Pull up a chair to our vibrant Mother's Day dinner, where even a too-salty steak sparks profound discussion on pursuing dreams and embracing the precarious balance of business and personal risk-taking. In this familial symphony, every generation contributes its own unique melody, reflecting the sacrifices we make for loved ones and the wisdom earned through experiences—sometimes the hard way. Get cozy as I recount tales of trust, investment, and the delicate dance between the safety of a teacher's steady paycheck and the gamble of entrepreneurial ventures.We wrap up with an intimate peek at the podcast's journey, reaching milestones and touching lives in ways I could never have imagined. Sharing this ride with you not only offers the chance for self-discovery and growth but also carries the potential to help shape your path, whether through embracing sobriety or learning to navigate life's intricate maze. As we celebrate these collective achievements, we also hope to inspire and foster our community, appreciating life in its raw and unfiltered glory, with a bit of humor and a whole lot of heart.

Tupac Shakur once said, "I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not." As your host Jay Luis, I've lived by these words, and in this episode of The Sober Experience, I open up about my journey toward authenticity and the resolve it takes to remain true in a world rife with challenges. Through introspection and the power of Tupac's philosophy, I navigate the rough tides of life, sharing my steps to maintain peace and equilibrium. You're invited to listen as I candidly discuss the impact of sobriety on personal accountability and the poignant lessons learned from resisting the seduction of the streets and the instant highs they promise.The tapestry of my life is woven with vibrant threads of cultural dichotomies, a Puerto Rican Jew finding his footing between the allure of street life and the structured aspirations of my Jewish heritage. I reflect on the pull of immediate gratification and the long-term ambitions that tug in opposite directions. This episode sheds light on the stark realities of street codes, addiction, and the complexities of money, offering a raw narrative of the struggle to carve out an identity and find true purpose. Here, you'll witness the convergence of contrasting worlds, and how they've sculpted the man I am today.Embarking on a transformative journey from chaos to clarity, I explore the path from substance abuse to sobriety with the guidance of the 12-step AA program. The transformation wasn't just personal; it rippled outward, making me a better friend, son, and father. In a heart-to-heart, I share the profound influence of spiritual living and the music of Drake and Kendrick Lamar on my life, along with the intimate joys of fatherhood. As I recount the pride in my son's growth and our shared experiences, I also highlight the significance of supporting others through recovery, a testament to the healing power of connection and mentorship. Join us on The Sober Experience, where transformations are not just shared—they're celebrated.

When Joe, a Brooklyn native with a life as colorful as the borough itself, steps into our studio, you can bet that the tales he spins are nothing short of extraordinary. Our latest episode on the Sober Experience is a tapestry woven with threads of laughter, nostalgia, and the sobriety journey that binds us. You'll be captivated by Joe's recollections of his unexpected arrival into his family, the landmark moment the first television crossed their threshold, and a Pepsi mishap that's as endearing as it is sticky.Navigating through the labyrinth of alcoholism's impact on family life, Joe and I get real about the deceptive nature of this disease, the nuanced challenges of acknowledging addiction, and the patience it demands from those it touches. Our conversation is a candid exploration of the communal exodus from Brooklyn to the uncertainty of New Jersey, with a poignant pause to honor the resilience it takes to raise a handicapped child against the backdrop of personal recovery stories.As a vessel for change, the Sober Experience podcast offers not just narratives but tangible lifelines. Our episode is a testament to the transformation that's possible when one makes the leap from the clutches of alcoholism to the embrace of recovery. Joe and I delve into the profound influence of mentorship within Alcoholics Anonymous and the sweeping impact of community and selfless support. The heartfelt dialogue shared here is but a preview of the inspiration that awaits in our full conversation, promising to leave listeners with a renewed sense of hope and the reminder that, in recovery, we are never alone.

Embark on a soul-searching journey with me, Jay Luis, as I recount the enlightening evening my wife and I spent at a Jordan Peterson event. It was a night where the misunderstood narratives spun by Peterson were untangled, revealing a tapestry of wisdom applicable to our modern lives. The discussion takes a leap into the realms of success, sparked by musings on Dame Dash and Kanye West's perspectives, urging us to redefine victory in the broader context of our existence. The value of integrity, reputation, and community stands at the forefront of our next chapter, as I reflect on the real treasures of life. It's not the size of your bank account, but the depth of your relationships and the strength of your character that shapes your legacy. Through tales of personal growth and a touching story about my daughter, we explore the significance of choosing a path paved with moral principles and heartfelt connections, even when faced with life's hardest knocks.Wrapping up our session, we address the tough choices when dealing with family conflict. Should one seek retribution or strive for peace? I share the emotional tumult and the sage advice from my sponsor, coupled with the lessons my son taught me about choosing happiness. And as a bonus, there's an update on an intriguing speaking engagement at Perry Street, complete with a whimsical near-encounter with Sam Smith. Be sure to subscribe and follow along as we navigate the choices that lead to a more fulfilling life, together in the Sober Experience.

Today's episode unfolds with the raw and gripping tale of Jimmy, whose life in 1970s Brooklyn was overtaken by the throes of addiction. As an elevator operator entangled in the chaos of substance abuse, Jimmy's journey is a powerful testament to the human struggle and the crushing lows that come with addictive highs. Amidst his battle with guilt and shame, we're given a front-row seat to the brink of his transformation, offering a beacon of hope to anyone who's ever felt trapped in darkness.Venture with us into the heart of addiction within the nuclear family, where love and support prove to be vital lifelines in the quest for sobriety. We're moved by the courage it takes for one of our guests to reach out to his family in a moment of vulnerability, sparking an intervention that paves the way to residential treatment and ultimately, healing. Jimmy's story echoes the importance of brutal honesty and the lifeline that community support casts to those caught in addiction's riptide, while a brush with rock bottom becomes the catalyst for immense personal change.Reflecting on the path to recovery, he open up about confronting demons, guided by the wisdom of mentors like Frank and Tommy. We dissect the significance of self-honesty and how enduring life's harshest trials can forge unshakeable resilience. Each story shared is a patchwork of pain, triumph, and the invaluable insights gained when we emerge from life's most harrowing chapters, stronger and more determined than ever. Join us for an unflinching look at the realities of addiction and the profound journey towards redemption.

I'm packing my bags for Chattanooga, Tennessee, with a mix of nerves and excitement, ready to share not just my professional insights but also a slice of my life's journey. The impending speaking engagement is more than an honor; it's a stepping stone in a path marked by overcoming prejudices and earning respect in my field. As I prepare to address my peers, I also brace myself for a different kind of challenge—guiding my middle child through the traffic-laden labyrinth of New York City streets. My reflections on teaching and learning intertwine as I await my turn at the podium and behind the driver’s seat.Take a ride with me back to the days of teenage rebellion, where the roar of an engine and the thrill of the chase spelled freedom. I regale you with tales of my youth, from joyrides in my parents' car to the heart-thumping evasion of the police. Bringing my own stories of wild family dynamics and brushes with a life of crime, painting a vivid picture of the duality of the past. These confessions are laced with a sobering reminder of the consequences our actions bore and the transformation that paved the way to the present.As the episode draws to a close, I hold a mirror to the complexities of parenting and how the lessons of our youth shape our approach to guiding the next generation. I discuss my children's diverse paths, from academia to the responsibilities of driving, and the delicate balance of instilling values while granting independence. And as our conversation winds down, I share a sneak peek into the plans for our podcast, my intent to blend into the Chattanooga scene, and the gratitude I hold for life's simple joys and the peace found in sobriety. Join me in this candid exploration of growth, gratitude, and the twists and turns of the sober experience.

Have you ever felt like the odd one out in your own hometown? Our guest, Matt, a small-town Indiana native, knows this feeling all too well. Join us as he bares his soul about growing up where sports reigned supreme, and how video games and movies became his refuge. From theater to speech teams, Matt's creative pursuits were his saving grace—a way to articulate his voice in an environment that often seemed alien to him. His candid conversation illuminates the power of the arts to foster identity and offers a deep dive into the escapism that storytelling provided during his formative years.The road to self-acceptance can be fraught with detours, and Matt's journey was no exception. He paints a vivid picture of the transformation from an outsider to the life of the party, examining the allure and pitfalls of seeking affirmation through substance use and the social scene. His narrative doesn't shy away from the darker side of chasing acceptance, detailing missed opportunities and personal lows, including brushes with the law. Through his experiences, Matt offers a poignant perspective on the complexities of family and the Midwest's 'don't ask, don't tell' culture, revealing the emotional toll of longing for validation.Embark with us as Matt shares his inspiring transformation, which led him to the bustling landscape of New York City. His story doesn't end with his move; it's where the true battle begins. Facing addiction head-on, Matt discusses the profound impact of loss, the supportive friendships that helped him navigate his sobriety, and the liberating power of rediscovering his passions. Our conversation is a testament to resilience and the human capacity for change. As we wrap up our most extensive exchange to date, we invite you to join us in this journey of self-discovery, healing, and hope. Don't forget to connect with our community—your story might be the one that inspires someone else's next chapter.

Have you ever stood at the edge of a cliff, your heart pounding with the uncertainty of what lies ahead? Join me, Jay Luis, on the Sober Experience, as we harness the virtues of patience and hope to navigate the rocky terrain of recovery. Together, we'll confront the urgent cravings for immediate transformation and discover the serenity in letting life unravel thread by thread. In a narrative close to my heart, I recount an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting that illuminated the darkest corners with the light of hope, reminding us that our limitations are not barriers but stepping stones to personal growth.Then, we take a momentous leap of faith as we discuss surrendering to a higher power. In my journey through sobriety, I've found that entrusting our will and lives to the divine is not just transformative; it's revolutionary. As I share anecdotes from my own life, we'll reflect on how principles like love, tolerance, and humility can shape our day-to-day existence. It's about aligning with a greater presence, a nurturing force that guides us and connects us within the fellowship—a theme that resonates deeply with anyone who's ever sought something bigger than themselves.And for those with a zest for the enigmatic, Kat Williams insights from Joe Rogan's podcast that delve into the mysteries of ancient civilizations and the Anunnaki. Celebrating the allure of conspiracy theories and the hidden wisdom of early societies. Beyond the allure of these ancient secrets, Kat's perspective bolsters our belief in the power of love and unity as antidotes to the world's challenges. So, sit back, tune in, and let's untangle the threads of history and human connection, reveling in the 'good stuff' that life has to offer, even amidst the stark realities we face.

Have you ever stood at the edge of darkness and dared to step into the light? This episode of the Sober Experience welcomes the indomitable Sam from Syracuse, whose journey from the shadows of depression to the clarity of sobriety is nothing short of extraordinary. Her tale, a poignant reminder that resilience is not just a trait but a choice, unfolds before us. We follow her path from a sunless upbringing to the numbing embrace of alcohol, and through the arts, where she sought solace yet veered away from opera singing to explore varied creative expressions.As the conversation deepens, we navigate the early thrill of secret sips and the sobering reality of addiction's grip. Sam's candid sharing of her experiences—the stark contrast between outward joy and inner chaos, and her subsequent awakening to the hard-fought battles of recovery—is a testament to human strength. The narrative takes us through the heart-wrenching loss of an unexpected pregnancy, which compounds her struggles, placing her on the precipice of transformation. This is where the gravity of addiction meets the might of someone determined to reclaim their life.Join us in a chapter that culminates with the harmonious symphony of recovery, mentorship, and community support. Like a lighthouse in a tempestuous sea, Sam's renewed commitment to sobriety serves as a beacon for all navigating similar tribulations. Her embrace of a higher power and the profound impact of empathy and solidarity within the fellowship of recovery meetings remind us of the liberation that comes with letting go. Sam's story is not just one of overcoming, but of profound rebirth, a journey from constriction to the freedom of a life reclaimed.

Welcome back to the Sober Experience, where the tapestry of recovery is as diverse as the voices that weave it. This time, we're peeling back the layers of our own stories, including the heart-wrenching narratives of Angel and Jeseth, and reflect on the unpredictable yet rewarding journey to sobriety. Their stories remind us that the true course of adulthood is seldom straight; it's a winding path that matures with us, softened by the wisdom of our shared experiences. Join us for a candid discussion about the joys and challenges of maintaining respect and order within our support groups, and a personal farewell to my time at Keep it Fresh, where the pages of the big book turned with many revelations.The portrayal of recovery in the media can often be a distorted mirror, and we tackle this head-on with a critical look at how shows like Dexter can miss the mark. It's a conversation that's as necessary as it is overdue, questioning the ethics of sponsor-sponsee dynamics depicted on screen versus the boundaries we uphold in real life. Through the lens of personal anecdotes, including the delicate intricacies of sponsoring across gender lines, this episode is an unflinching look at how we must protect the integrity of our recovery spaces from misrepresentation.But recovery isn't all about the serious moments—there's room for exhilaration, too. Hear what it's like to test the boundaries of human endurance by plunging into the icy embrace of Lake Memphremagog  with the Coney Island Polar Bears. The chill of the water is nothing compared to the warmth of our team spirit, and you'll feel the adrenaline as we recount tales from the Memphremagog Ice Swimming Competition. Plus, join me in an emotional journey of nostalgia, inspired by a Bob Marley movie, which ties back to the essence of our community: connection, music, and the enduring significance of making a positive impact. Let's celebrate life's milestones together, from the extreme to the everyday, and remember the imprints we leave on each other's hearts.

Discover the powerful narratives of Jeseth and Angel, whose life stories exemplify the human spirit's resilience and the unwavering strength of love. From the bustling streets of New York City to the tranquil deserts of Arizona, their voices reveal the depth of personal trials, the sting of societal judgments, and the beauty of overcoming adversity together. Their candid openness offers an intimate look into a partnership that's withstood the test of time, cemented through shared challenges and collective triumphs.Embark on an emotional odyssey that traverses the complexities of early cohabitation, wrongful accusations, and a shared passion that turns the tide. Through miscarriages and stillbirth, Jeseth and Angel teach us the value of community and the profound connections formed through shared pain. Their story evolves to celebrate new life amid loss, as they navigate the delicate balance of honoring past pain while welcoming new joys, all against the backdrop of a global pandemic.Join us and be moved by the journey of this remarkable couple, whose lives have been marked by unexpected turns and who have managed to carve out moments of pure joy. From the birth of their daughters Sophie and Soni Love, Jeseth and Angel's story serves as a testament to the miracles that can emerge from the darkest struggles. Their tale is not just one of endurance, but of the boundless capacity for hope, love, and the miraculous beginnings that life can offer.

The echoes of old-school hip-hop beats and the crunch of football cleats on junior high turf set the stage for a narrative that's both a reflection on the past and a guide for life's unpredictable journey. I reminisce about the lessons learned from early days on the field, where the structure of play taught me about the chaos and beauty of life. We'll also unpack the songwriting genius of Taylor Swift, contrasting her emotional narratives with the broader landscape of pop culture. Anticipation bubbles for the heartfelt story from my cousin Angel and his wife Jess, whose struggle with the path to parenthood reminds us all about the power of faith and acceptance.Venturing into the delicate dance of relationships, I take you behind the curtain of personal moments where trust and communication took center stage. From parenting mishaps like a broken closet door to the intricate dynamics of family dialogue, we explore how immediate sharing and understanding perspectives are pivotal in nurturing connections. It's about more than just words; it's about the art of forgiveness and the balance between impulse and empathy. The candid nature of these stories demonstrates how vulnerability can pave the way for stronger bonds and personal growth.Finally, I lay bare the emotional odyssey of forgiveness, sharing the tumultuous but liberating journey of making amends. As we navigate through the 9th step of a 12-step recovery program, the raw reality of confronting past wrongs unveils the profound impact of genuine remorse. And for those creative souls out there, I'll share the sting of missed artistic opportunities and the drive to realize projects like 'The Sober Experience', proving that even in a world of seemingly endless originality, there's always room for your unique contribution. Join us for an episode that promises to stir the soul and inspire the mind, as we traverse the path of forgiveness and creative fulfillment.

Ely’s journey from the vibrant streets of Atlantic City to the stark reality of addiction provides a compelling narrative that we unravel in our latest episode. Growing up as an outlier who sought refuge in his creative passions, Ely’s childhood set a distinct backdrop to his life story. We hear about his family's history, his exploration of music and writing, and the way these threads wove through the tapestry of his life, leading him to the crossroads of adulthood without the guiding hand of alcohol.As Eli steps into the professional world, a stark contrast emerges between his previous creative pursuits and the new environment where alcohol becomes a normalized aspect of socializing and networking. The gradual realization of his struggle with addiction, set against the backdrop of generational trauma and high expectations, is laid bare. This candid conversation not only peels back the layers on Ely’s personal descent into alcoholism but also casts light on the broader societal issues surrounding substance abuse, professional pressures, and the cultural complexities that entwine our daily lives.Navigating through the chaos of the pandemic further amplified Ely’s challenges, revealing the darker sides of remote work and stress management. Yet, it's within the vulnerability of such struggles that hope glimmers. Ely shares his path to recovery, the profound impact of a year of sobriety, and the strength he discovered in a supportive community. This episode isn't just about one man's fight against addiction; it's a resonant reminder of the power of change, empathy, and the incredible courage it takes to parent through personal transformation. Join us for a story of accountability, redemption, and the enduring strength of the human spirit.

Have you ever caught your reflection in the mirror and realized the face staring back bore the mark of spiritual ego? As we sift through past missteps, I examine the humbling lessons learned when mistaking ego for enlightenment and the delicate dance of respecting others' beliefs, especially within the heated pro-life versus pro-choice debate among loved ones. This leg of the journey through spirituality highlights the essence of true wisdom—allowing others their own space to grow, while I reflect on my own past self mirrored in the actions of a friend deeply entrenched in social activism.Parenthood and threading the needle of a decade-long marriage have schooled me in arts I never knew I'd need to study: patience, flexibility, and the subtle power of example. And let's not forget the unique trials of step-parenting—a path that's taught me more about myself than any self-help book could. In sharing my personal anecdotes, from the frustration over a damaged leather couch to the ongoing process of building bridges with my stepchildren, I extend an invitation for you to join me in considering how we all can foster deeper authenticity and peace in our family lives.

As I stepped back into the studio after some time away, the microphone felt like an old friend, ready to catch up on the highs and lows of a life transformed by sobriety. The Sober Experience is more than just a podcast; it's a deep dive into the essence of personal growth, and this episode is no exception. We'll wander through the landscapes of mental and physical health, exploring the challenging but rewarding terrain of dietary discipline, the rejuvenating power of electrolytes, and the crisp clarity that comes from cutting through life's external noise. I'll also share how the beats of Pete Rock provided a soundtrack to my journey, and how friends and family have weathered their own storms of transformation alongside me.Navigating the choppy waters of lifestyle changes involves more than just a steady hand on the tiller. It requires an unwavering commitment to self-improvement, even when the horizon seems distant. This episode peels back the layers of our daily struggles, from the psychological warfare waged against our self-perception in the social media battleground to the more tangible battles of diet and body image. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, I'll illustrate how making peace with oneself is as crucial as any diet or workout routine. And in the spirit of transparency, we address the recent cultural shift towards remote firings, examining how these emotionally charged events shape the corporate landscape and the individuals within it.As the curtains close on this chapter of The Sober Experience, I leave you with a glimpse into what lies ahead. We're not just turning a new leaf; we're writing a whole new book. The rebranding of our podcast marks the beginning of an era where we'll continue to push boundaries, share inspiring stories, and explore the resilience beneath the surface of every human spirit. So, whether you're a newcomer or a long-time listener, join us on this unwavering journey toward authentic self-improvement, where each step forward is a step towards the truest version of ourselves.

As the New Year's fireworks faded into the quiet of January, I laced up my running shoes, each step a defiance of the self-doubt that had once held me back.  Remembering when my friend Liam, with his marathon medals clinking like warrior's armor, became my guide on a journey to conquer a 10K race. Our latest episode is a testament to the transformative power of setting goals, whether they're marked by the pounding of feet on the pavement or the silent, steadfast progression of a calendar page.Navigating the currents of financial stability requires more than just a life vest; it demands a compass and the wisdom to chart a course. This episode is a candid recount of my ventures into the world of business, property, and investments. It's about more than dollars and cents; it's a narrative of humble pie meetings with accountants and the intertwining paths of heartbreak and bank statements. Each anecdote is a stone in the foundation of a plan for financial growth, shared to inspire you to take the helm in your economic voyage.We wrap up our session by embracing the spirit of challenge, from the intellectual rush of a reading competition to the physical demands of Muay Thai. These stories are not just about triumph; they're about the relentless pursuit of potential, the embrace of spirituality and meditation, and the power of a supportive partner in life's endeavors. As we bid each other a Happy New Year, we do so with an invitation to join us again, as we continue to navigate the waters of life with divine guidance and determination.

As I reminisce on an old school beat that still resonates with me, I can't help but reflect on the way life throws curveballs and how we swing to hit them out of the park. This episode is a candid walk through my thoughts on everything from staying prepared for life's little surprises, like vehicle repairs, to the constant drive to outdo oneself. Amidst the rhythm of change, I share how my youngest nearing adulthood opens up new chapters for personal growth, and the transition from raising a child in a pre-digital era to navigating the complexities of social media marketing for business growth.Then, we shift gears to explore the deeper currents of life, from the anticipated societal shifts we're heading towards, to the anchoring power of simplicity and community. I unravel stories of kindness received and given, and the profound joy that stems from love and relationships, with a special nod to my wife's transformative influence. It's not about the material gains; it's about the present moment and the intangible treasures we hold. Join me as we look toward the horizon, teasing exciting collaborations and reminding everyone that the future holds endless possibilities, as long as we continue to foster kindness and embrace the journey of self-improvement.

Think back to your rambunctious teenage years, the wild freedom, and the life-defining music of the early 90s. I'm taking you on a trip down memory lane, back to the jubilant winters of my youth, exploring the music, the mischief, and the memorable moments that defined my adolescence. From the snow-filled adventures to the 'weed spot' to hanging out with the older kids and getting into all sorts of trouble.But what happens when the music stops and the consequences of our reckless behavior catch up with us? I'll share my 20-year sobriety journey, the struggles, the victories, and how I found solace in a higher power. Hear my personal insights from AA meetings, the desperate search for spirituality, the battles between self-care and helping others, and most importantly, the transformative potency of the 12-step program. It's raw, it's real, and it's a testament to the power of personal growth and recovery.Finally, let's lighten the mood with a hilarious tale featuring none other than Father Christmas himself. An unexpected phone call, a warning about the naughty list, and a reminder to always find humor in the little moments. So, join me for an unforgettable episode filled with nostalgia, reflection, laughter, and growth. Don't forget to show us some love by liking, subscribing, and sharing. Let's journey together.

Get ready for a roller-coaster ride of introspection as we take you along on our journey of self-discovery — a tale of highs and lows, of growth and lessons learned. We've been through the discomfort of applying our own advice, and the shock of realizing our assumptions about others are based on our own experiences, not their reality. And, as we recount a sticky landlord-tenant situation, you’ll get a glimpse of how we've learned to handle tricky situations with grace and gratitude. Our experience of anger and resentment, and the victim mentality that once prevailed, took us down a road of self-doubt and strained relationships. Let's walk you through real stories involving stressing the importance of not being tied down by materialistic gains or external influences. We've dealt with demanding customers, set boundaries, and stuck to our principles, even when it meant giving up on immediate satisfaction. We’re thrilled to share our ongoing journey from fear to gratitude, from being controlled by situations to maintaining discipline amidst chaos. Our narrative of personal growth, entwined with stories of dealing with anger, setting boundaries and overcoming the fear of economic insecurity, is filled with raw emotions and hard-earned wisdom. Our hope is that our experiences will inspire you on your path of personal growth and self-awareness. Don’t forget to hit like and subscribe if you find our conversations valuable.

Holidays can be a sensitive time, especially for those on the recovery journey. As we gear up for this festive season, we want to share our experiences and strategies for managing family dynamics and sober celebrations. We've found that being mindful of potential triggers and embracing smaller, more intimate gatherings has significantly transformed our family holidays. Personal growth is another theme we explore in this episode. We've discovered that holding onto anger and resentments can be a major roadblock in our relationships and overall well-being. From our experience, forgiveness and empathy can be very powerful tools for healing. We also delve into sexual relationships, discussing the impact of sexual rejection and the importance of healthy communication. We share our personal experiences with these issues and how we've navigated them.In this episode, we also reflect on how fear and faith have shaped our lives. We've found that leaning on a higher power and living by certain values can bring about a sense of peace and serenity. As we wrap up, we express our deep gratitude to our growing listener base across various platforms. We believe in the power of self-reflection, action, and understanding in all aspects of life, and we hope that this episode provides you with some valuable insights for your own journey. Tune in, and let's explore these themes together.