Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram

Shan Boodram

There is so much great and life-changing information about sex and intimacy, but let’s face it, it can be dry as hell! Intimacy expert and sexologist Shan Boodram takes a deep dive into anything and everything about sex, relationships, and the science of attachment every week with expert guests and friends who will tell all. It’s everything The Talk should be.

Help! Should I Leave Him or Double Down on Loving Him? feat. Tee
Jul 20 2022
Help! Should I Leave Him or Double Down on Loving Him? feat. Tee
Tee aka HiMyNamesTee Tee is in a 12-year on and off relationship with her first love and first sexual partner that she feels equal parts hope and despair towards. Should she stay in feeling as though she's with her soul mate and twin flame OR run in knowing that she's tried so hard for so long and still...Follow Shan  in to the show to leave a voice note‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.comFollow the guests on this episode  TeePodcast:    Here is the exercise Tee and I did together: Section One Framing - tell the story of why you should stay and why you should goSection Two - tell me the things that make you love you. Things that make you a positive, motivating force within your own life:1) Can you currently approach growth and your outlook on the future from a place of worthiness?2) Who are you, at your current best?  3) What parts of yourself do you want to protect at all cost? 4) What is your vision for your future?5) What do you need to be happy in order to give yourself the best shot at making this vision a reality? Section Three - answering the hard questions1) If you had to sum up your relationship in one word, it would be?2) Is this a familiar pattern?3) When I think about the future of my relationship, I typically feel? 4) Are you your optimal self when you’re with your partner? 5) Do you feel appreciated by your partner?6) In a dream world scenario, what’s the ideal relationship that you’d like to have with your partner?7) In the real world, given what you know so far, what kind of relationship is possible, today8) Have you tried hard enough in this relationship?9) Should it be this much work?10) If you had a son or daughter you deeply loved, would you want them to be in a relationship with someone like the person you are with right now?11) How will my life change without this person?12) How could my life change for the better with this person in it?13) What haven’t I learned from this relationship?14) If I could get an email from myself ten years from now, what advice might it have?15) If this is all there is, will it be enough? 16) How often do you fight with your partner?18) Do you ever wish that you were in a relationship with someone else? Section FourI pulled those prompts from this research article can also find a table of the prompts here in this article
Soul Mates or Settling? The Friends to Lovers Story feat. Ezee and Natalie
Jul 12 2022
Soul Mates or Settling? The Friends to Lovers Story feat. Ezee and Natalie
Can genuine friends truly transition into longterm romantic and sexual partners? Is it more ideal to gradually walk into love WITH someone who’s already your best friend OR fall in love and then become best friends? According to a 2021 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science finds that two thirds of romantic couples started out in a platonic relationship. Yes, 68% reported that their current romantic relationship began as a friendship! And the rate of friends to lovers was even higher among 20 somethings and within the LGBTQ+ communities with 85% reported that their relationship began as a friendship. And more interestingly I think, only 30% said they were sexually attracted to the partner from the very beginning.  You might be like, why is this so shocking to you and it’s because in essence our generation might be rewriting the traditionally understood blueprint for forming romantic bonds. This is what we discuss with guests Ezee and Natalie, two comedic-content creators turned collaborators turned best friends turned lovers, who have shared every part of their journey online and thus have sparked a lot of conversations about whether plutonic friends really shift to romantic lovers in a way that is both equal and sustainable? And with Hotline Bling producer plus half of DVSN's Nineteen85 aka Paul Jefferies.  Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboodyCall in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com   Follow the guests on this episode   Ezee      Natalie    Nineteen85
Don’t Ask Me My Sign
Jun 1 2022
Don’t Ask Me My Sign
Astrology … what has your experience been with it (especially) when it comes to dating? What if someone has a different perspective on it than you? Oftentimes, it can be a judgmental, mean, hot-ass mess when one person believes in the stars and astrological signs and the other does not. Personally, I think we can all collectively do better with it. In this episode, we dive into how believers and non-believers of astrology can come together and focus on what really matters.  This episode addresses and then attempts to bridge the divide. I am joined by famed astrologer Aliza Kelly as well as my astrology-loving friends Amber's Closet and Toni Romiti. Follow Shan on Instagram: up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting:  ALIZA KELLY is a celebrity astrologer, columnist, bestselling author, and host. Aliza has been featured in The New York Times, The New Yorker, Vogue, InStyle, The Cut, and numerous other publications. She's the author of three books: Most recent being This Is Your Destiny: Using Astrology to Manifest Your Best Life Get Aliza's book here: can also listen to Aliza's podcast "Stars Like Us" wherever you listen to podcasts Amber Whittington is one of the leading voices fighting for equality for the LGBTQ+ community.  A content creator, activist, host and actress, Amber is changing the world by using her platform to educate global audiences on the black and queer experiences. Amber is an avid astrology enthusiast.Follow Amber:  Toni Romiti is an athlete-turned-singer who parlayed viral fame into pop stardom. She has created music Alongside rapper Ty Dolla $ign, guested on DJ Carisma’s 2020 single “That’s Facts.” And is an avid astrology enthusiast.Follow Toni: