Half of marriages these days end in divorce, but did you know that 73% of divorces are initiated by women? In today’s episode we’re joined by Paulette Rigo, a credentialed private mediator and certified divorce coach, whose mission is to help couples avoid court and navigate their divorces more amicably.  Paulette endured a grueling divorce litigation process that spanned nearly 10 years. Now, she is determined to use the insights from her experience to ensure no one else gets trapped in a similar situation.Join us as Erin and Paulette take an honest and hard look at the evolving landscape of marriage and divorce for women in midlife, offering a compassionate and comprehensive guide to navigating divorce. We discuss:Why women are initiating the majority of divorces and no longer see marriage as a prerequisite.Insights from Paulette’s personal journey from marrying young to enduring an extensive legal battle during her divorce.The importance of mediation to resolve divorces more peacefully and cost-effectively, and why most divorces can be settled through alternative dispute resolution methods.The 21 reasons couples divorce and how to determine whether divorce is right for you or if the issues you’re facing in your marriage are something you can work on.How to avoid involving your children in marital conflicts and maintain a stable and loving environment through divorce.The importance of understanding marriage laws in your state, as they significantly impact the divorce process.OUR GUEST: Paulette Rigo is a Credentialed Mediator, Certified Divorce Coach, High Conflict Specialist, Trauma-Informed Recovery Coach, Career Transition Specialist, Book Writing Coach, Speaker, Host and Author. Her best selling release “Better Divorce Blueprint” the Book and Workbook, No Matter What card deck, Thriving in Chaos Project Podcast, All Things Divorce on Clubhouse, Best Life Ever Private Island Retreats and Better Divorce Academy are tools she created and utilizes to help her clients create an optimal divorce experience even with high-conflict personalities and build the new chapter they deserve and desire.Want more Paulette? Find her online at https://betterdivorceacademy.com/ and listen to her Better Divorce podcast. Follow her on:Instagram: @paulettegloriarigo Facebook: @paulettegloriarigo Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  We’d love to...

“Thank God for representations of real sex on screen.”A 40-year-old woman and an unbelievably hot 24-year-old man get together for an unexpected, steamy romance? Sign us up! It’s no wonder why everyone has been asking Erin what she thinks of the new movie “The Idea of You”, released earlier this year. In this episode, Erin breaks down the film and shares her thoughts on why this story, and the representation of romance between an older woman and a younger man, matters in today’s cultural landscape.Join us as we explore the emotional truths the film reveals about love, vulnerability, and the enduring allure of a good love story. We discuss:The importance of stories featuring older women finding love and happiness in our mediaThe realness and magic the film portrays of letting your heart lead you, despite its ‘Hollywood-ized’ nature.Why romcoms and romance are still important in today’s culture–they remind us of what’s possible in our own livesWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts! If you’re enjoying Hotter Than Ever, consider supporting us! It’s as simple as buying us a coffee!

It’s no secret that many women don’t enjoy having sex. But the problem isn’t the women: it’s the sex we’re shown in the media and porn, which is dominated by patriarchal ideas and largely ignores women's pleasure. Amidst this dearth of sexual satisfaction for women emerges Susan Bratton, an intimacy expert and advocate for lifelong intimacy and passion. Susan has helped countless clients and readers of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion, proving that we can all embody being Hotter Than Ever.In today’s episode, Susan shares her valuable insights on transforming sexual experiences, maintaining sexual health and enjoyment as we age, embracing authenticity in intimate relationships, and more. We discuss:The importance of enjoying pleasure and sexuality throughout life and normalizing the sexuality of older womenTips and techniques for transforming sex into heart-connected conscious lovemakingAddressing cultural myths that prioritize male pleasure, and encouraging men to understand and fulfill their partner’s needs for a mutually satisfying experiencePractical advice on reversing sexual atrophy and maintaining sexual health and vitality into older ageHow estrogen impacts body image and the need for more diverse and realistic representations of pleasure in mediaThe benefits of unconventional relationship structures and polyamory to fulfill different needsHow women and men can support each other in fulfilling our sexual desiresOUR GUEST: Susan Bratton, known as the "trusted intimacy wellness expert to millions,” is the co-founder and CEO of two companies in the intimate wellness space and an author and publisher of 44 books. She manufactures supplements and publishes online courses on lifelong relationship health. Her expertise includes ageless sexuality, sexual biohacking, libido supplementation, and sexual regenerative therapies. A sought-after speaker, Susan has appeared on numerous podcasts, radio shows, and TV segments worldwide, including CBS, The CW, and NBC.Want more Susan? Find her and her work online at: https://susanbratton.com/ The20, LLCThe Sexual Soulmate PactRelationship Magic Follow her on:Instagram: @susanbratton LinkedIn: @susanbrattonYouTube: Susan Bratton - BetterLover  Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube:

“I am willing to take on the uncomfortable feelings that it takes to be vulnerable. Are you?”When you’ve been raised as a fiercely independent Gen X-er and have been hurt by men in relationships (who hasn’t?), everything tells you not to be vulnerable. But in reflecting on her personal journey post-divorce, Erin shares how her efforts to become more emotionally open have transformed her relationships. In this episode, Erin is renewing her commitment to break free from old patterns and embrace vulnerability, even if it means facing discomfort and potential heartbreak.Whether you’ve had your heart broken or have built up emotional defenses over the years, this episode is a reminder that vulnerability is not a weakness but a strength. Join us as we discuss:The importance of being emotionally open and how it can deepen friendships and relationshipsHow being raised to be independent and past romantic betrayals shaped a reluctance to be vulnerableThe ways in which fear of vulnerability manifests and how to break these patterns through practiceWhy taking risks with your heart is essential for growth and fulfillmentWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts! If you’re enjoying Hotter Than Ever, consider supporting us! It’s as simple as buying us a coffee!

“You're worthy of the life that you can envision for yourself.” When Jen Marples found herself unable to muster the energy to get out of bed, it was a stark wake-up call. A true go-getter, she had carved out a stellar career in marketing and PR, even launching her own thriving business, all while married with three children. Yet, amidst all of the success and achievements, she realized she had neglected one crucial thing: herself.From this moment of realization, Jen embarked on a journey of transformation, emerging as a beacon of empowerment for women navigating midlife. As an entrepreneur, speaker, and host of the Jen Marples Show, she champions the notion that age is never a barrier to pursuing one's dreams.In this episode, Erin and Jen delve into the nuances of midlife reinvention. From navigating career transitions to balancing work and family, Jen shares insights on reclaiming identity and rediscovering purpose in this next chapter for women. Here's what's on the agenda:Reframing midlife as a beginning, not an ending, for new careers and personal growthWhy attaching meaning to work and prioritizing happiness are crucial for thriving in midlifeRecognizing the signs of burnout, seeking help when needed, and reprioritizing your own well-being Cultivating a culture of mutual support among women and amplifying each others’ voices to create collective empowermentMidlife pivots and the importance of taking time for yourself to get clear on your next moveSetting boundaries and communicating your needs in relationships as a form of self-care in midlifeOUR GUEST: Jen is a champion of midlife women and a cheerleader for ALL women. She’s an entrepreneur, keynote speaker, podcaster, and leader in the midlife women’s empowerment movement. She puts midlife women first and preaches: You’re Not Too F***ing Old! to Step Into the Midlife Spotlight! Jen runs the Jen Marples Agency, a full-service marketing communications with one goal: to help women Step Into the Spotlight to get seen, heard, paid, and make an impact. Jen also hosts The Jen Marples Show, a top 2% globally ranked podcast, dedicated to empowering midlife women so they can power the world! She’s been helping women for decades achieve life and career success and is a frequent speaker nationwide. Want more Jen? Find her online at www.jenmarples.com and listen to The Jen Marples show HERE or wherever you get your podcasts. Follow her on:Instagram: @jenmarples | @thejenmarplesshow TikTok: @jenmarples  Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube:

“My health, my well being was the catalyst for all of the radical reinvention that I am talking about here on this podcast.” What is your relationship like with your body? Feeling disconnected from our bodies is a common experience, and in today's digital age, it's often exacerbated by the constant barrage of fitness fads and wellness trends flooding our feeds. But as we navigate midlife, ignoring our bodies becomes less of an option. In this episode, Erin dives deep into her own journey of body rediscovery at 52.From childhood struggles with weight to a disconnected relationship with her physical self in adulthood, Erin shares the pivotal moments that sparked her radical reinvention. Join us as we explore the tough questions about body image, self-care, and well-being, and uncover actionable steps to embrace a freer, happier, healthier life. We discuss:The ties between body image struggles and feeling detached from our physical selvesThe empowering role of sexuality and embracing physical activities in fostering a renewed connection with our bodiesThe importance of proactive health measures, from routine check-ups to medical interventions, in prioritizing our well-beingEmbracing cosmetic procedures (if it feels right for you) as a part of self-careWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts! If you’re enjoying Hotter Than Ever, consider supporting us! It’s as simple as buying us a coffee!

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship with a narcissist? Or maybe you were raised by one? Whatever the relationship might be, there’s a chance that it’s left a neurological impact on that is going untreated. In today’s episode, we’re joined by Michelle Roberts, investigative journalist turned psychotherapist, who specializes in narcissism. Michelle’s work helps to unravel the mysteries behind why some women are attracted to narcissists, the toll it takes on our emotional well-being, and most importantly, the path to healing.Join Erin and Michelle as they provide a roadmap for navigating the complexities of relational trauma and actionable ways to treat it so that we can live our best lives. We discuss:Defining narcissism and the different ways in which it manifests on a spectrumHow the “mask of normalcy” often shrouds narcissists until it’s too lateThe strong correlation between childhood trauma and attraction to narcissistic partnersUnderstanding Complex PTSD (CPTSD) from relational trauma and its symptomsExploring trauma responses through the lens of the four Fs: Fight, flight, freeze, and fawnTreating trauma through attachment-focused EMDR and psilocybin therapyOUR GUEST: Michelle Roberts, journalist, psychotherapist, and professor, specializes in helping women understand the impact of past trauma on their present relationships. With over 25 years of experience, she is a leading expert in relational trauma and narcissistic abuse. Michelle holds a doctorate in clinical mental health counseling from the University of Missouri in St. Louis where she teaches psychopathology and diagnosis. She has served as executive director of Bravely, a program aiding women with trauma and addiction recovery, and authored books on mental health management. Michelle contributes insights on dark personalities to the Oxygen network's Mastermind of Murder and has presented her research on empathy at the American Psychological Association.Want more Michelle? Find her therapy practice online at www.michellerobertsphd.com and psychedelic-assisted therapy at www.drmichelleroberts.com. Follow her on:Instagram:  @drmichelleroberts  Facebook: @RelationalTraumaRecovery  Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper, and find episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts. If you’re enjoying the show,...

“I want you to take action towards what you fantasize about.”On Hotter Than Ever, we've delved deep into the world of online dating, including strategies for crafting the perfect profile and navigating the digital landscape of romance. But what about the lost art of meeting people the old-fashioned way–in real life? In this episode, Erin shares her experience stepping outside of her comfort zone and attending two in-person events: a LA matchmaking mixer and a BDSM munch. From navigating awkward encounters to unexpected connections, Erin explores the nuances of stepping out from behind the screen to meet people face-to-face, including:The transformative power of discomfort: how pushing boundaries leads to personal growthEmbracing the moment, seeking genuine connections, and adopting a “no expectations” mindsetThe importance of exploring your passions and actively pursuing desires, especially in midlifeCultivating a deeper sense of self-love, joy, and fulfillment, regardless of societal norms or expectationsWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to support our work and find episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts. If you’re enjoying the show, consider supporting us! It’s as simple as buying us a coffee!

“Loneliness is the thing that's keeping women from rising and I don't want to see that anymore.” As part of her research for The Li.st, Ann Shoket uncovered a staggering statistic: 80% of women in white collar careers are lonely because of their jobs. As heartbreaking as that is, it didn’t surprise Ann, who as the former editor of Seventeen and CosmoGIRL magazines, is no stranger to the loneliness women face as they rise higher up the corporate ladder. Now as CEO of The Li.st, Ann is on a mission to combat the loneliness epidemic for women in the workplace and foster community and connection so that women can show up as their full selves.Join us for an empowering conversation, as Erin and Ann discuss redefining traditional notions of power, embracing vulnerability, and offer actionable strategies for women to cultivate connections and reclaim agency in their professional lives, including:Why women often struggle to reconcile their authentic selves with their careers, leading to loneliness or an inability to fully express themselves at work.Redefining power as collaborative, transparent, and inclusive helps create environments where women feel empowered to thriveWhy employers have a responsibility to combat loneliness and create environments that foster transparency and collaboration"Community cultivators" and nurturing “micro-habits” of simple check-ins and offering connections or support.The difference in how loneliness is created/triggered by men and women in the workplaceHow to stop seeking permission and instead gather like-minded individuals to drive change in the workplaceOUR GUEST: Ann Shoket is a CEO, Media Brand Builder, Next Gen Expert, and former Editor-in-Chief of Seventeen magazine. Known for redefining ambition and success for women, Shoket has launched and revitalized media brands like CosmoGIRL and Seventeen. Currently CEO and Owner of TheLi.st, she's reshaping content, community, and connection. Author of "The Big Life," she's also consulted for Good Morning America and judged on America's Next Top Model.Want more Ann? Find her online at https://www.annshoket.com/ and read her book https://www.annshoket.com/book. Follow her on:Instagram: @annshoketX/Twitter: @annshoketFacebook: @ann.shoketLinkedIn: @annshoketWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to support our work.Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook:

“You can be a good mom who is available to your kids and who is also experiencing a sexual becoming.”Starting your sexual awakening journey in midlife can sometimes feel like threading through a maze of practicalities, particularly if you're juggling kids and career. Luckily, Erin is here to take the reins, drawing from her firsthand experience, to guide us through.  From treating her romantic life as a part-time job to embracing solo polyamory with transparency and honesty, Erin offers practical advice on making room for pleasure amidst the demands of parenting and modern life.  In this episode, we explore:How to carve out dedicated time for your dating and romantic life, treating it with the same level of importance as other aspects of your lifeUtilizing childcare resources to create space for your sexual growth and explorationExploring multiple connections without the constraints of traditional monogamyPrioritizing pleasure tools like masturbation, erotic literature, audio erotica, or sexting apps as a hobbyWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

Tracy Clark-Flory’s sexual exploration  began at the age of 12, when she ventured into AOL chat rooms, seeking to discover what men wanted sexually. In her memoir, "Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire," Tracy details her personal sexual coming of age through the maze hyper-sexualized media, where she grappled with the conflicting messages dictating her sexual identity. It wasn't until her tenure as a sex journalist and the dawn of deeper relationships that she unearthed a profound truth: there's no universal formula for male desire. This revelation sparked a profound shift, leading her to prioritize her own sexual fulfillment.Join Erin and Tracy for a conversation spanning the portrayal of sexuality in media to the complexities of sexual experiences, including orgasms and the performance of desire, as we explore:The clash of feminism and hyper-sexualization in media and its impact on young women's journey to self-discoveryThe pressure women face to conform to performative standards of desirability for menFeminist theory's role in untangling society's conflicting messages about sexualityExposing the myths surrounding pornography and the importance of media literacyFaking orgasms and how to pursue genuine pleasure The intersection of motherhood and sexuality, and the liberating journey towards self-awareness and acceptance that comes with ageOUR GUEST: Tracy Clark-Flory is a journalist, essayist, and author of the memoir “Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of Desire”, an NPR best book of the year. Clark-Flory has written for Cosmopolitan, Elle, Esquire, Glamour, The Guardian, and The Washington Post. She is a former senior staff writer at Jezebel and Salon. Her work has shown up in the Best Sex Writing anthology and she has been called “one of the best journalists of our generation writing about sexuality.” She writes a weekly newsletter on sex, feminism, motherhood, and pop culture at tracyclarkflory.substack.com.Want more Tracy? Find her online at https://www.tracyclarkflory.com/ and tracyclarkflory.substack.com. Follow her on Instagram @tracyclarkflory   Read her book Want Me: A Sex Writer's Journey into the Heart of DesireWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod  We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts. Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie...

Sometimes women get stuck in a marriage that is no longer working, but they’re unable to break free due to logistical constraints.  Add a skyrocketing libido and an irresistible crush into the mix, and today’s caller has got herself one h*ll of a scenario. Fear not, because in this episode, we dive into the art of juggling desire and commitment when divorce isn't an immediate option.Join Erin as she offers candid insights and guidance, illuminating the path towards personal liberation and fulfillment within the confines of marriage, including:The importance of having open and honest communication with your partner Advocating for your emotional and sexual needs within the relationshipConsidering alternative arrangements, such as separation or evolving the relationship into a different form, even if you’re still married on paperAllowing yourself to explore newfound desires and attractionsWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

"Unresolved, unprocessed grief really lays a heavy tattoo inside your system."With more than two decades as a seasoned psychotherapist, Meghan Riordan Jarvis found herself unexpectedly thrust into the throes of her own grief upon the sudden loss of her mother. Through this profound personal journey, Meghan gained an intimate understanding of the very trauma and PTSD she had long treated in her patients. Now, with her podcast "Grief is My Side Hustle" and the bestselling book "The End of The Hour", Meghan is on a mission to foster a culture more attuned to the nuances of grief.In this episode, Meghan delves into the intricate layers of loss, highlighting the necessity of processing grief. From navigating the unpredictable tides of emotion to unraveling the physiological toll grief exacts on the body, Erin and Meghan offer a compassionate perspective on embracing discomfort and honoring the complexities of the human experience. Join us as we discuss:Grief as an integral part of the human experience, that transcends background and circumstance.The interplay between emotions and feelings and the subconscious currents that shape our emotional responses.The physiological impact of unresolved grief on the body, from digestive issues to chronic pain, and the importance of holistic healing.Meghan's personal journey through grief and trauma, including her experiences with loss, PTSD, and the transformative power of surrender and vulnerability.Renegotiating boundaries, quiet quitting, and cultivating authentic connections for resilience and grace.OUR GUEST: Meghan Riordan Jarvis, MA, LCSW is an author and speaker, specializing in trauma, grief, and loss. With over 20 years of clinical experience, Meghan's personal encounter with PTSD after her parents' deaths led her to advocate for a more grief-informed culture. Founder of MRJ Consulting, Meghan and her team work with Fortune 500 companies to address grief in the workplace. She is the author of the best-selling memoir "The End of The Hour" and of the upcoming book "Can Anyone Tell Me Why: Essential Questions About Grief and Loss".Want more Meghan? Find her online at https://meghanriordanjarvis.com/ and listen to her podcast Grief is My Side Hustle. Follow her on:Instagram: @meghan.riordan.jarvis  Facebook: @griefismysidehustle & @meghan.jarvis.12  LinkedIn: Meghan Riordan Jarvis, MA LICSW  Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook:

“Share information about your breakup with the new people in your life whenever it feels right”Breakups are universally painful, regardless of the circumstances. And after a long-term relationship, it can be daunting to dip your toes back into the dating pool. In today’s episode, we’re tackling a listener's question about reentering the dating scene after a challenging breakup. With a decade-long relationship behind them, our listener grapples with how to discuss the breakup with others, while being respectful of their ex’s mental health issues.Join us as Erin dives into the complexities of navigating post-breakup dating. From acknowledging the pain of a breakup to reclaiming agency in sharing personal narratives, we discuss:Acknowledging the courage it takes to pursue new connectionsHow to hold compassion and understanding for both yourself and your ex-partnerAllowing yourself the freedom to share personal details at your own paceHow crafting a script for the breakup can help you navigate conversations with new partnersReleasing yourself from the need to protect others’ perceptions of your ex-partnerWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

“You don't find fulfillment in material things”You've heard the advice to "buy less" or "consume mindfully," but have you ever considered going cold turkey on buying altogether? As she chronicles in her book, "How to Buy Essentially Nothing for a Year,” Elizabeth Chai, a graphic designer by trade, did just that. For the past five years, Liz has refrained from purchasing anything non-essential, and she's here to share how this decision has brought her newfound freedom from trends and a deeper appreciation for what’s right in front of her.In this episode, Liz unpacks her decision to abstain from buying, debunking the misconception that minimalism means living in a stark, white box. Instead, she reveals how it's about aligning your lifestyle with your values and priorities, while fostering gratitude for the possessions you already have. Join us as we explore:How possessions often become symbols of identity and status and drive us to accumulate belongings unconsciously.Practical tips for distinguishing between needs and wants, helping you make intentional purchasing decisions.Shifting from mindless consumption to intentional living, and how it cultivates gratitude.Embracing community-driven practices like clothing swaps and buy-nothing groups.The effectiveness of tools like the “minimalism game” in decluttering and reevaluating your relationship with material possessions.The pitfalls of “retail therapy” and the importance of seeking fulfillment beyond materialism.The importance of committing to significant changes and holding yourself accountable with the support of others.OUR GUEST: Elizabeth Chai is a graphic designer and self-proclaimed "Coffee Designer," blending her passions for design and the specialty coffee industry. Five years ago, she decided to make a significant change by abstaining from purchasing anything for an entire year, a narrative she shares in her book “How to Buy Essentially Nothing for a Year”. Through her experiences, Elizabeth aims to inspire others to embark on their own paths of self-reflection and intentional living.Want more Liz? Find her and her book online at https://www.buyessentiallynothing.com/ and read more about her project in the New York Times. Follow her on Instagram @chaiamericano.Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts so you never miss an episode! We’d love to hear what you think about the show - tell us what stories are resonating with you by writing us a review on Apple Podcasts. Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!

“It really changes our lives when we give ourselves permission to have all the pleasure we deserve.”Are using dating apps the modern-day equivalent of juggling a part-time job? For one of our listeners, the allure of Pure, a sexting app, has sparked both a whirlwind of fun and distraction that begs the question: How long will it last? Join Erin on this episode as she delves into the tantalizing world of digital intimacy, sharing her own experiences with and a myriad of dating apps.From anonymous sexting with zero stakes to setting boundaries and embracing validation, Erin offers candid insights from her experiences on managing attention and fulfillment in the realm of online connections.What sets Pure apart from other apps, and how to engage in anonymous and fun sexting experiencesBreaking down the landscape of dating apps and what each one is best forWhy online flirting is deeply validating and how you can  embrace the positive attention that comes from dating appsSetting boundaries and listening to your intuition when interacting with potential partners on dating appsTips for staying anonymous and communicating safely on the appsWant advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

“How can I be the breadwinner and also the one who knows the name of my child's dentist?”When Eve Rodsky received a text from her husband that read, “I'm surprised you didn't get blueberries”, it sparked a revelation. It wasn't just about the fruit; it was about the deeper imbalance in their household dynamics. Fast forward over a decade, and Eve has emerged as a leading voice in reshaping the gender division of labor. With two groundbreaking books under her belt – “Fair Play” and “Find Your Unicorn Space” – Eve's mission is clear: to revolutionize how partners share the burden of domestic responsibilities, ensuring women no longer shoulder the lion's share of unpaid labor.Join Erin and Eve for as they delve into Eve's journey of creating a gamified system to tackle household inequalities. They explore how societal norms and gender expectations perpetuate disparities in domestic responsibilities, igniting a fiery discussion sure to spark change in your own partnership. Get ready to reexamine and recalibrate as we unpack:The concept of "Invisible Work" and its disproportionate burden on women, regardless of their career status or economic power.The importance of asserting agency in the home and advocating for an equitable distribution of labor.Recognizing and valuing the conception and planning of tasks, not just their execution.How men embracing greater domestic responsibilities can empower women in the workplace and mitigate the "motherhood penalty."Challenging the notion of infinite women's time versus finite men's timeDebunking toxic beliefs that fuel unequal distribution of domestic laborThe vital role of "unicorn space" in allowing women to pursue their passions outside traditional domestic roles.Society's fixation on toxic positivity and the unrealistic expectations it puts on women to be constantly happy.OUR GUEST: Eve Rodsky, a Harvard-trained attorney and organizational management expert, turned a personal struggle into a catalyst for social change when she asked the simple yet profound question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations? Her bestselling book, “Fair Play”, offers a gamified system for balancing domestic workload and reimagining relationships, sparking vital conversations about unpaid labor. In her latest work, “Find Your Unicorn Space,” Rodsky explores the intersection of creativity, productivity, and resilience, offering an antidote to burnout. Born and raised by a single mom in NYC, she now resides in Los Angeles with her husband, Seth, and three children.Want more Eve? Find her online at http://www.everodsky.com/ and https://www.fairplaylife.com/. Follow her on:Instagram (@everodsky & @fairplaylife)Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/everodsky/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook:

Amanda Montei's fascination with understanding motherhood started long before she became a parent herself. However, it wasn't until she embarked on her PhD journey while welcoming her first child that she began to approach motherhood through a scholarly lens. In her illuminating book, "Touched Out: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, and Control," Amanda dissects the nuanced layers of societal expectations and judgments that surround women's bodies, particularly during motherhood, reminding us to be attentive to the stories that are being told to us.Join us for a deep and fascinating episode as Erin and Amanda delve into the complexities of motherhood, dissecting societal norms, reclaiming bodily autonomy, and advocating for systemic reform. This conversation will encourage you to question the “expert” advice around motherhood spouted on social media, and instead to lean into your support systems, embrace your individuality, and set boundaries. Here’s what’s on the table:How societal pressures encroach upon women's bodily autonomy in motherhood and beyond–and why we have to continuing questioning these expectationsExploring the oppressive nature of advice-driven parenting culture online and its isolating impact on mothersHow the lack of systemic support, including paid leave, affordable childcare, and gender equity in parenting responsibilities, exacerbates the challenges faced by mothers.Embracing advice from community support systems, rather than parenting experts and social media gurusHow embracing your individuality and setting boundaries in motherhood, not only empowers mothers, but also models these essential behaviors for childrenOUR GUEST: Amanda Montei is the author of TOUCHED OUT: Motherhood, Misogyny, Consent, & Control (Beacon Press), as well as the memoir Two Memoirs (Jaded Ibis Press) and The Failure Age (Bloof Books). Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Guardian, ELLE, and other publications. She has taught writing at Stanford University, Columbia University, and other institutions, and has received support from In Cahoots and Riverrun Foundation. Amanda holds an MFA in Writing from California Institute of the Arts and a PhD in English literature from SUNY at Buffalo. She resides in California and runs the newsletter Mad Woman.Want more Amanda? Find her online at https://www.amandamontei.com/ and subscribe to her Substack https://amandamontei.substack.com/.  Read Amanda’s writing:Book: “Touched Out”"Mothers Want to Be Left Alone"“When I became a mother, I lost my body – and realized it never belonged to me”“I Wanted to Teach My Daughter Bodily Autonomy. Motherhood Taught Me to Value My Own.”Follow Amanda on social media:Instagram: @amonteiTwitter/X: @amandamonteiWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at

Nothing gets us more excited than witnessing one of our listeners burst back onto the dating scene after a long marriage. Yet, as thrilling as this new chapter may be, it can also come riddled with uncertainties. How can I ensure my safety while exploring new sexual partners? How can I feel confident in my body as an older woman? Join us as we welcome back marriage and family therapist, and sex educator Dr. Juliana Hauser, to help Erin shed light on these vital topics.In this episode, Erin and Dr. J delve into a question from Amy, a 63-year-old woman venturing back into the dating scene after 33 years of marriage. We uncover practical advice that any woman can embrace to embark on her sexual journey with confidence and enthusiasm, including:Self-Perception Matters: Why confidence in your worth and sexiness is your greatest asset in the dating world.Trust Your Instincts: Engage in texts and phone calls before meeting in person to identify any potential red flags.Set Boundaries Early: Understand the importance of setting boundaries and how to gauge a partner's respect for consent Safety First: Strategies for meeting in public places, sharing plans with friends, and utilizing video calls for added security.Embrace Your Body: Prioritize  connection and pleasure over societal standards of what’s hot Normalize Playfulness: Embrace a lighthearted approach to sex to alleviate pressure and tension in your sexual journey.Want advice about some aspect of your life over 40?  DM us on IG  @hotterthaneverpod or text/leave a voicemail on the Hotter Than Ever Hottie Hotline at (323) 844-2303 and your question could end up on the show!OUR GUEST: Dr. Juliana Hauser, is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), licensed professional counselor (LPC), and holds a PhD in Counseling Education. As a seasoned therapist and educator with a focus on sex positivity, she's authored sex-positive programs for Planned Parenthood, managed a halfway house, and worked with sexual abuse survivors and abusers. Her conversational therapy style has earned her the nickname 'you’re like my best girlfriend…with a PhD.' Join Dr. Hauser in her mission to spread holistic, non-intimidating sex positivity worldwide.Want more Dr. Juliana? Find her online at https://dr-juliana.com/ and follow her on:Instagram: @drjulianahauser Facebook: @drjulianamorris Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com and sign up for our mailing list! Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod  TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod   Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453  Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what...

Since she was a girl, Dr. Susan Partovi felt the pull toward a career in medicine. But it wasn't until a transformative journey to Tijuana, Mexico that her calling took on a deeper meaning, igniting a lifelong commitment to championing the health of marginalized communities. Now, after decades of serving people experiencing homelessness on the streets of Skid Row in Los Angeles, Susan stands as a testament to the vitality and impact of women flourishing in their passions after 40, all while uplifting society's most vulnerable. While "Hotter Than Ever" isn't a show about social issues, Susan's remarkable work - and the fact that she’s a relatable woman our age taking on such a big challenge - compelled us to spotlight her story. Join us as we explore the challenges and complexities of addressing homelessness, mental illness, and substance use disorders with raw honesty and insight. Susan's story is a treasure trove of wisdom, showcasing resilience and the profound impact of human connection that can inspire transformative change within any community. We discuss:The importance of honoring people’s humanity, no matter their circumstancesDefining harm reduction, and advocating for non-judgmental approaches to addressing substance use and mental health issues among the unhousedExamining the systemic factors contributing to homelessness, including trauma, inadequate mental health support, and societal stigmaReframing language to remove judgment and cultivating empathy in health and helping vulnerable communitiesHow money is distributed for homelessness solutions and why costs are still high despite the problem’s persistenceStrategies for improving care and housing options for the severely mentally illThe importance of maintaining a balance between serving others and self-care (like  having boundaries in our dating lives!)OUR GUEST: Born and raised in Los Angeles, Dr. Susan Partovi developed a passion for serving the underserved during high school, catalyzed by volunteering in Tijuana. After earning a medical degree from Thomas Jefferson Medical School and completing residency at Harbor – UCLA Medical Center, Dr. Partovi dedicated herself to providing healthcare to the homeless and uninsured. As a faculty member at Harbor, she mentored future healthcare professionals for six years before becoming medical director at Homeless Health Care Los Angeles in 2006, pioneering street medicine initiatives. Her advocacy extends internationally through H.E.A.L., a nonprofit she co-founded to provide healthcare in Haiti. Through writing and media, Dr. Partovi amplifies the voices of the marginalized, advocating for compassionate healthcare and social justice.Want more Dr. Susan Partovi? Find her online at https://therenegademd.com/ and read her book “Renegade MD: A Doctor’s Stories from the Streets” Follow Susan on social media:Instagram: @the_renegade_mdFacebook:@the_renegade_mdTikTok: @the_renegade_mdLinkedIn: Susan PartoviWant more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and episode transcripts online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com