Dad to Dads Podcast

Robert

Inspiring fathers to become better dads while educating society on the importance of fathers being actively involved in the lives of their children. Topics include: fatherhood, parenting, divorce, co-parenting, sports, relationships, mental & physical health as well as exposing the inequities of how custody is determined by the court system.

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The Profound Impact a Father has on the Life of his Child - MyRon Edmonds
May 21 2024
The Profound Impact a Father has on the Life of his Child - MyRon Edmonds
Dr. MyRon Edmonds and Robert discuss the challenges and rewards of fatherhood. Dr. Edmonds shares his personal experience with father wounds and the impact it had on his relationship with his own father and his journey as a father. They emphasize the importance of leading with authenticity and vulnerability, and the need for fathers to model the behavior they expect from their children. They also discuss the significance of being present in the lives of their children and the power of relationships in shaping their development. The conversation explores the importance of fathers and the impact they have on their children's lives. It highlights the challenges faced by fathers in being present and engaged with their families. The societal attack on the role of fathers is discussed, along with the need for fathers to be mentors to other men. The conversation also touches on the divisiveness in society and the importance of unity in recognizing the importance of fatherhood. The power of fathers in shaping their children's identity and the crisis of identity in society are explored. The conversation concludes with a discussion about the Dr. MyRon Edmonds' new book 'Men's Breakthrough Devotional' and the 'Winning Circle' men's community.Key TakeawaysFatherhood is a journey of self-mastery and personal growth.Children learn more about life through observation of their fathers than through direct communication.Fathers need to lead with authenticity and vulnerability, acknowledging their own struggles and mistakes.Being present in the lives of their children is the best gift fathers can offer.The impact of fathers on their children's lives and relationships is profound.Intergenerational trauma can be passed down through relational experiences.Fathers need to model the behavior they expect from their children.Honesty and transparency are essential in building trust and integrity with children.Being a father is both challenging and rewarding, and brings immense joy.Fatherhood requires constant self-reflection and a commitment to personal growth. Fathers need to be present and engaged with their families, as their absence can have a significant impact on their children's lives.There is a societal attack on the role of fathers, which undermines their importance and value.Fathers should serve as mentors to other men, helping them navigate the challenges of fatherhood.Society needs to recognize and appreciate the importance of fatherhood, fostering unity and support for fathers.Fathers play a crucial role in shaping their children's identity and providing them with a sense of purpose and direction.There is a crisis of identity in society, which can be addressed through the presence and guidance of fathers.The book 'Men's Breakthrough Devotional' offers inspiration and guidance for men seeking to optimize their lives.The 'Winning Circle' men's community provides support, accountability, and camaraderie for men striving to excel in their roles as husbands, fathers, and men of integrity.
Navigating the Challenges of Parent Alienation - Charlie McCready
Apr 30 2024
Navigating the Challenges of Parent Alienation - Charlie McCready
Robert discusses parent alienation with expert Charlie McCready. Parent alienation is when one parent tries to damage the relationship between the other parent and their children. It often involves withholding the children from seeing the targeted parent and spreading negative narratives about them. Parent alienation can be divided into two phases: pre-alienation, where negative comments and undermining behaviors start to occur, and full-blown alienation, which intensifies after separation. Alienators are often driven by fear and insecurity, and they use control and manipulation to maintain power over the children. Charlie advises parents to focus on their children's needs, disengage from their own emotions, and send positive messages of love and support. For parents with no contact, he encourages them to learn about alienation and never give up hope. The principal themes of the conversation are reaching out to alienated children, the challenges of limited or no contact, the importance of patience and love, the need to focus on the present and future rather than the past, the danger of overwhelming children with emotions, the importance of being a positive role model, the impact of subconscious programming on children's behavior, the handling of angry children, the importance of self-help and personal growth, and the message of hope and resilience.Key Takeaways:Parent alienation is a form of abuse that damages the relationship between a targeted parent and their children.Alienation can occur in two phases: pre-alienation, where negative comments and undermining behaviors start, and full-blown alienation, which intensifies after separation.Alienators are driven by fear and insecurity, and they use control and manipulation to maintain power over the children.Parents should focus on their children's needs, disengage from their own emotions, and send positive messages of love and support.For parents with no contact, it is important to learn about alienation and never give up hope for rebuilding the relationship with their children. Reaching out to alienated children requires patience, love, and respect for their boundaries.Limited or no contact with children is a harsh reality for some parents, but they must continue to conduct their lives and be prepared to help their children when they are ready.When children reach out, it is important for parents to avoid overwhelming them with emotions and focus on the present and future rather than the past.Parents should be positive role models and avoid talking about alienation, instead focusing on building trust and a healthy relationship with their children.Parents should be prepared to handle angry children by validating their feelings and creating a safe space for them to express their emotions.Self-help and personal growth are essential for parents to heal and overcome the emotional roller coaster of alienation.Hope and resilience are key in navigating the challenges of parental alienation and rebuilding relationships with children.
Navigating Transitions and Emotions: Insights from a Divorced Family - Interview with Bella Duncan and her father, Craig Duncan
Apr 23 2024
Navigating Transitions and Emotions: Insights from a Divorced Family - Interview with Bella Duncan and her father, Craig Duncan
In this episode Robert interviews Bella Duncan (from www.akidwithtwohomes.com ) and her father Craig Duncan about their experiences as a divorced family. They discuss the emotions and challenges that arise during the transition between houses, particularly during pick-up and drop-off. Bella shares her perspective as a child of divorce, highlighting the mix of excitement and anxiety she feels during these transitions. Craig emphasizes the importance of being in a good state of mind and focusing on the well-being of the children during these moments. They also discuss how to handle holidays and vacations, emphasizing the need for flexibility and focusing on the positive aspects of each situation. In this part of the conversation, Bella and her dad discuss the days when they miss each other extra and how they cope with it. Bella shares her experience of waking up in the middle of the night and worrying about her dad, and how her mom would comfort her. She emphasizes the importance of parents acknowledging and validating their child's feelings of missing the other parent, rather than dismissing or minimizing them. Craig adds that it's important for parents to accept that their children love and adore both parents equally, and to create a safe space for them to express their emotions. They also discuss the importance of maintaining a lifelong relationship with their children and putting their needs first.Transitions between houses can be emotionally challenging for children of divorce, as they experience a mix of excitement and anxiety.Parents should strive to be in a good state of mind during pick-up and drop-off, focusing on the well-being of the children and creating a positive atmosphere.Flexibility is key when it comes to holidays and vacations, allowing for celebrations to take place on different days and making the most of the time spent with each parent.Children of divorce may have moments of longing for a 'normal' family, but it's important for parents to remind them that their unique family dynamic can still be fulfilling and something to be proud of.Open communication and empathy are crucial in helping children navigate the challenges of divorce and ensuring they feel supported and loved by both parents. Children may have days when they miss their other parent extra, and it's important for parents to acknowledge and validate their feelings.Parents should create a safe space for their children to express their emotions and offer support and comfort.It's crucial for parents to accept that their children love and adore both parents equally, and to foster a positive co-parenting relationship.Maintaining a lifelong relationship with children requires effort and understanding, and it's important to prioritize their needs.Parents should focus on the well-being and happiness of their children, even if it means putting aside personal conflicts or differences.
Erin Schaden, Family Law Attorney, Returns to the Podcast - Do Not Miss This Episode
Apr 2 2024
Erin Schaden, Family Law Attorney, Returns to the Podcast - Do Not Miss This Episode
Last time on the podcast she became a viral sensation because of some of her remarks. Erin Schaden, a family law attorney, divorce coach, and mediator, is back on the podcast and she's not holding back.  Great interview where we discuss various topics related to divorce and custody battles. Erin shares her insights on how unfortunately custody can be used as a weapon to hurt the other parent, the impact of false allegations in obtaining protective orders, and the manipulation of child support. We also discuss the importance of focusing on the best interests of the children and the need for maturity and accountability in divorce proceedings. We also explore the various aspects of domestic violence, gender bias in restraining orders, the impact of domestic violence on men, the perception of men and women in divorce, the role of emotional immaturity in divorce, the flaws in the divorce process, the potential negative impact of AI in divorce, and the importance of taking responsibility and creating safe spaces. Custody battles can often become a tool for one parent to hurt the other, leading to negative consequences for the children involved.False allegations in obtaining protective orders can be used as a strategy to gain an advantage in custody disputes.Child support guidelines may not always be fair, and lower-income individuals can struggle to meet their financial obligations while maintaining a relationship with their children.It is crucial for parents to prioritize the well-being of their children and avoid using them as pawns in divorce proceedings. Domestic violence is a serious issue that affects both men and women.Gender bias can exist in the process of obtaining restraining orders.Men can also be victims of domestic violence and face challenges in seeking help.Emotional immaturity can contribute to the breakdown of relationships.The divorce process can be flawed and lead to unnecessary conflict.Advancements in AI may not necessarily improve the divorce process.Creating safe spaces and promoting understanding can help improve relationships and prevent divorce.This is an episode you do not want to miss!!
He's Back - Interview with Dr. Daniel David, 2.0
Mar 19 2024
He's Back - Interview with Dr. Daniel David, 2.0
In this episode, Dr. Daniel David, men's mental health expert, discusses the impact of narcissism and borderline personality disorder on children. He explains how children's identity development is affected when their needs are overshadowed by a narcissistic parent's need for attention and admiration. Dr. David emphasizes the importance of positive regard and mirroring in a child's development and the role of both mothers and fathers in providing nurturing and acceptance. He also discusses the challenges of mother enmeshment and the negative impact it can have on boys' ability to form healthy relationships in adulthood. This conversation explores the impact of unhealthy mother-son relationships, the influence of 90s parenting on these relationships, and the theme of control in narcissism and borderline personality disorder. It also discusses the need for assertiveness in passive children, mothers' understanding of child development, and the importance of letting go and allowing children to experience life. TakeawaysChildren's identity development is influenced by the positive regard and mirroring they receive from their parents.Narcissistic and borderline personality disorder parents often prioritize their own needs over their children's, leading to a deficit in the child's sense of self.Mothers and fathers play different roles in a child's development, with mothers providing nurturing love and fathers providing accepting love.Children who grow up with narcissistic parents may struggle to develop their own identity and may exhibit passive or people-pleasing behaviors.It is important for non-disordered parents to provide unconditional love and affirmation to their children, offsetting the negative impact of a narcissistic parent.Mother enmeshment can hinder a boy's ability to separate from his mother and form healthy relationships in adulthood. Unhealthy mother-son relationships can lead to enmeshment and hinder the son's ability to form healthy relationships with women.The overindulgence and overprotectiveness of children in the 90s has contributed to a generation of highly anxious and depressed individuals.Control is a central theme in narcissism and borderline personality disorder, with narcissistic parents seeking to maintain a positive image and borderline parents fearing abandonment.Encouraging assertiveness in passive children can help them develop their own voice and set boundaries.Mothers need to understand child development and the importance of letting go, allowing their children to develop their own identities.
Interview with David Magee
Mar 12 2024
Interview with David Magee
In this episode, I interview best selling author David Magee, author of ‘Dear William, A Father’s Memoir of Addiction, Recovery, Love and Loss’. We delve into Magee's book 'Dear William,' which explores the importance of preparing children for life’s challenges as well as the struggles and recovery of an American family. Magee emphasizes the significance of vulnerability and honest conversations in relationships, as well as the need to break the cycle of brokenness while sharing personal experiences of addiction and mental health issues within his family. We also discuss the pressure parents feel to shape their children's lives and the importance of finding internal joy. In this conversation, Magee discusses his regrets as a parent and the importance of listening to children, while also emphasizing the role of being a mentor rather than dictating the path for children. David shares a powerful moment with his late son William, where they looked up at the stars on an extremely cold night in New Mexico and felt a deep connection to God. He also discusses the creation of the William McGee Center at Ole Miss and the upcoming movie adaptation of his book 'Dear William.' TakeawaysVulnerability and honest conversations are crucial in building strong relationships.Addiction and mental health issues are complex and require compassion and understanding.Parents should focus on internal joy and helping their children become the best versions of themselves, rather than trying to shape their lives according to societal expectations.Breaking the cycle of brokenness requires self-reflection, recognizing mistakes, and making changes. Parents should focus on cultivating relationships with their children and listening to them rather than making decisions for them.Being a mentor involves guiding and supporting children while allowing them to find their own path.Letting children struggle and take personal responsibility helps them develop resilience.Finding moments of connection with loved ones can be powerful and transformative.
Interview with Dr Lisa Paz
Feb 13 2024
Interview with Dr Lisa Paz
Fun interview with the very intelligent and highly entertaining, Dr. Lisa Paz. Dr. Paz is  a board-certified sex therapist, with a doctorate in Sexology, as well as a licensed Family Therapist. In this episode we discuss various topics related to sex and parenting. She emphasizes the importance of age-appropriate conversations about sex and body acceptance. Dr. Paz also addresses the impact of technology on kids' exposure to sexual content and the need for teaching consent. In the context of adult sexual issues, she highlights the role of mental and physical health in maintaining a satisfying sex life. Dr. Paz provides practical tips for improving communication and intimacy in relationships. Dr. Lisa Paz also discusses the importance of communication in parenting and how to talk to kids about sex. She emphasizes the need for open and honest conversations, providing age-appropriate information, and addressing any discomfort or fear parents may have. Dr. Paz also highlights the importance of navigating difficult conversations and building trust with children. She concludes by of course sharing a few intimacy tips for guys.TakeawaysAge-appropriate conversations about sex should start early and be incremental, building a foundation of knowledge and understanding.Parents should be the primary source of information about sex for their children, providing accurate information and discussing family values and expectations.Technology can expose kids to sexual content at a young age, making it crucial for parents to have open conversations about the consequences and responsibilities associated with sex.Consent is a vital aspect of healthy sexual relationships, and parents should teach their children the importance of obtaining and respecting consent.Body acceptance is essential in a culture that promotes unrealistic beauty standards, and parents can foster body acceptance by teaching their children about different body types and promoting a positive body image.Adults may experience sexual issues related to desire discrepancy, erectile dysfunction, and performance anxiety, which can be addressed through open communication, stress reduction, and seeking professional help.Sexual pleasure and intimacy in relationships can be enhanced by creating a low-stress environment, maintaining open communication, and prioritizing self-care and self-pleasure. Open and honest communication is crucial when talking to kids about sex.Parents should provide age-appropriate information and address any discomfort or fear they may have.Navigating difficult conversations requires empathy, active listening, and creating a safe space for children to express themselves.Building trust with children is essential for maintaining open lines of communication.
Bella Duncan from A Kid With Two Homes
Jan 24 2024
Bella Duncan from A Kid With Two Homes
What is it like growing up as a child of divorce? As a divorced parent, how can you be a better parent to your children? These are just a few of the questions answered by Bella Duncan as she gives us an inside look into her life. Bella, as the founder of www.akidwithtwohomes.com and @akidwithtwohomes on instagram,  shares her experience growing up as a child of divorce and the challenges she faced. She discusses the high conflict situation between her parents and the anxiety it caused her. Bella explains how she reached a breaking point and initiated a change in her family's dynamic. She highlights the importance of effective communication and the impact it had on her family's relationships. Bella also emphasizes the need for parents to put their children first and show respect for their co-parent. She encourages children of divorce to embrace their story and not feel ashamed.Just a few of the topics discussed.What it was like growing up in “two homes” and how she felt about the situation.Experiencing high-conflict co-parenting as a child and how she changed the situation.Why effective communication is crucial in co-parenting and reducing conflict.Why children of divorce should not be labeled as 'broken' or feel ashamed of their family situation.How parents should prioritize their children's well-being and avoid putting them in the middle of conflicts.If children can tell if the parents are competing for their attention and love.How resilience, maturity, and responsibility can develop in children of divorce, but why  it is important for parents to provide stability and support.What it was like when her father remarried and how he provided a successful transition with open communication and love.What her parents did correct and where she believes they could have done better. Why her father was and still to this day is so important to her.Tips for dads/parents who are co-parenting children.Bella is such a beautiful soul and she has made it her mission to be an advocate for children of divorce. Thank you for coming on the podcast Bella!
Dr. Daniel David
Oct 9 2023
Dr. Daniel David
Sit back and buckle up - this interview with Men’s Mental Health Expert, Dr Daniel David. A no holds barred interview as we dive into a variety of subjects. Masculinity and how it’s being destroyed by both academia as well as modern psychology. What is toxic masculinity – you’ll love to hear Dr David’s reaction, ME TOO Movement and their agenda. Boys rebelling from their mother and why that’s healthy. Feminist desire to extinguish masculinity. What kids need from their mother and father. How family court is so unfair to fathers as it relates to custody. Parent alienation.  Toxic moms. Thoughts on Andrew Tate and why he has amassed such a following.For over 25 years Dr Daniel David has had a highly successful practice specializing in working with men stuck in toxic relationships, addictions, self-sabotaging behaviors, and patterns that keep men trapped in life-controlling problems. One of his areas of focus is working with young adult men struggling to find their way in life & older adult men dealing with anger management, confidence issues, addiction recovery, and relationship problems.Dr. David was the founder and executive director of a nonprofit agency and outreach program to street gangs in New York City.and has been recognized for his work by the New York City Mayor's office as well as the New York State Governor's office and NY State Senators.He conducted his postgraduate training at the University of Oxford, England, as well as at Harvard Medical School. Disclaimer"As with any discussion concerning men's mental health, masculinity, and men's issues within the social environment, it is important to acknowledge that these discussions do not reflect anti-women sentiments. I personally believe that any parent who raises a boy and girl would not put down their son in order to raise their daughter. As a good parent would raise both a son and a daughter equally, society has a responsibility to help both men and women and not to displace or disadvantage men over women. I believe that it is important to advocate for women's rights while still advocating for helping men and improving men's mental health. Most topics I discussed have been vetted through consulting with female colleagues, clinical psychologists, clinical social workers, lawyers, and female therapists who understand the big picture issues for both men and women in society and mental health. My views and opinions are intended to spotlight the ailments of society and the issues of boys and men and are not intended for clinical diagnosis and do not constitute therapeutic advice. Please consult your healthcare provider about treatment options that are available." ~ DPDavid