Mothers at Midnight Podcast

Indigo Melrose & Rose Harvey

Discover a safe space for mothers where the challenges and triumphs of motherhood are explored with depth and understanding.

Rose Harvey and Indigo Melrose, both seasoned psychotherapists and mothers, warmly invite you to join them in candid conversations that go beyond the conventional narratives of motherhood.

As your hosts, Indigo and Rose share not just their professional insights but also their personal experiences, delving into the complexities of motherhood. Beyond the surface of unconditional love for our children, they encourage you to set aside the familiar "mother" role and embrace the full spectrum of the woman within.

Pour yourself a cup of hot cocoa or a glass of wine and immerse yourself in intimate, vulnerable, and occasionally challenging discussions about the genuine experiences of motherhood. These conversations are more than just storytelling; they form a collective exploration of the tough, confronting, and sometimes overwhelming aspects of parenting.

Find your comfortable spot, settle in, and join Indigo and Rose as they navigate the authenticity of motherhood, enriched with insights from experts around the world.

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Ep 65 Innate Wisdom of the Healer ~ Alicia Melrose (Old Gold Season)
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Ep 65 Innate Wisdom of the Healer ~ Alicia Melrose (Old Gold Season)
Today we are joined by a very special guest. Alicia Melrose is a Natural Health Consultant, Medical Herbalist, a truly wise woman and Indigo’s beloved mamma. Alicia developed her enthusiasm for herbal medicine when she lived in Indonesia with a Sumatran Shaman. She went on to become a registered medical herbalist and has now been in practice for over 33 years and offers a multidisciplinary practice based on a holistic, supportive approach to health. Her goal is to enable a person to take a proactive and life changing approach towards health. Always in awe of the potential of herbal medicines, she has a passion for her work and a deepening understanding of the causes of disease processes.Alicia believes that we all have an innate wisdom and healing capacity and that our personal challenges provide us with an opportunity to deepen our connection to the intangible.We chat about:The incredible story of how Alicia was called to the herbal path (2:39)Holistic herbalism and the importance of developing a relationship with plants (6:00)Alicia’s experience with Ayahuasca and what it taught her about mental health and plant medicine (8:50)Feeling called to the plant path and how to begin developing a relationship with the plants (13:20)How disease and personal challenges provide us with an opportunity to connect to our inner wisdom (23:00)The relationship between mind and body and the importance of listening to our bodies (31:06)The importance of silence, surrender and learning to listen to our inner voice (34:50)And so much more!Episode ResourcesHands of Light by Barbara Brennan The Surrender Experiment by Michael SingerContact Aliciawww.belmontparkretreat.co.nzConnect with Mothers at Midnight:You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnightROSE HARVEYInstagram: rose_harvey_therapy INDIGO MELROSEW: www.indigomelrose.comOr check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.
Ep 64 Anxiety to Awe: Shaped by the Earth ~ Tina Bramley (Old Gold Season)
Feb 19 2024
Ep 64 Anxiety to Awe: Shaped by the Earth ~ Tina Bramley (Old Gold Season)
How do you cope when you’re feeling anxious, depressed or overwhelmed? What if there was a place you could go to whenever you needed support or guidance? A place that allowed you to experience a feeling of well-being and a connection to a deeper, more sentient wisdom.The good news is that place DOES exist and is available to you at any time. It’s called an earth spot and you don’t necessarily need to leave the house to go there…In today’s episode, we explore the power of earth spots with Tina Bramley, a holistic counsellor and psychotherapist who believes cultivating a connection to nature and the earth is the key to developing resilience and boosting our wellbeing.In today’s episode we talk about...What earth spots are and what they’re used for (1:25)How nature and a connection to the earth can help us cope with anxiety and depression (3:13)The power and magic of imagined earth spots (6:15)Why we feel called or connected to certain earth spots… and repelled by others (10:20)How earth spots open us up to the experience of awe and wonder (14:41)How to cultivate a connection to nature access the experience of awe (18:40)How to find and cultivate the sacred in the mundane (21:43)How our relationship to nature changes over our lifespan and how we can learn to connect to nature no matter where we are (29:12)Different uses for earth spots (34:48)The physiological benefits of connecting with the earth (36:00)Why awe alleviates anxiety (37:47)An exercise for connecting with an earth spot (44:01)And so much more!Episode resources Dreaming While Awake by Arnold MindellBelonging: Remembering Ourselves Home by Toko-Pa TurnerConnect with Mothers at Midnight:You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnightROSE HARVEYInstagram: rose_harvey_therapy INDIGO MELROSEW: www.indigomelrose.comOr check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.
Ep 63 Anger as Your Ally ~ Juna Mustad (Old Gold Season)
Feb 12 2024
Ep 63 Anger as Your Ally ~ Juna Mustad (Old Gold Season)
Although we often fear anger, at its core, anger is actually an ally here to help you better access your truth and your boundaries. Join us as we chat to Juna Mustad about the power of healthy anger and how to make anger an ally. Along the way, we’ll discuss the relationship between anger and intuition and how befriending our anger can support us to live a more soulful life. Whether you’re an anger stuffer or an anger erupter, you’ll gain so much from this episode!Juna is a Life and Relationship Coach, an Intuitive, and a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner whose work is focused on supporting people to embrace their full potential, create healthy relationships, and live a soul-centered life. Her Tedx talk “Anger is Your Ally: A Mindful Approach to Anger” has been viewed over 400,000 times.We chat about:What a God bath is and why it’s part of Juna’s daily ritual (1:50)What healthy anger looks like (5:40)Why we fear anger and how stuffing our anger increases its intensity (7:20)How stored anger manifests in the body (9:40)Why anger is a messenger and what our anger can teach us (10:40)How to honestly and authentically meet your anger in an embodied way (14:00)Intuition as the voice of the soul and how we can develop our innate intuition (21:30)Why emotions such as anger are an important part of healthy spirituality (27:00)Anger as a tantrum of the soul (29:00)The relationship between love and anger and how to make space for healthy anger in relationships (34:50)Juna’s soul journey, learning to be with “not knowing” and the art of surrender (38:50)Collective anger, feminine rage and how anger can wake us up an inspire healthy action (46:00)And so much more!Episode ResourcesJuna’s Tedx TalkGrounded Spirituality by Jeff BrownCall of the Wild by Kimberly Ann JohnstonEmotional Intimacy by Robert Augustus MastersKali and Feminine RageConnect with Mothers at Midnight:You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnightROSE HARVEYInstagram: rose_harvey_therapy INDIGO MELROSEW: www.indigomelrose.comOr check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.
Ep 62 Breath To Transform ~ Joshua Alexander (Old Gold Season)
Feb 5 2024
Ep 62 Breath To Transform ~ Joshua Alexander (Old Gold Season)
Our breath is an important anchor in life. It guides us and supports us through life’s experiences. The more conscious we are of our breath, the more we are able to consciously respond to our inner and outer world. In today’s episode we chat to Josh Alexander, a qualified breathing coach and breathwork practitioner, who has personally experienced the profound transformative effect breathwork has on the individual and collective psyche. We chat about:What breathwork is, the origins of breathwork and the two main schools of breathwork (1:15)The difference between breathwork and the Wimm Hoff method (7:36)The concept of the inner healer and how it relates to breathwork (10:38)Josh’s journey with breathwork and how it transformed his life (12:00)How breathwork can open us up to the healing potential of the transpersonal realm (18:43)What the experience of attending a breathwork session is like and how to prepare for the experience (25:25)The importance of integration (33:05)The future of breathwork (38:12)The breathwork community in Australia (40:49)A daily practice to help connect in with the power of breath (42:40)And so much more!Thank you for listening. If you enjoyed this episode we’d be so grateful if you could take the time to share it and/or leave us a review.Connect with Mothers at Midnight:You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnightROSE HARVEYInstagram: rose_harvey_therapy INDIGO MELROSEW: www.indigomelrose.comOr check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.CONTACT JOSHhttps://www.transitionbreath.com/about-breathworkM: 0439 070 392E: info@transitionbreath.com
Ep 60 Sitting in the Mud of Transition ~ Indigo Melrose
Aug 20 2023
Ep 60 Sitting in the Mud of Transition ~ Indigo Melrose
Are you navigating a time of transition? Perhaps you’re ending a relationship or are in a new one, perhaps you’re coming to terms with a life changing diagnosis, preparing for motherhood, or starting a new career… You might find your sense of self is shifting and things suddenly feel uncertain and overwhelming. Whatever the circumstances, transition is something we all know intimately and must dance with constantly throughout our lives.To be in transition is to be in a liminal space. It’s the messy, murky unknown we encounter when we’ve left behind what’s familiar and are on the precipice of something new. Navigating times of transition can be an uncomfortable and confusing experience. Yet times of transition are also rites of passage that hold enormous potential for growth and self-discovery.Join us as we explore the messiness and transformational potential of transitions big and small.We chat about:How Indigo came to choose “transition” as the topic for her doctorate and why this topic is close to our heartsTransitions as an invitation to learn to be with discomfort and “not knowing”Navigating the transition to private practice as therapists Transitional places as sacred spaces Finding practices that support and hold you in times of transition Learning to slow down and be open to what is emerging How times of transition can invite encounters with SoulNavigating grief and loss in times of transition … and so much more!Resources Cacao Recipe: Click HERE and scroll to the bottom of the page :-) Heart Connection Exercise: Listen HERE Music: 'Lutruwita'~ performed by DENNIThank you for listening. If you enjoyed this episode we’d be so grateful if you could take the time to share it and/or leave us a review.Connect with Mothers at Midnight:You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnightIndividual Therapy or Triads with Rose & IndigoROSE HARVEYInstagram: rose_harvey_therapy INDIGO MELROSEW: www.indigomelrose.comE: melrose.psychotherapy@gmail.comInstagram: indigomelroseOr check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.
Ep 58 Facing the Challenges of Our Time ~ with Dr. Jane Gilmer
Aug 6 2023
Ep 58 Facing the Challenges of Our Time ~ with Dr. Jane Gilmer
How can we maintain a sense of equanimity in today’s world? With so many pressures and increasing polarisation, how can we, both individually and collectively, contribute to healthy change? How can we as mothers balance the demands of the material world with caring for our soul life and the soul life of our children?Join us as we explore how to face the challenges of our times with Jane Gilmer. Jane is a transformational guide, theatre artist and author of The Alchemical Actor. Her work with psyche, or soul, is a deeply alchemical process influenced by the depth psychology of Carl Jung and the spiritual science of Rudolf Steiner.Jane brings so much wisdom, heart and soul to this topic, and we invite you to listen with an open heart and mind as we explore the challenges of today’s world from a mystical perspective. We chat about:The power of being an active, silent witness Rudolf Steiner’s perspective on the challenges of our times What it means to be a warrior of the soulHow outer challenges mirror inner challenges The power and importance of imaginationFinding the “third way” or the way of love Simple yet powerful practices to support us and our families through these timesHow understanding and facing death can awaken usFeminine wisdom and seership … and so much more!Resources Rudolf Steiner on Lucifer and AhrimanJung on holding the tension of oppositesThank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode we’d be so grateful if you could take the time to share it and/or leave us a review.Connect with Mothers at Midnight:You can write to us at: mothersatmidnight@gmail.comFollow us on Instagram: Mothers_at_midnightIndividual Therapy or Triads with Rose & IndigoROSE HARVEYInstagram: rose_harvey_therapy INDIGO MELROSEW: www.indigomelrose.comE: melrose.psychotherapy@gmail.comInstagram: indigomelroseOr check out our Patreon page for bonus episodes, behind the scenes content and updates on our circles and other offerings.
Ep 56 Death is Necessary ~ with Natalie Roset
Jul 23 2023
Ep 56 Death is Necessary ~ with Natalie Roset
Gather in community with us as we discuss death and dying with Natalie Roset. Nat has been a palliative care nurse who has been supporting people through the dying process for over 20 years. Conversations about death and dying can be challenging, but we invite you to open your heart and mind as we travel with Nat into a realm many of us prefer to avoid or tip toe around in our day to day lives. Nat provides a clinician’s perspective and also brings warmth, compassion and a sense of reverence and soulfulness to this topic. We hope you’ll enjoy this exploration of the great journey we must all undertake as much as we did.We chat about:How diagnosis of a terminal illness is a profound soul event Why we need to face and be present to our own mortalityNavigating conversations about death and dying with childrenHow facing the uncertainty and mystery of death can change the way we liveDifferent models for supporting death and dying beyond the biomedical modelThe importance of community, rituals and traditions in supporting grief, death and dyingThe value of acknowledging hopelessnessSupporting a loved one who is dying or experiencing grief over the loss of a loved oneThe inner wisdom of our bodies in grief, loss and dyingGrief as a capacity and skill how to become grief literate… and so much more!Resources Die Wise by Stephen Jenkinson Kevin Toolis on the Irish WakeMichael BarbatoThe Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis WellerTHANK YOU FOR LISTENING!If you enjoyed this episode we would be so grateful if you could take the time to share it or leave us a 5-star review.Connect with us:We would love to hear from you. Email us: mothersatmidnight@gmail.comOr check out our Patreon Page for bonus episodes and behind the scenes content.
Ep 54 Burning Out, Burning Through ~ with Rose & Indigo
Jul 9 2023
Ep 54 Burning Out, Burning Through ~ with Rose & Indigo
Burnout, the feeling of complete mental, physical and emotional exhaustion, is often associated with work stress. Yet in our experience it’s all connected - an overwhelming state that impacts every aspect of our lives. Often, we don’t recognise the red flags or early warning signs of burnout and instead try to push ourselves to keep going. We might feel like we’re failing or not coping and try to manage our symptoms rather than addressing the underlying cause… which is often related to being out of alignment with our deeper needs and purpose.Since we’ve both recently been through the experience of burnout, we decided to gather together in person to share our favourite hot cacao and reflect on how we navigated the experience, what we learned from it and how we regained our sense of vitality. If you’re feeling exhausted, flat, foggy, unfocused, lacking in motivation, angry, irritable and as though you have nothing left to give - then this episode is for you. We chat about:What burnout is and how it’s a sign that we’re out of alignment (1:30)Our personal experience of burnout including the signs we ignored, why it’s important to pay attention to our dreams when we’re burnout, what we learned from the experience and what remains when everything is burnt away (5:00)How we can still get burnt out doing things we love, including mothering (27:00)The link between “should” and burnout and the healing power of following your curiosity (30:00)Navigating burnout as a parent (33:00)Embracing burnout as an opportunity to connect with our deeper self and do life differently (39:00)… and so much more!Resources This Jungian Life on BurnoutPsychology Today on Burnout The Reconnected Naked, Covered in Ram’s Blood, Drinking a Coke, and Feeling Pretty Good by Andrew Solomon Thank you for listening. If you enjoyed this episode we’d be so grateful if you could take the time to share it and/or leave us a review.Connect with us:We would love to hear from you!You can write to us at:mothersatmidnight@gmail.comOr check out our Patreon page
Ep 52 Motherhood Facing & Finding Yourself ~ with Lisa Marchiano
Jun 25 2023
Ep 52 Motherhood Facing & Finding Yourself ~ with Lisa Marchiano
Join us as we explore the journey of initiation that is motherhood with Lisa Marchiano. Lisa is a clinical social worker, a certified Jungian analyst, and a nationally certified psychoanalyst. She also co-hosts This Jungian Life, (one of our favourite podcasts) and is the author of Motherhood: Facing and Finding Yourself. We have been exploring this wonderful book as part of our Mothers at Midnight Book Club and we are delighted to share our in-depth conversation with the author herself. Together we explore the descent process that is part of the journey of initiation motherhood takes us on. In particular, we focus on the experience of meeting and facing our anger. Lisa’s compassion, authenticity and wisdom allowed us to explore this difficult territory with love and care. We hope you gain as much from this conversation as we did.We chat about:How Lisa’s book arose out of her own experience of facing the challenges of motherhood (2:00)How motherhood is a journey of feminine initiation involving a process of descent (3:00)Anger in motherhood and its relationship to the descent process (8:30)The one thing that has helped Lisa and her clients navigate anger (11:00)The relationship between our expectations and anger (13:00)Why we need to become conscious of the shadow qualities of extreme rage and anger within ourselves  (14:50)Opening to the idea that “everything belongs” in our experience of motherhood  (24:00)The importance of authenticity and learning to accept and see the value of anger (27:50)The importance of being open hearted when relating to our children and how to navigate the experience of “blocked care” (34:00)The relationship between motherhood and creativity (37:00)… and so much more!Resources Lisa’s WebsiteMotherhood: Facing and Finding YourselfRead along with us! Maternal Desire by Daphne de Marneffe This Junigan LifeTHANK YOU FOR LISTENING!If you enjoyed this episode we would be so grateful if you could take the time to share it  or leave us a 5-star review.Connect with us:mothersatmidnight@gmail.comCheck out our Patreon page
Ep 50 Sailing The Partner-SHIP Through Parenthood ~ with Indigo & Rose (& partners!)
Jun 11 2023
Ep 50 Sailing The Partner-SHIP Through Parenthood ~ with Indigo & Rose (& partners!)
Welcoming a child into a relationship is a life changing rite of passage. Navigating the transition from being a couple to becoming a family can be both joyful and extremely challenging, with research from the Gottman Institute showing that 67% of new parents report decreased relationship satisfaction. As we learn to adapt to our new roles we can find ourselves facing uncomfortable emotions as all kinds of “stuff” is brought to the surface  - it’s a wild ride! Yet if we can sit in the discomfort it’s also an opportunity to deepen our relationship with our partner.Join us for a heartfelt conversation about how to steer the partnership through parenthood, navigating the ups and downs and everything in between.We chat about:Why so many parents report decreased relationship satisfaction after a baby (3:00)The positive impacts of parenting on our relationships (6:54)The idea of “relationship myth” and how this thread continues through our parenting journey  (11:00)Navigating disagreements and clashing values when it comes to raising children (16:50)The importance of cultivating friendship as well as romance and the question that shows us we’re still committed to the relationship even when times are tough (29:00)Learning to allow conflict, the power of “care and repair” and why it’s helpful to get curious about our relationship process (33:23)The struggle in renegotiating our roles within the relationship in the early days of parenthood (40:00)How we can nurture ourselves (and other new parents) as we navigate the transition to parenthood(45:00)Learning to appreciate what each person brings to the partnership and to parenthood (50:00)The power of true commitment to carry us through difficult times (51:00)… and so much more!Resources Gottman Institute The Reconnected (Parenting Course)Esther Perel The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der KolkJames Hollis On Marriage by Kahlil Gibran Connect with us:mothersatmidnight@gmail.comCheck out our Patreon page
Ep 48 Matter to Yourself First ~ Katie Feder
Apr 2 2023
Ep 48 Matter to Yourself First ~ Katie Feder
Do you believe you matter? How might your life change if you truly valued yourself?Today’s guest wears many hats. Katie Feder is holistic psychotherapist, retreat facilitator, mentor, blossoming author and mother to two beautiful children. Katie brings a joyful authenticity to all these roles, and an unshakeable belief that she matters.Yet Katie hasn’t always felt this way, it’s been a long journey learning to reclaim “I matter”, one which she shares with openness and honesty. Join us as we chat about the ups and downs of motherhood and marriage, divorce, heartbreak, endings, grief and ultimately committing to the most important relationship you will have in this life - the one you have with yourself. This is a special episode, one we got to record in person at Katie’s beautiful home as we shared tea, cake and lots of laughter. We invite you to pour a cup of tea or a glass of wine and settle in as Katie shares her story and her wisdom.We chat about:How what Katie thought was her lowest parenting moment was actually a moment of joy for her childrenWhy our internal emotional state is more important than what we doHow being a “good girl” leads to abandoning ourselvesBeing a perfect parent vs being an authentic parentWhy it’s important to be the leading lady in your own lifeLearning to connect in with our needsBreaking the habit of people pleasingNavigating guilt and shame when putting ourselves firstMothering ourselves as well as our childrenAnd so much more!Connect with Katie:https://www.katiefeder.com/Katie is running a course called Empowered! Sunday May 7th - Sunday June 11th, 2023 in Mittagong NSW. Email hello@katiefeder.com to find out more.Ways to connect with us:Email mothersatmidnight@gmail.comCheck out our Patreon pageJoin us for a Vital Journey!A Vital Journey is the creation of Alicia Melrose, a wildly talented and experienced medical herbalist, Indigo’s talented mamma and past podcast guest. Alicia has been offering this program for over 30 years, first in the UK and now in New Zealand and is now delighted to offer it fully online so you can experience the benefits of a holistic health retreat from the comfort of your own home. We support the mental wellness aspect of the program through guided inner work exercises.To find our more, email us: mothersatmidnight@gmail.com
Mini Ep 47: Earth Spot ~ Guided by Indigo
Mar 26 2023
Mini Ep 47: Earth Spot ~ Guided by Indigo
How your Earth Spot will support you..How do you cope when you’re feeling anxious, depressed or overwhelmed? What if there was a place you could go to whenever you needed support or guidance? A place that allows you to experience a feeling of well-being and a connection to a deeper, more sentient wisdom. The good news is that this place does exist and is available to you at any time. It’s called an earth spot and you don’t necessarily need to leave the house to go there. This week, we’d like to share a favourite meditation for nourishing ourselves. An earth spot is a special place (real or imagined) that you feel drawn to and which gives you a sense of well-being, where you feel safe and held.Before completing the following exercise, we recommend you take some time to unwind and connect with yourself more deeply. You might like to take a walk, soak in a relaxing bath or sit quietly and sip a cup of your favourite herbal tea. When you’re ready, grab a pen and your journal or some paper and we’ll begin. Ways to connect with us:Email mothersatmidnight@gmail.comCheck out our Patreon pageJoin us for a Vital Journey!A Vital Journey is the creation of Alicia Melrose, a wildly talented and experienced medical herbalist, Indigo’s talented mamma and past podcast guest. Alicia has been offering this program for over 30 years, first in the UK and now in New Zealand and is now delighted to offer it fully online so you can experience the benefits of a holistic health retreat from the comfort of your own home. We support the mental wellness aspect of the program through guided inner work exercises.To find our more, email us: mothersatmidnight@gmail.com