Does it ever feel like you have a bit of a double life going?You have those moments when it's just you and your partner and it feels like all is right with the world……but suddenly, when one or both sets of kids enter the scene — everything seems to fall apart!That's because when it comes to blended families, "coupleness" does NOT necessarily equal "familyness".This is often a tough reality to accept.  You're deeply in love and excited about building a life together, but it seems that you've got some emotional and relational whiplash as it feels like you're tossed back and forth between two dynamics over and over.If that strikes a chord, you might want to consider the difference between "coupleness" and "familyness"..  Otherwise disappointment and confusion can quickly set in.Blending a family is so much more than your couple relationship.  That's why it's important to carefully consider  what it takes to build "familyness" and prepare for the road ahead.  In this episode, we'll explore how to intentionally approach "Familyness" so that you can reduce relational tension and create genuine connection in your home.You'll Discover:How to avoid the 'easy wrong turns' couples tend to make around building "familyness"Empowering insights and practical strategies to successfully build "familyness" Resources from this Episode:Episode 39. How to Create Strong Bonds with Resistant StepkidsEpisode 130. How to Build Trust that Nurtures Bonds with Your Kids and StepkidsEpisode 136. How to Intentionally Create Positive Family Time and Reduce Relational TensionEpisode 72. The Best Way to Create Healthy Bonded Relationships (How to "Cook" a Stepfamily)All Episodes that Focus on:      Bonding     Parenting/Stepparenting           Books by Ron Deal:        The Smart Stepfamily          Preparing to Blend    Building Love Together in Blended Families                                       Ready for some extra support?You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionClick this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources:When you and your partner hit a leadership bump in the road and you're struggling to stay connected and communicate effectively, pause and honestly ask yourself these 3 questions: Am I really listening to my partner and affirming their perspective…or am I quick to disagree? Am I curious about what my partner might be experiencing…or have I become critical? What am I experiencing emotionally and how might I openly express and manage my own emotions well? For additional insight and next steps on this topic, check out these episodes:Episode 147. Do Sensitive Conversations end up creating conflict in your relationship?Episode 134. How to Make Good Decisions in Tough Situations and Stay Connect as a CoupleEpisode 108. 3 Unity Breakers that are Detrimental to Your Connection and How You Can Avoid ThemEpisode 105. What powerful traits do you need to successfully blend and stay united?Episode 79. 4 Conflict Communication Patterns That are Hurtful and Toxic to Your RelationshipEpisode 63. 5 Strategies to Help You Get United - Even When You DisagreeEpisode 50. How to Openly Communicate What You Really WantEpisode 35. Are you controlling conflict or is it controlling you?Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

I (Mike) take leadership very seriously.  One of my desires, even in our current empty nest years is to be the kind of family leader that my children and stepchild want to connect with and listen to.But often I feel overwhelmed or frustrated as I lead my blended family.  All the complexities can lead to confusion that robs me of the confidence and connection I'm trying to build.Guys — have you ever felt that way?You certainly aren't alone.  And you don't have to figure it all out by yourself.  In this episode, we're reconnecting with Mike Haney who will offer his insightful perspectives on how to intentionally lead your blended family.  Mike has been courageously leading his blended family for over 20 years and this discussion will help you to gain hope through a deeper understanding of your role so that you can experience fulfillment in your marriage and in blended family life.Don't let the complexities of blending keep you from courageously leading your family.  You can be intentional and effective with the right attitude and understanding.  Then you can experience the confidence, connection (and peace) you're looking for!You'll Discover:Why it's critical to gain information and understanding of the complexities of leading a blended family How to manage your anger and frustration when faced with challengesThe 5 Stages of relationships and positive ways to cherish and connect with your wife as you move through themHow to break free from unproductive patterns  Resources from this Episode: To connect with Mike Haney go to:  Courageous Coaching for MenReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback! Click this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

ResourceEpisode 25. How to Survive Time Alone with Your Step-KidsSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Stepdads need courage!  Navigating all the complexities, confusion, and common frustrations is not for the faint-hearted.But it's not just courage stepdad's need, they also need community.  Sure, lots of guys operate as if they can fix the challenges, untangle the complexities, and "be the hero" on their own — but most experience relief and reassurance when they discover they're not alone!  Our special guest, Mike Haney is on a mission to encourage stepdads and share what he's learned through almost 23 years of blending!In this episode, I (Kim) will be interviewing two stepdads — my Mike and Mike Haney.  Both of these men are experienced stepdads who've acquired loads of wisdom over more than two decades.  They've learned from their mistakes and discovered some key elements every man needs to become the stepdad they really want to be!If you're a stepdad (or you're married to one), you don't want to miss this insightful (and humorous) conversation.You'll Discover:Solid tips and valuable insight for Stepdads (and moms too) The unique role Stepdads play and the best approach to parenting  The importance of building a partnership with your wifeHelpful attitudes around how to relate with your wife's Ex-husbandResources from this Episode: To connect with Mike Haney go to:  Courageous Coaching for MenReady for some extra support? We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback! Click this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources Blended Family Breakthrough Quiz:                                                 https://form.typeform.com/to/DSz44d52?typeform-source=www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.comBook:  Preparing to Blend by Ron DealBook:  Building Love Together in Blended Families by Ron Deal and Gary Chapman CLICK HERE to join the waitlist for upcoming membership to our Blending Together communitySmart Stepfamily Therapy Providers:                                          https://smartstepfamilies.com/smart-help/therapy-providers Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Have you ever felt like you were stuck in an emotional minefield?  For many couples, when a sense of guilt creeps in, it can be debilitating.  They might want to move toward blending but find themselves trapped in a minefield of guilt and regret.I (Kim) stayed stuck in my own personal minefield of guilt for way too long.  It impacted every area of my life — particularly the way I dealt with our blended family challenges.In this episode, I share how I eventually broke FREE from unhealthy guilt and learned to manage my difficult emotions from a healthy, secure place of growth and empowerment!Don't stay stuck or burdened by ongoing guilt.  Hop into this episode and discover some practical ways you can move forward.  You'll Discover:The difference between healthy guilt and unhealthy, false guilt How to authentically grow security and confidence as you move toward blendingHealthy perspectives and practical steps to break free from debilitating guilt and painful regret Resources from this Episode:Episode 99. 3 Tips to Help You Move Beyond Painful Guilt and RegretArticle by Paul Coughlin:  Origins of False Guilt Episode 168. Actionable Steps For Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem SolveEpisode 98. Is Fear of Being Vulnerable Keeping You From Loving Your Spouse Whole Heartedly?  Episode 119. 6 Tips to Grow Empathy and Create More Connection in Your Marriage Episode 147.  Do Sensitive Conversations End up Creating Conflict in Your Relationship?Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Click this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Fear is often driven by the unknown……and it's no surprise that many couples struggle with all the unknown factors of blending.  Ambiguity is simply part of the blending journey.All the ambiguity can quickly lead to fear:fear of what might happen if blending doesn't go wellfear of failing.  fear of how the kids might react fear of the impact of an unsupportive Ex SpouseWhen it comes to blending a family, there's no shortage of realities that can create valid fear and real concerns.But blending can sometimes trigger fear that's somewhat irrational or anticipatory too.All of this can leave couples feeling overwhelmed, confused and stuck!  They want to move forward and build a life together, but they promptly pump the breaks on blending when ambiguity triggers debilitating fear.In this episode, we'll explore effective ways to work through ambiguity and fear, so that you can conquer it and embrace your blend with the clarity and confidence you need to move forward.You'll Discover:The importance of exploring your valid fears and concerns before you blendSome "yellow" and "red" flags to considerHow to separate valid fear from irrational, anticipatory fearHow to manage ambiguity for yourself and your kidsResources from this Episode:Book by Ron Deal:  Preparing to Blend:  The Couple's Guide to Becoming a Smart Stepfamily Episode 5. How to Get Over the Hurts and Triggers From Your PastEpisode 109. Preparing to Blend (with Special Guest Ron Deal)Episode 105. What Powerful Traits Do You Need to Successfully Blend and Stay United? Episode 92.  At a Loss and Feel Defeated Because the Kids Stubbornly Refuse to Blend?Episode 93.   How to Overcome Power Struggles When  Kids Oppose Your Decision to RemarryEpisode 141. Can My Kids Be Emotionally Harmed by Blended Family Dynamics? Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too.  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you!Click this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

ResourcesEpisode 178. Surviving the Turbulent Teen Years: Expert Insight and Strategies for Today's Parent - with Special Guest, Dr. Michael BradleyBook:  Crazy-Stressed by Dr. Michael J. BradleyEpisode 70. 5 Simple Ingredients for Healthy Tech Habits with Your Kids — with Special Guest, Rob Hayes-St. ClairEpisode 20:  4 Big Myths About Parenting When an Ex has Different RulesSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Ever felt like your teen is completely crazy or maybe you feel like the crazy one — you're not alone!  Raising teens is not for the faint-hearted parent or stepparent.  But what if this "crazy" season doesn't have to be filled with fear or anger?  What if you could find practical ways to hold boundaries, stay connected, and experience a little peace even as you support your teen in their journey to adulthood?In this episode, we'll explore why teenagers behave in ways that are crazy and how you can equip yourself to better understand, support, and connect with them. To help us not just survive the teen years, but discover ways to thrive, we've invited an expert to share his vast wisdom and personal parenting struggles with us!Dr. Michael Bradley is a clinical psychologist, a leading expert of adolescent behavior, and is the author of several bestselling books that focus on saving today's overwhelmed teens with love, laughter, and the science of resilience.  Dr. Mike has been working with teens and their parents for over 30 years as a clinical therapist. If you've got an adolescent about to hit their teen years or you're already frustrated with a teen and wondering how you'll survive getting them to adulthood with everyone intact, this is episode is for you! You'll Discover:Why teenagers behave in ways that are crazyHow to love and support your teen, while holding appropriate boundariesStrategies to manage your fear, stress, frustration, and anger in tough parenting momentsResources from this Episode:Book:  Crazy-Stressed by Dr. Michael J. BradleyReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Click this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

ResourcesArticle:  How to Cherish Your Spouse - 10 WaysBook by Gary Chapman:  The 5 Love Languages  Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Do you remember that vibrant sense of friendship you had early on in your relationship — the strong connection that created an irresistible longing just to be with each other?Isn't it crazy how the packed schedules, complex relationships, and differences of perspective, take you from irresistible to irritated in no time flat!  It might leave you feeling more like business partners or roommates these days.  Or worse yet, battling foes rather than friends.When real life happens, it can rob you of the closeness you once experienced and leave you feeling disconnected or dissatisfied — especially when your deepest needs aren't being met.In this episode, we'll share some of our journey and what it took to revive our friendship and save our marriage — even when we didn't like each other very much.The truth is, we all need to experience genuine friendship with our partner — it's a vital aspect of any relationship.As Valentine's Day approaches, it's time to intentionally grow your friendship and then focus on rekindling genuine connection each and every day beyond…  You'll Discover:Why friendship is so important in marriageThe deepest needs of men and women that create more passion, intimacy and emotional connectionThe most common 'easy wrong turns' couples make that can dissolve their friendship Practical steps you can take to grow and maintain your friendship — or rekindle itResources from this Episode:Episode 176. Uncover Your Relationship Style and Gain Hopeful Insights From Our JourneyEpisode 79. 4 Conflict Communication Patterns that are Hurtful and Toxic to Your RelationshipEpisode 98. Is Fear of Being Vulnerable Keeping You From Loving Your Spouse WholeheartedlyEpisode 122. One Simple Strategy to Conquer "Family Business", Contain Chaos and Stay United Episode 129. What Does It Take to Build and Maintain Trust in Your RelationshipEpisode 155. How to Easily Enjoy Meaningful Conversations and More Connection with Your SpouseEpisode 123. How to Connect More and Rekindle Romance in Your Relationship - Even If Your Super Busy Episode 78. Cultivating More Passion, Intimacy and Commitment in Your MarriageArticle from The Gottman Institute:  F is for FriendshipBook from The Gottman Institute:  Eight DatesReady for some extra support?You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too.  Just click here to Review, Click this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Do you ever think about your romantic relationship now compared to what you'd really like to experience as a couple?If you ever wonder (or even feel hopeless) about how to make progress, you're in the right place today.Research reveals five different Relationship Styles based on a combination of things like communication habits, conflict resolution, parenting partnership, and finance management.  In addition, aspects of leisure time, sexuality, friends and family, role sharing, and spiritual beliefs all play a part. The truth is that your romantic relationship has a unique combination of strengths and weaknesses across all of these aspects.Understanding your particular combination helps you discover where you are now and how to grow your relationship toward what you really want.As we look back over our journey, we've realized that different seasons of life have had a big impact on our marital experience and shifted our relationship style.In this episode, we'll unpack 5 Relationship Styles.  We'll also share a few surprising and hopeful pieces of our story that might help you navigate the season you're in right now to reach your ideal relationship style!You'll Discover:Unique characteristics that reveal 5 different relationship stylesStrengths and weaknesses in your relationship and how to reach your ideal relationship style.Hopeful (maybe surprising) insights about our relationship as we've navigated 23 years of blending. Resources from this Episode:Book:  The Smart Stepfamily Marriage by Ron DealBrowse other episodes on the topic of marriage/partnershipReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Click this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources for this Simple Step:Episode 175. 8 Tips to Protect Kids From Stress and Tension When Moving Between HomesEpisode 7. Toxic Exes and Hurting Kids - 5 Steps That HelpEpisode 8. Toxic Exes and Defiant Kids - A Simple Strategy Against Lies and SlanderEpisode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your KidsEpisode 42. Our Challenging Story of Parental Alienation — and 6 Tips For YouSuggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

Children moving between two homes WANT one thing — to be connected to the people they love.  And what they NEED most is to experience peace and freedom to simply enjoy time spent with each of their parents.This might seem simple, but many kids don't get what they want or need due to unhealthy co-parenting patterns.  Most often, that leads to unnecessary stress and tension for kids.Why do we say it's unnecessary?  Because parents and step-parents CAN make a difference and protect the kids.  When you do your part to follow the 8 tips we share in this episode, you'll be setting your kids up for the best possible outcomes as they move between their two homes. You'll Discover:8 Practical tips to safeguard your kids from stress and tension as they move between homesHow to manage the challenging dynamics of co-parenting and set your kids up for the best possible outcomes Resources from this Episode:Episode 41. Are you unintentionally putting your kids in the middle?Episode 6.  Are Your Kids Stuck in a 'Parental Allegiance' - and What Can You Do About It?Episode  161. How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification?Episode 153.   How to Empower Organization, Improve Communication and Create Peace Between Your Kid's Two HomesEpisode 113.  How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued or Dismissed by Your Former Spouse (Part 2 of 2)Episode 7.  Toxic Ex's and Hurting Kids - 5 Steps that HelpAll Episodes that focus on healthy Co-Parenting Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you to do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe to Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Click this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Resources for this episodeEpisode 174. How to Raise Confident Kids by Building a Solid Foundation for Success in Life [with Special Guest Nellie Harden] Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

You want to raise kids who are equipped for success in life, right?  You want them to have confidence, a sense of esteem, and worth.  But this can feel like an unattainable goal in a world constantly sending mixed messages.  Maybe you've felt hopeless when you add in the wake of complex family dynamics and trauma that may have occurred in your family along the way.But the truth is, it's not hopeless and your parental voice matters — even in those moments when it doesn't feel that way.  Our expert guest in this episode, Nellie Harden, offers every parent real hope!  She'll share some of her personal journey growing up in a blended family as well as parenting four girls, who are all currently teenagers.  Her quest for healing and a desire to set her children up for success has brought her to where she is today — helping parents love and lead their teen/tween children in a way that teaches them to love and lead themselves while building a strong foundation of worth, esteem, and confidence.  All before they launch into adulthood!If your goal is to equip your kids and stepkids with the foundation they'll need for success in life, then don't miss Nellie's insight, wisdom, and encouragement in this episode.      You'll Discover:How to love and lead kids in a way that teaches them to love and lead themselves Practical steps for building a strong foundation of worth, esteem, and confidence in our kids that sets them up for success in lifeInsight and strategies for facing trauma and moving forward Resources from this Episode:Connect with Nellie Harden  - explore her resources and programsReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us to read too! :-)  Just click here to review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Click this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!

You want to experience a little holiday magic and meaningful connection in your blended family, right?But the challenges and tensions that emerge for blended families during the holiday season often rob us of the bonding experience we're hoping for.High expectations, difficult emotions, and logistical complications seem to bombard everyone — particularly when it comes to managing transitions and blending traditions.In this episode, we're talking with Joneen Mackenzie and Lauren Reitsema about their personal stories of managing the holidays.  They're a mother-daughter duo who've navigated divorce and blending.  Now they offer their expert guidance to help others blend well, build genuine connections, and learn how to best support all the kids through change, loss, and grief.  Lauren is the author of In Their Shoes, where she shares her experiences of living through her parent's divorce and later their remarriages. Together,  Lauren and Joneen have co-authored a book called Relationship Essentials.  Joneen founded The Center for Relationship Education where Lauren is currently serving as well.   They both use their experience and expert knowledge to help others cultivate healthy dynamics and deeper connections in all their relationships. We're confident you'll find valuable insight from Joneen and Lauren's holiday hindsight and use it as foresight as you navigate your blended family holidays.Who knows?  Maybe you'll get to experience a little more fun as you manage transitions and merge traditions in your blended family — and enjoy a little more magic this year!You'll Discover:Firsthand experiences of divorce, remarriage, and the challenges of blending from the unique perspectives of both mother and daughter Valuable insights into the emotional struggle that kids experience around holiday transitions and traditions - and how you can helpPractical advice to help minimize stress and increase the magic around your holiday celebrationResources from this Episode:Lauren Reitsema's book:  In Their Shoes - Helping Parents Better Understand and Connect with Children of DivorceLauren and Joneen's latest book:  Relationship Essentials Episode 40:  Uncover the unspoken feelings of kids in blended families [Special Resource:  In Their Shoes]Ready for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsWe would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast.  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Click this link to join our community today:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether

Episode Resources:Episode 172. 2 Key Elements to Resolve Your Parenting Style Differences - And Get UnitedParenting Style Quiz:  What's Your Parenting Style?Book:  Parenting with Love and LogicBook:  Parenting Teens with Love and LogicBook:  Stepparenting: Keeping it Sane (Love and Logic)Suggest a Topic or Ask a Question  Would you like us to discuss something specific or answer your question on the show?  Let us know!We've made it easy.  Just click here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/shareReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help.  You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home.  Schedule your free call here:  https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/free-callSubscribe or Follow the Show Are you subscribed or following the podcast yet?  If not, we want to encourage you do that today so you don't miss a single episode.  Click here to subscribe in Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you’re feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they’re fun for us read too! :-)  Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is.  Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!