Cheating: When Love Lies

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Affairs are prevalent but rarely talked about relationships. The podcast, Cheating: When Love Lies, is a deep dive into the complex emotions surrounding these secret unions.

Creator and host, Jillian Hamilton, delves into this taboo topic and asks the hard questions about affairs: how common are they, who's having them, and why? These questions illicit unexpected answers that reveal both men and women as people actively seeking something - validation, escape, understanding, vengeance, thrill, love, sex, and romance - outside of marriage or committed partnerships. Cheating: When Love Lies resists the condemnation of affairs as uniquely wrong or bad and instead considers their usefulness in learning as much about relationships as we learn about our ourselves.

On the podcast, Jillian Hamilton narrates short fictional stories about cheating based on true life events. The narration is followed by a roundtable discussion with everyday people who share their unique perspectives. Jillian also interviews cheaters and betrayed partners. These interviews are raw and real-and at times maddening or heartbreaking.

Listen now to Cheating: When Love Lies. Are you ready for the truth?

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Our Editor's Take

Cheating: When Love Lies is a podcast about infidelity. It's a topic that is taboo, yet also commonplace. The host of the show is Jillian Hamilton. She has hosted many television programs in the US and France, including Fox After Breakfast.

It's difficult to say how common cheating is in committed relationships. Some sources report that it happens in 46 percent of couples. Others claim that number is as high as 70 percent. Regardless of the actual number, it's much higher than most people might imagine. In the podcast, Jillian seeks to discover what compels a person to stray from their marriage. What is the fallout? What happens after the infidelity?

Every week, Jillian hears from regular people about cheating. For example, Jen was the "other woman" in several relationships. She realized that her preference for unavailable men came from a place of fear. Tony and Nicole were both married with children when they met. Their decision to be together caused them and their families much pain. Shea thought her marriage was secure until she discovered her husband's serial affairs. No matter who her subject is, Jilian is nonjudgmental and open. As a result, her guests feel safe opening up to her. Conversations are honest and raw, on topics including cheating fathers and true love.

For some episodes of Cheating, Hamilton invites a professional for a chat. One guest is Harrison Scott Key, author of How to Stay Married. He and Jillian explore the power of forgiveness in repairing a marriage bond. Guest John P. Weiss is an author and former police chief. He discusses the myth of the soulmate and how it can harm relationships. Relationship coach Marie Murphy says sometimes partners don't need to know about infidelity.

The Cheating: When Love Lies podcast may appeal to those who have experienced infidelity. The host's conversations with the parties involved are enlightening and heartbreaking. The podcast may pique the interest of people seeking insight into human nature.

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Are You Micro Cheating?

Are You Micro Cheating?

What is micro cheating and are you doing it? Micro cheating describes behaviors that may be considered infidelity, but the boundary between micro cheating and a full blown affair isn’t clear. My guest today—we’ll call her Connie, blames her micro cheating for bringing her marriage to the brink of divorce. But is how Connie’s husband behaves with the ladies behind her back even worse? Is there even such a thing as micro cheating? Or is it cheating just — cheating? Join me to find out if Connie’s micro cheating sparked the demise of her marriage or if what her husband hasn’t yet revealed will be what years them apart. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23

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Are You Micro Cheating?

Are You Micro Cheating?

What is micro cheating and are you doing it? Micro cheating describes behaviors that may be considered infidelity, but the boundary between micro cheating and a full blown affair isn’t clear. My guest today—we’ll call her Connie, blames her micro cheating for bringing her marriage to the brink of divorce. But is how Connie’s husband behaves with the ladies behind her back even worse? Is there even such a thing as micro cheating? Or is it cheating just — cheating? Join me to find out if Connie’s micro cheating sparked the demise of her marriage or if what her husband hasn’t yet revealed will be what years them apart. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23

If My Partner Withholds Intimacy, Does That Give Me License To Cheat?

If My Partner Withholds Intimacy, Does That Give Me License To Cheat?

Your husband refuses to have sex with you. He won’t kiss you, touch you or show you any affection at all. You feel neglected, abandoned and unwanted. No matter how much you beg and plead for his attention, you realize you can’t compete with that remote in his hand or his favorite recliner. This is what happened to my guest Maria. Does Maria have the right to find intimacy and pleasure wherever she can get it, or should she stay faithful to her marriage vows of monogamy and fidelity? What would you do? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23 Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Why Is It So Difficult To Leave My Cheating Husband?

Why Is It So Difficult To Leave My Cheating Husband?

For Memorial Day weekend we are featuring one our favorite episodes from the past. On this episode we have a panel discussion with two ladies whose marriages were scorched by infidelity along with their relationship coach Beth Miller. Beth's 12 week program teaches women how to transform themselves in order to transform their lives and relationships. Using Beth's Soulify Wellness method, my two guests, Anne and Marie ( not their real names) explore memories and unprocessed emotions which are often the real reasons for the unhealthy patterns and communication issues in a marriage or partnership. Anne and Marie share intimate details of why they believe their husbands had affairs and why they find it so incredibly difficult to know how to move forward after betrayal. Beth facilitates our chat by offering professional insight into why my guests and so many betrayed women act as they do. Beth Miller Soulify Marriage Saver Program. www. soulifywellness.com Cheating: When Love Lies Voted by Feedspot as one of the Top 90 PodcastOne Podcasts on the web. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

MY BRIDE-TO-BE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR & OUR WEDDING IS IN TWO WEEKS

MY BRIDE-TO-BE IS HAVING AN AFFAIR & OUR WEDDING IS IN TWO WEEKS

This is a classic case of what would you do? What would you do if just two weeks before your wedding you found out your partner was cheating on you? Would you confide in a family member or tell a friend? Would you confront the cheating partner or let it go? Would you immediately cancel the wedding, or take time to consider your options?This nightmare of a predicament happened to my guest Greyson Ferguson. Greyson is a betrayed partner who went on to write very candidly about his experience. Find out what happens to this totally unsuspecting fiancé, when just days before his wedding he finds out his bride-to-be is having an affair. Be a guest on the show:Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com. IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

My Wife Cheated On Me With A Homeless Man

My Wife Cheated On Me With A Homeless Man

You're a husband. A good guy, a strong provider and a very present father. Despite that, your wife is not satisfied and has an affair with a man who has substance abuse issues, an unstable job history and troubles with the law. Guided by your faith, you manage to hold your marriage together and your wife ends the affair. But several years later you start to notice some uncomfortable changes in your wife’s behavior. Should you simply trust that she is remaining faithful, or investigate these red flags? This episode's guest, Harrison Scott Key answers these questions in his book “How To Stay Married-The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told." Find out what happens when a devoted husband struggles with how to move forward after his wife is unfaithful, not once but twice. Be a guest on the show: jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com. Find @cheatingwhenloveslies on IG for highlights from the shows.

A Renowned Matchmaker On Infidelity & What His Clients Won’t Tolerate

A Renowned Matchmaker On Infidelity & What His Clients Won’t Tolerate

Some still believe that a wife’s role is to stay at home with her children, tend to her family, and be devoted to her husband. In Western culture these ideas are currently part of the Trad Wife movement. Trad stands for traditional wife. On this episode I welcome international matchmaker Florent Raimy, Founder of Edwige International. Florent’s matchmaking clients are wealthy men from all over the world who are seeking a traditional wife. So….how many of you are scratching your heads right now in disbelief that the traditional wife role still exists? And how many of you are thinking “finally- we’re going back to the way things should be.” Also, is this “one stays at home and the other one works” paradigm relevant to same-sex couples? Let’s hear what my guest has to say. Let’s find out what high net worth men from all over the world are looking for in a wife. Not all wealthy men, but some-and most definitely Edwige International clients. Is the Trad Wife a walk back into the fifties or a strut into the future? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com. IG is @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows.

My Husband’s Affair Partner Stalked, Taunted & Harassed Me

My Husband’s Affair Partner Stalked, Taunted & Harassed Me

Sometimes an angry affair partner attacks her married lover, his wife and even his children. The affair partner will stalk, cyber stalk, physically attack or threaten her married lover’s wife, children, and extended family in order to taunt, threaten or intimidate them. These affair partners are sometimes called bunny boilers, based on the mentally unstable mistress character in the 80s hit movie Fatal Attraction. My guest Helen spent years facing down her own real life bunny boiler. Join marriage coach and Soulifywellness founder Beth Miller and me as Helen tells how hundreds of phone calls from her husband’s affair partner turned into full blown harassment. Then find out how Helen fought back against the abuse to reclaim her peace. To be a guest on the show please write to Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com. IG is @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

My Boyfriend Fooled Me, 2 Couples Therapists and His Unsuspecting Lovers

My Boyfriend Fooled Me, 2 Couples Therapists and His Unsuspecting Lovers

There are times when your partner’s lies, deception, and gaslighting are so carefully crafted and meticulously masked, he not only fools you, he hoodwinks multiple women and your professionally trained relationship counselors. What happens when the full extent of his deception is revealed? Is it just another bad breakup, or are the implications much greater than that? My guest whose real name is Samantha experienced this level of deception. Samantha says the deception changed her outlook on life and deeply affected her family and friends. Has this happened to you? Could this ever happen to you? Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

Blindsided by Betrayal That Nearly Broke Me

Blindsided by Betrayal That Nearly Broke Me

Being blindsided by an affair or a divorce can bring you to your knees. Even the seemingly most powerful people who are typically in command of their careers and their lives can become petrified by fear and anxiety. This is exactly what happened to my guest Rob Malkani. Now Rob counsels people just like himself who were blindsided by divorce and sometimes the affairs that lead to them. Rob has taken all that he’s experienced and learned during the course of his own traumatic 7 year divorce to help others. Surprisingly, most of the people he counsels are those you’d never expect would need him the most. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

Should You Confront Your Spouses Lover?

Should You Confront Your Spouses Lover?

How many wives would choose to meet their husband's lover? Would you sit down and have a discussion with your spouse and his lover about their affair? What would you hope learn from that conversation? Perhaps something that could justify, rationalize or at least explain why your spouse cheated on you. This is what happened to my guest (let's call her Tiffany.) Tiffany confronted her husband, his lover and her husband. But when Tiffany told me how her husband's young lover described their affair, I thought "Wow - this husband really got duped!" Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

I Caught My Boyfriend Messaging Trans Men

I Caught My Boyfriend Messaging Trans Men

You meet a guy and he love bombs you. For anyone who doesn't know what that is, it's when a guy first meets you and showers you with compliments, gifts and attention, and tells you "I love you" though he barely knows you at all. You fall for this and you suddenly you're wrapped up in a faux romance that's often the precursor to emotional and sometimes physical abuse. This is what happened to my guest today whom we'll call Genevieve. But this was just the tip of the iceberg after years of cover ups and abuse that plagued Genevieve's relationship. Join me as we hear her story of how time and time again Genevieve believed her boyfriend and many other men she thought she knew, but discovered she really didn't know at all. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com.IG @cheatingwhenlovelies. Please like, subscribe and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

Your Partner’s Secret Obsession With Instagram Models

Your Partner’s Secret Obsession With Instagram Models

On this episode we talk about fantasy: erotic fantasy worlds that men create in their minds inspired by scrolling social media. It's not about an addiction to porn, it's something else. A whole new world of fantasy that many men are addicted to despite the disastrous impact it has on marriages and partnerships. In my conversation with leading psychologist Dr. Jennifer Guttman we explore a whole new genre of cheating, that prior to social media, just did not exist. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

Don’t Let Your Husband’s Affair Partner Intimidate You

Don’t Let Your Husband’s Affair Partner Intimidate You

Imagine your husband’s former affair partner belongs to your church, is a mom at your kids’ school, a member of your club, or is even your neighbor. What if proximity means you could end up seeing her all the time? Would you avoid going to those places where she could be? Would you make yourself scarce when you know she might be around in order to save yourself from embarrassment or confrontation? Join me and Beth Miller, marriage counselor and founder of Soulifywellness to hear how after dreading the thought of running into her husband’s lover, Monica shows strength, conviction and dignity when she comes face-to-face with the woman who tore her world apart. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com

Can Cash Keep You Silent About Your Affair?

Can Cash Keep You Silent About Your Affair?

Could you be paid to keep your affair silent? Would a big fat check keep you from exposing your affair when your married affair partner goes back to his wife? How much would it take to keep you quiet?

Why “Mr. Nice Guy” Is The Cheater You’ll Never Suspect

Why “Mr. Nice Guy” Is The Cheater You’ll Never Suspect

Nice guys versus bad boys. Bad boys are the ones you fantasize about, you’re dying to date, and want to have sex with. Nice guys are safe because they’re trustworthy, faithful, and honest. “Not true,” says my guest Dr. Robert Glover, therapist, coach, speaker, and author of “No More Mr. Nice Guy.” Nice guys he says, are constantly holding up a facade of good and acceptable behavior to make people like them, while they hide parts of themselves they don’t want people to see. All this pretending makes nice guys dishonest. And dishonest people cheat. If all this is true does that mean we can’t trust the bad boys or the nice guys? Join me as Robert debunks the nice guy myth. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Reach Dr. Robert Glover: drglover.com nomoremrniceguy.com datingessentialsformen.com

He Says He’s Committed, But Acts Like He’s Single

He Says He’s Committed, But Acts Like He’s Single

Deception, lies, and gaslighting. Are they the most hurtful part of an affair, or is it the sex and knowing that your partner may be madly in love with someone else? It’s different for every betrayed partner, but for my guest today whom we’ll call Lisa — she was tortured her husband’s lying. Lisa found out about her husband’s affair, and after she nabbed him, he promised to work on their marriage. What he said sounded great, but Lisa kept observing suspicious behavior and red flags that made her question if what her husband was saying was in fact was he was doing. Join me and relationship coach and founder of Soulify Wellness, Beth Miller to talk about what happens when a cheating partner says they’re committed to fixing the marriage, but acts with the same suspicious, inconsistent, red flag behavior they’ve always had. Lisa is here to share her story. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com

CHEATING HUSBAND AFRAID TO LEAVE 16 YEAR AFFAIR PARTNER

CHEATING HUSBAND AFRAID TO LEAVE 16 YEAR AFFAIR PARTNER

For President's Day we are featuring one of our favorite past episodes. My guest today lived his traditional family life and his ultimate affair fantasy. He had the suburban dream of a devoted wife and two small children, but the moment he stepped foot in the cosmopolitan city where he worked, he became a slick, handsome playboy with a stunning, sexy, lover. But slowly he noticed his lover started to change. Her attitudes and behaviors became disturbing. He became afraid of her. My guest talks about his guilt and deep self loathing for having this 16 year affair, and about his quandary: should he leave his affair partner who appeared to be falling apart? This is a guilt ridden, shamed and fragile man. Join me to hear his story. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamilton podcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for show highlights. Please like, subscribe and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

The One Simple Fact About Your Partner It’s Critical That You Know

The One Simple Fact About Your Partner It’s Critical That You Know

You find out your spouse has been living a secret life with an affair partner for 4 years while you suffer in your barren, sexless marriage that you hold together for the kids. You immediately file for divorce. Now you’re free and you rediscover your sexuality and erotic fantasies with a new, sexy partner. Sounds dreamy right? Nope. For my guest whom we’ll call Laura, her new relationship became her biggest nightmare: so horrible, so unimaginably awful she’s convinced she can get never find love again. What happens when your new relationship starts to feel as traumatic as your soon-to-be-ex husband’s affair? Join me, marriage coach Beth Miller of soulifywellness and our guest Laura to find out. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Reach Beth: @soulifywellness www.soulifywellness.com www.freemarriageguide.com

The Crazy, Illogical Lie I Concocted To Hide My Affair

The Crazy, Illogical Lie I Concocted To Hide My Affair

A cheating husband who is remorseful, openly apologetic and more committed to his wife than ever: that’s just one of my guests today. My other guest is his wife who forgives her husband and believes that their marriage is finally a “real marriage” ever since he’s confessed, become sober and committed to intense therapy. But before this couple got here, the husband (whom we’ll call Greg) did something so outrageous, so manipulative and so underhanded to try and hide his affair, that it’s worthy of cinematic screenplay. In fact his wife Brenda (not her real name) said: You think you’ve heard just about every cheating story or affair cover up possible? Well just wait until you hear this. Be a guest on the show: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

How I Turned His Cheating and Betrayal Into A Thriving Business

How I Turned His Cheating and Betrayal Into A Thriving Business

Turn your mess into your message. My guest today also named Jillian did just that. Her boyfriend cheated on her from the beginning of their relationship to the bitter end. He had dozens of lovers (yes dozens) and is a self confessed sex addict-both of which shocked my guest and tore her world apart. But Jillian Romero Chaves, founder and CEO of the relationship app Clara for Daters took that mess and turned it into her message. Join me to hear her journey of turning heart break and betrayal into a unique and thriving relationship app. Clara for Daters is an app that you can use to radically transform and enhance how you date and evaluate your romantic relationships. Clarafordaters.com @clarafordaters Be a guest on Cheating: When Love Lies: Jillianhamiltonpodcast@gmail.com IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!