Our favorite couple's therapist, Estefi, comes back to wrap up an introduction to attachment theory by reviewing fearful-avoidant and secure attachment styles and how that shows up in relationships. This is an episode I could listen to over and over.  TW: Mentions of self-harm & abuse. Resources: www.militaryonesource.com www.cdc.gov/suicide/resources/index.html The Attachment Style Questionnaire and Study! :  https://www.yourpersonality.net/attachment/?fbclid=IwAR3N-5jxKqowW4Slj-HSOBDQugdRsOtQ0hLLC8WAUScxnJnq25l6rH0U5UA

When a community starts using humor to cope with hard circumstances, what options would leadership of any sort have? What types of actions are helpful, and what types of actions make it substantially worse?    We explore this on a sociological and psychological level and poke fun at situations like this as a whole. Because smashing the lives of people for making stress-relieving jokes that most people actually really enjoyed would never happen in real life, right? Allegedly.

The very vague discussion about a thing that allegedly happened on a base and what it even means for a community to make jokes in this way.  Explicit warning: We use the term "tw*tswatted" a lot.    The episode was up and then taken down, but now it's up for good.

No diagnose-ment going on here. A discussion on two of the attachment styles, a quiz to find out yours, and listen to Noel get a little therapy of her own. Part 2 is coming out soon, where we connect this to military lifestyles and go over the goals of learning your own attachment style.

We go to Reddit to get your stories, questions, and comments- and boy, do we answer.   Thank you for being so patient over summer break! We hope you enjoy.

Back by popular demand, we have Estefanía Ospina-Alikhan LMFT on to talk about relationships, communication, and connection. We laugh, we cry, we talk about throwing elbows. A good time was had by all, and I'm so excited for you to check this out too.  What is a six-second kiss, and what does it do? In what ways can we maintain connection when our spouse is so far away? How does this relate to family back home? We discuss all of this, and more.

Following our breakdown of the term "Dependa," we get into the story of Six Jane- the self-promoted face of all things active duty, shaming the Dependas of the world. But who is she? And why was everything she was doing so far beyond wrong it's almost unbelievable? Follow this journey into the rise and downfall of social media fame of mythic proportions.   Also- we don't math. Don't come at us when you catch that. Or do- but do so in Patreon. Patreon.com/andpodcast

This episode was so juicy we split it into TWO. In this half, we introduce the term "Dependa," where it comes from, and some of the issues that come with it.  All of this to explain and set you up for a WHOLE RIDE in the next episode.

Would it even be us if we didn't make psychology fun and sidestep it with inappropriate stories on smashing the patriarchy?  Join us for this ride, where we talk about interesting motivation theories and concepts and how it builds more effective leadership, tell stories about dragging the best out of people, and, to quote my fav Dropkick Murphys song, tell you how to "Smash Shit Up."

The episode of embarrassing stories because the original intention turned into an embarrassing story. You'll laugh so hard you'll cry, we know we did.    Back to psychology and military next week, folks. Enjoy the shenanigans.

Man, what an easy, cushy, 1950's wives, wealthy life this military lif... WAIT.  Noel and Chelsea talk about the myths, legends, and stupid sayings that go around the military community. Hate hearing you didn't come with your spouses' sea bag?? WE DO TOO. Sick of being told if you were meant to have happiness, they'd issue that to you? You are heard. The good, the bad, the nuance, the laughs.  Send us the myths or sayings you're sick of too!  andlifeisntsimple@gmail.com

Noel and Chelsea discuss different aspects of how moving so often leads to incredible exposure to many cultures and why that is important, no matter where you are. Find out the HUGE thing Chelsea fears, what kind of juice Noel was only able to get in the Middle East, and which thing Chelsea said that drove Noel incredibly off topic, again.  This episode was so long originally, we had to cut multiple stories out. To listen to those, please join us at Patreon.com/ANDpodcast

Noel Ross and Chelsea Evans go over the story behind The Brandon Act, and what about the Act could be really effective. We also laugh about generational differences, sniffing our significant others, and coin our term for leaders we don't particularly care for.  Content Warning: Mentions of the suicide of a young sailor.   Want better sound? So do we! If you would like to, you can help us achieve better sound by donating to our Patreon at Patreon.com/andpodcast which will go towards microphones, sound proofing and more content. We will provide our Patrons with more exclusive content, lives and more! Join the conversation at: Instagram: @andlifeisntsimple Facebook group: AND. Life Isn't Simple Podcast

Our first Ask a Therapist episode! Find out what tea we spilled, some information that will SHOOKETH some military community members, and as a bonus, what BADASS thing our favorite Therapist did to break a bone. Estefanía Ospina-Alikhan LMFT answers some listener questions and goes into some amazing information about sleep, communication, and self-care. For the AAT resources, go to our Patreon, where we will also do a live Q&A!  Subscribe to hear Noel and Chelsea in our next episode coming soon!

Noel goes into some of her own dark past with humor, honesty, and a lot of side stories. Trigger warnings- talk of child abuse, mention of suicide. No over-the-top details.    Bringing levity to hard things, Noel shares her experiences in hopes of bringing light to some of the things everyone misses when they imagine military life. Fighting for ethical education of trauma and the nervous system to the community, Noel and Chelsea point out the things we are all talking about, but too often not out loud.    Join our Patreon for exclusive content and lives: patreon.com/andpodcast

Going into the definition of Mindfulness, and why it's something available to everyone. How does this effect how you relate to everyone around you? If you can't change the people you see everyday, whether family, work, or your neighbors, what can you do?  Coming from a military life perspective, Noel uses humor and life to relate how Mindfulness can bring you into this moment that's happening right now.

Typically heard at the end of a yoga class by Noel Ross, this quick body scan focuses on allowing the body to rest with affirmations of self care.