Many people know they want to live happier and more fulfilled lives, but they often don't know how to get there. Join Shana in discovering the power of a morning ritual in creating a growth mindset, and increasing self-love and self-worth. She will lead you through the process of creating a ritual of your own, and challenging you to use it for 7 days. You won't want to miss this simple yet compelling technique. Let's dive in! Resources: Books: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: 30th Anniversary Edition (Anniversary) a book by Sean Covey, Stephen R. Covey, and Jim Collins (bookshop.org) Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers a book by Timothy Ferriss (bookshop.org) How to Win Friends and Influence People (Revised) a book by Dale Carnegie (bookshop.org) Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones a book by James Clear (bookshop.org) The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich (Expanded, Updated) a book by Timothy Ferriss (bookshop.org) You Can Heal Your Life a book by Louise Hay (bookshop.org) Videos: Priming: the daily habit Tony Robbins uses to boost his brain (youtube.com) Learn the Breath of Fire - Bastrika Pranayama | Yoga (youtube.com) Articles: Why You May Want to Stand Like a Superhero | Psychology Today   Host: Shana Dubay, MBMP Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

Join Shana for this very special bonus episode where she talks with her 9 year old daughter Evelyn, aka Evey, about the benefits and challenges of being a mother and daughter. You won't want to miss this fun and insightful episode about what it's like for this mother and daughter. Let's dive in! Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Evelyn Spitzer Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

Join Shana once again for a frank and candid discussion about divorce with her amazing friend Pietr Pietro. Shana and Pietr talk about both of their experiences with their own divorces, the pain, and how they were able to overcome the pain and grow into their more authentic selves. You won't want to miss this honest and diverse conversation. Let's dive in! Resources: James Sexton, Divorce Lawer: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT872Bc9a/ National Library of Medicine Divorce Statistics: Reasons for Divorce and Recollections of Premarital Intervention: Implications for Improving Relationship Education - PMC (nih.gov) The Two Wolves: A Cherokee Story: Microsoft Word - Poster THE TWO WOLVES.doc (sdsu.edu) Quotes: "Old sins have long shadows."   Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Pietr Pietro Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

Join Shana and Frank for this interesting and interactive bonus episode. They discuss more fully the courageous and vulnerable comments and responses shared by listeners about their relationships with their bodies. You won't want to miss this bonus content. Enjoy! Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Frank DiLuzio Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

Need show notes   Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Frank DiLuzio Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

Join Shana and Melissa for a deep dive into the topics of blame and accountability. These are incredibly important factors in the health of relationships, and how we choose to handle them can really determine the longevity of them. They discuss the differences between blame and accountability; why blame feels so enticing to most of us; and how to create some new patterns that allow us to return to growth, love, and connection. You won't want to miss this insightful episode. Let's dive in!   Resources: Reddit Question and Answer: “What often destroys relationships, but isn’t talked about much?" “Blame. The single best predictor of relationship failure is the frequency of blaming language. Blame is absolutely poisonous to relationships. Approach problems from a problem-solving mindset, not a blame assigning one, if you want your relationship to last.”   Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Melissa Small Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

Welcome to Part 2 of How to Fight Right! Join Shana and Frank in the continuation of their conversation on how to handle conflict and challenges in relationships. In this episode, they cover assumptions and expectations, and indifference or stonewalling. Learn how to spot these unhealthy patterns and how to replace them with new skills that will help improve your partnerships. Let's dive in! Resources: Noam Ostrander "the 5:30 fight:" How to Fight With Your Partner In a Healthy Way | TIME Mel Robbins "Let Them Theory:" The “Let Them Theory” : A Life-Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About | The Mel Robbins Podcast John Gottman "Four Horsemen:" The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling (gottman.com) Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Frank DiLuzio Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

In this episode of Relationfix, join Shana and Frank in the first half of their discussion on how to fight right. They discuss the concepts of defensiveness and personalization, and how they break down trust and accountability in relationships. You won't want to miss part 1 of this interesting and insightful conversation.  Resources: The Four Agreements — don Miguel Ruiz - Agreement #3 Don't take anything personally Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Frank DiLuzio Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

In this episode, Shana discusses people-pleasing! Where does it come from, why does it happen, how does it impact our relationships, and how can we change this cycle. You don't want to miss this important episode. Let's dive in! Resources: People pleaser: Definition, signs, risks, and how to stop (medicalnewstoday.com) Home - Live Better, Longer - Blue Zones The Many Faces of Ego | Eckhart Tolle Teachings - YouTube How to Stop Being A People Pleaser and Starting Putting Yourself First | Mel Robbins - YouTube Brené Brown Helps Kelly Set Boundaries - YouTube Host: Shana Dubay Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

In this episode, Frank joins Shana once again to discuss personal growth. Every relationship begins with the relationship we have with ourselves. Shana and Frank discuss Jay Shetty’s advice about relationships and Shana guides Frank through the process of creating a new persona who acts more from his higher self. You won’t want to miss this episode of transformation. It’s time to do the work. Let’s dive in. Resources: CBT Schema Jay Shetty 3 relationships  8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go: Shetty, Jay: 9781982183066: Amazon.com: Books Quote: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is your power to choose your response. In your response lies your growth and your freedom.” -Viktor Frankl Frank’s Persona Name: Forza Saggio (for-tsa saj-eo) Shana’s Persona Name: Sekhmet  Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Frank Anthony DiLuzio Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

In this episode, Shana talks about one of the hardest aspects of relationships: grief and loss. She discusses her personal experiences with loss and the feelings that arise; Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, Susan Cain, and Glennon Doyle’s work on loss and pain; and how to help transform our pain into service and love. If we live long enough, we will all face this type of pain at some point in our lives. You won’t want to miss this deep and poignant episode. Let’s dive in. Resources: Mr Magorium's Wonder Emporium He Dies - Your Life is An Occasion - YouTube Five stages of grief | CNN On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families: Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth, Byock M.D., Ira: 9781476775548: Amazon.com: Books On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss: Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth, Kessler, David, Shriver, Maria: 9781476775555: Amazon.com: Books Bittersweet (Oprah's Book Club): How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole: Cain, Susan: 9780451499783: Amazon.com: Books Glennon Doyle Melton: First the Pain, Then the Rising | SuperSoul Sessions | Oprah Winfrey Network - YouTube Host: Shana Dubay Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

In this episode, Shana is joined by former coworkers Melissa and Josh to discuss the intricacies of workplace dynamics. They cover everything from work/life balance to crossover relationships, and from resolving workplace conflict to the importance of leadership and culture in performance. You won't want to miss this important and dynamic conversation. Let’s dive in! Resources: Simon Sinek: What Noah Taught Me About Leadership (TRUE STORY) | Live2Lead 2016 【C:S.S Ep.2】 - YouTube Host: Shana Dubay Guests: Melissa Small and Josh Gravel-Blaney Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

In this episode, Shana talks about common themes that keep arising with her clients and in her own life. She discusses the “let them” theory, created by the amazing life coach and author Mel Robbins; kin keeping: what it is, its importance, and how it impacts relationship dynamics; and anticipating needs: how anticipating your partner's needs is important and different than mind-reading. Don’t miss this quick yet important episode. Let’s dive in! Resources: 3 Ways to use the Let Them Theory | Mel Robbins Podcast Clips - YouTube The Family Kinkeeper Role | Psychology Today Spheres Of Influence Orange: things I can control Green: things I can influence Blue: Things I can't control    Host: Shana Dubay Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

One of the most common problems in relationships is feeling unloved and unseen by our partners and friends. Learning how we give and receive love is one of the highest forms of communication and can help us reconnect to form more meaningful experiences. In this episode, Frank returns to help Shana explore Gary Chapman's world of the 5 Love Languages. You won't want to miss this interesting and fun episode!  Resources: The Love Language® Quiz (5lovelanguages.com) Bookstore (5lovelanguages.com)   Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Frank DiLuzio Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

In this episode of RelationFix, Shana gives some quick tips for self-love, grace, and communication in your relationships during times of great stress. Don't miss this quick and to the point episode. Let's dive in.  P.S. RelationFix will be taking a break over the month of May. We will be back with more amazing content on June 5th. Don't forget to take care of yourselves and lead with love and contribution. See you soon. Host: Shana Dubay Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

In this episode, Shana is joined by the amazing Frank and her partner Melissa to talk about the multi-faceted world of same-sex relationships. Hear all three of their stories in this candid, funny, touching, and honest conversation about what people within the LGBTQ+ community can face in their lives and relationships. Understanding other people's experiences only seeks to bring people closer together. Don't miss this opportunity to connect and learn more. Let's dive in. Resources: Understanding Gender and Sexual Identities: Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Definitions - Human Rights Campaign (hrc.org) A Guide to Understanding Gender Identity and Pronouns : NPR Transgender Youth: The Trevor Project | For Young LGBTQ Lives Violence Against LGBTQ+ Community Info: Violent Victimization by Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity, 2017–2020 | Bureau of Justice Statistics (ojp.gov) Fatal Violence Against the Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Community in 2021 - Human Rights Campaign (hrc.org) Host: Shana Dubay Guests: Frank DiLuzio and Melissa Small Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

In this "quick tips" episode of RelationFix, Shana discusses 3 no no's for masculine and feminine energy types. Learn what behaviors and patterns to avoid, and how to change them.    Host: Shana Dubay Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

In this episode of RelationFix, Shana and Frank discuss Attachment Theory; the theory that how we related to our caregivers in early life impacts our ability to form secure relationships later in life. They explore the different types of attachments and give some helpful tips on shifting from anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachments to secure. Our early relationships often set the foundation for our relationship dynamics as adults, so you will not want to miss this episode to understand how they affected you and your loved ones.  Resources: The Attachment Project: Learn Attachment Theory from Experts Interview with Marisa G. Franco: How to Improve Any Relationship: The 4 Attachment Styles You Need to Know & Tools to Become More Secure (melrobbins.com) M.A.P.S.: About MAPS - Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies - MAPS Books:  Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--And Keep--Friends a book by Marisa G Franco (bookshop.org) Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--And Keep--Love a book by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (bookshop.org) Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Frank DiLuzio Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

Understanding why we do what we do all comes down to our needs. What are our basic needs as a human being, and how do they drive us? We also welcome Frank back for a super special guest appearance to talk about this interesting and deep subject. You won't want to miss the fun, growth, and insightful conversation on this episode of RelationFix. Resources: Tony Robbins: 6 human needs: why are they so important? (tonyrobbins.com) Johan Hari Ted Talk: https://youtu.be/PY9DcIMGxMs Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs Theory (simplypsychology.org)   Spheres of influence Worksheet (wsimg.com) Human Needs Exercise Example: Below are the numbers from the episode on a sample sheet for the exercise with Shana and Melissa. Melissa was asked in post-production what her numbers were, and they are reflected on the sheet.                               Shana         Shana as Melissa        Melissa (real numbers) Certainty/Comfort     9                       10                          10 Variety/Variability      6                        7                            8 Significance               8                        9                            9 Love/Connection      6                        10                          10 Growth                      9                        10                          10 Contribution             7                         9                            10   Host: Shana Dubay Guest: Frank DiLuzio Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en

We spend a lot of time talking about how to cultivate beautiful, healthy relationships here at RelationFix, and this couple has figured out how to do it right. Gene and Debbie are an inspiring couple who are loving and dedicated to each other and their family. Listen closely to how they show up for each other and the decisions they make as a family to keep their bond going strong after 14 years together. You won't want to miss this heartwarming, funny, and beautifully vulnerable couple. Dive in with us! Host: Shana Dubay Guests: Eugene Brown and Deborah Johnson-Brown Music: ROA *Check out our podcast website: https://relationfix.podbean.com/ *Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relationfixpod/ *And TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@relationfixpod?lang=en