What happens when you got everything you ever wanted but it doesn't feel the way you thought it would? Or when it actually feels horrible? This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Amanda Curry, Somatic Inner Child Coach for Moms. Curry shares her journey of building the American dream just to realize she had built her life using blueprints her parents & society had designed. Who knew motherhood could be so triggering?? The answer for her to get her life back on track: surrendering. Surrendering to not having all the answers, to loving the messiest version of herself, and to healing her inner child so that she could finally become complete. The Amandas also talk about what to do if your male partner isn't on board for a decision you want to make for yourself, how conflicting gender messages as a kid still affect you today, and how to have deeper conversations with your male partner. To connect more with Amanda Curry, somatic inner child coach for moms, click here. To connect more with Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, click here. Mentioned in this episode: Rose Oracle deck by Rebecca CampbellTrevor Noah's episode on platonic relationships Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 11:02 I'm the problem, it's me 13:28 Motherhood is triggering & postpartum is hell 17:24 Loving the messiest version of yourself 20:53 Is this a cult? 25:33 Growing up with conflicting gender messages 28:56 When your partner doesn't support you -- you get to go first 34:41 How to have deeper conversations with your male partner 46:20 Applying inner child work to your children now 52:13 Lightening Q's

Did you ever struggle with the thought, 'I'm too damaged to be a mom'? Do you still live in fear that the hurt you went through before you became a mom is going to find it's way to your kids? This week host Amanda Haro is joined by Emily Cleghorn, who is a trauma recovery coach for moms. Emily shares her personal story of healing herself as an adult after childhood trauma. She's raw and honest about how becoming a mom triggered her in ways she never expected and the deep work she had to do to finally free herself from the bonds of her hurt. ⁠To connect more with Emily click here.⁠ ⁠To connect more with Amanda click here.⁠ ⁠Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter here.⁠ ⁠Ready to be the leading lady in your own life? Schedule your free 1 hour consult with Amanda here⁠. Mentioned in this episode: ⁠Taylor Eaton / Wealth Vibe membership.⁠ 00:00 Intro; Intentional happiness, wealth consciousness, how to be abundant now; introducing guest, Emily Cleghorn 11:34 Unpacking childhood trauma 19:51 Nervous system regulation & reconnecting with your body 22:58 Motherhood can be triggering 28:45 My inner child gets jealous of my kids sometimes 35:33 How stored trauma is connected to infertility 40:28 Traumatic birth stories 45:36 Sitting in the hard while you heal 50:49 PTSD and motherhood 53:23 No complaining rule 54:43 Lightening questions

Mother's Day can be a mixed bag of emotions & expectations, right? The media paints it as this carefree day where moms are pampered and appreciated, but the reality is...we still have to be moms. The baby still has blow out diapers, the older kids still fight, and your partner still can't read your mind. But Mother's Day isn't the only time moms get disappointed by the reality of something they had fantasied was going to be so much fun: We dream up the BEST family vacation, but the reality is our family stress follows us to our destinationWe long for a family movie night until we're 30 minutes into everyone fighting over what we're watching and the teenager gives up and watches Netflix on her phone in her roomWe look forward to the weekend to reconnect with our busy teens just to sit at home alone because they went to their friend's house In this episode, host Amanda Haro explains: How to let go of expectations so moms can enjoy authentic family momentsHow to allow your kids to be themselves & how to give them space to explore their friendships/chosen family & why this is crucial for their growth and developmentHow to embrace change & let go of resistance in order to cultivate acceptance and happiness Mentioned in this episode: FIM 17: I don't want f*cking jewelry for Mother's DayFIM 44: This is not a problem"A Happy Pocket Full of Money" audio book Give the algorithm the finger. Sign up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter so you never miss your weekly F*ck It joy. Ready to be the main character in your own life? Sign up for your free 1 hour consultation here. You have nothing to lose and YOURSELF to gain. 0:00 Intro 1:00 Mother's Day & TTPD 13:36:04 Doing vs trying & increasing your wealth consciousness 18:46:04 Expectations vs reality of family time 20:52:20 My teen is always at their friends house 26:52:07 "But mom that sounds boring" / being ok with yourself 30:03:17 Letting kids be themselves 33:08:15 How to be ok with change

This week host Amanda Haro is joined by womb healer Carolina Sotomayor from the Make a Baby podcast. Carolina shares her journey of navigating the loss of her father a month before her wedding, infertility, a turbulent relationship with her mother, and how she found healing for all of it through the ancient Japanese practice of reiki. She has since helped almost 100 women successfully treat their infertility with reiki. Carolina's story is a true testament to not only this ancient healing practice but also to the power we all have inside of us to heal even the deepest wounds and to be the generational curse breaker of our families. 0:00 Intro 14:00 Taylor Swift, Eras Tour, Human Design 26:30:18 Carolina's story; physical abuse as a child; grief journey 28:42:16 Spirituality, religion, and learning how to become a medium 33:13:04 Infertility journey and conceiving after reiki 39:35:06 Postpartum depression and anxiety 45:06:00 Spirit babies, world religions, Mary Magdalene Manuscripts 50:35:00 Grief, anger, and getting Godsmacked 57:07:22 Sexual assault, abortion, and having a baby later 60:27:11 Healing relationship with abusive parent in adulthood 1:16:31:13 Lightening questions Mentioned in this episode: A Happy Pocket Full of Money by David Cameron Gikandi audiobook Taylor Eaton, money mindset & manifestation tarot reader Make a Baby Podcast Connect more with Carolina here Connect more with Amanda here

Welcome to the first of a new series on the F*ck It Mothering podcast: F*ck It Friday! The first Friday of every month there will be a bonus episode where host Amanda Haro is joined by recurring co-hosts Amanda De La Madriz from That Mom Life Coaching & Samantha Trujillo from Veteran Mama's Coaching to say F*CK IT to something in motherhood. This month we said f*ck it to: 2:34:11 Potty Training (because it sucks)8:00:00 Our kids always getting sick12:30:00 Kids fighting showers16:19:19 Kids being psychos in the car19:17:00 Other people's kids (because they're annoying)25:15:04 Being the mom you think you "should" be (it's ok if you hate being the class mom)30:23:07 Feral kids at lunchtime37:20:18 The after school meltdown42:38:21 The struggles of raising independent little women45:12:02 Mom overwhelm Connect more with Amanda Haro here. Connect more with Amanda De La Madriz here.

This week's episode is for all the dance moms, both new and seasoned! Host Amanda Haro shares how she survived a 4 day comp with multiple dancers. She covers: Dance mom hacks to help with quick changesThe best costume bag (not sponsored; this is an honest opinion)Sneaking snacks into convention centers & keeping everything accessible and organized once you're thereHow to prepare yourself for a dance compThe importance of making friends with your fellow dance moms. The kids are a team and so are the moms! Connect more with Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here. Email: fckitmothering@gmail.com LinkedIn Instagram Facebook 00:00 Intro 7:11:20 Book Recommendations, Tom Lake and This Spells Love 12:25:18 Taylor Swift & The Tortured Poet's Department 13:59:09 It's ok to panic about the comp schedule 16:08:23 How to make a plan so you don't die 20:03:12 The reality of comp days 22:22:14 You have to learn how to manage your own stress 23:54:15 My fuck up from this comp / Learn from every comp 27:22:21 How to stay organized with multiple dancers on different teams 37:22:11 The boredom factor 39:26:12 How to make a plan for quick changes 42:46:20 How to take care of yourself

This week, host Amanda Haro is joined by one of her first clients, Megan.  Megan shares her inspiring story of being mis-diagnosed with non epileptic seizures for four years. The doctors told her that the seizures were caused by stress, but they were actually triggered by any intense emotion (ever laughed so hard you seized?).  Megan was having multiple seizures a day when she started working with Amanda and after 3 months of coaching together, she got them down to once a few weeks and sometimes even once a few months!  She has since been properly diagnosed with narcolepsy type 1 and has medicine to help control the seizures, but coaching was what got her through it.  And the coaching tools she learned has helped her to permanently reduce her stress as she navigates being an entrepreneur and mom of two. Since learning how to take care of herself and prioritize herself, she has become a more patient mom. Connect more with Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here.

This week host Amanda Haro interviews healing energy coach Natalie Bedard about how meditation helped her navigate a death scare (which she received no diagnosis for) as a single mom of twin boys who were 4 years old at the time. Chapters: 13:35 Coming out of the narration of perfection16:32 Death scare, no diagnosis, how the medical system is failing us28:00 Keeping stress low using meditation as a single mom of twin boys30:35 Nat Nat guides Amanda through a live meditation34:04 Therapy vs meditation / Women are socialized to take care of everyone else’s emotional needs but not their own / Befriending anger37:40 Parenting is messy / “Not good enough” messaging moms receive43:00 Taking radical responsibility for our emotions43:42 Grief & our relationship with death45:40 Learning how to meditate in the chaos of single motherhood with twin boys; “I am not my nervous system”1:00:36 Understanding your emotional triggers, your nervous system, and doing the work so you can be the generational curse breaker1:03:50 No one right way to do it & the true definition of empowerment1:06:24 Navigating mom guilt1:12:18 Finding the joy without toxic positivity1:18:41 Lightning questions

This week, host Amanda Haro shares a simple yet effective tool to immediately begin relieving everyday mom stress by thinking a specific thought on purpose: "This is not a problem". Your toddler is horizontal in aisle A5 of Target because you said 'no' to buying the bottle of Tums they were using as a rattle? This is not a problem. Your teenager grew an attitude the size of Texas overnight? This is not a problem. Your kids can't get through a 10 minute car ride without being psychos? This is not a problem. We create suffering for ourselves when we resist our reality. And so by learning to accept what is, we immediately relieve ourselves of stress. "Ummmmkay, great, Amanda, but all of those things actually are problems. They like really suck and make me stressed." Yes, all these things suck. But they aren't actually problems. A toddler emoting loudly in public is just what toddlers do. Teenagers are assholes; it's just what they do. Siblings fight all.the.time. Especially in the car. Again--it's just what they do. And the problem with thinking of all these everyday things as problems is that our brain then tries to "fix" it. Which doesn't work, because what we're really doing is resisting reality. And so we end up in a hellish cycle of our kids being themselves, us trying to "fix" them, it not working, and us crying in frustration into our wine at night. But this is a hellish cycle of our own making. Tune in to this week's episode to learn how to break out of the shitty cycle for good. Connect more with Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here. To dive deeper into this thought work tool in action, also check out FIM 9: When Your Kids Give You the Finger

Have you scoured the internet in search of *the* parenting hack that will solve the problem of your kids tantrums / pissy attitude / picky eating? Have you implemented all that advice just to wind up still stressed / anxious / overwhelmed? If you’ve been a part of the F*ck It Mothering community for awhile, you’ll notice a major difference between host Amanda Haro and “parenting experts” is that she does not give out parenting advice. And she doesn’t give parenting advice because it’s not going to work. At least, in the sense of reducing your stress.Because taking a new action does not affect our feelings. Our thoughts create our feelings. The reason none of the parenting advice out there hasn’t worked for you is not because you suck and your kids are awful. It’s just because no one is teaching you how to tackle the real problem: changing your thoughts. Connect more with Amanda, life coach for moms, here. The Lo Life Podcast F*ck It Mothering Depression Episode

As moms it is all too easy to get caught up in all the little details of our individual days. There is so much on a mom's plate that it demands all of our attention. But in the midst of all the diapers, playdates, school field trips, extracurriculars, and screen time limits is our singular precious life. And if we aren't intentional about zooming our perspective out to see the big picture, we wind up with an overflowing bucket of regret to contemplate on our death beds. Join life coach and mom of four, Amanda Haro, as she revisits a F*ck It Mothering Greatest Hit, "Standing Room Only Funeral". We'll talk about how to keep our brains focused on what truly matters in life and how to live with intention so moms can leave their kids with a beautiful legacy of a life well lived. Connect more with Amanda here.

Topics covered in this episode by Amanda Haro, life coach for moms: Traveling with 4 kids as a single mom without being overwhelmed with stressSpring break family vacation in CaliforniaDisneyland & California Adventure tipsBelieving in yourselfSeeing and trusting the power of your story Leave a review for this episode in Apple Podcasts & get entered to the F*ck It Mothering monthly book & Starbucks gift card raffle! Connect more with Amanda here.

This week, Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence coach for moms, discusses how to not feel guilty asking for help. You'll learn: Why you feel guilty asking other people for help, especially from the lens of being a woman, and more specifically, being a momHow stay at home moms can stop feeling guilty asking their partners for help with the kidsThe difference between guilt and shame, and how to tell which you are feelingHow to embrace community in motherhood and life Reclaim your power over the content you consume by signing up for the F*ck It Mothering newsletter here. Connect with Amanda here.

Topics covered this week by Amanda Haro, burnout & confidence life coach for moms: Deep dive review of Cesca Major's book, Maybe Next TimeNetflix's TV series HeartstopperHow to get through a depressive spell without the shame thoughtsHow to trust the healing process and depression's role in thatHow to turn off a perfectionist brain focused on productivityUnf*ck Your Brain's Clean vs Dirty Pain episode Connect with Amanda on Instagram, Facebook, & LinkedIn

Topics covered this week with host, Amanda Haro, life coach for moms: Book recommendations from money mindset to BOPO to the best Harry Potter to the best romances (both heterosexual & LGBTQIA+) Dating yourself How to take care of yourself when being a single mom is hard Backstage stories from a dance mom How Walt Disney’s story is the kick in the pants inspiration every entrepreneur / solopreneur / creative needs to stoke their fire Bed rotting: how to take a day off without the shame monster taking over Check out The Lo Life Podcast here What did you think of this episode? I’d love to know in the review section! And when you leave a review you'll be entered into my monthly book & Starbucks gift card giveaway. Ready to kick mom guilt for good? Schedule your free 1 hour consult today so you can learn how to create that “me time” you never seem to get around to.

With Christmas only 4 days away, it is more important for moms now more than ever to prioritize their self care. The social norm is for women to burn at both ends for the sake of creating Christmas magic for their kids. But just like it would make no sense to drive your car on fumes, it makes no sense to drive yourself on an empty emotional tank. Join Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, as she explains why self care during the holidays is so important for moms & how they can create the time to do it. Do you only know how to survive motherhood by overscheduling yourself, never getting enough sleep, & never having any ‘me time’? Schedule your free 1 hour consult where I can explain the simple steps you need to take so you can feel like a whole ass person & THRIVE instead of just survive: https://calendly.com/fckitmothering/momselfish

This week Amanda shares her story of going from a shy introvert who was too scared to take risks and go for what she wanted in life to being a confident woman who is unapologetically herself. And when she stepped into her full confidence, it made her a more present mom. Are you living your one wild life to the fullest? Schedule your free 1 hour consultation so you can find out exactly how you got to this point & the exact steps you need to take to live your dream life. You have nothing to lose and yourself to gain.

Sometimes the most wonderful time of the year can come with really painful emotions when we've lost loved ones. How do you get through the holidays when a loved one passed around Christmas? How can you keep from numbing out & shutting down? How can you still enjoy all the holiday traditions you love when all of it reminds you of what you've lost? This week, Amanda offers insights on how to navigate the holidays when you're grieving, so that you can embrace the joy of the season while also holding space for the sadness of missing those who aren't with us anymore. To learn more about Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, click here.

Do you find yourself snapping at your kids all the time? Do you hate it and want to stop but also can't seem to figure out how to stop snapping at your kids all the time? This week, Amanda shares the reasons why moms end up snapping at their kids all the time and also gives specific tips for how to stop. We all talk about mom guilt as if it's about feeling guilty about one thing, but in reality, mom guilt comes from a multitude of sources. Snapping at the kids is definitely one of those mom guilt sources, so we are crossing that off the list starting today! To connect with Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, click here.

As the holiday season approaches, moms need to be intentional in self care more than ever to avoid Christmas burnout. Traditions and family gatherings can be beautiful and fulfilling, but they can also be draining & stressful if we aren't being honest with what we have the capacity for this year. In this episode, Amanda teaches moms how to evaluate their emotional capacity, how to set boundaries to honor it, & how to get rid of mom guilt when you just can't do all the things. Learn more about Amanda, burnout & confidence coach for moms, here.