The mind-body connection is a crucial aspect of healing, and it plays a significant role in our overall well-being. Tune in to discover the remarkable connection between our thoughts, muscles, and chemical processes as we explore the power of providing support to unlock the body's innate healing abilities and release deep-rooted trauma. Dr. Debi had the pleasure of bringing back the incredible Rachelle McCloud, a Mental Health Therapist and Emotional Wellness, in this week’s episode. Together, they dive deep into the topic of healing and overcoming anxiety, depression, and trauma, and explore what's missing in traditional therapy. Rachelle shares her insights and experiences from years of successfully helping clients move past their symptoms and into remission and discuss the importance of addressing the root causes of pain and trauma, rather than simply managing, or coping with them. Rachelle also introduces some powerful practices that can help release decades of trauma in a simple, effective, and efficient way. Whether you've been carrying the weight of unhealed pain for a while or are simply interested in learning more about emotional wellness, this conversation is sure to provide valuable insights and tools. Key Takeaways: [00:01:57] The mind-body connection. [00:03:25] Brain's map of understanding. [00:07:40] Breaking free from recurring thoughts. [00:10:06] What is tapping? How can it reduce emotional pain? [00:14:39] Embrace and process painful experiences. [00:15:11] Holding painful energies. [00:17:21] Empathy and healing. [00:19:21] Rapid interventions for emotional healing. [00:20:32] Results of the intervention. [00:24:27] Energy medicine and healing work. [00:26:47] EMDR and trauma intervention. [00:31:11] Pain and healing process. [00:33:18] Release trauma, heal the brain. [00:33:48] Four interventions for trauma healing. Memorable Quotes "Our body is designed to heal. And all we're doing is providing it the support it needs. And bodies do need support. That's part of our design." – Rachelle McCloud "The healing work does not need to be painful or pushing. And I really want to take away a correlation with the amount of pain you feel is the amount of progress you're making. That is not true. Pain actually slows down the healing process. That's why we're in this in the first place, because something painful happened and it's taking forever to get through the healing process." – Rachelle McCloud Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: thepbtinstitute.com Where To Find Our Guest Website: rachellemccloud.com Instagram: @rachellemccloud Facebook: Rachelle McCloud, LCSW

Words shape our beliefs and ultimately our lives. Join Dr. Debi in this episode as we unravel the profound impact of words on our beliefs and lives. Discover how we hold the power to reshape our beliefs by consciously selecting our words and thoughts. Explore the journey towards overcoming betrayal, regaining confidence, and scripting a new life narrative.   Delve deep into the realm of personal resilience and conquering betrayal in this episode. Uncover the significance of self-belief, accessing inner strength, and harnessing the transformative influence of mantras in navigating tough times. Learn the value of seeking guidance from those who've triumphed over similar challenges and find out how the PBT Institute's certified coaches can aid you on this path.   Dr. Debi shares insights, offering practical strategies to move beyond betrayal, dispelling common myths about healing, love, and age-related limitations. Emphasizing the weight of our words in shaping beliefs, she illustrates how empowering words can revolutionize our mindset, paving the way for healing and rediscovering love.   If you've felt immobilized by the pain of betrayal, this episode is for you! Gain practical advice, inspiration, and the assurance that you're not alone. The PBT Institute stands ready to support you through every phase of healing, equipped with tools and a community familiar with your journey. Key Takeaways:   [00:00:16] Words shape our beliefs and identity. [00:01:39] Boosting confidence. [00:04:05] Boosting confidence after betrayal. [00:05:19] Consistency is key in retraining. Memorable Quotes   "Just a message to be careful about the words you use. Your mind wants to prove you right regardless of if it's good or bad, right, or wrong, true. It becomes your belief as long as you keep repeating it." – Dr. Debi Silber   "So, after betrayal, what happens is you have an opportunity to completely rewrite the script. We write the script for how people treat us. So, it's a beautiful opportunity to rewrite it. You want to take a look and say, what was I tolerating that I'm no longer willing to tolerate? What no longer works for me?" – Dr. Debi Silber Links Mentioned In This Episode   Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/

Financial empowerment is a crucial aspect of rebuilding one's life after being in a toxic relationship. The impact of toxic relationships on someone’s finances can be significant, but with the right knowledge and support, you can regain control over your financial situation.   In this episode, we dive into the topic of transforming your finances and thriving in life after a dysfunctional relationship. We have a special guest, Leah Hadley, who is a Financial Therapist, Founder of "Watch Her Thrive," and expert in helping individuals create a healthy money mindset and achieve their financial goals. She shared some invaluable wisdom that will empower you to take control of your financial journey and thrive in every aspect of your life.   Leah shares her journey of going through a divorce and how she turned her financial challenges into opportunities for growth and success. She emphasizes the importance of creating awareness around how we manage our finances and separating the emotions tied to it. She also highlights the value of finding a financial therapist who can provide guidance and support during times of change.   When your financial situation changes, it's natural to feel frustrated or resentful. However, Leah encourages us to see change as something different and wonderful and see it as an opportunity for positive transformation. She shares her own experience of leaving an unhappy marriage and how it allowed her to pursue her dreams and start her businesses. By embracing change, we can adapt and find new opportunities for growth and fulfillment. Key Takeaways:   [00:01:35] Rebuilding life after a toxic relationship. [00:04:35] Someone's relationship with money. [00:06:08] Relationship with money shapes behavior. [00:10:11] Acknowledge and explore your thoughts. [00:11:18] Financial independence challenges. [00:14:39] Mistakes people make. [00:15:43] Embrace change and find empowerment. [00:17:40] Taking challenges and transforming. [00:18:53] Be honest and increase financial literacy. [00:21:06] Your relationship with money. [00:23:27] Being kept in the dark. [00:23:50] Manage finances with awareness and support.   Memorable Quotes   "All of the other pieces can fall into place when you acknowledge that I am responsible for myself and I can do the things that I need to do, because there are so many resources out there." – Leah Hadley   "If you don't want to deal with the finances, that is a huge message that it's time to increase financial literacy. And to acknowledge that nobody knows how to manage money. These are skills that are developed over time." – Leah Hadley   Links Mentioned In This Episode   Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Where To Find Our Guest Free Gift Link: https://www.watchherthrive.co/plan-your-financial-freedom-opt-in Website: https://www.watchherthrive.co/ Website: https://www.greatlakesdfs.com/ Website: https://www.greatlakesinvestment.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/watchherthrive Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/watchherthrive

Have you ever felt like you're hanging onto a trapeze bar, desperately trying to let go and move forward? Well, that's exactly what stage three of betrayal feels like. It's the hardest stage to leave behind, but trust us, there's a breakthrough waiting for you on the other side.   One of the most powerful insights shared in this episode is the association between change and loss. Many individuals sabotage themselves because they subconsciously associate change with negative outcomes, such as losing friends, relationships, or even their place in a community. It's time to shift your mindset and realize that change can lead to positive transformations in your life.   Another crucial takeaway from this episode is the importance of self-awareness. You cannot change what you're not aware of. By becoming aware of your patterns, behaviors, and beliefs, you can start to make conscious choices that align with your desired outcome. Dr. Debi shares a powerful exercise involving a rubber band to help you become aware of self-sabotaging behaviors. This simple technique can be a game-changer in your healing journey.   Whether you're just starting to heal or already making progress, this mini dose of Dr. Debi will motivate and inspire you to keep moving forward. Don't miss out on the opportunity to experience true confidence, health, peace, and happiness on the other side of your healing. Join us on this transformative journey and let's achieve your breakthrough together.     Key Takeaways: [00:00:38] Staying stuck in stage three. [00:02:08] Rubber band exercise. [00:03:58] Change equals loss? [00:04:33] Healing leads to happiness.     Memorable Quotes "Stage three is the hardest stage to leave, and it's like if you were on a trapeze, and you're grabbing hold of one bar, that's stage three. And you can grab hold of the other bar, stage four, but you're not going anywhere, and you don't get to stage four unless you let go of stage three." – Dr. Debi Silber   "They don't deserve it. They don't deserve your energy, your attention, your focus. Of course, you need to unpack it. You need to make sense and then meaning out of it. But you also need to know how much time, effort, energy you're spending on them because it's taking away from you." – Dr. Debi Silber     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/   PBS Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/pbs-quiz/

Overcoming a broken heart is harder than breaking a cocaine addiction. Healing from heartbreak is a challenging process but remember, we are not alone in this journey, and it can be done. If you're going through heartbreak, our guest today reassures us that there is support available and hope for a brighter future.    Dr. Debi had the pleasure of interviewing Arielle Ford, a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement. Arielle has dedicated her life to helping people find love, keep love, and be love. She is a celebrated Love and Relationship Expert, Author, and Speaker, and her mission is truly inspiring.   During their conversation, Arielle shared her thoughts on the paradox of love, the power of gratitude, and the importance of healing a broken heart. She also discussed her latest book, "The Love Thief," and how it can guide you on a journey of self-discovery and transformation, and shares her own journey of betrayal, heartbreak, and forgiveness, and how she recreated herself.    If you're looking for practical advice and guidance on finding and maintaining love in your life, this episode is a must-listen! Arielle's wisdom and insights will leave you feeling inspired and empowered to create the love life you desire.    Tune in for an inspiring conversation about love, healing, and embracing the unknown. Don't miss out on this incredible episode with a truly amazing guest.     Key Takeaways: [00:01:44] Admiration for conversations with God. [00:04:26] Location as a character in the book. [00:09:29] Lessons from toxic relationships. [00:10:35] Lesson: If it seems too good to be true, it usually is. [00:11:33] Special prey: targeting successful women. [00:13:33] Be cautious of fast-moving relationships. [00:15:10] Long-term happy relationships. [00:17:01] Be cautious of red flags. [00:19:23] Betrayers and personal transformation. [00:23:31] Happiness is not the ultimate goal. [00:26:29] Living in uncertainty. [00:31:27] The state of being in love.     Memorable Quotes "The thing that I've learned now that I'm 70 years old and I've been on the planet long enough is that these types of men only go after smart, beautiful, successful women. So, if you've had this experience, there's a way in which you can reframe it that you're really special. They don't go after ordinary women ever. They target, you are prey." – Arielle Ford   "Think the biggest thing I want people to get is that there's manifestation and law of attraction, and trying to make shit happen in your life, and then there's destiny, and if you can let go of wanting to control and manifest every last thing in your life and just receive destiny. Things that you can't even imagine are going to come to you because your imagination is big enough" – Arielle Ford     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/   Post Betrayal Syndrome (PBS) Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/pbs-quiz/     Where To Find Our Guest Website: https://www.arielleford.com/   The Love Thief Book: https://www.arielleford.com/the-love-thief/

Healing is a powerful process that brings about numerous positive changes in one's life. In this week's episode, we dive deep into stage four of the post-betrayal transformation process, and we must say, it's our absolute favorite stage!   Stage four is where the real magic happens. It's all about taking action and creating a new version of yourself that didn't exist before. No more focusing on surviving or dwelling on the past. It's time to embrace change and create an exciting future for yourself.   In this episode, Dr. Debi shares a powerful story of one of our listeners who is experiencing this transformative stage. She's noticing how her boundaries are being crossed, and instead of letting it happen like before, she's now taking charge and setting boundaries. It's an exhausting but empowering journey.   Dr. Debi also discusses the importance of coming from the heart when someone is triggered. Trying to appeal to their mind or heart won't work. It's all about connecting heart to heart, and she share some valuable insights on how to navigate these situations.     Key Takeaways: [00:00:30] Weight as protection. [00:01:55] Stage four of post-betrayal transformation. [00:04:12] When someone is triggered. [00:05:00] Healing leads to transformation.     Memorable Quotes "And the body is always trying to protect us. But when you make peace with it, when you realize that's what it's there for, that's what the weight's there for, then we can make some different decisions and do something about it." – Dr. Debi Silber   "If you are stuck in stage three, the most common place to get stuck, keep going. Stage four is where transformation begins. You've been through the worst of it already. You owe it to yourself to do something really good with something really painful." – Dr. Debi Silber     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/   PBS Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/pbs-quiz/

Marriage counseling is often seen as a common response to experiencing betrayal in a relationship. However, there are several reasons why this approach may not be effective in addressing the aftermath of betrayal, and we’ll discuss why this is the case in this week’s episode.   Dr. Debi had the pleasure of speaking with Beth Fischer, a certified PBT practitioner and a remarkable individual who found herself facing the devastating discovery of her husband's secret life. Beth's journey through betrayal and depression lasted for over two years, leaving her unable to see past her pain or envision a happy future. However, she found the strength to break free from her trauma cycle and not only reconcile with her husband but also create an amazing life for herself.   Beth's story is truly inspiring, and her resilience in the face of such adversity is remarkable. She discusses the importance of finding the right support and community, as well as the transformative power of doing the hard work necessary to heal.   During their conversation, they also touch on the topic of trust and how it can be rebuilt after betrayal. Beth shares her insights on how the person who betrayed you often changes in appearance and energy, creating a different feeling altogether. It's a powerful reminder that there is hope for healing and growth, even in the most challenging of circumstances.   If you are currently navigating the painful journey of betrayal or know someone who is, we highly recommend tuning in to this episode. Beth's wisdom and expertise, coupled with her willingness to share her story, will undoubtedly provide strength and hope to countless individuals who may be facing similar challenges.     Key Takeaways: [00:01:59] Why marriage counseling doesn't work. [00:06:04] The betrayer's why. [00:08:07] A to Z analogy. [00:11:14] Betrayal trauma and changing pasts. [00:15:11] The five stages of transformation. [00:17:18] Betrayed partners must prioritize self-healing. [00:19:49] Reasons versus excuses. [00:23:11] The real why. [00:27:41] There is hope for healing. [00:28:10] Betrayal can lead to transformation. [00:31:12] Betrayal changing your past.     Memorable Quotes "When we talk about betrayal trauma, we’re talking about somebody's past literally changing overnight. What they thought was real is now a lie. They have no concept of time anymore. It's wait a minute, you did what? Where was I? Wait a minute, that was our anniversary, and you were texting or calling or whatever it was. So, with betrayal and trauma, your past changes and that's brutal to the human mind." – Beth Fischer   "I'm not buying that it was a lack of sex or that it was a bad marriage. I'm not buying that. I was in the same marriage. I didn't cheat. There has to be more to it than that. Now, back then I didn't have the words, so that ended up into a huge fight. Now I see very clearly, I was 100% spot on. He had to go figure out why, and I was not going to take any responsibility for it." – Beth Fischer     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/   Post Betrayal Syndrome (PBS) Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/pbs-quiz/   Free Gift Link: https://chaostocalm.coachbethfischer.com/c2c & https://aherosjourney.coachbethfischer.com/hero     Where To Find Our Guest Website: https://coachbethfischer.com/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_family_needs_you/

One of the most common misconceptions is that betrayers can never change. But that's simply not true! While some may move on without any remorse, there are those who experience a profound wake-up call and make a complete 180-degree shift in their behavior. It's important to recognize that change is possible, and for those who choose to reconcile, it can be a pivotal moment of growth and transformation.   Today, Dr. Debi discusses the misconceptions surrounding betrayers and their ability to change and shares personal experiences and stories of individuals who have experienced a profound wake-up call, leading them to make significant changes in their lives. Betrayal can be a catalyst for transformation, and it's important to recognize that not all betrayers are unwilling to change.   Dr. Debi also explores the unique nature of betrayal and how it impacts our lives. Betrayal can leave us feeling shattered and questioning everything we thought we knew about ourselves and our relationships. However, there is hope. Through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough, we can rebuild ourselves and our lives, emerging stronger and more resilient than ever before.   Additionally, Dr. Debi touches upon the importance of self-care and the role it plays in our healing journey. She shares a practical tool that can help you get the sleep you need, an essential component of the healing process.   If you've experienced other traumas besides betrayal, such as the loss of a loved one or a natural disaster, you may find this episode particularly insightful. We explore the unique challenges of betrayal and how it differs from other forms of trauma.     Key Takeaways: [00:00:20] Reconciling with a betrayer. [00:04:52] Betrayal shatters and transforms lives. [00:06:04] Post-betrayal transformation. [00:06:39] Betrayal and transformation.     Memorable Quotes "When that happens, it creates an entirely new relationship where all the rules are changed based on who you are, what you need, what you're ready for now. And it allows you to take a look at everything that you were and what no longer serves. You leave all that behind and you decide who you want to be, what rules you need, what values, what's important to you." – Dr. Debi Silber   "Someone just asked me about this, and I thought it would help. He said, at night, it's really hard to sleep. I have a lot of nightmares. And it's so common when you're healing from betrayal. Everything you were able to maybe just avoid distract yourself from during the day comes out in full force at night." – Dr. Debi Silber     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/

Suicide is an intensely emotional event that affects not only the individual who chooses to end their life but also the survivors left behind. Today, we will explore the devastating experience of suicide and its profound effects on individuals and communities.   Dr. Debi sits down with Alexandra Wyman, author of Amazon best-selling book "The Suicide Club," for this week’s episode to discuss the sensitive and heartbreaking topic of suicide. Together, we explore the grief and unanswered questions that come with losing a loved one to suicide, offering tools, strategies, and support for healing.    Suicide is a deeply distressing and tragic event that leaves a lasting impact on the lives of those left behind. The emotional impact, unanswered questions, feelings of betrayal, and stigma surrounding suicide make it an incredibly challenging journey for those navigating the aftermath. Alexandra discusses how, unfortunately, when it comes to suicide, the loved ones left behind can often be questioned, blamed, and shamed. This makes the healing process even more challenging. She emphasizes the importance of providing lots of love and support to those who are hurting, without judgment or blame. It is crucial for society to foster open conversations about suicide, provide support, and create a safe space for survivors to heal and find solace.   Each person's healing journey is unique, and it's crucial to find the tools and resources that work best for you. Alexandra shares her toolbox of healing, including a suicide support group, therapy, journaling, exercise, meditation, and more. Remember, there's no right or wrong choice when it comes to healing. Explore different options and find what resonates with you.   Join us for this important conversation and learn how to navigate the complex emotions surrounding this type of betrayal.  Key Takeaways: [00:03:34] Legal action and custody questions. [00:04:05] Questions of blame and grief. [00:07:12] Setting boundaries and grieving. [00:10:31] Embrace emotions for healing. [00:12:00] Spirituality and questioning. [00:15:23] Dreams and connecting with loved ones. [00:18:39] Love and compassion and forgiveness. [00:21:27] Forgiveness as a healing process. [00:23:11] Forgiveness brings freedom and healing. [00:25:48] Finding something to anchor to. [00:28:41] Suicide support group, therapy, journaling. Memorable Quotes "And for me, what was most helpful was just people reaching out and saying, I'm thinking about you. I'm here for you when you're ready. That was great and comforting because at that time, what most people were asking is, what can we do? And I said, the one thing I want no one can do. I want my husband back here. No one can do that. So just being open and available without kind of projecting our own ideas of grief and what an individual would need based off of what we think we would need." – Alexandra Wyman   "And I tell people now, work through, you know, it's horrible to work through those feelings, but it feels amazing on the other side. It really does. I felt lighter." – Alexandra Wyman Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/ Where To Find Our Guest Website: https://www.forwardtojoy.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/forwardtojoy/

Emotions are normal during healing. This is a key takeaway in this episode where Dr. Debi discusses the various emotions that individuals may experience when going through the process of healing from betrayal. She reassures everyone that these emotions are completely normal and to be expected.   Yes, it's completely normal to experience a range of emotions when healing from betrayal. Many individuals find themselves feeling tired, experiencing outbursts of anger or sadness, or even having nightmares. Remember, these emotions are part of the healing process.    Additionally, healing from betrayal is not just about who you want to become, but also about letting go of who you no longer want to be. This journey is an opportunity to shed the weight of what no longer serves you and embrace the person you are meant to be. The beauty of betrayal lies in the ability to rebuild anything and everything you desire. So, ask yourself, what are you willing to let go of? What have you outgrown? By answering these questions, you can pave the way for the version of yourself who's ready to show up.   One of the most common questions we receive is, "Will I ever be able to trust again?" Remember, betrayal may shatter trust, but it is possible to rebuild it. Trust in yourself can be regained, it takes time, support, and the right tools, and we are here to guide you through the process.    If you're curious about the answers to these questions and eager to learn more about healing from betrayal, make sure to tune in to our latest episode.     Key Takeaways: [00:00:13] Emotions are normal during healing. [00:01:27] Letting go and rebuilding. [00:03:29] Rebuilding after betrayal.     Memorable Quotes "When you're healing from betrayal, it's less about who you want to become. It's more about letting go of who you aren't." – Dr. Debi Silber   "But not only can it be rebuilt, it can be rebuilt so much better, so much stronger than it ever was before. You need the right tools, support, and the right community to move through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough." - Dr. Debi Silber     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/   PBS Quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/pbs-quiz/   Trust Again 2.0: https://thepbtinstitute.com/trust-again/

Body betrayal is a concept that refers to the feeling of being let down or betrayed by our own bodies. It is a topic that has gained attention in recent years, as more and more people are struggling with various health issues, weight problems, and chronic illnesses. In this episode, Dr. Debi interviews Jenn Malecha, a Health Business Coach who supports health-minded professionals in taking control of their health and finding the missing pieces of their health puzzle.   Jenn shares her wisdom and insights on how to break free from negative patterns and create a healthier, more fulfilling life. She emphasizes the importance of forgiveness in our lives and how it can be a tough, yet transformative journey, and highlights the significance of self-love and how it plays a vital role in building our health and correcting imbalances in our bodies.   One of the key takeaways from this episode is the importance of slowing down and creating space for self-reflection. We often get caught up in our busy lives, neglecting our own needs and desires. But by taking the time to listen to our bodies and understand our unique needs, we can make positive changes and experience a greater sense of well-being.   Join us as we discuss the rise of AI-generated headshots and the pressure to conform to unrealistic beauty standards. Our guest expert, Jenn, shares valuable insights on how we can reclaim our health and well-being by loving and honoring ourselves. Don't miss out on this empowering conversation that will challenge the way you think about your body. Tune in now and start your journey towards self-acceptance and self-care.     Key Takeaways: [00:02:23] Feeling betrayed by our bodies. [00:03:48] Betrayal and forgiveness of body. [00:07:53] Unrealistic beauty standards. [00:11:19] Being authentic impacts your health. [00:13:11] Building a healthy relationship with our bodies. [00:15:33] Being present vs. Checking boxes. [00:17:07] Slow down and create space for presence. [00:19:40] Kundalini yoga and breathwork. [00:22:00] Listen to your body's feedback. [00:26:18] Alleviating symptoms and healing. [00:27:27] Stress impacts the body's systems. [00:29:41] Starting with food and sleep. [00:32:47] Personalizing your unique diet. [00:33:41] Listen to your body's needs. [00:35:59] Building our health back.     Memorable Quotes "There's so many ways that our body is talking to us all the time. It's everything from the little aches and pains to the cravings to our energy levels. It's like being able to tune into your body at any point in time to understand what it needs and giving it that." – Jenn Malecha   "It actually shows us the impact on the body over time that this constant place of busyness, always moving, always being like in this mild to moderate or high fight or flight stage, is having a drastic impact on every other asset of the body." – Jenn Malecha     Links Mentioned In This Episode Free Gift Link (Food & Body Language Log): https://whb.tips/bbpfoodlog /  https://gn180.isrefer.com/go/foodlog/pbtinstitute/ Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/     Where To Find Our Guest Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wholistichealthboss Website: https://wholistichealthboss.com/     Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/

Betrayal is a deeply painful experience that can have a profound impact on a person's life. It shatters trust, leaves emotional scars, and can lead to feelings of anger, sadness, and confusion. However, despite the devastation it brings, betrayal can also serve as a catalyst for personal transformation. This is evident in the awe-inspiring story of Suzanne Verbrugge.   In this episode, Dr. Debi had the privilege of hearing from Suzanne, one of our rock star members at the PBT Institute. Suzanne has gone through an incredible transformation, moving through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough. Her story is a testament to the power of resilience and the ability to create a beautiful life even in the face of adversity.    From the moment Suzanne joined our community, she dove headfirst into the work, and the results speak for themselves. We are truly in awe of her journey, and we know that her story will inspire you to take action and make positive changes in your own life.   During the episode, Suzanne shares how she navigated her way through a challenging relationship and found the strength to not only forgive but also to start a new business. She talks about the power of community and how the support and encouragement from others played a crucial role in her transformation. Her story is a reminder that success is not defined by external circumstances, but by the love and resilience that resides within each of us.    We invite you to listen to this episode and join us on an empowering journey of healing and self-growth.     Key Takeaways: [00:00:07] Betrayal in a long-term relationship. [00:06:02] Starting a new life. [00:08:29] Discovery of an affair. [00:13:48] Betrayal and post-traumatic healing. [00:16:35] Sleep deprivation and its effects. [00:19:00] The covert narcissist. [00:22:15] Overcoming dependency on medication. [00:26:15] What is success? [00:30:39] Rebuilding is a choice.     Memorable Quotes "I'm standing there, and I go like, what's wrong with me? Because I've never ever had anything, even a thought about that. And I said, I need help. I need help because this is not normal. My body went into shock. Everything went into shock.” – Suzanne Verbrugge   "That all the negative things you go through, transform that into something beautiful. Don't go into the negative, go into the positive." - Suzanne Verbrugge     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/     Where To Find Our Guest Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/smverbrugge/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/suzy.verbrugge Website: https://suzanneverbrugge.smugmug.com/

Using logic for healing betrayal can be a common approach for many individuals who have experienced betrayal. Logic is often seen as a tool that can help us make sense of situations, find solutions, and understand the reasons behind certain actions. However, when it comes to healing from betrayal, using logic may not be the most effective tool.   In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of healing from betrayal and why using logic may be keeping you stuck. Dr. Debi explores how healing fully and moving through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough requires a different approach, one that goes beyond logic.   Just like trying to do a home improvement project with only a hammer, healing from betrayal requires a variety of tools. Logic alone won't help you fully heal. To truly heal, we need to bypass the logical, rational mind and tap into what's underneath. It's about accessing our emotions and deeper inner wisdom.   Moreover, to break free from the chains of resentment and pain, we need to ask ourselves important questions about our current situation and the potential for change. By telling ourselves the truth, we can begin the journey towards transformation.   If you've been feeling stuck and logical reasoning hasn't been helping, this episode is for you! Discover the power of bypassing the rational mind and uncover what's truly underneath to aid in your healing process. Don't miss out on this empowering episode that will guide you towards a breakthrough.     Key Takeaways: [00:00:39] Using the wrong tool for healing.  [00:01:30] Using logic is not helpful in healing from betrayal. [00:04:29] Numbing, avoiding, and distracting.  [00:05:07] Ask yourself honest questions. [00:06:59] Healing and happiness.     Memorable Quotes "Being logical will keep you stuck when it comes to healing from betrayal. It is the wrong tool for the job. Healing from betrayal has very little to do with logic because think about it, you're trying to make sense of the senseless, right?” – Dr. Debi Silber   "You owe it to yourself to do something really good with something really painful." - Dr. Debi Silber     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/   Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/

Many of us have spent years stuck in survival mode, barely breathing and holding our breaths. In this episode, we address this common struggle and offer hope for those seeking to transition from a state of fear and discomfort to a place of safety and deep cleansing breaths.   Today’s episode features the incredible Elizabeth Kipp. She is not only an expert in her field but also one of our certified PBT (Post-Betrayal Transformation) coaches who specializes in chronic pain and stress management, and her insights have truly transformed the healing journey for many of our members.   Elizabeth shares her wisdom on breathing, stress response, and regulating the nervous system. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing that the greatest healer in your life resides within you. She believes that 80% of your healing journey is a collaboration between you and the intelligence within your body and the world. It's a powerful reminder of the innate healing potential we all possess.   Throughout our conversation, Elizabeth provides practical strategies from her Rebuild Roadmap book, which is filled with incredible practices for anyone looking to rebuild. She explains how breathing and regulating the nervous system can have a profound impact on our well-being, especially for those who have been stuck in a state of survival for years.   If you've ever felt like you've been barely breathing, holding your breath, or living in a constant state of stress, this episode is for you. Elizabeth offers guidance on how to transition from that place to feeling safe, comfortable, and empowered with each deep cleansing breath.   I encourage you to tune in to this episode and discover the transformative power of breathing and healing.      Key Takeaways: [00:01:23] The stress response. [00:05:08] Communication during triggers. [00:07:36] Dysregulation in the vagus nerve. [00:10:38] Shallow breathing and its effects. [00:15:35] The power of breath. [00:19:57] Getting your nervous system regulated. [00:21:33] Empowering self-healing journey.     Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/     Links Mentioned In This Episode Elizabeth Kipp’s Website: https://elizabeth-kipp.com/ Elizabeth Kipp’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lizi.kipp/ Elizabeth Kipp’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ElizabethKippStressManagement/ PBT Institute Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/     Memorable Quotes "Actually, your body is your nervous system and your body are so smart. All you have to do is begin long deep breathing and you'll feel calm. It's not like you have to talk yourself into it. This is not a mind thing. This is not like an affirmation. This is an actual thing that happens.” – Elizabeth Kipp   "If you ask me, what is my mantra in this space? My mantra is the greatest healer in your life lives within." - Elizabeth Kipp

Let’s explore the profound lesson that betrayal teaches us in this new episode of "From Betrayal to Breakthrough." Whether it's learning to love ourselves, setting better boundaries, or prioritizing our own needs, each betrayal presents an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.   Dr. Debi shares her personal experience and research on post-traumatic growth, revealing how betrayal felt distinct and prompted her to investigate further. She also shares one of our member’s journeys of betrayal from her mom, which unknowingly affected her marriage. Through self-reflection and a commitment to change, she's now ready to make a change and prioritize herself.   Many of us struggle with speaking up and prioritizing our needs due to a fear of shaking up those around us. This episode challenges that mindset and encourages you to embrace change, even if it means upsetting others. Remember, it's better to upset yourself than to sacrifice your own well-being for the sake of others.   Join in now as Dr. Debi explores the power to write the script for how people treat us and the importance of seeking help in rewriting it. Discover the power of change and the version of yourself that is waiting to be created and discovered. Tune in for valuable insights and resources to support your own transformation journey.     Key Takeaways: [00:01:36] Post-betrayal transformation. [00:03:35] Shaking up and upsetting. [00:05:23] Trust feels different than expected.     Memorable Quotes "But betrayal gives you the opportunity to create a version of you that never would have had the opportunity to exist and be created had that experience not happen.” – Dr. Debi Silber   "That's what truth and trust feels like. There's no deception. There's no pretending that there's something that they're not or someone that they're not. They're just authentic and real." - Dr. Debi Silber     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/   Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/

Betrayal is a deeply painful experience that can shatter our sense of trust, security, and self-worth. Whether it's infidelity in a romantic relationship, deceit from a close friend, or betrayal in any other form, the aftermath can leave us feeling lost and broken. However, it is possible to rebuild and advocate for ourselves after betrayal.   In this empowering episode of "From Betrayal to Breakthrough," Dr. Debi sits down with Attorney, TEDx Speaker, and Betrayal Recovery Expert, Lora Cheadle. Together, they dive into the topic of advocating for yourself after infidelity and discuss the importance of setting boundaries, redefining your identity, and trusting your truth. They explore how betrayal can change us, both for better and for worse, and how it uncovers the truth of who we are and our potential for growth and healing.   Lora opens up about her personal journey of betrayal and the invaluable lessons she learned along the way. She offers powerful insights and strategies for navigating the difficult stages of betrayal and redefining your identity. Lora’s message is one of hope and resilience, reminding us that we will be more than okay, and that we have the potential to create a life filled with love, meaning, purpose, and deep connection.   Whether you've experienced betrayal or simply want to learn more about personal growth and healing, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies for moving forward. Don't miss out on this transformative conversation!     Key Takeaways: [00:02:18] Discovering self-worth after betrayal. [00:05:18] Living for me. [00:08:11] Redefining boundaries and pushback. [00:10:45] Prioritize self-care and set boundaries. [00:12:55] Choosing your heart. [00:15:20] Finding your passion. [00:16:44] Acceptance leads to growth. [00:19:59] Betrayal uncovers the truth. [00:22:01] Opportunity to transform through trauma. [00:23:23] Flaunting your fetish.     Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/   Links Mentioned In This Episode https://loracheadle.com/betrayal-recovery-guide/ https://thepbtinstitute.com/     Memorable Quotes "I could be miserable and bitter, I could hate these other women, I could hate my husband, I could spend the rest of my life telling this story about this horrific thing that had been done to me, and where I was entitled to be a victim, I could test that story for the rest of my life, or I could actually start living for me.” – Lora Cheadle   "Living for me means I am the only one that is going to advocate on my own behalf. Nobody else is ever going to come in and say, ‘Oh, you look tired. Why don't you go take a nap? I'm going to make you a cup of tea and hand you this book. Will you sit here and read?’ That's up to me to determine what I need and to create that space and those boundaries to get it." - Lora Cheadle

Post-betrayal syndrome is a term used to describe the emotional, physical, and mental symptoms that individuals experience after being betrayed. Did you know that it affects millions of people worldwide? Over 80,000 people have taken our post-betrayal syndrome quiz. That's a staggering number! This syndrome encompasses a range of emotions and experiences, including constant regression, loss of personal power, extreme sadness, anger, anxiety, and an inability to trust. The statistics speak for themselves, it highlights the profound effects of betrayal on our lives and it's crucial to acknowledge and understand the impact it has on our well-being.   The good news is that you CAN heal from betrayal, no matter how long ago it happened or who was involved. During the episode, Dr. Debi shares a heartwarming story of a member from the PBT Institute who experienced a significant trigger. By comparing her response to previous situations, she discovered notable improvements in her emotional resilience. We explore how you can do the same and celebrate every small step forward. Remember, progress is progress, no matter how small!   Dr. Debi also emphasizes the importance of moving through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough. It's crucial to have the right tools, support, and community to guide you along this transformative journey. If you're feeling stuck, exhausted, or overwhelmed, don't worry! The PBT Institute is here to help you every step of the way. With their resources and expertise, you can find confidence, health, peace, and happiness on the other side of your healing journey.     Key Takeaways: [00:01:08] Physical Symptoms of Betrayal [00:04:22] Weight gain and stress. [00:05:25] Healing from betrayal requires healthy eating.     Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/     Memorable Quotes "These stats aren't from a recent betrayal. This could be something that happened decades ago. Your parent did something awful. The girlfriend or boyfriend who broke your heart in high school, whatever it is, that person may not know, care, even remember they may not even be alive. And here you are struggling. The good news is you could heal from all of it.” – Dr. Debi Silber   "While there are many very healthy ways to eat, when you're healing from betrayal, you want to use healthy eating in your favor. You want to use it as almost looking at it like, will this food choice get me out of ICU? And you're learning how to love yourself and nurture yourself, which is something that we absolutely do not do when we're healing from betrayal." - Dr. Debi Silber

Empowerment through financial independence is a concept that emphasizes the importance of taking control of one's finances and using money as a tool to create the life one desires. This idea is particularly relevant in the context of divorce, where individuals often find themselves navigating the complexities of financial separation and rebuilding their lives.   If you're going through a betrayal, separation, or divorce, the added factor of finances can make things even more complicated. Today’s guest, Mikelann Valterra, a Money Coach, Author, Keynote Speaker and Leader in the field of Financial Psychology, provides practical strategies and emotional intelligence techniques to help you transform your relationship with money, escape financial stress, and find peace and stability.   Mikelann emphasizes the importance of knowing how money affects us on a personal level. Does money represent freedom or security to you? Identifying your money personality can help you make better financial decisions and ultimately design a life you love.   We all make mistakes when it comes to money, but it's crucial to forgive ourselves and learn from them. Dwelling on past mistakes can hinder our emotional and physical well-being. Instead, let's focus on moving forward and creating a plan to improve our relationship with money. Mikelann reminds us that we are on a journey with money, and it's time to enhance and improve our relationship with it. By doing so, we can overcome obstacles and create a brighter financial future.   If you're interested in gaining a deeper understanding of the psychology behind our financial decisions, tune in to gain insights on navigating finances during challenging life transitions.     Key Takeaways: [00:01:49] The psychology side of money. [00:05:30] Fear around money in divorce. [00:09:54] Couples polarizing with money. [00:12:26] Changing money conditioning. [00:15:47] Creativity in meeting needs. [00:19:34] Willingness to try something different. [00:23:34] Financial forgiveness. [00:25:09] Enhancing our relationship with money. [00:29:00] Transforming Relationships After Betrayal.     Join us for The Forgiveness Project! Download your free tracking sheet here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/forgiveness/     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://www.seattlemoneycoach.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/seattlemoneycoach/ FREE E-book: https://seattle-money-coach.mykajabi.com/how-to-stop-stress-about-money-create-life-you-love     Memorable Quotes "One of the things that happens when women go through divorce is your natural money personality gets bigger and stronger because there's no, if you will, opposing force. There's no one else that's pushing on you to be any different than you are. And so, when women are really highly motivated by freedom and they go through a divorce, there's a lot of fear that they're not going to be traveling the way they used to." – Mikelann Valterra   "I love saying that the art of planning your spending is the art of crafting the life you desire. So, if there is nothing more powerful than stepping into crafting the life that you most want and so learning how to plan your spending is really about learning how to architect the life that you want to create.” – Mikelann Valterra

When we experience betrayal, it's an opportunity for us to redefine who we are and how we want to show up in the world. This is a sacred and personal time that should not be rushed or influenced by others' agendas. Take the time to reflect, heal, and rediscover your true self.   In the latest episode of "From Betrayal to Breakthrough," Dr. Debi dive deep into the topic of redefining and rewriting the rules after experiencing betrayal. Whether it's a personal or professional betrayal, it's crucial to take this time seriously and be mindful of who you surround yourself with during this delicate period.   It's also essential to recognize that tolerating abuse, whether it's emotional or otherwise, comes at a significant cost. We must prioritize our healing and well-being by seeking the right tools, support, and community to move through the five stages of betrayal to achieve breakthrough. At the PBT Institute, we provide a safe space for individuals to heal and transform their lives.   Remember, redefining our lives, healing from betrayal, and embracing change are all within our reach. You deserve to live a life filled with confidence, health, peace, and happiness. We're here to support you every step of the way.     Key Takeaways: [00:01:29] Redefining and rewriting the script. [00:04:09] Rebuilding after betrayal. [00:05:13] Don't tolerate abuse, seek support.     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/     Memorable Quotes "And I'm so proud of the ones who are diving in, doing the work and doing something really good with something really painful.” – Dr. Debi Silber   "If rebuilding is in the cards, rebuild right. If not, become your best. There's so much at stake by tolerating abuse. You need the right tools, support, and the right community to move through the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough." - Dr. Debi Silber

Betrayal is not the betrayer’s fault. This statement holds true in various aspects of life, whether it be in personal relationships, friendships, or even professional settings. Betrayal is a deeply personal and hurtful experience that can have long-lasting effects on the individual who has been betrayed. It is important to recognize that the responsibility for the betrayal lies solely with the betrayer, and not with the person who has been betrayed.   In this episode, we are joined by Mr. Jay, a beloved Certified PBT Practitioner who works with betrayed individuals and betrayers. He believes it is an obligation to help others navigate through the stages and phases of betrayal or even prevent it from happening. He has a Master's Degree in Education, a Ministry Credentialed, a Certified Special Education Teacher, Author of a children's book, a Military Veteran, an Inspirational Public Speaker, an Activist, Wedding Officiant, and Adoptive Parent.   Mr. Jay shares his knowledge and experiences in dealing with trauma and betrayal, emphasizing the importance of sharing, and learning from these experiences. He takes us on a journey through the different stages of healing, emphasizing the transformative power of personal growth. From feeling overwhelmed and exhausted to eventually experiencing life from a new perspective, he illustrates the profound changes that occur when we invest in our own healing. This discussion offers hope and guidance to those who may be in the earlier stages of their healing process, reminding them that there is light at the end of the tunnel.   Listen in as Mr. Jay discusses the stages and foundations of betrayal and offers insights on how to potentially prevent it.     Key Takeaways: [00:02:04] Preventing betrayal in relationships. [00:04:23] Whose responsibility is it? [00:08:52] Unattaching the story of betrayal. [00:12:02] Attitude trumps action. [00:14:23] Thinking about drinking poison. [00:18:00] Real forgiveness and healing. [00:22:23] Breaking generational curses. [00:25:10] Rebuilding after betrayal. [00:27:14] Coveting your energy. [00:30:16] Transforming and evolving relationships.     Links Mentioned In This Episode Website: https://mrjayrelationshipcoach.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjayrelationshipcoach/ YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/xfv8b4vb     Memorable Quotes "It's good to share some knowledge and information. I always say what a waste it would have been if all the lessons I learned from my own trauma and betrayal, I would have took to my grave." – Mr. Jay   "You are now changing the course of history and the future to ensure your children are not talking to a professional because of the trauma you gave them because you did the hard work. You're breaking generational curses. So, whether it's anything about merchandise or big, huge businesses, it could also be, you know what, I when I'm six feet under, I want to be talked about in a completely different way than I would have been if I did not do this healing.” – Mr. Jay