Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

There is so much great and life-changing information about sex and intimacy, but let’s face it, it can be dry as hell! Intimacy expert and sexologist Shan Boodram takes a deep dive into anything and everything about sex, relationships, and the science of attachment every week with expert guests and friends who will tell all. It’s everything The Talk should be. read less

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Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram is a sex and relationships podcast. Topics addressed range from achieving orgasm to making it past the honeymoon period. It aims to help people live a happy, pleasurable, and healthy lifestyle. A Los Angeles-based sex educator, Shan Boodram shares her knowledge with gusto. She is a certified sexologist with a psychology and journalism background. Shan has appeared on outlets such as Fox News, CNN, and The View, among many others. She wrote the bestseller The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating and Dominance-and Getting What You Want. Shan also serves as a sex and dating expert on the Peacock show Ex-Rated.

Shan believes everyone needs to be their own sex and relationship expert. She champions this course on Lovers and Friends by exploring topics with insight. Shan's guests are familiar with the subject of the episode they feature in. They are either people with a personal connection to the topic or niche experts. Close friends also join Shan for a reflection session at the end of episodes.

Lovers and Friends offers candid views and extensive conversations about intimacy and self-love. Mental illness, identifying soulmates, having a lasting marriage, and living single are also topics on the show. The lessons it teaches are those many avoid out of fear or feelings of powerlessness. The discussions on the podcast identify these issues and provide tips and resources.

In one episode, listeners learn over half of the American populace has at least one type of herpes. The stigma surrounding a herpes diagnosis is a focal point for the podcast. In this revealing installment, media personality Shira Lazar shares her herpes story. Shan also chats with Dr. Ina Park, a CDC medical consultant, in the episode.

Jonathan Singletary and Shan's husband, Jared Brady, appear on another podcast episode. They share the importance of both partners getting "in the mood." Therapist Nina Westbrook discusses the necessary hard work of being in a relationship.

Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram has many informative and engaging discussions. The weekly podcast is intimate and transformative. New episodes arrive Wednesdays.

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Episodes

104: Ride Our Emotional Roller Coaster: The Concluding Episode of Lovers & Friends
Dec 27 2023
104: Ride Our Emotional Roller Coaster: The Concluding Episode of Lovers & Friends
Welcome to (some of) the best of Lovers and Friends the podcast. Hear from JESSIE REYES, MELISSA AND KEV OnSTAGE, ABBY DE LA ROSA, SHANOLA HAMPTON, TIM Chantrangsu aka DE LA GHETTO, DREW LOVE from THEY, RACHEL LINDSAY and GLO ATANMO during this special recap episode. THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR ONSEKIN Go to http://oneskin.co and 15% off with code LOVERS15 GLO ATANMO https://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZU?si=GtWZkCBspPlmUA8f https://open.spotify.com/episode/1W4xrpdCh0V3OwXZCYt1bO?si=mJNj1rxcQ7a333AUmgsqMA JESSIE REYES https://youtu.be/7IbgI3-s7Ps?si=j0CL3b8gYqsNbqFe https://open.spotify.com/episode/2w3jYgkVIgg2eQoYWuALhp?si=8q3ptyfKQbWn9FrrY3bZTA MELISSA AND KEV https://youtu.be/hrMVcujhg1A?si=idb7xnDq8TX1aBh_ https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NjXUyZ5suDL3ytxUALFV8?si=gg3B7zvfQnm5nS9XUpkyZA ABBY DE LA ROSA https://youtu.be/aq8290G52_I?si=oaI5d_ALvuj82z9V https://open.spotify.com/episode/5AM2X8zNwmgV3koVtgemPC?si=pzqGDEw3QMCe8Awx9eFK7Q SHANOLA HAMPTON https://youtu.be/J7PZakvvdCo?si=LDSbtyjNTKuNmZ1u https://open.spotify.com/episode/2pHr7jrSj7iQTZlsbIUoYV?si=-pk8WovdSbqLLyrXDrRpRg TIM DE LA GHETTO https://youtu.be/G6WYaHFOjEU?si=uDvI7cap3yCs0srq https://open.spotify.com/episode/0VuY52Ct9XS9Wua4dtupO6?si=ZFMbJEQOQ56IuBADlxm8og DREW LOVE https://youtu.be/bdooXjRGprY?si=AG3KL1r-wAfeb8Gm https://open.spotify.com/episode/39lGd7mxW9jvpGpOPYMKaj?si=ou8FILHeSGG7P21hCZwMog RACHEL LINDSAY https://youtu.be/bnEORZJD2pQ?si=LiHiZKFU1-_Cv8l6 https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kN3P1KoHI3LcnLNRgzY76?si=faUIGN4ATUaLvewVQ3AjCQ HELP WHY CAN’T I ORGASM https://open.spotify.com/episode/2X8oEJMQ8JNSu6Psa53r7O?si=wJMEWu6vTmGpia1waTZ0Sw
99: If You Haven’t Found Your Go To Position, Try These from the Kama Sutra feat. Seema Anand
Nov 29 2023
99: If You Haven’t Found Your Go To Position, Try These from the Kama Sutra feat. Seema Anand
Becoming a Pro: Master These Kama Sutra Sex Moves and Take Things to the Next Level. Spend some quality time with Seema Anand as she guides you through the Kama Sutra to discover the perfect positions for your pleasure even if the penis is too big, too small, or not experienced enough. From beginner-friendly poses to more advanced options, you'll learn something new no matter your level. So if you haven't found your go-to position yet, tune in now and explore with Seema! Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra. She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies. Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skillfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society. Follow Seema https://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=en https://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytelling Thanks to our Sponsors SKIMS SKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars. BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.  This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/lovers Get a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month.  UNCOMMON GOODS http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/Lovers, for 15% off your first gift  OneSkin Get 15% off with the code Lovers15 at http://oneskin.co.  Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram Tiktok.com/shanboody
98: Tonight's Conversation vs Lovers and Friends: Orgasm Gap and Relationships Being Mid
Nov 22 2023
98: Tonight's Conversation vs Lovers and Friends: Orgasm Gap and Relationships Being Mid
Today, we're joined by renowned guests from the popular podcast "Tonight's Conversation Podcast" – Ace Metaphor, Kita Rose, and Just Mike The Poet. This podcast is renowned for bringing together social media personalities, relationship experts, and therapists to explore themes related to love, dating, and relationships. Our discussion today centers on the dynamics of relationships, specifically focusing on the contrasting preferences of men and women in intimate settings. Additionally, we'll delve into a provocative topic: the impact of masturbation on one's sexual desire towards their partner. FOLLOW Tonight's Conversation https://www.instagram.com/tonightsconversation/ https://linktr.ee/tonightsconversationcards ACE: https://www.instagram.com/acemetaphor/ KITA: https://www.instagram.com/kitarose_/?hl=en MIKE: https://tonightsconversation.vhx.tv/videos/tc-date-night-s1-e8 Thanks to our sponsors Dipsea Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Ritual Ritual is offering my listeners 30% off during your first month. Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today Lume As a special offer for listeners of Lovers and Friends, new customers get $5 off Lume’s Starter Pack with our exclusive code and link. And for a limited time, returning customers can get $5 off their next purchase of $30 or more, too! Use code LOVERS at http://LumeDeodorant.com HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! That means one breakfast item per box while your subscription is active.
91: How I Stopped Searching for Love in Lost People feat. Leah Lamarr
Oct 4 2023
91: How I Stopped Searching for Love in Lost People feat. Leah Lamarr
How do we fix our desire for relationships with people that will inevitably become broken. And how do we stop ourselves from aligning healthy with boring? That’s what we’re talking about on this episode of Lovers and Friends.  Attraction, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is a complex process. It can be influenced by numerous factors, from biology to personal history. If someone finds themselves repeatedly attracted to individuals with certain undesirable characteristics (like the makeup of a fuckboy: charismatic but not reliable, fun to be around but not fun to be apart from because communication is not stable or when out of sight they’re unpredictable, they make big plans but don’t consistently make the small actions to move towards that goal especially when it comes to you, etc…), understanding the underlying causes and taking conscious steps to modify patterns of attraction can be beneficial. Here's a scientific, step-by-step approach: Self-awareness and reflection  Next, Examine past patterns Understand the biology Cognitive-behavioral techniques  Increase self-worth Expand your social circle Educate yourself Avoid idealization practice mindfulness Follow Leah Lamarr https://www.instagram.com/leahlamarr https://sociatap.com/leahlamarr/  Show Love to Our Sponsors Zoc Doc Go to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Hello Fresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shipping Skims Try The Cotton collection and more are available now at http://SKIMS.com Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars!  Extras in this episode The Art of Manipulation: Influence Human Behavior, Understand the Psychology of Manipulation, Effectively Manage People, and Get What You (Really) Want!  Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
88: An Uncommon Guide to the Kama Sutra (You'll Be Shocked By What We Found) feat. Seema Anand
Sep 13 2023
88: An Uncommon Guide to the Kama Sutra (You'll Be Shocked By What We Found) feat. Seema Anand
The Kama Sutra, a renowned ancient Indian Sanskrit text, often perceived as a guide to sexual positions and techniques, is in fact a comprehensive guide to virtuous and gracious living. Written between 400 BCE and 200 CE by a sage named Vatsyayana, this text covers various aspects of life, including family, relationships, and personal conduct, amongst others. The Kama Sutra is a profound ancient text that offers wisdom not only on intimacy but on many facets of life. Its holistic approach to love and relationships makes it a rich resource for understanding ancient Indian society's perspectives on love, life, and morality. By exploring it in depth, you may find a plethora of wisdom that goes beyond the bedroom and offers insights into a virtuous and gracious life. On this episode we have Seema Anand guides us through what we missed while looking at the pictures of sex positions in the kama Sutra. Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra. She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies. Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skilfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society. Follow Seema https://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=en https://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytelling Thanks to our Sponsors This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/lovers Get a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month.  Babbel http://Babbel.com/lovers Get 55% off your Babbel subscription Zocdoc http://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram
86: What it REALLY Takes to Get in the Mood at the Same Time Ft. Elaine Welteroth & Jonathan Singletary
Aug 30 2023
86: What it REALLY Takes to Get in the Mood at the Same Time Ft. Elaine Welteroth & Jonathan Singletary
What does it take to get you in the mood? Maybe like some it’s strawberries and silk. Or maybe like many others, it’s a little more … nuanced than that. Jonathan Singletary and my husband Jared Brady teamed up to make a sexy song devoted to the women who do a lot and consequently, need a little more to get…there. When it comes to being horny aka getting in the mood, this conversation is often about what you can do to get there, but in this episode we go into what has to first be done, OR in some cases undone for it to become feasible for all parties. Getting horny seems simple when we look at it through a Super Bad lens, but when we insert real people with real lives we can appreciate this complex process that relies on an interplay of neurological, hormonal, emotional, and physiological cooperation. Thanks to Our Sponsors Ritual http://Ritual.com/LOVERS Ritual is offering my listeners 20% off during your first month FabFitFun http://FabFitFun.com/LOVERS Sign up at, customize your box, and get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few.  Dipsea http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day FREE trial  MOOD: https://linktr.ee/jsingletary Follow our guests Jonathan Singletary https://www.instagram.com/jonathansingletary https://linktr.ee/jsingletary Elaine Welteroth https://www.instagram.com/elainewelteroth https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2023/02/14/ask-elaine-husband-new-mom-less-attracted/ Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng
85: This Is What Happens When You Marry Your Maybe feat. The Marriage Pact Couples
Aug 24 2023
85: This Is What Happens When You Marry Your Maybe feat. The Marriage Pact Couples
Finding the one is a life quest, one that many people never complete. Some people don’t pick anyone, some people pick the wrong one, and some give up hope looking for the one and start considering the two, three, four or five… There’s no shame in this, especially when you both acknowledge this choice not to settle, but to secure the future you want by selecting a partner who may not tick all of your boxes, but you know that in time and when you’re both ready to make a mutual commitment - you just might be able make it work with them. This acknowledgement that I’m talking about often comes in the form of a marriage pact. A marriage pact is an agreement made by two people that states that if we are both still single by a certain due date, we will marry each other. People make these pacts for a number of reasons: fear of commitment or because the connection is right, but the timing isn’t. However in most cases, it’s an all-else fails backup plan. But, what happens when that fails to? Or perhaps even scarier - when the plan actually succeeds? Now what? That is what we are exploring on this episode of Lovers and Friends with the cast of The Marriage Pact streaming now on The Roku Channel. You can stream #TheMarriagePact FREE on a Roku, the Roku mobile app and http://therokuchannel.com. It’s also available on Samsung Smart TVs and Amazon Fire Sticks. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode  SKIMS Checkout the Cotton Collection and more at http://SKIMS.com they offer free shipping on orders over seventy-five bucks! Hello Fresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for an amazing 50% off plus free shipping! Liquid IV Get 20% off when you go to http://LIQUIDIV.com and use code LOVERS at checkout BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.