othersClick HERE for information and link to join (future dates will be added here)  Where to find Pause to RememberWebsiteInstagramFacebook Support Pause to Remember  - "Buy a Latte"Want to donate to help support this podcast, the virtual support group, and other resources that are offered for free?  Click here.  OtherTalk to Amy Pelkey - her schedule is hereCont

Do you feel like there is a sea of options to help you with your grief but sifting through the resources feels like a time consuming task?Why don't you take a listen to this episode focused on EMDR which stands for "eye movement desensitization and reprocessing?" EMDR is a type of therapy with many applications including PTSD, anxiety, depression, substance use disorder, and grief.Jeff Tejcek, founder of Virtual EMDR, talked with Amy Pelkey about EMDR.  Here are some of the highlights of this episode:How Virtual EMDR came to be (including Jeff's childhood and PTSD)What is EMDR?History and evolution of EMDRBenefits of virtual EMDRCost effectiveCan use anytime (do not have to wait for a therapist appointment)Unlimited usePrivacyCan work for future eventsMulti-prong approach to mental health problemsExperiencing mental health problems can be isolating - benefits of grief support groupsEMDR for substance use disorderDifferent protocols built into the Virtual EMDR platform including "grief and loss"Getting Past Your Past by Francine ShapiroLearn more about EMDR by typing, "What is EMDR?" into YouTube search, many videos including videos from the Department of Veteran AffairsPregnancy or infant loss can trigger unprocessed childhood traumaYour virtual EMDR sessions are saved so you can track your progressHybrid EMDR - virtual and in-person with a therapistEMDR can be applied to the "little things" in life not just trauma, grief, loss, etcBenefits of therapists and talk therapyResearchWhere to find Jeff Tejcek's and his contact information:Website  - Virtual EMDRLinkedInEmail: jeff@virtualemdr.comVirtual Support Group for Healthcare Providers after pregnancy and infant loss2nd Monday of every month7:45-8:45pm ESTLed by Amy Pelkey, CRNA and Whitney Jablonski, CRNAVia Zoom - get the link and updates hereThis is for female, licensed healthcare providers grieving after pregnancy or infant loss" rel="nofollow">