Send the host a message here!This week, we’ll be looking at why the narcissist always seems to bored by us and the world around them. This can be extremely hurtful, particularly when we’ve bent ourselves into a pretzel trying to make the narcissist happy and feel loved.Narcissistic boredom is a specific manifestation of boredom often associated with individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It involves a constant sense of dissatisfaction stemming from a perceived lack of stimulation or attention. We'll explore how this can effect the people around the narcissist and what exactly is going on.I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!In this episode, we explore a common question from listeners: Is narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) nature or nurture? The episode delves into recent research suggesting differences in brain structure for individuals with NPD and also antisocial personality disorder. We will also look at recent medical research on the biological, neuropsychiatric, and even genetic aspects of NPD. Structural and functional brain imaging reveal differences in brain regions for individuals with NPD, particularly in areas controlling emotional empathy and self-esteem, so is NPD nature or nurture? Find out in this episode.I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!In today’s special episode, I will be talking with Tiphany Kane, a remarkable entrepreneur, podcaster, and the CEO of KaSa Media Productions. Tiphany joins me from California to talk about her extraordinary journey, from her upbringing in a cult to enduring a toxic relationship spanning nearly two decades. In our conversation, we explore the profound parallels between the emotional, neurological, behavioral, and physical aspects of cult experiences and toxic intimate relationships. Tune in for a deep dive into resilience, transformation, and the power of breaking free.I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!In this episode, we will be taking a look at the top ten things that people should not say to a survivor of narcissistic abuse. Sometimes, the people who care about us may not understand what on earth we’ve just been through and may only be trying to help, but some of the things that they say can be counterproductive. Supporting a survivor of narcissistic abuse requires sensitivity and understanding. Here are ten things that one should generally avoid saying to someone who has experienced narcissistic abuse. I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!Today we embark on an exploration of the different dynamics to look out for to see whether you are in, or have been in, a narcissistic relationship. If you’ve listened to previous episodes of this podcast, you’ll notice that the various dynamics I explore here follow the cycle of narcissistic abuse – from idealization, through to devaluation and possible hoovering. If you've ever felt the weight of manipulation and the draining energy of these toxic relationships, you're in the right place. So,  take a deep breath and let's get right into it.I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!Missing an abuser is very confusing and can lead to us feeling immense shame. Someone who’s never been in a toxic relationship, may not understand why this happens and, in this episode I seek to take away the shame of this and explain why it happens and how we can move forward from this. We will also look at some of the clinical and emotional reasons we miss the narcissist or toxic person such as, ‘euphoric recall’ and ‘anhedonia.’ The bottom line is, you do not miss the narcissist. You miss who you needed and wanted them to be. I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!This week's episode explores a common, yet little talked about abuse tactic employed by narcissists: using the car as a place to abuse a person.  In the episode, we explore  how being abused while in a car that’s driven by our abuser  can leave us feeling trapped, helpless, and isolated. we also cover the various ways narcissists can exploit their power over their victims on the road and the psychological motivations behind it.I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!This episode, we’ll be looking at what the narcissist really means when they say, “I love you.”When people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) say "I love you," they often mean "I love how you make me feel" or "I love the way you reflect positively on me." Their love tends to be self-centered and focused on their own needs and desires. It's more about the benefits they derive from the relationship, such as attention, admiration, or validation, rather than a deep, genuine concern for the other person's well-being. We will look at the ways in which this plays itself out in narcissistic relationships. I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!This week is one for the psychology buffs out there – we are going to be taking a look at how the narcissist has you addicted. The narc uses the functions of operant conditioning and its sidekick, intermittent reinforcement to do this. We will look at how these function in narcissistic and toxic relationships. Even though this may sound completely alien to you if you’ve never heard of either of these things – I can guarantee that you will have experienced this frequently in your narcissistic relationship.We will also see that the brain of someone with a gambling addiction acts almost identically to that of the brain of someone in a narcissistic relationship. I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!This week's episode is a special edition! I had the pleasure of sitting down and talking with Hannah Jenarine from the Victim Service Center of Orlando, Florida. We spoke about what it is like to be LGBT+ and live through a relationship with a narcissist and come out the other side.  We cover everything from inherited trauma and signs of narcissistic abuse, to healing through attention to breath and gratitude journaling. I hope you enjoy listening to our conversation as much as I enjoyed speaking with Hannah.I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!Emotional reasoning is a cognitive distortion in which people believe that their emotions are accurate reflections of reality. Narcissists are particularly prone to emotional reasoning because they have a strong need to maintain a positive self-image. They often interpret events and other people's behavior in a way that confirms their own superiority and importance.We will dive into the narc's use of emotional reasoning and see how they lack whole object relations and object constancy.  The narcissist is emotionally arrested and here, we look at how you can free yourself through knowledge of the NPD individual's emotional reasoning trap though knowledge. I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!This week, we are going to be looking at the ways in which narcissists and toxic people use financial abuse to coerce and control us. We will take a deep dive into how this happens including examining financial gaslighting, control, debt accumulation and how the narcissist will use financial abuse to further isolate you.Excited to announce that this episode also includes our first *listener Q&A*I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!This week we will be looking at the insidious and debilitating use of the silent treatment by the narcissist.  We will look at why silence is such a loaded weapon to the NPD  abuser and explore some of the things we do to avoid it.  Then we pan out and look at the bigger picture of their plan to isolate you from friends, colleagues and family.  I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!This week we will be diving into how and why narcissists ruin holidays, celebrations and special times. We will be looking at what is present in their disorder that makes them do this and also why they will try to make it look like it is you who is ruining the event. We will also look a the pathology behind why their own birthdays and celebrations will never be good enough. This week’s journal entry explores how we can reclaim holidays and celebrations as times of happiness. I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!"Flying monkeys" is a term, as you’ve probably already connected, that’s borrowed from the Wizard of Oz story, where the Wicked Witch of the West sends out her flying monkeys to do her bidding. In the context of dealing with narcissists, "flying monkeys" refer to individuals who are manipulated or recruited by a narcissist to assist in their manipulative schemes. These individuals often act as enablers, spreading the narcissist's narrative, defending their behavior, and sometimes even participating in their abusive tactics. This weeks journal entry is themed on your personal growth and how the awareness of “flying monkeys” will inform your relationships moving forward.I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!This week, we look at the hope we have that the relationship will get better. We look at how and why narcissists manufacture this sense of hope in us by first showing us what we long for in them and then slowly devolving into abuse. Just as we hit rock bottom, the cycle starts again with idealization, igniting hope all over again. We also look at how we are susceptible to this false hope and therefore how we can be more aware of it. The journal entry for this week is also themed on setting new, truly hopeful goals for ourselves.I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!In this third of our three-part series on narcissistic parenting, we will be looking at the health effects on the child or adult child, then we will examine how growing up in a narcissistic family dynamic can have deep ramifications later in life, and finally – healing from the narcissistic parental figure in your life. I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!In this second of three episodes on narcissistic parenting, we call out all of the hallmarks of a narcissistic parent. if you are the adult child of a narcissist, you may recognize many or even all of these. There are certain key elements that are usually present in parenting.  To the best of someone's ability they will try to be consistent, they will empathize, sacrifice, be self-aware, use discipline, have empathy and equanimity.  These are precisely all of the qualities that someone with narcissistic personality disorder is incapable of because, as part of the disorder, they do not possess them. I hope that, in hearing about these characteristics,  you are aided in identifying and validating your experience with your narcissistic parent or parents. I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!For the next three episodes, we will be covering narcissistic parenting. A number of subscribers (both LGBT+ and allies)  have reached out to say that they listen in because they have been parented by a narcissist. In response to this, I have recorded this three episode arc on narcissistic parenting and it's fallout. In this first episode of three, we look at the narcissistic family dynamic and also the 'rules of engagement' with a narcissistic parent. Following this episode, the next two will dive deeper and we will end with how to survive and thrive after a childhood with a narcissistic parent. I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here!Narcissism, like any other personality disorder, occurs on a spectrum to different degrees. It also occurs in different forms, and these can include grandiose malignant covert manipulative communal and benign. In this episode we look at the spectrum on a continuum all the way from entitled people to malignant narcissism which borders on psychopathy. This week’s journal entry is also themed with the episode. I look forward to healing with you.